I just love it sometimes when girls play the same games that guys play. Play on playa, hahahahah!!

hehehehehe!!! another classic case of young meets old or is it old meets young, kikikikikikiki!!!

@ topic mxceewwww!! and they tell us men are more sensible than women

Ofcourse, love is a choice and a calculated choice for that matter

hehehehehehe!!!! The comedy called marriage. I mean why else would they call it "HAPPY EVER AFTER"

hehehehehehe!! couldnt be bloody bothered that's marriage for you baby. Not for the faint at heart no, no, no!!!!

I guess it all depends on what you want to achieve by confessing.

@OP me I understand your friends anguish. There is ugly and beautiful people in life as we may all know. Now if its only the ugly one's approaching me, I would  also be concerned, no one looks foward to dating an ugly person. Most people are attracted to the other by their looks firstly. But then again I have seen some of the hottest girls in the arms of the ugliest of ugly guys. So for now pick one with a f^*kn fabulous personality and enjoy the relationship.

You can just call him inner beauty. We dont call them ugly where I come from we call them inner beauty.

They say when life throws lemons at you, you make lemonade.   

@OP this is where you decide whats important to you. Unless if you are looking for a wife who will buy you a house, Well the one you have with "40% educational" whatever that is (note that hiss) will not get you one. Or perhaps you want intelligent conversation, its up to you.

Look if we had separated some years before he got married surely I would. This would also depend on the kind of relationship we have after the break up.

However, friends or not if I separate with a guy and then few weeks down the line he is inviting me to his wedding hhhmmm!!! That leaves a lot to be desired oo!!! and am surely not going.

@OP, you and your ciber girl should have stayed together. Both of you are full of DRAMA DRAM DRAMA. I mean all that effort you must've been exhausted by th etime she went back home. Falling in love with a person is not a mission, go easy on yourself.

Tell me why was it so difficult to just be yourself

Why must we as people enjoy complicating our lives, ourselves and situations. Tell me what is soooo unique about you being educated, got a job and can pick up a girl on-line and afford to raise a family

What could be so extra special about that

Unless if you forgot to tell us of this was just another scrip for your latest nollywood movie.

kissiebear:

i really can't think of y ma r/ships don't last. i've gone out with at least 3 boiz than each lasted 2wks. i just get tired of the r/ship all of a sudden. i met my last b.f like 2 months ago and we've been going out 4 bout a month or so ( at least it's lasted this long so far) but i'm getting tired already. the thing is i really love this boy to piecies but i'm jus tired. wat do u reckon i do?
pls help

Stop dating cos you are not ready for it. That is why you quickly get tired/bored of the guys. Take it easy and concentrate on other things.

^^^I like, Because they have them with black men.

Because they keep hoping to find something better

pro01:

Lol. Further confirmation of the incontrovertible fact that women and logic don't mix. So if the Taliban attacks America, the latter would simply shrug its big shoulders and caress the hair of the former? LOL. No wonder America has not bothered to avenge the 'mere' irritation by Al-Qeida with regard to the 2001  9/11 attacks which cost 'only' 3000 American lives. No wonder America behaved like a 'real man' by not invading Afghanistan, sacking the Taliban, Invading Iraq, sacking Saddam Hussein, Invading Pakistan, eliminating Osama, and altogether launching a retaliatory reaction that has so far cost almost a million lives since 2001 till date. Bravo! Even if a small 'rat' like Cuba launches missiles into America and kills a few American citizens, America would be 'mature' and 'manly' enough not to retaliate because "with great power comes great responsibility". . .LOL. And so with great weakness comes great irresponsibility? Logic and women. . .Lmao.

You are a funny one, further confirmation of incontrovertible fact that men and foresight dont mix, no no they don't, not to mention logic which they are so desparate for. Now In what capacity did bin ladin attack the US? who was he representing? and who sent him to attack the us? Not to mention a dubious relationship the us had with him that extended to the protection of his family living in the us at the time, which nobody cared to interogate uncluding the us civilians themselves. America's manly job was to find bin ladin and wipe out the al qeida movement other than perpertuate a never ending senseless war, which no one will never ever know the real depth of. This attack by the us did not add any significant value to its image.

When you have a terrorist in your backyard you cant respond by being a terrorist yourself, you have to be a counter terrorist. Let me ask you this, the fact that one religion is attacking the other in nigeria means that the other should retaliate by killing more people? What would be a logical thing to do? Think about the jews, after hitler almost wiped them off the face of the earth did they go on a massive attack on the Germans, or killed them at every opportunity possible? No. Is now where you say they were weak and iresponsible. Where are the jews today and what kind of life do they live after all that? a peaceful one. After the apartheid regime in SA did SA civilians go on a massive attack of white people, the answer again is? I''ll let you fill in that gap, The result of your answer is that today black/white SA co-exist peacefully. No love lost neither gained, just peace. So what do you think it took to achieve this level of peace?

Do you understand the meaning of the word STOP? by that I mean the END? They say a true measure of a man is not in how he starts things, its in how he ends things. Do you agree?

Now if you do something and out of 5 people 3 tell you you were wrong by doing that, then I am afraid my brother indeed you are wrong. It doesnt matter how you alone look at the situation anymore. Give it up.

Now looking at the red highlight in your narratives, just how many more do you think will carry on dying and what will it take to put a stop to it?

back to the topic, never ever sort the person out. Rather sort the situation out to put an END, a what? repeat after me, an END to it.

OMG, Let me say that in ZULU "AU NKOSI YAM"

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@SA Lady
See, EXACTLY THE POINT I MADE! Yea, HE DESERVES IT

If its the other way round "HE" lacks self control

When you have certain powers, you dont have to demonstrate it at any given opportunity. The onus is up to you to learn and understand as to when and how to use and control it.

Remember the phrase "WITH GREAT POWER COMES GREAT RESPONSIBILITY" knock! knock!

Now wife slapping husband and husband retaliating is like America attacking Taliban. And yes you still want to be called a man after that? helloooo!!! Now where's that "rolls eyes" emoticon?

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@SA Lady, dont always "assume" a husband has the audacity to send his wife packing out of the house, even if he worked, bought and owns the house! If you doubt me, ask those "Single Mothers" in Europe and America

Men don hear ween for dis life!

Yes every difficult situation requires one to always weigh the pro and cons. I didnt suggest that guy can divorce immediately but I rather suggested that he can send her home so she can think her actions through. The divorce part was suggested as a promise should the event repeat itself, and yes I dont think any man should hesitate to divorce his wife that's physically abusive.

House or not we'll sort it out in court.

eeeerrrmmm!!! @OP, have you checked your oral/dental hygiene lately

When was the last time you went to see a dentist

^^^If they are still together, he probably allowed it because whatever he did to deserve that must have been grossly wrong. However I really dont think any adult has the right to raise his/her hand on the other. If I were in guys shoes I would have sent the woman packing straight to her parents house so they can teach her manners and the basic rules of action and consequence.

Then I would make sure she says her apologies in front of me and the kids, as well as explain to us why such behaviour is inexcusable and unacceptable. She must also tell us what she think we must do with her if it ever happens again. I will also not pass at an opportunity to tell her in front of the kids as to what action will I take should she ever do that again, and this I will say in front of the children

1. I will open a case of assault on her and she may never be able to work anywhere else. At least such is the law where I come from and our corporate world is not keen on hiring people with such criminal record e.g. domestic violence and any other type of violence against others.

2. I will divorce her and allow her to be free to go and dwell among savages like herself who find it normative to cause physical harm on others without any shame as well as disrespectful towards their children and spouse.

Weeeeell, if that doesnt work, then shake the biaaach my brother, shake the hell out of her 

Men do this as a desparate attempt to gain and instill respect that they feel is missing from the woman. But unfortunately the, the situation has adverse consequence. Man that hits a women loses all the respect from the woman and not to mention children. Yes! you'll gain their fear that's for sure. Question is would you rather be feared than understood?

MzDarkSkin:

come to my house this evening. 
no negotiations!


SA LADY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HEY SIS HOW ARE YOU??! IT'S BEEN SON LONG!

^^^Sup shweets?? am here with you everyday reading your lines. You and your tongue never fail to make me laugh!!! Hope you keeping well on the other side, Lovies!!!

@OP, I am finding it haaaard to buy into the story, but for what its worth since we are talking baout HIV/ADIS, I think you must get a second test just to be sure try using a different doctor/hospital etc. for a second opinion. HIV/AIDS is not a death sentence just a disease that needs to be managed. Yes your girl must know so that she may get tested too and be able to make her own decisions based on the situation.

Good Luck

^^^ Dont worry, we've loooong received that memo, and we also understood that some will, some wont, some will stop with time and the typical tombhead and the emotional retard will continue even after he's exhausted all his options. He never gets it.

haha! @OP, she enjoys watching you chase what yuou cant have. It must be amusing for her.

I dont see nothing wrong with that. A girl's gotta keep her options open.

@OP, let me cut this long 9 page answer short. Since she's your equal dont use your hands she may knock you out and I dont think you want to tell your friends and or colleagues where you got the blue eye and sore jaw. Rather use a gun, kill her dead on the spot, and may she never live to tell the tale. Now as she lies dead on the ground, ask her "whose the man now"?

macjive01:

SA lady, Mehn it won't be an easy full-time job being your partner ooh. Sorry, but Mehn the way u see issues seems to b so Femdom- chauvinistic, if not sadistic .

Can I ask u a question, do u think men shd be made to suffer, impact excruciating pain on them whenever he merely annoys his woman?

Do u also think men shd absolutely respect their wives to the point of slavery ?

haha! okay enough laughing. Am actually not so bad really. Just ask your friend to be a bit more assertive. I just didnt like the fact that he is older and cant handle his situation like an older person let alone an older man.

Somebody said that he needs to work on himself first before he can work on his marriage and that is sooo true.

Good luck to him though!!

jennykadry:

^^where did he say that? where did he say he wants to go clubbing?did you bother reading(you obviously didn't) the post or you just decided to turn a blind eye to it?

OP Suggested clubbing, the man found such an idea revolting. Hw come u r the only one seeing the opposite?

kwakwakwakwakwa!! jenny you kill me. I have copied @macjive lines and made emboldments on the clubbing story.  eerrmm!! did you notice the TWO question mark emoticons after my line. I guess you turned a blind eye on that hey?

Now on the emboldment in your comment, please bring me up to speed. When was the suggestion made ten year ago or in the past six months of starvation? kwakwakwakwakwa

macjive01:

On the finances :
He thinks if he tells the wife the state of his account she wud disrespect him the more n even might break up with him knowing he has nothing- he is scare of the divorce because more than likely she wud get their house n that wud leave him wit nothing. He also has bad credit rating which wud mk it difficult for him to get even a rent, phone or anything.

Sex
She has made him lose so much confidence in himsef that he wud find it difficult[b] going clubbing[/b]. And he finds it irritating voicing such propaganda.
I told him to self-service before her so she knows wat she is doing to u. He simply said he can't do it.

Checking her phone:
He said he prefers to think that she is making out with other men that confirming it cos he doesn't think he can take it.

Holiday:
He doesn't want her to know he doesn't have money n can't afford the holiday. But he also cant afford to be anything part of the holiday cos it will b that he is paying for her to go sleep with other men. It breaks his heart even thinking about it.

What next can one say?

So now he wants to go clubbing kwakwakwakwakwakwakwa!!! this is comedy