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Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 10:28am On May 06, 2011 |
Ujujoan: ^^^Hubby & Wifey. Hubby four times a fool. |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 8:14am On May 06, 2011 |
mxceewww!!! fools paradise. |
Romance / Re: Isn't This Just Cruel? by SALady(f): 3:31pm On May 05, 2011 |
ak47mann: I'll leave that to your imagination, just like I do with my dates. Dont underestimate the power of imagination and dont forget your towel though |
Romance / Re: Isn't This Just Cruel? by SALady(f): 3:12pm On May 05, 2011 |
@OP, its not cruel just childish. Think of it this way it could have been worse at least he didnt giv eup your name and picture. Forget about him and find your own real love. Lesson learned, never ever make love out of nothing. Your body is a sacret place and people cannot just come and take from it and dump in it just because they have nothing else to do with themselves. Lesson from me, you dont have to have sex with anyone just because he's the only vailable thing now. Go out with him and have all the fun only keep sex out of the equation. You dont have to do it, trust me. |
Romance / Re: The Ugly Truth About Men,women Take Note. by SALady(f): 2:54pm On May 05, 2011 |
publisher: emm, @publisher @Tpia was just giving a balanced view of this matter. Why is it a problem to you. For a while there you had me going with your testosterone induced write up. But as you may know best "no one is perfect Oh! BTW way how's the nag doing at home Dont blame me @Tpia said it |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 11:44am On May 05, 2011 |
macjive01: @emboldment, Here's what you dont get, is that the deed is done already. He's looong been castrated (six months now) and the woman is living it up. Now six months down the line the mumu husband suddenly catches a wake. |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 9:51am On May 05, 2011 |
jenny, jenny, jenny Not a single sensible person is going to say YES guy is right for doing the things he's been doing to remedy his domestic problem. And by the same token no sensible person is going to say the wife is right by doing what she's been doing. I think the entire thread agrees on that. My problem here is that this guy who is knocking on 50 past midlife crisis found nothing wrong with that in the first place. Now clearly this guy has either never learned anything about his self worth in a marriage or he definitely has a shaky esteem at his age. He must reap what he sawed because he probably married a young woman thinking he could satisfy her with everything and now chances are, the age factor is catching up and you can clearly see the advantage and power play in this marriage from both sides. I am not covering up for anyone, but just speaking my truth. I have no mercy for anyone that is capable of subjecting themselves to mediocre that's my truth, all that's happening to this man is by his own fault as he chose to be an enabler. He cannot come here and cry foul. If he didn't like what is happening in his marriage 3 months it started why did he carry on with it six months into it?? Now it would seem this story is different because guy has been loving this for six months, BTW six months is half a year people. I know a lot of married men who'll tell their women where to get off should they pull a stunt like that. Look when you are 14 years older than me I expect to learn an awful lot from you since you've been around a while longer than I have, don't ever dream of me seeing yourself for my age mate you are OLD that's it. Unfortunately the 49 year old is not teaching anything neither is he learning anything from this, except to be the one that feeds the cancer that's eating away at his marriage. Now let this fool carry on to his grave. It would seem to me that this has always been the nature of his relationship because after 10 years of marriage people should at least know how to communicate sensibly with each other and should have looong established boundaries. But guess what it would seem this women has been having free flow since the age of her marriage. What bloody 49 going on 55 year old wants to subject himself to such problems is beyond me. It takes a fool. I hear you when you say you dont support what he's doing, now hear me when I say I find no excuse that he started it and carried on with it for six months, and in that case he may as well do it till death do them part. Moral of the story never start something you cannot finish, but unfortunately we have 49yr olds who dont know that, YET. Life is not a rehearsal people. We could go on and on about how the woman should have stated her issues in the marriage, reality of the situation is that oh well she didnt and guess what? hubby went and bought gifts and slaved away in the house, wooohoo! way to go hubby!! How dysfunctional? Moral of the story, men should learn to marry within a reasonable age group, our life partners matter most when we are old and co-dependency is paramount. When he can no longer perform like a stallion and when her eggs have turned into powder and can no longer breed. Quite frankly when she no longer hangs out with friends that are still hosting baby showers making her envious of her friends who are still getting a lot of action with their men. This guy may as well take a gun and shoot himself for all I care this woman could be getting a lot of action out there, while he's busy scrubbing the toilet and washing dishes. |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 8:31am On May 05, 2011 |
macjive01: 'haha!! Ofcourse they must be starved to death , if that's going to be the consequence of their actions. The man in question is trying to cure a perceived midlife crisis with his blatant midlife crisis. So let him starve, No wrong fixes another wrong, simple. |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 2:44pm On May 04, 2011 |
^^^ must you always hit the nail on its head |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 2:30pm On May 04, 2011 |
jennykadry: A big fat YES to all your questions, he is indeed a fool. As a man a woman denies you s3x for 3 weeks you SPEAK UP and by month six she should know better. DDon'tget me wrong I am not talking about the kind of man who will hharasshis wife to get some or even go get it somewhere, am talking about am man who understands his worth, position and needs in a marriage. So I am afraid this guy is three times a fool, or maybe four because the only clever thing he could suss out of this situation is that his wife is potentially going through a mid-life crisis, @Jenny C'mon now, work with me here. Now, fact that you are applauding this guy for getting out of his way to pamper wife when times are tough has got me giggling. I'll tell you one thing I do not believe that anyone can ever fix any problem with their partner by buying them things, In fact by my standards I find it condescending. You cannot buy problems away, you either talk to people or call them to order, simple. Let me not forget that some people think it possible that they can buy their way out of situations, what a shame I will not have anyone invalidate me like that. hhmmmm! so am I married?? well I suppose problem solving skills is for married people alone. That's fine I'll pass. eerrmmm!! Jenny guy needs to grow some balls, literally No science but we all know that this guy is lacking somewhere and would break a bank trying to make up for his inadequacies no sane, confident and complete man will stoop this low, unless he is a sugar daddy who is clinging on to a relationship by its last and fine thread. I say let the fool go get a loan from the bank buy some more gifts, scrub floors and wash her underwear for another six month since hes so willing. [quote author=jennykadry link=topic=657495.msg8257144#msg8257144 date=1304509467][/quote] |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 8:01am On May 04, 2011 |
jennykadry: @Jenny, please allow me to ask this. Is it a women's problem that her husband who is much older than her doesn't have problem solving skills? That in his old mind he thought the only way to solve his family problems is to shower wife with gifts etc. cos that's what she's good for anyway. Ask yourself who is taking who for a ride here? He knows that this is his added advantage as an older man and unfortunately he cant keep up with it. @OP, buddy sorry but at your age you should know that there's faaaar better ways to solve marital problems, right? He obviously doesn't take this women any serious thinking that pampering her is all it takes to fix her, than to give her the benefit of a rational conversation. I say he must be starved sexually to death that way he'll learn to see women for the beings that they are than toys. Seriously guys I decided to hold back when I saw his topic, this guy really irks me up and maybe more so because he is OLD, to think that he labelled his wife at 35 as somebody who could be going through a midlife crisis, I mean what nonsense. The title of the topic tells you exactly how this guy is wired, and if you ask me this is the kind of man who should never go out with people his age, women his age will eat him alive and spew him out. I reckon he is safe with his wife and should continue to play the father figure and pampering game, it suites him just fine. |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 2:46pm On May 03, 2011 |
^^^I think professional help is also necessary in this situation. People tend to open up better when a third and neutral party is involved. |
Romance / Re: Getting Married To A Man 18years Older? My Gawd! by SALady(f): 2:37pm On May 03, 2011 |
marychi18: You may be right about guy wanting children. I am sorry but there is no way I am going to try and look at this situation with less suspicion, so am going to ask you to define what you mean by guy treating her like a queen See this is where the problem starts, shouldnt they be treating each other like equals, friends and companions, than this trying too hard because I cant believe my luck situation Speaking of children, WTF has this guy been doing all this time not having children?? |
Romance / Re: Caught My Fiance Cheating: Kai, What Should I Do? by SALady(f): 1:31pm On May 03, 2011 |
bhusayor: What you say is very true, but unfortunately women have lacked the back bone to say NOOOO! to a cheating partner. Its gotten to a point where I cant blame men anymore. Women are to be blamed because we allowed it. I know for a fact that if the girl was the one who had cheated, guy would not have any second thoughts about giving her the boot. Men are very proud and assertive beings, which are the qualities that us women lack immensely. All I am saying is that if she decides to carry on with the wedding/marriage I wont judge her. |
Romance / Re: Getting Married To A Man 18years Older? My Gawd! by SALady(f): 1:19pm On May 03, 2011 |
@marychi18 C'mon my point is a dead give away. What I am saying is, this relationship is the makes of parent child relationship. Watch that space, when the age issue starts becoming apparent guy is going to break a bank trying to hang on to everything that this marriage is made of. I have no doubt that this is the situation already. Am I wrong? |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 11:22am On May 03, 2011 |
agabaI23: The embolded is very true. She can at least face her demons and speak her truth than to act like a child. If what we are suspecting is true then we must admit its going to be very hard for her to open up about it. However, she owe's it to her husband and the honor that her marriage diserves to be honest with him and at least give him insight on what exactly is he dealing with. Its the only way he'll know how to deal with the situation. @OP, all the best. |
Romance / Re: Getting Married To A Man 18years Older? My Gawd! by SALady(f): 9:39am On May 03, 2011 |
@OP, ofcourse your friend should be happy getting married to the man. I mean for f^*k! sake he is 45 and should know how to best take care of young people . I have no doubt your friend is well and I mean weeeeell taken care of. |
Romance / Re: Caught My Fiance Cheating: Kai, What Should I Do? by SALady(f): 9:21am On May 03, 2011 |
@OP, someone said follow your heart and do what you think is right for you. There is no guarantee that he may or may not do it again. Who bloody cares if he is the one you love There is no right or wrong for your ultimate decision. Sometimes the heart knows things that the head will never understand and I bet he feels the same way. Fact is you guys need to talk about it and make each other understand what's to happen in case the situation repeats itself especially in marriage. I am personaly against the idea of a cheating spouse, but then again we cant control everything, all the best. |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 8:46am On May 03, 2011 |
stillwater: ^^^True talk, he needs to stop washing dishes as it wont make him any sexier. Dude needs to up his game on the s3x appeal department. @OP, get an image consultant LOL! I know a bit drastic but hey desperate times calls for desperate measures. And if this marriage bites the dust please marry a 40something year old next time or within a decent age group. The things we do to please society have got a way of getting back at us. Yes the whole thing worked for as long as it did when you were 39 and she was young and naive, but you never applied any foresight to what could happen when you are old and need her companion most and s3x is no longer a priority to you as an aging man. This societal short sightedness is appalling. Trust me all the money that she is spending that's just her compensating for what she is not getting in the bedroom, its called retail therapy. Just to survive you can at least Look at it this way, You each get something out of this. You got a young hot wife and admired by your friends and she's got a man who takes care of her shopping to keep looking young and does the house chores and is admired by most women. Wow!!! this deal on societal terms works in the end. |
Family / Re: Wife's Mid-life Crises? by SALady(f): 7:55am On May 03, 2011 |
@OP, PLEASE NOTE THERE IS A HUGE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LUST AND PERFORMANCE. WHAT'S THE POINT OF LUST IF YOU CANT DELIVER. I AM MADE TO UNDERSTAND THAT MEN OF A CERTAIN AGE TEND TO BATTLE ON DELIVERY, EERRRMMMM!!! WE ARE TALKING 40+. OH! BTW, ROTFLMAO AT TOPIC TITTLE, AND THINKING TO MYSELF "LOOK WHO'S TALKING" |
Romance / Re: Why Do Women Love To Marry Medical Doctors? by SALady(f): 10:23am On Apr 26, 2011 |
Sagamite: Engineers of all sorts are still rocking, these guys aint going nowhere, they hold the number one spot. Then economists, business development specialists, IT however, slowly phasing out just too many its like a whole generation of them. Oh no! I shouldn't forget this, Mr DJ, I dont know if its a profession or not, but perhaps a career. I'd fall for Mr DJ too this guy's got the funkiest job. Actually let's put Mr DJ at the top of the list. Then there's the new generation of consultants. These are guys who leave corporate and turn their craft into little consulting firms, with nothing but the wits and experience gained from being part of the working class. I think its a cute and sexy hustle. We have the guy that's called BEE. This guy has replaced the good old doctor. He gets big government tenders, buys a Porsche and hosts a million$ party before he can start the project , he has an ungraceful bravado. The true definition of "money cant buy you class" I have no doubt that doc's will make a great come back if and only if they start specializing in cosmetic surgery. We are sooo swamped with GP's and O&G's its nauseating and quite frankly I've yet to meet anyone who would tell me they had a great day at work listening to people one by one talk about their aching bodies, and somehow you were the person who had to "GUESS" what could be the problem and remedy. As for Lady, she's patiently waiting for an actuary scientist, otherwise settle for a architect |
Romance / Re: Should I Just Quit by SALady(f): 9:59am On Apr 19, 2011 |
@OP, if its love you feel for this girl I say go for it. Talk to your friend and ask for his understanding. As far as I am concerned he is not the master of your heart. I think everybody should be free to be with whoever the hell they wish to be with. Nobody owns anybody. A good friend will wish your relationship the best. What are friends for if they are not there to wish us the best and all the happiness this life has to offer. Good Luck!! |
Family / Re: Must My Wife Decide Or Suggest ? by SALady(f): 1:37pm On Apr 15, 2011 |
@Topic, she must suggest and both of you must decide. |
Romance / Re: How Do You Resolve Quarrels In Your Relationship? by SALady(f): 12:34pm On Apr 15, 2011 |
Talk or dump him/her |
Family / Re: Help, How Do I Cope With A Verbally Abusive Husband by SALady(f): 10:06am On Apr 15, 2011 |
@OP, you have a very very insecure husband, kapish. That's just about the only problem you have in your life right now. One thing is certain you can never never ever solve this problem for him, but unfortunately I am not even sure how are you going to solve the problem you have that I've just mentioned in my first line for your own sake, very unfortunate. There's three kids involved right now, this is going to be a mountain to get over. I wish you the best of luck. Your husband simply needs professional help to work on his self esteem and insecurities. Until he forgets issues of culture and religion he is still going to f^*k up a lot of things trying to hold on to beliefs that are not building him in any way and already breaking his first marriage. There is nothing wrong in you seeking a job, and in fact I'll take your fathers side on this one by all means. Your father sounds more of a man than your husband will ever be and with 3 kids I'd move in with my father. Your husband is baaad news, period. He needs to grow up. I hope he buys himself a bit of civilization with his first pay cheque from the new job. Anything cheap will be good for him cos I have no doubt he needs some change to buy himself some balls too, nonsense mxceeewww!! Just because you can get a job and earn a salary it ddoesn'tmake you all the man. Everybody can do it nowadays, nothing special. But your character and grace is everything (the s#!t money cant buy and control, and no one can ever take away from you) . Please tell him I said that, cosigned by your father. If you were my sister you would have looong left this sorry arse bugger or you and I would not be on speaking terms, cos I cant stand people who are capable of putting themselves through such mediocre. Sorry I don'tmean to be harsh, just true talk. I wasn't going to write so much since a lot has been said by NLders but as I was writing I found this pretty annoying. |
Romance / Re: Is It Polite To Be Taking A Lady You Want To Mary As Your Wife To A Nightclub? by SALady(f): 1:26pm On Apr 14, 2011 |
@Topic, I should quit the NL Romance section. |
Romance / Re: If U Were Given A Chance To Write A Short Letter To Ur Ex, What Would U Write by SALady(f): 12:48pm On Apr 14, 2011 |
MM, may you fly the friendly skies. |
Romance / Re: Hez Not My Type, But I Think I Like Him by SALady(f): 11:51am On Apr 13, 2011 |
rokiatu: @OP, Rokiatu has said it all |
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