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tkb417:
just sent u a personal message

read and get back asap

I didn't even know the option was available here but ok, will check it out    

"tho i have to say my friends are different oooo ehhn my gf are certified gdiggers!!"       It is said that acknowledgement is the first step, are you also one? Gdigger that is?  

tkb417:
hahaha

ill find you.

ill be there sooon

I am waiting Some mad fun to be had

Where do you normally hang out when you are down here?

ayettymama:
ooooooo

@german1234

your white??

ooo sorry i didnt no

well the advice has to be different

im glad u figured it out- cos white girls never do (i hope that doesnt sound rascist)

yes love- hes definitely using you

and the fact he knows u love him hes using u more

Out of curiosity, why would the advice be different if you knew German was caucasian? I think it should be the same regardless,

@ German

SA is great, got it's own problems like any other country but we are cool.  There is a thread I stumbled upon here about SA natural beauty, it shows how you can move from the coast to the game park to the dessert to thick forests, awesome stuff!

German1234:
How is it lo live in SA?


Is it like a little europe in the bottom of africa?

SA is cool girl, got everything we need, not forgetting our animals in the backyard  

tkb417:
LOL- Ose jare means thank you

yeah, the gurls are doing good in Lesotho. They actually invited me but i dont think ill be able to visit

Im always in Fedsure Towers whenever im in Sandton. Dont worry, ill find u when im there

how are u preparing for the World Cup? u have your vuvuzela ready im sure

LOL, yeah, I got my vuvuzela and hard hat ready, got my short shorts and Bafana jersey on order  

You better find me-O   when are you down here again?

tkb417:
yeah 9ja gurls studying in Les

yep, always in SA. i report to someone in Jo'bourg

good to know a south african is feeling our blog

ose jare

are u in Jo'bourg, Pretoria, Cape town or Durban
where else can u be?

I am actually 45 mins away from Sandton.

Ose jare  - I am not that advanced, still learning the lingo  

Oh, I enjoy chatting here, I had to come defend SA women one day and I found a home  

Hope the men are nice to the your Naija friends in Les, Les people are warm and welcoming so I have no doubt your girls are enjoying themselves!

@ tkb417

Your "gurls" in Lesotho, are they Naija ladies studying in Les or just local girls that you know? Do you come to SA a lot? It is cold (chilly) here now, thanks the one above for electric blankets

I will get this whole "quote" this right one day, just watch

ayettymama:
oooo sa godess you no be nigerian, you havent seen a man fake a life b4??

why do u think i started my genuine guys post??

tkb417 link=topic=441728.msg6002234#msg6002234 date=1273053876:
good

i know a couple of friends (gurls) in Lesotho studying

so ure in SA? hahaha

i got the whole sandton covered if u know what i mean

Sandton is my hood, was there on Saturday, coolness personified     
lol

Girl I have come across fakers before, a recent one met me, we went out for a drink and he was talking about how he and I could make it work, get married and and and, all I could think of was "I don't even love you, let alone KNOW you"  He wanted me to speak to his sis the next day and the fraud sis was saying how happy I make her brother, What the Hell?  I never called dude and never answered his calls because I could smell he was desperate either for papers or a woman that is independent and would therefore support him, I wasn't having any of that.  I am real and so DEMAND real-ness around me!

I say one should be able to spot a fraud from a real guy and if one is naive, she will be used and thrown out like a used condom, that is a fact! Poster, watch your guy, maybe he is just using you!

tkb417:
@SAgoddess

where are u from? im curious

SOUTH AFRICA, Originally from Lesotho but have since moved to SA!

ayettymama:
do unno whats funny?? im nigerian and i find absolutely nothing great abt them!!!!

just the traditions-- but the young men arent soo traditional so whats left??

hmmmmmm

There are a few good Nigerians I have come across, really cool guys!

tkb417:
are you German too?

na wa o. foreigners are taking over
nyways, nice to have u around

daduke2k link=topic=441728.msg6002089#msg6002089 date=1273052103:
I am South African though I see myself as a child of the universe  


@sa goddes, u ve joind d generalization team.     @op, u nid 2 take a chil pil and i fink d guy is tryin his best. 2 get married 2 u wil get him resident permit. Dnt u fink if u lov him u shld alow him 2 get dat job u realy want him 2 get.

NOT at all, if you read my posts carefully, I didn't generalise anywhere, I have always wanted to be looked at as an individual and I do the same with others, I was responding to something that had been said,

German1234:
I think I should be carefull now on on what I post because it may sound wrong,

"I actually tried to deny him my puzz with the outcome of him behaving like a typical nigerian man - like a 5-year old, stuppern, my-way-or-the-highway BOY! Which led me to think what I wrote in the poster"

This was my original statement, and what I mean by "typical" is that I have known about 10 (just friends) and they all behave in the same pattern - It is so obvious and I really dont believe that I am generelizing.

I have a bit ambivialent relationship to a naija boy - They are the ones I am most atracted to (Both appearance and personality), but also the ones I have been least compatible with trough my life,

So if I could only meet a nice one it would be peeeerfect! I really love the culture, the food, the music, the people, the EVERYTHING!

If the above is the case, you have to learn to choose your lovers CAREFULLY then, I also happen to like Nigerians as a people but I will not date a man that will leave me bankcrupt just because I love everything about them, when it comes to relationships, we have to go deeper than that!

That was directed at the post creator, I thought she originally posted that, Ayettemama, if that came from you, I would not dispute it at all because you live with these men, they are your countrymen!

"I actually tried to deny him my puzz with the outcome of him behaving like a typical nigerian man - like a 5-year old, stuppern, my-way-or-the-highway BOY! Which led me to think what I wrote in the poster"

Just how much experience have you had with Nigerian men for you to make such a statement?  I am just curious!

Both men and women should be able to contribute financially or otherwise in the relationship, can you imagine how tiring it is feeding a jobless man?  I would not mind doing it for a little while but dude should be able to bring something to the table as well, I also don't believe in women who just sit around waiting for the man to bring home the bacon as though she is maimed and can't fend for herself, I just can't imagine asking for money from someone even for personal stuff!  So this thing of contributing goes for both parties!

tkb417:
i can tell my babe i miss her puzz and that doesnt mean i dont miss her heart or whatever fckery someone spewed up

so its a biggie when a guy doesnt have money and the babe pays the bill but not when a guy caters for all and y'all sit your fat asses to watch movies .

@OP talk to your guy and tell him your fears, if he really wants u, then he'll sit up

besides, try and get him a job and stop giving him money. Ure not his father. If europe is bad, he shd pack his bags and run to Lagos

I would definitely do it AGAIN if one came my way and seemed worthy, life is just too short and that ONE could be my life partner!

PS:  I am a firm believer in my signature, anything can happen if one opens themselves to the possibility!

@ ayettymama
IT is the naive men that will go to church thinking they will get someone pure and holy, those are the ones that get rudely awakened when they find out their Princesses are really witched covered in church clothing

ayettymama:
Lol SA goddess that's an illusion if ever I've heard one. Whose to tell u the guy or girl hasn't just come from the skankiest club in the city?? The best and worst people you will ever meet will be in church-- don't forget holiness is not written on ones forehead!! @op because someone met their partner in church doesn't mean they went there lookin for one some people spend all their time in church-- all their friends bein those they met in church!!!

My first couple of posts on the topic are drenched in sarcasm, personally I have never thought of the church people as holy, some are wicked to the bone, church is just something they DO I say one is likely to meet a "real" partner anywhere else but church!

There is a girl I know who messed around and eventually got tired and decided to go to church to hook herself a pastor, who was non-commital after many promises of marriage, I hear the girl has since left the church and beat the biological clock by having a child with a dude down the street from her

If you think you are being used, chances are, you are, BUT speak to your man about this issue or hold the puz and the spending and see if things will remain the same, all the best! How long have you dated this man?

I was thinking the same thing, and it is usually the same people who leave the club (messing around) at sunrise, crazy world we live in I tell ya!

I was thinking they are the purest of the lot, you know, virgins till the wedding night and all It must be said though that some people go to church to find a man when they are done roaming the streets and they feel church is finally the place to try looking for a husband at,

Women in church are the best, make the best wives, don't they? Maybe the guys can tell us,

ayettymama:
poster are u talkin men in general o nigerian men??

Was talking about men in general but I knew I would get all sorts of varied responses on NL, if I am not mistaken, there are other men here who are not Nigerian so their input is welcome too,

Ujujoan:
I'm yet to see one guy that's worth the trouble!

The one I approached was definitely worth the trouble, no regrets at all

Maximatic:
I dont mind i wud ride along'

By that do you mean you would take the relationship seriously it led to that or you would just "play"

Yeah I love to kiss and be kissed, the mouth is a powerful tool to explore with

laprince:
I appreciate it like food. this is uncommon, it takes a courageous lady to do this.

I meant my best female friend this way, though I am not dating her.

For the fact that she did not seduce me is a good reason why I will always appreciate her.

my mind set is, don't die in anticipation, go for what you want.

True, as I said, it is about the mind of the guy being approached in the end, how he looks at the situation. It does not always become a romantic relationship as the two still have to get to know each other and see if they like one another enough to give it a go, same as if a guy approached a girl!

Nice one .NET In the end it is about the mind of the man being approached I guess!

In Chicago a couple of years back, I came out of this store and saw this amazingly good looking guy but I was too shy to even wink at him so I drove away but then realised I had nothing to lose so I turned back, found him still waiting for his friend in the car, we chatted and ended up setting a "date" for breakfast the next day, we ditched the breakfast idea in the car the next day and ended up having Burger King instead we hung out until I came back home, it was cool.

I approached him because I realised I had absolutely NOTHING to lose, that the worst he would say was NO, I never regretted that move

kpolli:
male talkcars??

Yeah, anyhoo, all good!

kpolli:
190 my greatest guy!!!!!!!!!!!

SA chick, well like some cars, it needs to be jump-started


PS i meant we have our issues

Don't mind me hey, still blonde, more so now that you have switched to male talk,   
But I get the part about your issues, still trying to figure you lot (men all over) out!

Maybe I am having a blonde moment but what kpolli said I didn't understand, can someone break it down for me please