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Khostlybeauty18:
...But I will just die from embarrassment if he says no

But you were happy to dish that out to someone else and served cold as well.

Very considerate girl.

You are a real catch. You deserve to be put on a pedestal because you use L'Oreal ("Because you are worth it" ).

RuthDaniels:
Lol!

Walk up to him, apologize for your attitude the other day and ask him if he still wants to be your friend. So simple!

Sharp, girl.

I salute!

Khostlybeauty18:
So.... erhm....there's this guy that approach me for my number sometime back, I didn't give him and I think I responded rudely kind of...I was really tired that day...But since then, I've had this huge crush on him...We make eye contacts alot wheneva we're at the same place, but I can't see him making another attempt to come...Now m leaving the area soon....How Do I Get Him?

"I was really tired that day"

Yeah!

Gan ni! (Really was!)

Continue with your self-deceit.

No, cut the crap. You were rude to him because

a) You lack social skills and self-development
b) You have a too high self-valuation
c) You did it because YOU COULD and felt there would be no consequences for doing it

Don't blow that lame crap excuse this way again, abeg.

omonnakoda:
The Herdsmen issue is a character issue let us not kid ourselves

You have a bit of a point there.

The Boss of bosses has spoken. Now other bosses are joining him.

Buhari can still survive this if he can engineer an economic miracle in one year and keep Tinubu on side.

The objection of OBJ is because of performance in some areas anyway, not because of character (and everything) like with the Cretin of Otuoke; so if he can turn around performance they would not insist on pushing him out.

https://www.nairaland.com/2230168/buharis-victory-men-made-it/4#32239093

mostyg:
I wish you could sit down and follow your mind. When the white men came here to enslave us, they preached religion and we all fell for it, it other to continue with our enslavement they preach atheism, freedom now some of you are falling for it. You continue to follow the western way of thinking even though you think you are free. Nay , you aren't free.

I m sure you also fall for the big bang theory and evolution. The biggest lies we swallowed.

You don't have to believe in God but definitely you believe in the religion of no god, the religious believe of the one eyed... As seen in he Big Brother, the celestial, the Lions club, the Gregory Mission, the one dollar bill, the knight templars, the mason and probably the illuminati etc.

As I wrote before, your believe is for you and my believe is for me.

What a stuupid fck!

I don't even know where to begin with this utter compilation of junk!

mostyg:
He who does not know and does not know he does not know is a fool.

Your religion of atheism is playing its role here. Your religion is for you and my religion is for me.

You describe yourself perfectly there.

Don't again use the trash you are fed by other reetards to advice someone.

Have a look at this "victim" of "sexual assault"!

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5268271/Woman-accuses-Aziz-Ansari-sexual-misconduct-date.html

mostyg:
I know you know it all. Please enlighten me on black magic and sorcery.

I should teach you about black magic and sorcery?

You were smoking weed when you decided to ask?

Mafren, if you want to learn about those, go to Alaba market and buy a whole wheelbarrow-full of Yoruba movies or go to one of your fake pastors to tell you so much of that junk so as to scare you to give him all your money to please your God.

The only thing I can enlighten you on is how to build your brain through information gathering & effective sieving to the point you can have insight about topical issues, identify trends intelligently and make informed decisions by using your brain. This would help you finally shove your psychotic God that throws people in fire for eternity, because .............."THEY DID NOT WORSHIP ME", up your fcking arse and you would stop giving your money to Men of Con.

Are you ready for that kind of advanced enlightenment?

Daisy17:
Thank God, it's a man who responded to that chauvinistic "imbe-cile". At least it gives me hope that there are still decent African men out there. Thank you for your response. I was so disgusted by his write-up, I decided to quickly scroll past his post before I developed high blood pressure.

BS is BS!

If he wants a partner that would do everything he says and would not answer back to him because in his dumb head he is her God, then let him get a sex doll.

It is a fantastic solution as the doll would never talk back, and the world would be a better place as he would not procreate and produce little retardinhos with his genes.

ikpuru1234:
Sorry dear no dreams to link to reality. Thanks for ur time

No be only dreams.

Na Yorubahood movie he wants to link to reality.

Relegating the use of brain to the supernatural is the trait of black people. No wonder they live in shitholes and are shitholes.

mostyg:
I have come to learn that challenges could be physical or spiritual ( caused by forces we see not).
Most often at times we seek physical solution forgetting the spiritual aspect.
A very good way to know a spiritual problem is your type of dream/ nightmares. Dreams tell us a lot which we often ignore...

You are able to write about your physical conditions, why not share the spiritual aspect here and let's see if it could be solved.

I know a lot of you guys don't believe in the spiritual stuff, I would plead to be gentle on me.

Typical black person!

https://www.nairaland.com/4316979/marriage-finally-over/16#64699249

americanson:
Chai bros, u no dey ever change!

Mba!

Lai lai ati lai lai.

"I will never go commercial, they love me too much in streets" - Fiddy Cents.

onegig:
@ikpuru1234


One thing i have noticed.

Once you become petty. Marriage can be a tough one.

I understand all the previous tension but seriously. Who has time to be arguing back and forth to the point you guys were spitting on each other? You both seem like kids. If my niece and nephew were fighting over the colour of a ball i would understand they are still kids. But two grown adults? Like wtf?

After all that shit show you still brought it up the next day? I no blame una. You have all the time in the world. maybe when you wake up by 5am do a one hour road trip get back home by 10pm you wouldn't care less whether a fictitious pastor in a movie was having marital problems or not.


please learn to just take a chill pill when in such situations. Always ask yourself. Would this add 5k to my account at the end of it? Or would i be better served wasting precious energy on silly talks ? Maybe when people focus their energies on the right things and leave normal things to pass they would have better marriages.

That I could not get my head around.

I was flabberwhelmed and overghasted ni sha!

cummando:
Thunder fire you too. Which one be swear? Na me be the husband. You dey craze

By the way its separate .... Numb skull

She is right, you are reetarded!

Even as a man that is not into the equal partnership nonsense, I would never say I decide everything. Nor would I say in every relationship, the man (especially the ones like you) would always be the better decision-maker.

Brain una no get!

jaychubi:
A wife is supposed to be 100% submissive to the husband dt means u must accept him as the leader n his decision is always final.

D only reason to leave ur marriage is if he starts beating u and injuring u. Every other thing shld be forgiven even without being asked to? Spitting on u and u spit back was nothing bc u spit back too so what are you grudging about.

U are d major problem not ur husband, u need to learn to be a woman and a wife not a feminist. Feminism is for single mothers n divorcees and never works in marriage.

I think u shld go and kneel down and apologize to your
Husband for not being submissive wife, I am sure he will weep n apologize too.

You are a cretinous fuuktard!

Save up and get a sex doll.

Oyindidi:
Respek yourself
Somebody wey dey insult me since

ikpuru1234:
Thanks for your input. Do you think fragile peace is how marriage should depend on? Walking on a glass all the time. He did not even allow me to go into details if you read my post very well before he started screaming. But even if I did, is that how couples should communicate?

I would never go to third parties for my relationships.

NEVER!

We get along or move along.

I have many friends I have been friends with for close to 20 years, never have I had to go to therapy or third people to continue my conviviality with them and we just don't fight seriously. We always resolve issues amicably.

If there is any partner I am fighting with consistently, then we are not a fit or something is wrong with that person because at least I have proof nothing is wrong with me.

Let the person go for therapy on her own. I would stay at home.

ikpuru1234:
Thanks. My thought exactly. I told him that is also like cheating. He used to be spiritual like preaching in our previous church but stopped even praying now when he struggled to pass one of his prof exam. He concluded that prayers doesn't really make any changes to situations rather what will happen will happen. I noticed since then he shows no remorse of any of his actions.

It is not cheating and that is the least of your problems.

Porn-o is God's special gift to men through the work of professional fellow humans! Nothing wrong with that shyt, it can be fcking spiritual if one is watching the right ones.

It can even be a joint couple activity to spice up the fuku faka sessions.

ikpuru1234:
I am not saying that i am an angel but do two people have to be angels to live in Peace? We all have faults but we can get mad or put ur point across without letting it escalate to screaming. Not little things. I also did not say he is all evil. I only narrated our problem. I have never been the one to escalate things. The only thing he complains about me is that he doesn't like the way I talk to him but it seems he wants me dormant now since little normal discussion is also a problem. The only thing I can conclude is that he is too sensitive and its getting on my nerves now because when he does or say similar stuff to me I dont go gaga. U see what am trying to explain. His over reaction to minor stuff

There is no love in a situation where someone spits on you.

It is not acceptable under any conditions.

I spit on shit.

You will not get happiness in this relationship. Memories like this don't go away.

ikpuru1234:
I feel he has a deeper underlying psychological issue that have not been resloved. His dad treats their mum bad. He used to beat her when they were growing up and we heard my husband being the oldest will be holding their dad crying. I feel like he takes after his dad in this area as he could be doing that if he is not more educated than his dad. Secondly he knows he can't do it where he lives, this is why he resolved to spitting or shrugging. Having said that, his younger immediate brother is a nice guy, his wife tells him off outside and he doesn't react but mine would do worse and still keep malice.
Sometimes I feel he should be on antidepressants because of his quick changing moods and anger.
He starts quarrel, then blame you. Starts keeping malice and then starts complaining its affecting him at work. I dread his type will cause a havoc in our marriage and then blame me and kill himself and me.
Yes he can go very low in committing suicide. He did mention the thought came to his mind when he first came abroad and was passing through initial struggle people go through. He even had a job his uncle got for him, it's just waiting to transit into his medical profession.

Then that begs the questions:

When did you know about this family history?

When did he start demonstrating this similar traits as his shithole dad?

Why would you have kids or more kids with such a psycho (if you knew before the kids/a kid)?



Apart from those questions and the possible consequential error of judgement, my advice would be:

- Stop fcking arguing with a mad man or engaging in any antagonising response .........(if you continue, you too get crase; only someone mad argues with a mad person, especially a violent one)
- Start building your personal finances and support network patiently
- Once you have the finances, get the fck out of the miserable institution called marriage (which, worse still, in your case is with a psychopath)
- There is nothing for you in this set-up except misery and possibly death
- Let him have access to seeing the kids after you leave

No relationship or marriage is worth sacrificing your happiness for. Get out of it.

As a woman, I know it is even worse for you as you are built to want to be loved and appreciated; that is what makes you happy in life. You will not get these in this current miserable set-up.

You might have to wait another 10 years or so before you would be in a position to freely date again (i.e. the kids have flown the nest), but it would be better than another 10 years of this misery and would provide an opportunity to make better choices in a partner.

Oyindidi:
Sagamite, your service is needed here.

Go away!

When you see a mental patient, you should be able to identify them.

Abi you want to divorce your husband and marry this one, so you are just flirting with him first?

Oyindidi:
Sagamite

This is nonsense, darling!

I bet it was written by some pastor during one his idle, jobless times.

Marriage is a favour to a woman.

They want it more and tend to benefit more from it. They don't do it all because of altruism.

Oyindidi:
You sound like you're in your 40s. Na that time men dey craze

70s!

Waiting to go to heaven and get 20 virgins.

Gerrard59:
If you were a God, I'll worship you. It's the same hypocrisy I've concerning modern-day feminism.

@Bolded: Yes, and it should come with responsibility.

I will eventually be.

Wait make I die first. I am sure the Pope, the Grand Imam and Babalawo Agba would eventually elevate me to God of Social Observation.

Oyindidi:
Lol, you no be am. E good say you no go marry

I prefer my happiness on this Earth and in this world. Those that want to wait, make dem wait for paradise.

Paradise ko, Disabledise ni.

Oyindidi:
Atheist? I have a friend from sagamu

Deist!

I don't believe in any of the crap fables black people subject themselves to and feel terrorised by.

https://www.nairaland.com/505643/sagamite-lets-discuss-agnostic-deism

I bet some black foooool was reading my last post in shock, thinking how can someone call himself "Satan" and spraying holy water on his/her screen.

Anuofia idiots!

Oyindidi:
Thought you are from Igbo

I look Igbo, but I be Yoruba Satan from Sagamu!