No wonder you sound bitter. Jealousy stuff. I doubt all you typed is true - and even if it were, it probably didn't happen the way you've painted it on here for us.
You must truly dislike your sister-in-law. What are you expecting your mum to do? Rain insults on your brother and his wife? Turn your brother against his wife?
Stay clear of that marriage. Mind your own business.
2sexycom: sagamiteeeeeee...... oh my God, Nigerian music industry has killed guys who were meant to give us songs like this like Wande Coal of Ololufe, Style Plus etc. This is my BEST BEST BEST and BEST genre RnB. Boy2Men will forever remain my top list. JOE, R.kelly and so many others.
I love acappella as well. Did one back in school and people couldn't close their mouths as they watch in Amazement cos I rarely sing, except my close friends who knew me.
Thanks for the videos sagamite and I am out of recession as per our last gist
Nice to hear about recession update.
It is not only Naija. It is around the world.
The music of this decade (2010s) has been poor. I pity the kids growing up today. It is like the 80s when music was also poor.
The music is so bad nowadays that when I listen to the radio in my car in the UK, the DJs half the time now play old school stuff. They play 90s stuff instead of the junk being produced today.
The 70s and 90s were the best for music. 2000s was not bad too, especially early 2000s.
TV01: ...maybe not ecstatic, but on balance I see it as a good thing - even if it only "balances" the deluge of "marriage gone wrong" stories we hear daily in this place.
How market ? We eagerly await you sharing your own "story" - with pics following and even a video sef.
"Not just sharing a story, but living a dream" - TV01.
I dey o, bruv.
Market dey.
I made a new year resolution for 2016. My resolution is "I shall stay away from getting married in 2016".
Oyind17: I went to my elder brother's house for a visit and I lost my peace due to what I saw there. I didn't call him on phone before going, I knocked and their first son opened the gate for me, when I entered they were eating. Normally the woman was supposed to dish food if they needed more but to my greatest surprise she asked him to dish more, like an obedient servant he went to the kitchen to get more.
About 30 minutes later her younger sister arrived and the wife started sending him all manner of errands, she started with bring yam for Mercy( the name of the girl), he brought the yam and she sent him again to tie the yams together for the girl, I was pissed cos I couldn't believe my brother was doing that.
She later send him to their shop to bring some stuffs for the girl, I left immediately cos I couldn't bear it any longer. The girl is above 20
To the men,would you accept such from your wives and to the wives would you treat your husbands as errand boys.
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AlPeter: sagacious sagamite the swaggalicious one i just dey gbadun all your comments dem dey sweet like honey though you dey go off sometimes but you still dey add sense to the Off. @joliyp Do you know it takes time and a lot of patience for Diamond to be made into a beautiful gem. If you know what you want go for the guy make it easy for him and I assure you he will not take you for granted rather he will Love and cherish you. Don't ask how I know.
When I tell people my Sagakids will be superkids, dem go think say I dey joke.
A pikin no fit have better parenting than I will give.
EfemenaXY, cococandy, tearoses, Kimoni, babygirlfl, bukatyne, stillfire and co, I no tell una?
naijadeyhia: Why do people just reason like oafs and shout scam for no apparent reason as if they have the blood of ffk flowing in their veins? The OP has stated her reasons for asking for guidance. The best thing for you to do of you have no contribution to make is to zip up your mouth.
She obviously has been given a very sensitive assignment and does not want to fall short. Give her some space.
Well that is what you get from products of a failed educattion system.
Fuuktards like Demmocrats just open there mouth to say something .....................anything ...........................it does not have to make sense or show any reasoning or research. What matters is that they show they too are talking.
To such products, they see being silent as a state where people would think they are stuuupid. So they need to talk at all cost.
That is why the country is full of people chatting crap and sharing dumb misinformation.
babysophie: I am talking frm personal experience. I am a product of polygamy n it is so horrible. Fnx for d insight on d Quran concerning it n i hope dose practising it wil do it rightly.
babysophie: polygamy is very dangerous in Nigeria,especially wre d man is a bit comfortable financially. Negative competition results wen d women start destroying everything that will increase dem,for example,dey wil start killing each other's children so dt d man's wealth wil b for dem alone. At d end,d women wil turn d husband to a zombie.
Joel3: An open debate with fact and what's happening around in the society
how about living together as boyfriend and girlfriend and then grow old and die? will a life not be completed or fulfilled? is it a must to tied the knot? you see when the registrar is been signed and the whole thing becomes legal biding in both religious or traditional acceptances of marriage in mate I think that is when a lot of things goes wrong.
don't give me the bullshiit that its for better for worst. many innocent victim are been blind folded into signing this shitt. and they will tell him or her to remain in it forever. I am an advocate for this shit to be destroyed. I know in 22nd century this thing called marriage institution will be destroyed .
many single hide their true self and wait patiently for the scam called marriage to be signed first before true color is out. definitely not me except ofcource I have my own interests 200% otherwise no thanks and no deal
I have read Nairaland posts for years as a guest. Every single post we see about marriage lately seems to be negative. I am not belittling the foolishness of cheating men when I say this: I am shocked that women can cheat so blatantly these days. I think it's tme to revive the hopes of those men who add two years to their marriage date when they see threads about disloyal "wives"... time to spare single women from the headache of being banded together with all these disloyal women, keeping them single even longer... let's restore the reputation of the institution of marriage as a blessing, a source of favour and a worthy calling that need not be delayed out of fear.
Please, ladies and gentlemen of Nairaland, there must be some happy marriages amongst us. If you have a good wife, please tell us why and how she is amazing. If you have a good husband, please share why and how he is amazing. If you have a good marriage, please take a moment to share your story here.
Let’s start 2016 on a positive note.
May the Lord restore the marriages of those who are currently facing crises, in Jesus’ Name.
Happy new year.
To be frank, I think it is a honourable thing you are trying to do and I know TV01 would be ecstatic with your approach.
joliyp: I met this guy not quite long on a social media, we are friends and I think he wants me but too shy to express his desire. He barely looks into my eyes and whenever am close to him, he tends to develop cold feet: I think I like him but how long do I wait for him ...maybe because we are not on the same level ? am a working class Lady and he is still in school
Should I ask him out or wait for another guy? I like him alot.
If you were my daughter, you would know.
Because I would have drummed it into your head that a guy like this is probably the best kind of guy for you at that age (I am assuming you are both under 25).
Most guys under that age would get very nervous when they see a girl they are infatuated with. They don't know what to do.
When they get older, they realise such pure qualities are not attractive to young girls and they change. They get in the game.
Better up your game and make it happen.
You can chat him up if you wish. But as a girl, you don't really need to. Just always be around him when you can, ask him to come out, hang out with him, call him, talk to him and speak with a nice tone to him.
Basically make it fcking easy for him, then he would make a move or it would just happen if he is not a complete amateur.
If he is, then call me. ......................................Joking.
naughtynaughty: Believe me no lady ever want to be in that type relationship. Unromantic guy?? Nah! I'll pass. There are lots of things to deal with already talk more of dealing with such guyz and relationships.
In my opinion, such guys shouldn't be in a relationship, yeah..I mean there's nothing as nice as having a type relationship, you know, the kind where my partner would leave little notes and gifts, maybe rope some of my best friends in as accomplices to drive me all around town, looking for my next clue in places that held special significance to just us.
At the end, there’d be a big surprise, lots of flowers, candles, champagne, and a declaration of undying love for me. This alone can drive any grl crazy and make them stick to you for the rest of their lives..
I've being in one before. Throughout our relationship, I was Always the first one to say I love you, and he only really says it to me when I initiate it. He never tells me I'm beautiful/attractive... He doesn't really like to kiss, either..blah blah blah. After finally freeing myslf from him I swore never to date an unromantic guy again.
Ever being in one before With a guy or with a girl? Pls share.
{Pukes}
Some solid advice for you: "Make sure you stay the fck away from me."
Hey, seeing u 2day gave me immeasurable joy. I was overwelmed with emotions n I fought tears as soon as I set my eyes on u. What really happened dt we cudnt fix? Am very happy in my marriage n am sure u r happy in urs too. Yet, I really can't 4get d genuine love u had for me.That love dt made u keep ur hands off me. Am very proud of u my Special sweetheart. Dts y i simply can't 4get u. U r indeed special to me.
Well, nigga, you just found the evidence you are the guy she decided to settle for.
When I read the message, the only part I did not believe was the part she said "Am very happy in my marriage n am sure u r happy in urs too".
That is just what I call a typical "women's self-consolation lie". They tend to lie to themselves and others to feel good or cover up their insecurity/weakness.
Women have this capacity to lie and believe their own lies. It is a life-coping mechanism they need.
I am sure she is not totally happy, she is just content. She has lied to herself her contentment is happiness to make the best of the situation.
You are not NEO!
You are in the Matrix but you are an ordinary member of Zion, the last human city. You are not "The One".
Sorry to be blunt, but if you followed me on NL, you would have read repeatedly when I warn guys to only go for girls who see them as The One, otherwise never marry her. You can smack it, but don't put a ring on it.
Richirich713: Guy I'm not going into repetitive discussion, if u don't agree that it makes more sense that a intelligent being created intelligent life and fine tune the universe , then fine.
Plz just don't continue to repeat the same question, on why it makes more sense.
Well then, don't repeat answers that does not answer the question asked and you will not have a repetitive discussion.
You are yet to efficiently explain the reasoning you went through that led you to conclude you are right and they are wrong. That led you to conclude, you make sense and they don't.
Try again.
Richirich713: I link cuz based on the evidence, it's the best and most logical explanation
Out of nothing comes nothing, eternity is necessary.
I'm really hope u not trying to say this universe came literally from "nothing", and hope u not saying that makes more sense.
What makes it the "best" and "most logical"?
You go school na?
When you make a claim, you are suppose to back it up with logic and facts.
Richirich713: No one said that, the only reason I say the eternal source must be intelligent is cuz of the DESIGN AND FINE TUNING of the universe.
If the universe was not fine tune, I would have never said anything about intelligence cuz there would be no evidence for that.
Fine.
Now who made the intelligence of the eternal source? His intelligence came from nothing?
Richirich713: The universe had a beginning, something cause the Big Bang.
Either what cuz it did it intelligently or randomly. But evidence points to intelligence.
And it's not me who even says the universe is not eternal, it's the atheists like Dawkins nd hawking who say it came from nothing.
If u offer a more logical explanation then plz share it with me.
Well, you are the one that argued to me here that the universe is not eternal but God is, so don't think you can repudiate that argument by deflection to "authorities".
If you don't believe it, then I suggest you never use it to argue.
maestroferddi: You are craving for my attention but I will not be obliging this time around.
This is a new year and so it wouldn't be out of place for you to make the trip to your village so that someone can place a finger on your dysfunctional/split personality.
Make a trip to your village and beg your family enemies to remove your curse of daftness. It is not marginalisation that is causing you to fail in life.
Nonybb: Why can't that your company build houses for your kind too. Why do they treat white skin differently from the black skin. Your company is suffering from white monkey obsession
Because black skin does not deserve to be treated better and cannot command it.
When your behaviours get better, then you will not have to ask for respect, you will command it.
Richirich713: Intelligence has to do with the design of the universe, if the universe was completely out of order with no sign of design then intelligence would have nothing to do with the issue at hand.
Like I quoted earlier
"If anything at all exists, there must be something preceding it that always existed. How did this eternally existing reality come to be? The answer is that it never came to be. It always existed. Take your pick: God or universe. Something always existed."
And that's my point, it makes more sense to say a eternal intelligent being created this complex universe and fine tune it.
Or U can go with chance and "out of nothing" if u think that is a better explanation.
Or u can go with the agnostic view which seems to be what most atheists here hold to.
How does it make more sense?
How do you link "intelligence" to "eternal"?
You mean you have some scientific or logical prove that intelligence creates eternality?
Intelligent beings cannot have a "beginning" and an "end"?
Why do you think you have a better argument that this your God "always existed" than someone else arguing the Universe "always existed"?
This is not logical: "If anything at all exists, there must be something preceding it that always existed". It is just an argument you created to fit the logic you want to put forward. You can't prove it. I want facts.