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Abusers can't be changed, he has to want the change himself!

I must say dating married men is a different story all together but if a guy is single and available AND I happen to like him and he feels the same way, Nigerian or not, I will take him thanks

ZIM, I think I have made myself clear on this topic and so have you, NOTHING justifies a public outburst or a beating, no matter what started it, will screaming help the man in any way, other than making him look like an out of control slowpoke!

djojo:
He loves you, but shout at u, i know he pay u more so just stay with it till u get married he will soon change

WHAT, do they ever change? for the worst maybe, hardly for the better!

I understand you need more info but nothing justifies a public outburst (she says it happened more than once, if I read correctly) or a beating, people must just walk away instead of turning another adult into a child, that's all I am saying! If the woman did the same thing to the man, she would be labelled psychotic bitch or ill-mannered but for the man it's ok as long as he has a reason, come on now!

This is not about me or you ZIM so I will let it slide!

ZIM DRILL:
dont be daft like her

if she doesnt want embrassment why would she provoke him

its a two way dear under your (EVEN IF SHE HAD PROVOKED HIM) dont provoke then he wont embrass her ---simple as that

in other words you are saying she can provoke him and he must remain a gentelman, thats bull crap dear never create a sitaution and expect people to react the way that suits you

You must be a bully too or a man with a low self esteem, what does embarrassing someone in public do for you? I can hear you are one of them (those that throw tamtrums in public because "she provoked me" Nonsense! mxmmmmm!

ZIM DRILL:
your story is half baked dear

no human scolds you out of the blue there is always something in your writting you never gave us evem 2 or 3 example of a scanario e.g words said before he scolds you etc


it is quite obvious that he did scolds you over certain things or issue let hear those things and we will judge fairly and give advise according to what happened

Even if she had provoked him, it still does not make it ok for him to scold her in public, embarassing her like that, What happened to talking about issues as adults as opposed to yelling at the other grown up like a child, hell, even 3 year olds hate being shouted at!

I don't want to be anybody's second wife, Muslim, Christian or anything else!

He should not be shouting at you in PUBLIC or in PRIVATE, you are both adults and should talk about issues, how is screaming going to help the situation? This man has got issues that probably have nothing to do with you but he is taking it out on you, don't let him. . . . . .stop it now before it escalates to physical violence!

Be honest with her yusuf, she will respect you more for it. . . . . . . . . .tell her you would rather be friends for now and see what happens from there!

tpiah:
^^laugh away but dont interfere in things which dont concern you.

just because a nigerian man ogling your butt is the highlight of your day, doesnt mean you should put your mouth in matters outside your jurisdiction.

**a fellow south african man's or a ugandan's stare apparently doesnt rate as high**

and yes, you can call me jealous or whatever if that makes you feel good.


such rubbish these nigerian criminals spout on nl.

I am trying to figure out what the rant is about. . . . . .SMH!  Really, what is this outburst about?

And you assume a Nigerian looking at my butt is the highlight of my day, I had no idea but then again you know what they say about those that make assumptions

So what, i can't laugh because I am not Nigerian?

Kwakwakwakwakwakwakwka!

Clarity please[/b]

At what age is one [b]DUE for marriage?

Natural selection, only the strong survive. . . . . .

SA Lady:
The more i think about it the more i am convinced that fine boys are the one's to grab. I mean there's nothing worse than to be cheat by an ugly monkey, whom everybody know's you did a favour by marrying him in the first place, let alone speak to him when he first approached you. No fine boys are fine by me.

That is the problem right there, why would you hook up with someone to do them a favour, shouldn't one be inlove to marry someone?

@OP, as long as I don't have to feed you everyday, bring your fine-ness, just remember it is not nourishing!

kc-blast:
If not for money, our naija gals is far better than S.A gals.
Believe that!

It's a package dude, give the girls money if they want it

LOL, so old spinster here wants children at 49, goodness, goodluck lady!

I am good Sir Adu!

Echidime:
@SA Goddess:

YOUR RIGHT, I LOVE YOUR VIEW POINT, YOUR A DEMOCRATE, NOT ALL THIS PRETENDING LADIES IN THE HOUSE.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH A GIRL TELLING A GUY I LIKE YOU,OR LOVE YOU?

Hey Sir Adu, how are you doing?

1759:
Spill it, I'm all ears.

Life happens just about summarises it all I think. . . . . . .surely If you recall, we went private and have not chatted on this thread for ages so I won't bring it back to the forum! Rhein wouldn't so why should I!

1759:
You and Rhein still cool? Your chit chat seems to have stopped and I have to say I enjoyed it immensely.

Glad you enjoyed it! Real life happened. . . .

As long as it's kept classy Kenny

Who hides a child, a human being but a fraud?

Anwyay, it goes without saying that school fees would be a priority, what is a birthday party again?