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Johndoe100: Well you see i am not talking about newly weds. To be honest you get to a stage when you must groom the next generation. On a purely social level, you can't fit in with the "boys" if you are still single. Note though we are much older than you.

So those grooming the next generation are "bigger boys"? How?

ronkebp: i will start by asking you, what your values are? what values are you bringing to the table??...and don't start with mentioning your **monetary capacity****

Ki lon she e? (What is wrong with you?)

Have you, for a second, thought about the superior intellectual genes I will pass to an offspring for a start?

You think na beans? You fit buy such for market?

Johndoe100: I agre with harakiri on a lot of things but not on this. I realy enjoyed being single, however there comes that point when you must transition from big boy to bigger boy. Does this mean that yovr marriage will be good? Fun? Happy? If you are lucky it might. The fact is
that is the natural order of things.

What is bigger boy by being married?

harakiri: @ronkebp
Sweet

...and how many men do you know who deliberately married the WRONG LADY? Hmmm? Most folks who get married (apart from forced marriages) believe they got married to the "right person"...few years down the line, it's the holocaust. Nice pep talk but it's crap and you know it.

How come i've heard this line over 100 times? It's as if there's this "biotic-woman" server up in space where all the females download updates from. Interesting stuff.

Typical scare tactics. The only people scared of being alone in old age is WOMEN!!! And they desperately try to cultivate that fear in men. The only thing that would make me scared at old age is being broke! At 70, i can phuck 30yr old pretty ladies so long as i am paid...WORD!!!

My Nelly moments: He's right you know. Heeeee's right!

ronkebp: @Sagalulu.....forget all these your sentiments with regards to marriage...all of them will fly right out of the window when the right lady comes along....i have dined and eaten with men that think like you do; and in the long-run, they turn to vegetables... And that is a promise!!!!

Even the mighty always fall, whether now or in their old-age!!!! A man will always be a man.

If that ever happens, you will know she deserves it. You know I don't do shythead women.

I will never reward a mooron with the value Sagamite brings to the table.

She would know how to behave and not take a piss.

As a matter of frankness, let me tell you, I don't like majority of women, more so Naija women. They normally just piss me off within the first few interactions with them. I tend to like only few women. I am very principled and tend to treat women the way they deserve to be treated and very few deserve to be treated nicely. It is okay to be friends with alot of women, anything beyond that and somehow they are good at getting on my nerves with their selfishness and sense of entitlement without doing nothing.

armyofone: ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

grabbing my spinach salad and italian dressing with huge fork and enjoy this rap.

tori don get Kleg

Yeye liar!

This na wetin she wan say wey she dey lie:

Rolling my feshelu eba with efo soup full of condiments dripping of palm oil with my five fingers and enjoy this rap.

luvinhubby: It's very easy to spot an almajari high on weeds, constantly spiting thrash.

You are a person!

Shut up if you can't defend your dumb statements.

Product of a failed education system.

shymmex: Kola Boof has nice breasticides sha.

Sick Moooron!

I knew you were into trannies and gorillas! She looks like a man in a wig. Sick person!

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[quote author=Miss_Ife]@sagamite, harakiri and co : I always enjoy reading what you write about marriage and relationships because you guys sound so full of energy and ambitions that I can only admire your youth and will to not compromise on your happiness
There's something I've been wanting to ask, though, why are you fighting so hard against the idea that marriage can be good to some people ? From what I know, you guys are not married ? I don't quite get it, nobody's forcing you to get married. It makes me smile cause when I read you it makes me think of all those "diet obsessed people" who frown if they see you eating oily stuff. To each their own, I like my fried chicken, you like to be single, let's just agree that we enjoy different things. And btw, I think you are right for not compromising before you get married... marriage can be something simple and fun where you can be yourself, and life doesn't start/stop at marriage...

Now, that being said, I just can't wait to read you guys once you actually get married [/quote]Babes, I have never denied marriage can be good for some people. I think actually I have made it clear severally that it is good for some people and, as supremely intelligent as I am, if I did not believe it can be good, I would NEVER even consider it as an option for myself.

What I have objected to, in my history on NL, is when some lame people come here and try and sell marriage as gold, virtually fail proof, an abated union of happiness, easily & guaranteably controlled to result in success, a must for all sane people, far better than singledom and a union created by God. These are normally religious goons.

Rubbish! Marriage by and large is historically (from medieval to modern day) a failed institution. No one should sell it as gold and faultless. More so, deluded people that are unhappy in it but are putting on a face in denial or because they don't want their remaining marriage pillar to completely collapse.

Worse still is the fact that current Western laws (for those residing there), moral values and modern culture will only accelerate more marriage failures in the future.

virtuoso01: Mr Sagamite "rotten minded"person or what do you call yourself. It seems you are just here to insult people by calling them "person" without adding anything tangible to the discussion.

Anyway, it is very easy to spot a moronic slowpoke when you see one: they throw rotten insults all over the place which comes out of the rotteness of their brains.

Someone like you!

You are a person!

You think I have time and the patience to be giving opinions to fucktards like you? DO I look like a social worker there to support your retardation?

Foool, I would just insult your daft arse and hope you are not such a lost case who can not see his stewpidity from the little questions I ask.

Now, cretin, go and let my questions sink and absorb into your head and see what you pick up before we arrive at a conclusion of the extent of your fucktardism.

kandiikane: ^ they have guidance but that doesn't stop them from making the decisions.

At 16 you are asked to choose the foundations of the career path you want to go for and at 18 you start the process.

You said it! 16year olds don't have a "jack clue" about what the future holds but they still make the decisions that will enable them to enter the future.

It might not be the right age for you but waiting until 21 to make these decisions is too long. Time wakes for no man.

Sex and career path are not the same thing. One can have irreversible consequences.

kandiikane: Actually, I personally believe there is a huge flaw in your thinking of how a teenager should be.
At the ages of 16 upwards is the time you make decisions that would affect your future outcome. So, if you are at that age and you are deciding major life decisions such as which career path to choose, why should that stop you from deciding which man you would want in your future?
You are already big enough to be making big decisions that really as you said your brain needs to grow to understand and you are yet to know whether they will even go as planned but you still make them. Why stop at just career?

Listen, this is all part of being a teenager, you don't just expect them to sit there and play hopscotch.
The body is changing so is the mind.
Love knows no age. It's through experience and growing with it that you can understand it.

No, on average, you are not big enough to make decisions that would affect your future.

Don't be fooled by that British crap. In other countries, it might be 18 or it might be 21.

16 year olds don't have a jack-clue what the future holds or what they want. Using your example (career path), hardly are people doing what they planned to do at 16 in 20 years time.

In my view, on average, there is no right age for people to make decisions about their future because majority of people are inherently cretins. They consistently and eternally need guidance on making decisions.

So at 16, you should have guidance without a shadow of a doubt, majority are not big enough for nada.

arabambi: Nigeria is a nation with diff voices from top to bottom. Great nations speak with one voice no mater who u are. They applaud the govt or individual when they do well so as to encourage them to do better. They rebuke them when they do bad to discourage others against such act. If u watch football, take a look at Fabrice Muanba's case. Bolton footbal club postponed thier matches to show simpathy despite d F.A wanted d matches played. Not that the guy was confirmed dead. But had d problem in active service for the club. Hope we get it right one day and stop judging pple as a southerner, northerner or eastherner. Blue is clear from Red

Another person product of a failed education system that conjures up moronic assertions from thin air!

How does America speak with one voice?

How does UK speak with one voice?

How does Canada speak with one voice?

Moooron, you education is so poor you can conjure such idiotic statement without knowing every society has factions.

virtuoso01: Eight staff from the same company dies together on official assignment for that company. It is almost as if eight members die from the same family on the same day and yet the head of the house goes ahead with a planned wedding the following day.

This is the height of insensitivity. Eight dead bodies is not just a number and to think that this same Sanusi goes around the north giving donations for "humanitarian reasons" yet he cannot show empathy for members of his own CBN family.

A tragedy should always be treated as a tragedy. This is an insult to the dead and their family, and an insult to the entire CBN family who are friends and colleagues of the departed.

You are a person!

How is it the same as 8 members of the same family dying?

Since when did one week later become one day later, cretin?

luvinhubby: Boko haram is recruting suicide bombers(brainless extremists), hope you've sent your C..V.

I am not surprised you know since you have shown you are brainless, I am sure you have sent your CV.

Good boy! I like the way you have decided to end your worthless life with a useless brain.

person!

DailyNews: the only place I disagree with you, not that I am condemning u either, becos we all are not perfect, but struggling to perfection, is the area of sleeping with ladies you don't want or wish to marry....maybe I am too old fashioned in that aspect, pardon me

Out of curiosity, why would you not?

luvinhubby: Sorry, did'nt know your brain was flushed down the toilet.
NEEXXXTTT!!!

You are a person!

When you have cement for brains that is when you vomit the moronic statements you made.

Foool!

DailyNews: Sagamite & his cohorts are real men...I am enjoying your lines of arguments...you guys are blunt on this topic, not mincing words to please any ear or eye reading...Honestly speaking, with the likes of ladies Nigeria hosts today, marriage is as scary as being POOR, and even more scary than going to HELL! And the only solution I see to it is this: our ladies should try & discard some western cultures & norms, they are not doing them any good at all. Some western cultures have shaped Nigerian ladies into heartless, selfish, ungovernable/unruly creatures good for friendship alone. Any lady that wants to find true love & get married & then remain happily married forever, should combine her good looks with good personality & humility, which are mostly lacking in most ladies of today. The situation today is this: you see a very pretty Nigerian lady, very attractive, then she will be ugly in character, manner & attitude. she will lack humility & respect, & she will also be wayward in character. then u see an ugly-looking girl, she will be pretty in character, over-dedicated to religion to the extent that she becomes scary. you see a pretty girl from a well to do family & maybe with good job, her lifestyle will be a mess, he character will be so smelly like animal dunk. then u see another averagely looking lady, working & okay, and she will be so pompous & full of herself, see all men who aren't times three affluent as she thinks she is as below her class. etc, etc. But I can remember my mother, so pretty, good-mannered & a blessing to my father, her family & all, & yet humble & dedicated to God...but hardly can u find a very attractive working class single lady in Nigeria who is humble, good-mannered & reserved in manner & spirit, why? It is now only the least attractive & poor girls that are good-mannered becos of their conditions & once a man decides to marry them & clean them up, they become untouchable queen of sheba, why? Becos of all these recent conditions, Nigerian guys are now afraid of getting married, but pressure from family, parents & society always make them to marry ladies that are never their dream woman; hence they compromise & marry below their wish & end up being unhappy in the marriage. Ladies claiming married men they know are happy, who told u? are u a man? speak for yourself, we are men & we have lots of married men as friends & colleagues, & we do chat & mix with them. don't think becos they tell u that they are happy means they are. becos they are laughing & smiling with their wives on sunday at churches doesn't mean they are happy okay? Marriage in Nigeria seem to only favor ladies than men & thats why wedding day is the happiest day in every Nigerian ladies life, but not same with men- his happiest day in life is the day he buys his first dream car, finishes his house, gets promoted or seals his first multi-million business deal or contract & not his wedding day. In fact let me tell u the truth, men hate wedding days, simple. if not for society, family & religion, most men won't wed. & if not for kids, majority of men in Nigeria of today won't marry! you can find out yourself. Seriously the Nigerian ladies need to change, start advising themselves to change to encourage guys to dream & desire to marry, else....

Correction young man: I am not a Real Man, I am All Man.

A Real Man would never say what I say. They only say what women want to hear so they get a good pat on the back from women for being a "good boy".

Apart from that, great points and observation.

In terms of the highlighted, you are on point. I should add that the typical fine girl that would say nothing is wrong with her stinking attitude would change it to a nice attitude if she ends up not married and her looks start fading. Then she would be complaining that I am a nice girl why don't guys want to marry me.

God forbid I marry a fine girl with bad personality. God forbid I marry a not-so-fine girl with great personality.

I would gladly bang the fine girl without personality and never put a ring on it. I would gladly bang the not-so-fine girl in times of poor form and never put a ring on it.

I aint compromising before marriage.

jimmayoy: Mariage is a very interesting institution,what can a single guy do that a married guy cannot do?its just that you need to prepare before you venture into it.the thought of my wife and kids always bring me home,the good food''the my daddy this and my daddy that''from the kids are all fun.a good family gives you a kind of special joy that money cannot give.dont be decieved family life is fun.you know those qualities that you ll like your woman to possess,look for a lady that has them and you re almost there,from the inception pls dont tolerate attitudes that are not acceptable to you as you might have quite a task trying to change them in the future.dont marry at old age its not worth it.

This is the typical senseless junk one hears.

See someone asking what can a single guy do that a married man can not do. What utter rubbish!

You can take a job in Kazakhstan to start in the next 30 days like I can?

You can leave a friends place at 3am three days in a role or even decide you are too tired to drive and sleep on his couch like I can?

You can decide to have paanla [*Coughs*] today instead of brokotor [*Coughs*] you had yesterday like I can?

You can decide "I just want peace and solitude" for the next one week like I can?

You can decide there are things you are not ecstatic in doing so you are not going to do them like I can?

armyofone: ummmm,
like she can't ask you to go to hell too
when you are done acting up and putting up false toughie here, no forget to make dinner. also make the steak well cooked too.
oh, please change that grill to charco grill and put lot of pepper while marinating it.
also, pick up some scented candle for the bath

Una see the stress men have to face when they marry.

She is already giving hints of the misery married man would have to put up with otherwise there would be no peace in the house.

As per he r telling me to go to hell?

If she leaves, she is leaving the best

So she is gonna have to settle for less

shymmex: ^^^Those were assertions, not questions..



When are you starting your adult education classes, bro bro?

person, is it the time for your weekly bashing?

Welcome, I am itching for intellectually suya badly.

Liar, where is the Birmingham certificate you claimed you had and you were going to unleash on us before you ran when I challlenged you to present it?

Fooool!

For all:

Some of the lame arguments I here frequently from people trying to get a single guy married:

"You will die lonely and miserable"

Err, No! He would have fun and when he gets old there would still be several women (men die before women), some widowers, some divorcees, some young girls that love older men that he can still settle with. Women till the end of the world will always want company, so these women would gladly date him. All laid on the table for the man after years of tapping a variety of arses.

"You have to marry young so you can still play football with your kids when they are young"

BULLSHYT!

No 1, what guarantees you that you will have a boy?

No 2, I know many young married men. I don't know any that plays footballs with his kids. Hollywood ideal, romantic, loving family stories are different from real life. Even if they did, I doubt many father do at any form of intensity that a 45 year old can not.

All these useless scare tactics to make men please women.

ifyalways: I got your points now sir but still if men have a problem and can't deal with it without trying to rope us women in,they'd be the one to come out with shyte on their faces not us.lol
Btw,what are u rejecting,your key to happiness and bliss?Someone wants to go to bed cold,alone and "unhappy" tonite

Stop your tasteless jokes before I send thunder reach you.

You are going to give me cold nightmares and make me impotent for months if you continue with this ridiculosity.

Anyway, what do you mean by roping women in? And shyt on their face?

I don't get it. You also forgot to explain the part above I requested earlier for further explanation.

ifyalways: Lol, harakiri is out. Its a full house.
Erhm, the thread is about men who have chosen to :
Be unhappy in their marriages.
To remain in their so called unhappy marriages.

Are women to be blamed for this as well

Methinks, that men that fits into the above description are "confused dogs who want to eat their cakes and have it"

Lmao!

Why call them dogs?

Why don't you call them lions? Lions too fck around na.

Women and the use of euphemisms to train mugu men to be "Real Men". Women are professionals!

ifyalways: I'll be brief. Lol
A man according to most men on this board can only stay sane and happy in their marriages, if he occasionally cuts show discretly outside. Their emotions, devotion and loyalty still belong to the wives @ home. they (say or think) love the wife but as a matter of fact must cheat with no strings attached and with anything that has a hole.

No, you got it wrong love.

What was said was not that. What was said is that, most men that claim happiness now are either unhappy or are only happy because they are kicking it outside. Not that a man can only be happy if they are occasionally kicking it outside. And obviously some men (albeit a small fraction) are happy in marriage without kicking it outside.

A solution proffered to remedy this is: Most men should marry only women they are extremely attracted to, with a nice personality and who knows she should not get too comfortable to the point of misbehaving. By doing this the men can have a good foundation to be happy in a marriage. Most are not doing this at the moment. Most are compromising before marriage.

ifyalways: Sagamite is married to Jenny but he can he cheat with queensmith with Jennys image in his head.he believes he would be unhappy the day he stops fvcking queensmith and at same time claims he only sees queen Cos his dyke is on a different wavelenght from his head or heart.this just like sums up the 2 weird arguments from most men on this board :
You can fvck a girl you are not emotionally attached to.
You can be happy in your erstwhile "unhappy" married life so long as you keep cheating.

Some of you men are confused dogs. Lolz

[vomits]

Anuofia!

God forbid bad thing.

I reject in the name of Jesus!

Bontee: And what would you be then? . . .

Did she ask for her money back or is she not the one that gave it out of freewill? So helping your husband with that money entitles you to a share of the property which has been a personal project from the onset?. If she wanted a share of the property then make that known to the man at the point you are giving him the money and not leaving things to assumptions.

Yes because she is trying to reap where did not sow as i doubt if the 300k makes even up to 5% of the total cost to build the house.

You are a person!

She what if she gave it out of freewill?

Is it not her freewill she used not to tell him that she is building a house, why does he have a problem with her freewill then?

FOOOOL!

kandiikane: True love, ni? Lmaooo, child's play.
Noone said run when the going gets tough

Sagamite, I understand where you are coming from but my point is, if there is one like me who said there aren't 10,000 more?

Research will always shine negativity to those born in single families.

If there is one like you, I am SURE there are 10,000 more.

But there are 100,000 more that are not like you. That have had it bad.

Such odds/ratios are much better in double parent homes and research shows it.

That is our point and our basis of argument. The holistic view, not the niche or exceptions.

harakiri: The most beautiful time in a relationship is the dating season when the woman is at her "best behavior". Once the ring of bondage is on her finger, she drops the act. Once a child comes through, she reveals her true self and doesn't give a damn coz she knows the bond is now complete. The only time when the woman behaves herself is if the husband is a loose cannon that can dump her in a fraction of a second (even with 5 kids in between) AND SHE KNOWS IT!!!

So fucking well said.

I was thinking about it about 30 mins ago to say it on NL but it slipped my mind.

So absolutely fcking well said.

I have learnt in life that you can rarely be happy with a woman and you are not mature enough for long-term relationship with a woman until you are capable of telling her to go to hell if needs be and she knows you would.

I have become fcking good at that shyt men. I am a professional! None of that "You are everything BS".

I let them know I can and would move on. Behave or you are a goner! No matter how fine you are, there are hundreds of you out there and I am good at getting them.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Apc_g_ZSZEE

ifyalways: Lol but I won't argue your statistics as I don't have all the facts and moreso not a man. Men have had this extremely ridiculous theory that a man can and would "bunk lady a while thinking of miss b" meaning the scrotal sac and its tenats are not on the same page with the head/ heart. Hmmn

I don't understand this part/parable.

Explain.

ifyalways: Does it also mean that on average, a man's happiness is proportional to the "physical attributes" of his woman? Remember, 80% of the married men I know have "cheated to remain happy". . . According to you.

Physical attribute of a female partner plays a significant part in a man's happiness.

If a woman meets threshold though, that is enough. At least in my view.

Let me explain: Kim Kardashian is the hottest looking a girl can be, in my opinion. If I am married to Meagan Good, that does not mean if I meet Kim, I would do anything because Kim has superior physical attributes. Nah! Meagan can trust me on that. She is well above the threshold and I would be happy to tap that arse till I have to compromise or kick the bucket.

If she is hot (above threshold for the subject), then she would most likely make the subject happy if she has a good personality as well.

ifyalways: I wonder if the married women are also unhappy in their marriages and hence cheating Cos the kini that once fires @ one touch now needs to be pushed, warmed up for 30 mins before one gets a semi action?

Women cheat too you know. Lets not try and play that goofy prank sold to "Real Men" with Omo Sagamu. I don't live my life trying to please women by saying what they want to hear. I drop it like is hot.

Women cheat too but not just as much or as frequently as men.

A woman that has been turned on by bad boys or danger guys all her life and has had to settle and marry a good guy for stability might miss the fun of the challenge of trying to change a bad boy. They miss the vibe and dominance of a bad boy. A man that can tell them where the fck to go if they get out of line. The shyt that turns them on. They might still meet such men at work or other places and kick it once in a while.

Lets stop selling that cocktail that women are altruistic saints while men are selfish basta[i]r[/i]ds.

ifyalways: Do we as women just share the memo and accept without doubt that "nearly all supposedly happily married men are happy in their marriages Cos they get the chance to cheat once in a while" ?
I have no answers oh and its good listening to the men provide it on here.
Btw, your last paragraph is cool.
Sagamite, happiness is relative and if staying married but carefully cheating is a mans definition of happiness then so be it. It does not mean the man is "unhappy" in his marriage, it simply makes the man an insatiable dog. A "happily" married dog or maybe aside s.ex, there are other aspects of married life that equally leave men 'happy'. You wouldn't know till you get into the system. . . Lol

The reality is that each woman would have to deal with the situation as best as it pleases her and works for her.

I have no shadow of a doubt or worry for one second about an average women doing what is in her best interest. They are professionals in that.

Now stop that name-calling. He is still a man even if he cheats, not a dog. Not immature. Not a basta[i]r[/i]d. Etc. You women love to use words to shape men to do things in your favour.

I am sure kids are one of the core things that can contribute to happiness in a marriage. That is one thing a single man may miss and the weapon a woman can use to attract them to marriage.

ballabriggs: A 30 years old Igbo man dies, you could even throw a funeral party with music blaring from the speakers for him, his parents would be there on his funeral. A 30 years old Yoruba man dies, his funeral is low key, his parents don't want to see the funeral.

Morality is not absolute but relative in my opinion. Situations and circumstances underpins right or wrong. What is right in your culture may not be right in another mans culture. Let's understand the fact that everybody cannot be the same, it is critical in living harmoniously.

Well said!

Tell the fucktards!

~Lady~! Haba, wey answer to my question?

kandiikane: I say me, because I give myself as an example because don't want an argument where I am told I am talking rubbish without any background. I will not argue over something I do not know about or have not experienced. It is better to use yourself as an explanation.

What does being a ghetto child or djimon Honsou in hollywood got to do with what I have written?

You are a student in university, you should know better.

You can not be talking about an issue and use one sample case to make a judgement on a general issue.

Because Obama is president is not proof that black people are the leaders of Aristocracy in America?

Because Botswana is a lovely and sane country is not proof Africa is not backwards?

Never use you as an explanation to represent a large sample population.

You look at it holistically and deduce probabilities calculations from a sufficiently large pool to arrive at an opinion.

Using you to judge will mean the "confidence interval" (in statistics) will be less than 0.01%.

ifyalways: ^ the second paragraph is superb! Aptly put.
80% of married men I know are extremely happy, proud of their wives and would do it all again if given a second chance.

And out of those 80%, at least 80% of them are cheating or have cheated on their wives to remain extremely happy.

It still amazes me today how men that are not as happy in marriage as they were when single are quick to publicly pronounce in public they are happily married, especially when their wife is present. It even becomes more stomach churning when they attribute all their professional successes to her contribution. They have watched a lot of hollywood movies and know they have to do that to make her feel good. Women do a good job at putting pressure on them to be trained like that. But the most stomach churning of all is when these men tell single men to go and marry. WTF! I know the chic you are hitting outside the house and doing undergee. To me, it is like when smokers, drinkers or substance abusers pressure you to join them in their bad habit. They never want to do it alone.

Most marriages are compromises of people's ideal partners from the beginning, I cannot see how majority of people can be extremely happy in it. More so men that are naturally visual beings and when the wife has kids and she has reduced interest in intimacy, is less confident plus becomes less attractive. The men just have to compromise more.

Or women that are more attracted to danger and bad boys but settle for good boys because of emotional and companionship security. They still want their bad boys but know it is dangerous, unreliable and they can not have him in the long-term.

Don't get me wrong, I am not blaming women. I accept and respect nature. No one can be blamed for something they can not control.

As far as I am concerned, I will not compromise for marriage. I would only marry someone I am absolutely attracted to. A woman I see and I think "God, I want to bend you down and give you a good seeing to all fcking night". Any woman pissed at such mental cinemation and gets offended calling men like me "perverts", "shallow" etc can go to hell. I am not ashamed to say looks matter a fcking lot. She must satisfy my visual desires well.

Then she must compliment it with personality, that is what will make me happy to compromise when the looks start fading. At least if she is hot, it will fade slower, so I can compromise well and live with that.

To hell with that she is a nice girl na. Dem normally dey become nice when their clock is tickng and their looks are declining. A woman I marry must have a nice personality and be hot-looking. Now that is an extremely rare combination, more so amongst the usual shyt-headed Nigerian girls, hence I am happy to be single.

I aint compromising before marrriage, I will compromise reasonably after it. If I have and have enjoyed what I want, then it is easier to look away when I see something else.

gemstone22: I read a lot of post on marriage in NL and I find one vital ingredient missing when relationship and marriage are talked about and that is love. Love is the essential ingredient that binds a man and woman together forever despite their shortcoming and flaws, their status financially and otherwise and their colour and language. Love break barriers. It makes you believe in ur spouse and help him or her overcome whatever imperfections they might have.
Many men get married because it is something they must do. They are probably tired of sleeping alone or coming home to a empty house with no food laid on the table ready to eat and no one to laugh with.They scroll through their list of girlfriends and make their choice based on how well she cooks ,cleans ,fvck or perhaps because she has a killer body and pretty face. Then they marry and find out that courtship is different from marriage. Her flaws begins to show. Perhaps She doesn't put the top back after using the toothpaste or maybe she is not a great organiser or she doesn't love socialising. She might even be a nag or a gossip or the kind of woman who gets fat when the babies begin to cum in or her womanliness might not be so firm when the babies arrive and marriage becomes a bore. Instead of helping their spouses become better, they cheat on them and try to justify their actions laying the blame on the woman.
If there is love in any marriage,it will stand the test of time. Every marriage is made up of two incomplete people coming together to become one. They have to learn to treat one another as they would want to be treated and to respect each other. They give to each other. Love will make them face any storm and come out victorious. No marriage is perfect but any marriage will work if it is built on love and on God.

Love is transient, epileptic, intangible, unquantifiable, duplicious and misunderstandable. Hence it can't be the most essential ingredient of successful marriages.

Compromise is! Successful marriages are built on compromise.

Compromise by means of contentment, forgoing, giving, sharing etc. You must be able to tolerate shyt sometimes and you must be able to see someone else you want more or that is more ideal for you needs at that time and look away.

That is why you hear married people say it is not a bed of roses. They just don't want to speak out loudly and explicitly about their pains so as not to jinx or damage the marriage more.

redsun: Life is cheap in naija. An average human life worth less than a healthy chicken in d rogue system,call naija.

Same reason why d rogue leaders are not held responsible for their atrocities is d reason why sanusi thinks it is cool to celebrate d death of his staffs that lost their lives as a result of complete system failure. A system that he is a top-notch in.

And he is supposedly the most intelligent man in naija,according to world bank or imf thief(chief)

You are a person!

How is Sanusi responsible for the atrocities of their death?

FOOOOL!