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kandiikane: Strong black woman doesn't mean aggressive woman.

This your negativity, kraa. I hope you find a nice love whitey.

Whatever it is that is strong about majority of you is not attractive and is making many of you undesirable. Part of the reason successful black men look for better options and many black women end up as single mothers (especially in communities that claim strong black women - i.e. AA, Black Brit and Jamo).

I would gladly find myself a whitey or a Southern/Eastern African woman if needs be than engage in quasi-sadomasochism.

Keep the frowns and attitude up and call yourself strong black woman!

londoner: Yeah her features are just beautiful arent they.....thats what stands out the more with her low cut.

Even on the vid, she was not the only girl there, but most comments on the vid are raving about this girls beauty. The other girls looked good too, but this one stood out.

Also because it is sadly rare to see a natural African lady, rock her low cut and her sexy too.....and with a killer smile.


Definately have to agree 100% the scowling of many women is actually ugly I believe. I am a woman and realised that in the past I would scowl too (as my projected expression).......I changed that and try to catch myself in the act and turn it to a smile or a look which is neutral.


I save my negative expressions for when something really happens to make me angry or sad........that is the right place for it......lol


Many African girls whether fine or not come across as arrogant when they scowl as if their mess does not stink.......they need to seriously get over themselves.

They are everywhere in Perth Australia, where I live....frown and scowl.....all day, and for no good reason.


Ok rant over.....lol

Thank you o!

It is good a black woman is saying it as well because when I say it some would be saying/thinking I am attacking or picking on black women.

Who wants to be with someone that looks miserable, annoyed and aggressive? Abegi, I am a black guy, I am freaky. I am freaka freak, naughty, hit-it-like-a-rock-star, she-must-taste-it-for-her-own-good fuku faka sex-machine, but I am not into sadomasochism. That is mainly a middle-aged white man fantasy. Why would I be attracted to miserable, annoyed and aggressive packaged as "Strong Black Woman".

As per this Zainab girl, what an absolutely lovely thing.

I think what makes her stand out, apart from the beauty and cut, is just the incredible smile, the feminity/sexiness, the I-am-having-fun and the "you-can-get-along-with-me" look.

What a stunning combination on a gorgeous girl. I would COOK!

FXKing2012: Now that's a real man; he chose to pay her $100million even though he was not legally bound to do so.
As the mother of his kids and as someone he was once in love with and still friends with, he was sensible, kind, intelligent and nice enough to know he morally ought to pay her off - and he did it big time. Now that's a man with a big heart.

Again rich folks dont go crying over divorce settlements, only poor and average dudes do.

PS: Poverty and wealth are states of mind.

And the person comes with his "intellectual" assertions again!

Cretinous product of a failed education system!

FXKing2012: I've lost count of the number of times you have used the terms person and cretin in your comments. And going through your posts in other threads, person and cretin appear over 95% of the time. Because you lack the capacity to engage in an intellectual argument in a civilized manner, so all you do is jump from thread to thread insulting folks.

I have thus come to the conclusion that you are too uncivilized for my kind, too shallow for me to engage with, intellectually bankrupt, and even short on vocabularies which is why person and cretin appear in everyone of your crude posts.

You have a lot of growing up to do, so until then you have a front row seat in my infamous ignore list - please enjoy it.

You are a person!

What intellectual debate is one going to have with a cretin like you?

Oops! I used person and cretin again.

See the cretin with moronic opinions talking about "intellectual debate" and "intellectual bankrupcy".

"PS: A man can not buy land and build houses if he's not emotionally and psychologically balance, and guess who provides that balance - the wife."

Intellectual debate of a person. A brain-dead person!

totalbaby: A nice guy anyday and anytime.FOr serious relationships definately the nyc guy. My bf is a nyc guy n definately is not boring or a pushover.

But for friends-with-benefits, booty-call, adventure, quick-hits, good-servicing-after-a-drought and give-it-to-me-baby---huh-huhn-huh-huhn you would go for a bad boy sha?

jidegirl12: Loyola college Ibadan, st. Patric's , ISI , ohhh goner those days early '90s listing to Keith sweat ummmm reminiscing

pak: . . .then you're younger than I thought.

In my Jss 1, the vogue then was arrested development (loved everyday people to bits), boys 2 men, MC hammer and Bobby Brown. Keith sweat didn't have his break through yet.

On the local scene, there was this - 'sotey you carry O - e belle' song, one very razz song but gained a lot traction.

The good ol days of FGCID

Kai! This people old o.

In my own secondary school days na Chris Brown, Drake and Rihanna we dey listen to.

[quote author=baby_123]Dont like the concept at all. My kids spending so long with other kids that their backgrounds are not pure. Been there done that, but not for my future kids. [/quote]So you mean when I impregnate you and then want to send the child to £32K-a-year Eton, you would say "Hell No"?

Idowuogbo: Yea! Dats my pastor.U go come our fellowship? See below for more info.

AH, GOD! That poster irritated me.

Nigerians are so dumb.

Tgirl4real:

Nonsense!

Hug the table u sexxxy biatch!!! ...................*Saga waits and sets himself in erotic anticipation*

dayokanu: Anyone who thinks Michael Jordan, Johnny Depp, Bernie Ecclestone, Rupert Murdoch, Mel Gibson, Harrison Ford, Steven Spielberg, Tiger Woods, Madonna, James Cameron, Paul McCartney, Kevin Costner, Kenny Rogers, Lionel Richie, Donald Trump, Michael Douglas, Mick Jagger,

Paid their EX willingly and not compelled by law must have a thinking defect

So police gave me a fine of $100 and I paid it you think its because I want to donate money to the community?

The person is below the IQ threshold to even reason like that, stop the mental torture.

cotton101: every woman is different - I was put on bed rest from 16 weeks with my daughter so this one that women that don't work until their baby is crowning is just plain wrong.

Look with all the debating here i think we can all agree that there should be some form of child support in Nigeria - its not right that children who did not ask to be born get caught up and suffer cos their parents have divorced. its not right

as for divorce settlement - this should be dealt on a case by case basis

There should be some child support, there should be some sharing of assets but it must be reasonable, not exploitative and abuseable.

No child needs £40K a month to survive!

No one should fund the lifestyle of another based on stuuuupid arguments like "she is used to it".

There are easy ways to make laws that are reasonable, not the moronic laws fooools are saying we should copy.

Get what you earned/contributed and what you missed out (opportunity cost) on while doing something you both benefit from.

FXKing2012: You say I dont work yet I can employ you. Come to think of it, maybe that's why I dont have any qualms giving a woman something substantial if need be. It's only a man who hasnt handled REAL money that is willing to die for the little he has. Little wonder the likes of Michael Jordan, Johnny Depp, Bernie Ecclestone, Rupert Murdoch, Mel Gibson, Harrison Ford, Steven Spielberg, Tiger Woods, Madonna, James Cameron, Paul McCartney, Kevin Costner, Kenny Rogers, Lionel Richie, Donald Trump, Michael Douglas, Mick Jagger, etc etc didnt find it outrageous to settle their exes big time and didnt go about calling them thieves after the settlement.

Only poor and average people go on ranting about divorce settlements. If you are truly rich you will not even lose sleep over it because what you will still have left after the settlement is way over and beyond what you can spend in your lifetime.

Now I know why my thinking is very different - like minds think alike.

And the person continues churning out his moronic "facts".

Product of a failed education system.

Let us just pick one. So McCartney did not mind giving money to a gold digger but yet went through serious court processes?

Cretin!

damiso: Sorry(not an advocate for divorce settlement)but i have seen cases(firsthand) where the woman AGREED with prompting from the husband to cut back on working in other for at least one of them to be there for the kids.In the case of this couple based on all factors and if one had not slowed down,15 years down the line,the woman would have been at a higher point both in earning power and career ladder.But in this case,she was wise enought to still run a business which gave her more flexiblity to be able to work round the kids.

I hate financial dependence on another human being(adults cos kids and to an extent have to depen on you and maybe aged parents),wife to hubby, hubby to wife but i think its unfair not to acknowledge that sometimes some women have to take a career break to care for very young kids.And this does not mean they did not have high flying careers or were high earners.Some just see that time of bonding with their kids as down time.

That said it should be the couple's decision and if you(the woman)agree i dont think you should be expecting a huge payout in future.If we are able to afford me sitting or rather cutting down on work(cant sit at home full time will want to shoot myself) i will be getting the fairer end of the stick sef cos believe me its hard juggling full time work and being hards on parent.I remember my daughter saying Mummy can we read another book and deep down i just want to hit the sack cos i have a deadline to meet in the morning and if hubby is say working out of town,its honey tomorrow and that tomorrow never comes cos she for don sleep sef by the time i get home the next day.

In as much as women should not see their husbands as meal tickets, if both parents pursue high flying ,time consuming(time being the operative factor) the kids MIGHT suffer.

So fcking well said!

biolabee: u see unfortunately these are parallel views and saga/dk on one hand while fx is the other hand
the former have condemned settlement because it has been misused n abused
However that does not negate the fact that it is useful

I like fx's stating the 10 years. Yes no income but what of the opp cost from lost income which could have been brought in

You can compensate for opportunity cost but NEVER COMPENSATE OVER WHAT SOMEONE DESERVES!

It should be based on opportunity cost, not based on the relative wealth of the financially dominant partner.

My thinking is more refined than this person's, Baba Diplomat!

FXKing2012: She should get a percentage because she contributed a piece of her life by contributing her emotion and her body.

She carried every one of your kids for 9months and went through the very severe pain of being delivered of your babies. All these take a very big toll on her body and she should be compensated if the relationship does not work out.

Contribution should not be by cash alone, there are different ways of contributing in a relationship. Because those other ways can not be easily quantified in monetary terms does not make them worthless.

You are a person!

What emotion and body?

She did not get emotion and body in return?

She did not have a choice whether she wants to carry kids?

What a cretin!

ronkebp: Ture that!!!!!! "Forward thinking" my foot. Just because you want to be current and progressive' in every sense of life, does not mean i should do away with my morals and embrace nonentities.

Shut up!

You are so backwards! So because she has no talent and became popular by releasing a video of her having sex she should not be a role model for your kids?

Oh my God! What is wrong with people like you. This is the 21st century, it is not a big deal.

I bet you are the kind of backward-thinking mother that would not allow her 14 year old child bring her boyfriend/girlfriend to sleepover in the house?

You are such a bush woman! This is the 21st century, they are going to do it anyway, is it not better they have sex under the safety of your roof than be hiding and doing it unsafely outside the house.

Go back to Africa, bush woman!

I bet you are the kind of mother that would go gaga if you find your child smoking weed or experimenting with soft drugs?

Oh my days! You are so out of touch. This is the 21st century, not your olden days. It is just a spliff, it is not like if they are killing anyone.

I bet you are the type of mother that would be upset and furious if your child comes home with tattoo all over their body and there are piercings all over their face.

You are just razz! THIS IS THE 21ST CENTURY, move with the times. Is that what you are worried about when their are bigger issues in Nigeria. Does your village have 24hours light or public healthcare? What is the big deal?

I bet you are the type of mother that would flip when the TV programmes being shown and promoted to the age-group of your pubescent kids is highly sexualised?

WTF? THIS IS THE 21ST CENTURY! How did people like you get the right to enter our progressive society? So what? It is just sexual education, they have to learn it at some point in time.

I bet you are the kind of mother that would refuse to let your 13 year old daughter where are mini-skirts, high heels, make-up etc to school?

Jeez! THIS IS THE 21ST CENTURY! Woman, calm down and stop being so backwards. It is not like if your morals in Africa stopped corruption.

Yours sincerely,

Chief Funkanoid of the Funky Funk Forward-thinkers.

Member of the League of Progressives.

Member of the Enlightened Alliance.

Member of the Open-minded Association.

Go back to your shithole in Africa monkey, GO BACK!

You have just been funky funked by the funkified funkies!

courageousniger: On second note, human sexuality is not as clear cut as you would think. Some people are born homosexuals. Science confirms this and similar personal life stories of people in this category across the globe confirm it. Coming to this awareness, the British who criminalized same-sex amorous interactions across their colonies have decriminalized it in their own countries and so did many other European countries. South Africa stands as an example for Africa countries to follow. Whatever would make an elder statesman like Nelson Mandela, Wole Soyinka or Desmond Tutu advocate for caution, recognition and respect of the sexual minority’s privacy is worth examining by any other wise leader. Mr. Governor, please come to the assistant of the vulnerable.

Signed: John Adewoye, Couragenigeria@gmail.com

What a stewpid argument!

I refrain from calling you a person because the other parts of you arguments that I deleted are actually quite sound logically but these part is so moronic.

So because the British decriminalise something, we should follow them like mumu?

So SA (a country out of 57 in Africa) is a country we have to follow its example?

Because Mandela, Soyinka and Tutu said something, we should accept it as fact? (Lets even ignore the fact of Mandela might not be pro-gay).

What an incredibly stewpid argument!

sweetcheecks: On a serious note;

We all agree that homosexuality is both sadistic and sinful but so are many things. That is not the point though. The point is if anyone, group or government think they can suppress by force anything that a human wills, they are really just buying time and eventually it will happen.

One should look at history of all things that were frowned upon like sex outside marriage, people were beaten, rewards and their allowances taken away by their parents but when they get the chance they would do it again. You cannot forcefully impose something on someone against their will. The same God given will allows people to choose wrong or right and even choose to die for it.

Gay to other people are nameless and faceless people who they would imagine had a broken home or worse until it becomes the boy you took care of nextdoor, your brother, your nephew, your son or someone close to you even your dad in other circumstances then you will be forced to think differently about it. Not accepting but you recognise your neighbours young boy that you admired soo much.

In South Africa gays were disliked and ill treated but if you look now there a gay in every neighbourhood and they are getting younger. Unlike this illtreatment exercised in Naija in SA it was a legalised system of initiation of boys when getting to certain age. Gays would be hunted and forcefully taken to the mountain for circumcission. They thought it was to teach them a lesson to be men. But they would come back with the "Indoda" (meaning man not a boy) tittle and pick up were they had left off.
Now all gays go willingly through the process and get it done with then get back to their life. The so called vigilantes gave up becouse it got close to home, someone they knew and loved became a gay. And so it goes.

When you fight something this way especially something like this, you run a risk of marketing it and making others who were not really aware to ponder on it. Then trouble starts.

I think if its illigal it should be reported to police without making such a spectacle. But bare in mind jail makes it worse.

My two cents on this.

You are obviously not going to suppress the desire, but you can suppress the public act. That is the point.

If you go to Arab countries, you will not see people kissing their partners in public. The laws and culture supress it. So it is possible.

What makes it fail is when you have loose cultural protection and democracy. That is the correlation you would see with the failure of such.

Democracy means every person has a right to vote and their vote carries equal weight. That is bad because there are far more fucktards than people with a brain in every society and the more the culture is not being protected by law, the more the fucktards would beat their chest that they know something while being influenced by other mediums.

I was laughing my arsse off when I was reading this recently:

www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20932705

Where impressionable fucktards like Kandi called themselves "forward thinking" because they admire a woman without any talent and only came into popularity because she had a sex tape. And the old people who object to her are conservative.

That is the mentality of the so-called "progressives" nowadays.

Lucy Harutiunyan, a 22-year-old public relations officer at Armenian and English newspaper Noyan Tapan, in Yerevan, agrees age has a bearing.

"People who have conservative opinions, which tends to be elders, will judge her. But people who are forward thinking are all proud of her.

"Girls see her as a fashion icon, guys think she's really hot. We love her because she is Armenian and she represents the nation," she says.

I was just laughing when I read that part, I swear. People have become MAD!

These bunch of liberal, funky, progressive wannabe ediots we have nowadays actually think they are the enlightened ones.

kandiikane: Oh, ye azzholes, stop blaming the west for your problems. We are the cause of our own problems. To get to the root of the problem, you have to find the source and it's not the west! We find faults in others so we can forget our own. Stop living in denial and accept the truth!

This is now your moronic angle of conjecture throwing?

So saying we condemn homosexuality equals we think the West are the source of our problems?

And with this deduction, you claim you are in university?

kandiikane: Yeah right, MR the west are the cause of my problems but I live there and phuck their women whilst looking down on the women from my continent.

You are nothing but a weak inferior black man who blames the west for all the problems, paints Africa golden but won't dare step foot to live there.

You have issues you need to sort out and I need to give you a huge azz slap right across your face.

Show me where I said the West are the cause of our problems.

kandiikane: You talked of limiting freedom so I brought it up because we have worse things to deal with.

You been away too long sagamite. So, because there may be laws against child abuse it's ok not to mention it?

This is very very stup!d of you because if you have been around Africa much you will realise how bad and lenient the culture is regarding the abuse of children. Obviously, in Africa, we do not know the phrase, "se.xual abuse." They get and phuck whoever they want to phuck or marry because they are "principled." Oh, did I say they can walk down the streets with their heads held up high looking down on two men who decide to have consensual s.ex.

Yes, saga, this is what you call principles and boundaries. "You can phuck a small girl and burn a small boy but that's where is stops. We have boundaries, phucking another man in the anus is crossing the boundaries. Oh wait, it's sexy though for two women to finger each other but two men? No, no we have morals!"

No!

You mentioned it like the typical, impressionable, western child. That is the typical moronic platitude of the "progressives" that you want to be like!

You said it was not being dealt with while homosexuals were being taken to court.

It is the kind of moronic argument used to brainwash you which you quickly accepted to feel among and be funky!

Such silly conjectures shows your lack of objectivity because one can count the amount of times people have been taken to court for homosexuality in Africa as a whole on two hands while there are lots of cases of child abuse in only one country.

Yes, we baboons actually object to child molestation contrary to what you funky whiteys think.

Libkid: i dont care to know.say nah to dem boiz who eye dem fellow boiz nyash

Product of a failed education system!

kandiikane: blah blah bullshyt! Don't use the excuse that because I'm younger than you, I've been manipulated by the west. That is a huge fallacy. I believe YOU have an inferior complex, you cannot control your own society or better your own so you find faults in the west and use it as an excuse for social decadence. You are weak, you follow the phucked up regime in your continent which is killing it slowly. You cannot even take care of your own, outsiders have to come and solve your issues for you whether it's in your favour or not.

It's because of your ignorance and arrogance that's why we will never move forward. The west doesn't have principles or boundaries but yet they are doing better than your dear 'principled' continent. Many of you chatting shyt about the west flock over there for better lives. HA! I laugh at the irony.

Wow!

Sorry, white woman!

You just proved everything I said about you.

Sagamite: There are more complex issue than morals for the predicament of Africa. The predicament that makes young ones like you quickly embrace anything fed to you in the West just to show you associate with "progressives". You need a stronger personality to question and drop the subconcious inferiority complex.