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lefulefu:
hm i don't really think if a lady gets to 30+ she will run out of options. What causes many of them to run out of options is bad character. Some too nag,dem too like to fight,be quarreling over unnecessary ish and also being a drama queen. A lady in her 30s who is respectful and has good character will still see a man that will tie the knot with her.for some ladies wey no quick marry ,sometimes it might not be their fault.it could be school,it could be an apprentice job that took their time ... A normal man wants a lady that will support him and not a trouble maker or a lady obsessed with feminist antics.

GBAM! GBAM!

GBOSA! GBOSA!

Who has time for that shyt except he jobless guy who is ambitionless?

My policy: "If you can't get along, move along!"

Oyindidi:
And you've not met that special lady yet.

No 3, Developed Personality, is a failure point.

And many don't realise or even accept their personality is fcked!

Jupxter:
I wont even consider a London chick if i wanted a chick for my house boy. Their stories travel wide and far, but why do people allow environmental conditioning to shape them into beasts?

Complete fcking arseholes majority of them are and I love my looku looku approach to watching their train wreck today while they are older and miserable. Many eligible niggas are married to white girls.

They get the yardies and kasalis!

Belafonte:
Spread to Ghana. Naija is covered. How can my measly naira compete with your sterling? Don't let me go and wait for you at MM2 o. Be careful.

Jupxter:
Hhahaha @ Londoners, i hear they look down on Nigerian chicks in London as everyone's thrash can, no one wants to date them

Black chics generally. Not just Naija.

I have been to many clubs where black guys don't even bother stepping to black girls anymore.

It is changing though, as the next generation of black girls (under 23) have learnt from their elders' mistake. They are sharpening up. (Daughters of single mothers trying to avoid mummy's fate)

I see so many teenage black boys dating black girls; which is obviously strange for my generation. In mine, you avoid them like a hood plague.

Belafonte:
I don't give up easy. Before you reach airport I done work my magic. I advise you to stick with em Londoners.

Jupxter:
I said this last week, many ladies cry privately, they look good, but are crushed within, they don't feel good, they put agood font, try to be strong, act tough, but deepdown, their unattended yearnings is killing them

Complete fcking front!

Women cannot do without feeling loved. Simples.

That is demonstrated to them by actions of a man towards them and the wish to form companionship with them.

Belafonte:
That your thread, baba I've been there o. The pûssy walls dong feel as good as a young woman's. They might look good, but they don't feel good.

I would still love to smack them!

Belafonte:
Baba, kílọ́dẹ́ bayii? E ma se bi e se to. Leave local babes for local guys. E dakun.

I work for the UN.

I have to spread the love globally.

Oyindidi:
What do you expect from the ladies? It is worrisome for men to see marriage as favour.

Ah!

I have a formula that will explain that to you.

https://www.nairaland.com/312247/gf-material-vs-wife-material/1#4390898

Belafonte:
But he's not Belafonte and Belafonte is the best there is.

Too late.

Say that to the Chief bridesmaid.

lefulefu:
bro i don see a 30 something yr old babe her boobi go still gallant and her figure go make sense...while i don also see a 23 yr old babe all her boobs go flat like a 90 something yr old woman with and her body go just collapse. na how a babe take maintain her body na im dey tell. And take note dat na the ones wey dey do run and olosho jobs dey quick experience premature aging of their body. Wen d body is too damm high then the effect go show in the babe body.

I fully agree.

That is why I started this thread and I am not ageist.

https://www.nairaland.com/1119730/seriously-hot-older-women-40

If it is smackable; I shall smack it!

Jupxter:
God don reveal her future hubby oh...Sowwie you came late

Thanks, bruv.

I always knew God loves me because I go to shush every Sunday.

Belafonte:
My in-law how far?

See your life!

Someone wey I don already quickly PM now, he don pass me her number, I dey on the phone to the 21 year old ele right now.

You no know say I be "Speeding Racer" for fine babe ni?

I will invite you to the wedding. You will be one of my grooms men.

Oyindidi:
I have to support my single sisters. Most men see marriage as though they are doing the lady a favour. Till they change that silly mentality, ladies are in for a long thing.

They are!

You want it more.

That is just like you see sex as though you are doing the man a favour.

Just because he wants it more.

Personally, if I marry, it is really for the woman. It is my favour, not my interest. A miserable institution!

Belafonte:
I fully agree. It's the way of life. Thats their period of innocence. I've got a baby mama and I can swear she loved me at one time. Right now, she wants me not because of love but because she knows I'm her best bet considering she's got a child and guys will always consider that when entering a relationship with her. I look around and see that younger girls believe in love and aren't as materialistic as their aunties and older sisters.

However, i don't think it's about hormones, I think it's their compensation, the more lovers they have, the more difficult it is to bond with newer boyfriends. They have to fill that void with vanity; hair, shoes, clothes etc.

Your head is very correct!

Jupxter:
Thank God my sister you did it early, many of the men out there are shafts, not well groomed, when we, the good ones propose, instead make your sisters dey worship us, dem dey give attitude, i will go carry a 20 year old Australian, shiooor


I repeatr if you see my 21 year old niece, omo guys here go leave their babes na me talk am

Of course!

PRIME!

https://www.nairaland.com/714139/only-married-men-ask-me/4#8733546

Oyindidi:
Kumuyi married a 60 years old woman. You made look as though 30 years and above can't get married.

A woman's "logical" argument.

Jupxter:
Bro this is how i'm going to deal with them big time. I just did some re-strategizing and realized men have the upperhand, so, i won't take them serious, and like you, na looku, looku, i go dey look them, The thing is, there's an unserious demon in their brains when the good guy comes...They just don't take good guys serious, and see them as wimps, anyways, we're here to laff when the goods expire.


Let's expect many sperm bank kids in the future bro

I don't do the "Save her" thing.

I get alot of that from family aunties and pastor uncles trying to hook me up with some girl, with the caviar "she is 30+, so don't waste her time o".

That is not my business. I am not ageist per se, but I am fuckist per se. If I don't see her and immediately want my diiick inside her, she has no chance of me taking her seriously.

I am not a White Knight. I am a Knight that focuses on his own happiness. Everything has to align with that focus ...........and, nigga, I love me sex. I like bang bang!

Belafonte:
Boss Sagamite, you and Dayokanu opened my eyes to seeing the woman for what she really is. Been on nl eight years now and I have learned a lot.

I strongly believe single parenting is the next phase in Nigeria, the women don't want to be answerable to just one dude and the guys are catching on to the bullshit.

However, I know they will cry at the end because Naija guys will avail themselves of the opportunity to hit as much aṣs as is possible without attempting to commit. Already, women are proposing in Naija and guys are rejecting.

Things will balance themselves out eventually, but till then, picture me rolling.

Welcome, bruv!

The definition of a woman if one takes the feminists philosphy is:

"A woman is the equivalent of a man but without the reasoning, contrition, responsibilities and accountabilities that comes compulsorily with being a man".

Jupxter:
I was discussing everything we're saying here with my elder sister ( married anyways ), and she kept syaing all we're saying here 100%, except that she made it more scarry by saying, for some ladies, the only door of opportunity to get married is in their mid-twenties, and just a few occassions to make the right connection, and if they miss it, they may never get married for life...This is the current situation of things now, as the younger ones are climbing up fast, responsible men are few to go around, so the average good guy won't be on the market for too long. So sister rose can go on with her endless tale ofi'm testing him, i want him to prove he's worthy, when he gets exhasted, he'll move on, find a better lover, why rose gets fewer attention, and then the law of deminishing returns starts setting in..


I like this @



Many are a train wreck waiting to happen.

The wreck happens when the looks have disappeared and they are still desperate to find love (without the required weapon).


When the looks and the figure are gone, her bargaining power has substantially dissapeared drastically t this point....then the train will wreck, and next comes in depression, loneliness,moodiness,unhappiness, even the strongest of them can't withstand all these

And it would get worse for Nigerian girls.

I'll explain to you why.

Because of our hornymen culture, many businesses (run by men) are now giving the good jobs to girls with mini skirt and boobs.

Many guys that are not in the pool of those that get the good jobs, have to start hustling entrepreneurally. This takes time before they finally make it.

Hence the eligible men are few are far between, especially at the marriageable ages of 25-35.

Now add the fact that, while these guys were struggling building their hustle, many of these girls were not nice to them at all (most likely even MEAN) because Naija girls like money and no suffering, they are not too keen to now take one in and start letting her enjoy the benefits of their hustle just like that.

So even many of the girls in their mid 20s might have to look at older guys because they pool is small at 25-35.

Jupxter:
Thank God i handed over the nice guy in me to the cops yesterday, that dude has to be locked up big time for a long time. Done with that sh*t...

This is it here @
The same girl screaming victimhood would be the same one that has pissed on many guys that have been nice to her's head. Majority can't resist perceiving a guy being nice to them as a mugu.



Hahaha, this is what i've been saying all day today @ Many girls that whine about "this guy did this or that to me" have had a long queue of good guys trying to get with them or even ended up being their boyfriend, but they were not excited enough. So they took the piss and went for a challenge.....


Ladies know nice guys, no fooling around, they simply choose to look the other way around, cause obviously nice guys love more,m but they turn to pick the one, they choose to love, they get the end of the stick on the long run, and the society bears the consequences, i don't pity them when they come screaming, i have a neighbor, abandoned lawyers, pastor, engineers,accountants, guess what bro, she settled for a trader cos he was goooing to UK upandan, not knowing the guy was into narcotics, it wasn't known until he got busted.....Well, it's their choice, when the consequnces hits, we get stories that touch....


Preach on Sir, 100% in agreement with

The reality is that a vast majority of women suffer from solipsism and are incapable of recounting their past crimes with the remotest sense of reason, guilt or accountability.

My philosophy with many women who are almost reaching end of shelf life and are now looking for eligible bachelors to quickly marry them in a shot-gun dating-to-quick-marriage arrangement is that:

"If she cannot find some guys in her past that she can call up and start chatting with. And once those guys find out she is still single, they are not rushing to say, 'I would want to be with her', then she is probably not a nice person and deserves to expire".

For most black girls, when my friends are talking about "one they used to fancy" that is now almost expiring but is still single (or even a divorced single mother), I am afraid they just laugh and have no sympathy. That is the impression she left with them.

One that works as an SVP in middle office in an investment bank, like 2 years ago met the girl he used to fancy the pants off at university. He tried everything to date her; girl just exploited his interest. Black girl; now past it. She is a professional, good job but still single. She now tried to rekindle with him.

The guy said over his dead body. She kept calling and asking to hook up and chat in the middle of the night. Nigga was not interested.

Ni gba ti won she epe fun! (When dem no curse the guy!)

Jupxter:
This is it here : But they think their best strategy is to be unbearable and be selfish. and manipulative....Men, i'm returning to my cove abeg, na look i go dey look them abeg, maybe i shouldconsider baby mama self, the stress of dealing with their unbearable attitude is way too much

I love to looku looku.

Many are a train wreck waiting to happen. Train wrecks are interesting.

The wreck happens when the looks have disappeared and they are still desperate to find love (without the required weapon).

That is like a man looking for sex after he has become impotent (without the required weapon). No be oloshi be that?

Belafonte:
A man's love for a woman is purer than a woman's love for a man. Once a man realises that love isn't real, he goes to the dark side pretty quickly. Your job is to keep that fantasy going. Can you?

I think a woman's love is purer when they are 15 to 22.

After that, they change.

And before anyone says "Oh, you see, it is because of the way men treated them". No!

It is just the way their hormones change.

Women change drastically at different stages of their life, far more than men do. That is one of the reasons I believe being to one for the rest of your life happily is a virtually impossible task.

wifeoflife:
@op congratulations! There’s always something liberating when a woman steps out of an abusive marriage/relationship.

Girl, you have a new lease on life. Make the best of it. Shine like you never have before! Don’t let anyone hold you back.

Ladies, I hope you can see posts from men like belafonte and Jupxter. I’m not against what they have said. They have chosen their own paths in life. Choose your own too! Stop tying your life around a man. Live your own life. They believe they need to be bad to women to get the best out of women. You know why? Because we women accept it. If a man knows a woman won’t condone bad behaviour, he won’t engage in that rubbish.

You can live a complete and fulfilled life without a man (and vice versa).

Finally, love isn’t a bad thing. Fall in love, enjoy it. If it lasts, awesome. If it’s hurting you, then it’s not love and you need to walk away from it!

Shalom�

Woman can do without love as well as men can do without sex.

- Sagamite 2018!

Belafonte:
One of the greatest side effects of feminism is that women are not held to account for the decisions they make. If a woman's bad decision making puts her at a disadvantage or works to her detriment best believe she'll find someone to put the blame on but herself.

I hope women can actually understand that bad boys make even worse husbands. According to a feminist icon, Sherryl Sandberg, the thing that makes bad boys exciting makes them poor husbands. Unfortunately, most guys know that bad boys get all the ladies and the good ones only get sloppy seconds. As a result, every guy wants to be bad now, fûck being a good husband. That shît is played out. Fûck marriage and fûck being the model husband. We want more pûssy and respect from our lovers. .

PS: No, ladies, you cannot have everything. Not even God can

Well said, nigga!

I have repeatedly said it on NL: Feminism is pure poison and reetarded!

It has really messed many women up.

It has made them more selfish, more inconsiderate, more argumentative; but less attractive and less bearable.

I have observed, from the moment you meet and engage with most girls, her mentality is just "me, me, me, me".

They want YOU to take all responsibilities.

They are asking you questions that is focused on their self-interest.

They want you to prove you are worthy.

They think they are just entitled to the rights, privileges and benefits like feminism has told them is for them, otherwise they are "victims of these evil men (the patriarchy)".

Guy, I see single-motherhood as the dominant family structure in the future. (I apologise if it is already the case but I am not aware)

Especially for black women as their behaviour is inherently worse. That is already the case for most black women in America. Only a quarter have ever been married by the time they are 45. Increasingly so for white women too.

https://www.nairaland.com/2424042/what-sagamite-been-saying-years

Looku Looku! (My specialty)

Belafonte:
Do you see guys eager to marry?

Whether you want to accept or not, men of this generation do more for their families than men of previous generations. How many of our grandfathers and fathers were emotionally available for their wives and kids? How many of your forebears were as involved in the lives of their children as today's men are? Is the cheating and marrying extra wives on the same level as our forebears? Is domestic violence as widespread as it once was? The answers to these questions are obvious to everybody. All of a sudden our fathers were better than we are, so you're saying your mother's and grandmothers had it better? . Wow. Maybe we should go back to how things used to be done in the old days then? Hear that guys? Let's go back to the old ways.

The problem isn't today's man, it is today's woman that is the problem. Today's woman wants to have everything and also answer to noone but her desires. Nothing is ever enough for today's woman. So, don't blame us when we avoid getting sucked into a bottomless pit of wants, standards and shifting goalppsts. We men have had it up to here and we are rejecting the narrative that we have to do more. If you notice, men are starting to do less and give less of a fûck about you or your wants. Why do you think the sex doll was such a hit?

Stay baby mamas and that would be a dream come true for most guys. Only foolish, ignorant men marry these days. Men who have no idea what true freedom is all about. Just impregnate a bîtch and send money for the upkeep of your child, after all, you do not need a man. Or do you suddenly do?

I can't concur more.

Men have significantly improved, while women have significantly degenerated in quality.

Feminists have messed them up completely.

While Beyonce is screaming "Independent women" and "To the lefu, to the lefu", she no leave her own man o when he was hitting it outside.

At worst, she let her skanky sister give him a beating, but she stay kamu. No shaking! She aint going nowhere, fck that feminism BS.

And she has over $100m in her bank account o.

At the end of the day, it is them (women) that need companionship and commitment more than men, yet they have the least value to offer in a relationship. But they think their best strategy is to be unbearable and be selfish.

Na looku looku some of us niggas go dey look dem.

tensazangetsu20:
Is it not your fellow women that love bad guys. You abuse the nice guys and call them magas and simps and hop on the carousel and then end up with the scum of society. Unfortunately there are no more nice guys, you just have to accept it.

It's a inherent trait.

Many can't help it, but then later turnaround and scream victimhood.

The same girl screaming victimhood would be the same one that has pissed on many guys that have been nice to her's head. Majority can't resist perceiving a guy being nice to them as a mugu. They would take the piss and rock the boat.

Many girls that whine about "this guy did this or that to me" have had a long queue of good guys trying to get with them or even ended up being their boyfriend, but they were not excited enough. So they took the piss and went for a challenge. (I was just advising one such guy on another thread)

E kaa bo si shalengi yin (Welcome to your challenge).

And after her turn to taste her medicine she would be seeking the "real men" lapdog to come and console her and agree with her that men are baastard.

The reality is that a vast majority of women suffer from solipsism and are incapable of recounting their past crimes with the remotest sense of reason, guilt or accountability.

LadyPresh1:
When you were first married, you probably felt understood, heard, and connected with your husband. You were polite. You didn’t want to hurt him – and he was sensitive to your feelings. But time passes, and the stress of daily life and kids, jobs, money, house, aging parents and health issues take a toll…and you find that you don’t have the time and patience it takes to be polite. This isn’t necessarily a sign your marriage is over – it just means you need to make time and effort to communicate with love and respect. This personal mantras have kept me going in my relationship.

Again, If your husband had an affair and wants to rebuild your relationship, then crack open the champagne and celebrate! The good news is that marriage infidelity by itself to me is not a sign your marriage is over. I know many couples survive marital unfaithfulness, and many have an even stronger bond because of the cheating. But mine is so different, your man brings her home and say it to your face, he is tired of you.

Today is a month, woke up this morning in utter shock that I am actually divorced. I had to say it out loud to sort of remind myself. I am divorced.
Here are the facts: One, I have been living apart from my now ex-husband for a month. Therefore, I’ve had some time to get used to this single life and single parenting thing.
“Is your marriage over?”
Without hesitation, the reply came, “Yes.”
Seriously, in my head, I was screaming, “It is?! Because honestly, deep down, I thought the trigger would never be pulled on this.
So what all this means is, yes, I’ve gotten a bit used to parts of this new life of mine, but oh my word — I didn’t think it was going to actually happen. I’m so far from being healed and ready for my next chapter in life that it’s not even funny.

Do not get it twisted, I've severally on my real account seek for advise on how to resurrect my already sinking marriage. I was able to meet wonderful people here who begged they remain anonymous. Lawyers and welfare officers too who took my case upon their shoulders. I really appreciate. GOD BLESS!
I would give link to my personal account as an evidence to this.
Wouldn't go further with details. I was a fool for attempting suicide three consecutive times in my marriage. When at some point you were told to your face that you were only married to procreate. He brings this lady home, pushes you out and tell you that both you and your people can't do nothing. I've cried and now I'm healed.

You said I should quit school that you would help further my education, you asked I don't do anything and take care of your kids for you. I sneaked to learn trade and on finding out, you abused me of using your money to learn a trade, took my ATM, pin and sent me packing that I'm offensively annoying. Thanks to the good people of this great forum for seeing me through all this. Your words of encouragement to stay for my kids. Heeded to every advice, stayed, but he got worse.
I can't live with another woman in the same house. It was killing me. I was like a slave, became a shadow of my own self. With some little money I was able to gather around, took the courage and filed for a divorce with the help of good people here. Finally, marriage is over.
I’ve had some time to get used to this single life and single parenting thing.
I left with my kids, parents ain't comfortable with my action because of their status. I understand, no wealthy or influential parents would allow a daughter to pass a meagre of what I've passed through. He was my first.

I seize this opportunity to call on good citizen of Nigeria to help me out. I'm Nicodemusly an active member on my other account. Can as well prove or provide any evidence you might need to verify the authenticity of this post.
Want to start the food stuff business. Anything or help at all will be well appreciated. If I can pay for a store and have anything left, would get some food stuffs and start from there. I am a strong woman,

As far as I am concerned, this is your side of the story.

I would need to hear the other side of the story (especially the male side, which usually tends to be more objective most times) to make any judgements.

From my knowledge, except you completely choose a complete baastard, no man in his right senses who decides to get involved in [the miserable institution of] marriage, would turn this drastically on his wife for no reason at all.

And the fact you have not stated the reasons you think he did this (except for the slightest hints about your "politeness" makes me quite suspicious of the objectivity of your narrative ("victimhood". Very aligned to the way women portray their circumstances for an advantage.

If on the other hand, you completely choose a baastard, na your choice o.

golor:
Thanks bro but its not necessary cause my babe is far from that !!I can assure you I am the only guy bleeping since three years now. She Cry's each time I snub and initiate break up.



That's her recent chat

No wahala, bruv.

I have to say that there is absolutely no way I can know more about your girl and your relationship more than you.

I can only go by the cues you give me and provide my understanding of the typical traits of girls.

My core advice is centralised on "be careful".

Be careful by:

- Understanding women (they are no angels, are selfish and they come with significant risks)
- Managing the risks
- Not following the traditional "Real Man" mantra
- Prioritising your own happiness and base your happiness on yourself (i.e. things within your control)

If you follow those, then you have a higher chance of being happy.

There are things women would do that I just brush off because I follow that list. They don't phase me much (even if at all). I respond to them and treat them the way they deserve to be treated based on what I see and get from them. I don't say "this is what a man should do".

Maybe your girl is about to leave OR maybe she is just looking for exciteable drama. Who knows? But saying she would fling it out there except you increase funding is not something you should tolerate and it should make you weary.

As for crying all the time, you know what? I was actually thinking about exactly that last week and was thinking about posting the next point if you decided to come back to the thread.

The point was that I could vision from your disposition "which I called The Superman" that when she wanted you to do something she would:

- Cry and make you feel you should save the day (Make you want to act like the Knight in shining armor)
- Cry and turn the tables on you that "if you had down this" (Make you take the fault/responsibility)

I really strongly thought that would be how best a girl would manage you.

I am not necessarily saying that is what is happening in your message post. I am just saying it aligned to my earlier thinking.

You are the one in the relationship, you would know better than everyone as long as you are thinking from all perspectives. Not a fairytale and real man idealism perspective.

alexialin:
Seriously?
Intellectual on women affairs, smhhhh.
Guys And Baes are out there signing deals on monies. Increasing their bank accounts.
You are here busting your brains on one op with his ex girlfriend?
And you say, u are intellectual?

Anyways I don't have your time this morning .

For me, this is Monday morning and I have an important meeting coming up in the next 30mins.
Make yourself at home with nairaland relationship issues.
For me? Money must be made today, no time to waste here. The topic is yours, enjoy!
Am off. Byeee

You are a cretinous fuuktard!

Na me, Sagamite from SAGAMU, you dey try use "achievement" and "I have an important meeting coming up" to denge to?

Oloshi ma lomo yi sha! (This kid na mooron sha)

Your FATHER, your GRANDFATHER and, in fact, your entire lineage, do not have one hundredth of the intellect I have to do what I do for a living.

"I have an important meeting coming up" ......"Money must be made today" ............Weere omo! (Mad child)

You think it is your agbero and Feyingbole University graduate friends you are talking to?

You actually got me cracking up for a few minutes. Meeting girl! You don become superstar because you dey go meeting.

LordAdam16:
You want death to save you from this trashing you're receiving. Sorry to burst your bubble "cretin." Ah, you didn't use cretin in this message. Oh you used fukktard. Look at that.

You are r*tarded!

I'd still be around for a long time, and in that time I'd f*ck you up when I feel like it and there'd be nothing you'd be able to do about it. Sleep on that.

BTW, I predicted you'd continue making a f**l of yourself. This is so f*cking easy. Where's the bloody challenge. I'm messing with you here with any effort. It almost feels unfair.

Keep entertaining me with your st*pidity. And when you're done go brood about what I just did to you.

-Lord

Congenital fuuktard!

You will be dead before 60. That is one of the good things about Nigeria to me.

Gets rid of black fuuktards early.