^^^Your next move is to move on.

Oh! @singlelife please ask them to get over it. Did you ever mention to anyone of them that you are unhappy without a man??

@Poster, the girl in your story is just being taken for a ride simple.

@Poster, Nothing wrong with that, you offered since you felt she needs it. It may also make communication in your relationship easy and fun. Now comes the maintenance Good Luck!!!

d bigrod:

@poster,
someone said dat u are 17yrs.no wonder.u sound so immature.all these u are spewing = shi!t.i`ll advice u wait till u have a boyfriend b4 u start listing all u want.u better seek for advice from babes older than u cos u are not even mature enough to think properly.if a guy is gonna give u all that u want,what will u offer in the relationship?dont tell me dat its just punn!y cos its readily available everywhere.am sure u must have conceived this crazy idea of yours in your secondary school hostel? baby,life is tougher than u think.let me be real with u.guys will f!uck u and not drop a naira. am sure u think am crazy but thats d truth.pls concentrate on passing your ssce,jamb and co b4 concentrating on men.i wish u get a gud guy when u are mature enough to have a boyfriend.i pray u dont get a guy like me cos i`ll f!uck u and still not give u anything.the thing wey u get,thousands of babes get am too.

^^^C'mon you know she's right.

Outstrip:

LOL. It is clothes but people say "christmas cloth" that's why we have it in quotes. It is actually broken english

I wanted to go with that track of mind but then I thought, what if its reeeaaally cloth, anyhou Ta!

^^^LOL! and there I was attackin gthe poor girl and her rock star tattoo. But this girl even, now what of this her hand gloves I mean really

joyblinks:

well i have seen ladies with tattoo in their wedding gown.

Well looking at this picture now, what do you think?

Okay fine I make up my mind. that pic is from a movie scene cos no girl should be caught stiff dead in a white wedding gawn and a TATTOO like that. So wrong.

adagz 01:

See them wishing

^^^Bhuahhahhahahaaa! you are a hater you know.

For me probably everything the girls have listed so far. No egomaniacs, its hard to watch a man with brains acting s-t-u-p-i-d, its just the hardest thing

MzD@rkSkin:

@SA Lady I think you should see Mr.BrownJay's replies on the Advice to the opposite gender thread! He is a cool dude tho. but HARD to crack!! check it out here: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-576171.0.html

LOL! Howdy Girl? I was there yesterday watching you and the girls on to him please girls give the cool dude a break, you guys are going to give him grey hair. I just thought the convo was the makes of a misunderstanding, and I decided to just shush!!

@Topic, I mean what on earth is this Where is the father in all this? full story please anyone??

@Topic this tradition has got to go. But I suppose if you buying as a gift to someone else it should be accepted, and maybe that's what this season should be all about people buying for others other than themselves.

By the way is it cloth or clothes

Just my honest opinion. I dont know him but he is soooooo gay.

^^^Trust me I love my black brothers. I guess that's why am on their case all the time. Seriously there's so much I am sure you can do with and without as per the advice on my post. Just Like @Mrbrown he needs to take off the denim jacket and burn it or bury it, please.

Oh no how can I forget this one.

21. Stop marinating in that bottle of perfume, my sinusitus doesnt agree with it, its pure rude.

22. I am tired of listerning to your dreams of how you going to make it big someday. Just go big or go home simple.

Okay boys here's what I could think of,

1. The long nail on your pinky, seriously even a love-vendor cant get away with that anymore.

2. The muscle top is rediculously gay abeg lose it.

3. The Gold chain, I should start ripping them off your necks for a meltdown

4. The bloody fake accent over a charm line, makes me wanna smack the living daylights out of you.

5. Please accept that we've got ladies night out's and you are not welcomed, let alone ask what we goin to get up to AM NOT YOUR TEENAGE DAUGTER YOU KNOW!!!!! am a responsible adult.

6. Yes just because I am  not in love with you for the money it doesnt mean you dont have to go out there and make it.

7. Yes! expensive gifts are welcomed, anytime even if I dont ask for them.

8. Seriously black man there is nothing wrong in buying flowers PLEASE!!!!!!! get that through your black num skull.

9. I love you means you only sleep with me, generally men need an age of dawn on this one (fine Puss! comes with fine print stop acting oblivious its not gorgeous)

10. and YES! I am high maintenance, IS THAT YOU ACTING ALL OBLIVIOUS AGAIN? Please deal with it.

11. Just because I have opinion it doest mean, I am competitive, just stating what's on my mind

12. Could you bloody stop telling me what being a woman is all about. I am already one and I cant say the same for you now can I? now shut it.

13. Now that shirt with a huge arse collar and three buttons over the collar is an absolute no.

14. Accept it not all your ex gf's were cute, why do you insist on telling us how much you only date and prefer cute girls.

15 Now who said that hair in your armpit os hot, makes you look more like a man, well guess what its bloody fugly, girls why are we still putting up with it. Guy please start shaving. I am sick of this.

16. Serioously black man why do you need a car to get the hot chicks? Dont worry I know, self esteem right

17. By the way not every woman wants to marry you, not even on a cold day in hell.

18. Yes we cheat, wanna know why? cos were still looking duh!!!!! It turns out you not the one after all. So stop calling me names.

19. Stop being a mizer its a turn off simple.

20 Girls love s#x too, bet you didnt know that too hey 

d bigrod:

Guy,do not marry d bitc,h.

^^^Endorsed

@Poster can you just ask her out for pete's sake and tell her exactly how you feel about her. Oh! one thing though, be prepared for the friendship speech

@Topic I didnt read the story, but my answer is that you should leave her, simple. Then you really dont have to come up with such topics.

I hardly ever check the gender when I interact with people in here so I may not know so many of them. Okay you may be on point but I may have to differ on other categories.

MzD@rkSkin:

@ topic i am CALLING THEM OUT. . .this doesnt mean these guys are not wanted or that i dont like them, this is just how they are perceived.  it's all fun guys!!!! Ladies i need your help, give me some pointers if u can think of more. . .

1. The Needy Man:  ( )
He’s overly emotional and shares all his feelings right away.

2. The Predictable Man: (hmmm. . .Johndoe200, Sagamite, 190,  Mr.Brownjay lol )
He follows rules and never wants to do anything differently.

3. The Arrogant Man: (BK.Babe, Mr.Cork, 190, Mr.BrownJay, Sagamite)
Has a huge ego, is
condescending & rude.

4. The Boorish Man: (Amefi, Kay-money, D-sense)
Doesn't try to hide the fact that
he's checking out other women.

5. The Cheap Man: (Mr.Cork)
Invites a woman to dinner and
then suggests they go Dutch.

6. The Arguer: (D-sense, 190, Mr.Brownjay, Sagamite, Mobo44, roymary, johndoe200, fstranger)
Makes a woman feel like she's in debate class rather than on a dat

7. The Self-Righteous Man: (Mr.BrownJay, Johndoe, 190)
Very judgmental of others.

8. The Misogynist: (Mobo44 esp. but all of the above  )
Makes no secret of his bitterness toward women.

1. I am with you on the emotional  so lets double it.

2. The predictable: I'd take @Mr Brown off that list. If they had a category of thee most open minded I'd list him. I dont always agree with him but he is who he is, never tries too hard.

3. The arrogant man: Please lets excuse cock and 190 out of this list. @Mr Brown Mz DS has no right you know  forgive her.

5. The Cheap man; @COCK PLEASE SPEAK FOR YOURSELVES ON THIS ONE. CONVINCE US.

6. The Arguer: 190 and Mr. Brown again are excused. @roymary some things are better left unsaid the trick is to know what and who is worth your time and not  Oh that wink comes from a good place. Tere's a reason why am not so big on emticons.

7. The Self-Righteous Man: Now Mr Brown and 190, I dont know if you should grab this one or not? I cant seem to decide if its a good quality in man or not, but I'll leave it up to you to decide.

8. The Misogynist: To all the guys,  NOW PLEASE TELL US WHAT THE HELL WENT WRONG

@Goddess saw you in here yesterday but I thought I'd check on you today since its ma last day. Just making my holiday one day longer. And please may you and the the lovely people in here have a fantabulous holiday.

Well I've just learned that there's a lot to learn about marriage, so I am going to delay this marriage thing for as long as I can. Quite frankly I do not want to find myself fighting with a so called husband over a so called right house help.


Maaaaannn! I honestly dont plan spending the rest of my life being a cock blocker.

On the day you accept that in life everything must come to an end, will be the day you get over him, even the bestest lifelong marriages must end they will end in death. With every end there has to be the beginning. I've just learned this, that everything in life happens in duality, for every night there's day, for every old there's new, for every end there's the beginning so stop standing in your own way and open another door for a new beginning and anticipate the best.

@topic so we have the Ikwerre people, aaaahhhhhhh! nice discovery to a South African.

chaircover:

You people are cracking me up here ewo tun ni chairlady?

Anyway, very few people are facing the reality of what is going on. Now I dont have statistics but being a little long in the tooth, I know that most affairs start OUTSIDE of the home.

I also know that many many peeps spend more waking hours at work than they do at home.

Ok for argument sake, he looked long enough at the housegirl during the interview to notice and process that he is likely to fall into temptation with her . . . . . .

. . . . . . . . I want us all to be truthful here o! but will the same man not fall into temptation with his cute 22 year old PA? or the pretty busty 24 year old that serves him every day at his local eatery? or the 23 year old confident flawless skinned girl from the accounts dept who he gives a lift to the bus stop every day?

Will he not be tempted by the tall and hazel eyed girl from sales who sits beside him on the long ride home on the staff bus? Will he not be tempted by his colleagues girlfriends friend who comes from unilag to visit them in the office?

What if the guy is a business man and does a lot of overnight travel with his secretary? Will he not fall?

IMO A man who can stoop so low as to even considering wanting to bang his housegirl will eventually fall for one of the scenarios above

Morals and the vows of marriage seem to be 20 kobo these days and Some of the men on this forum are talking as if they have no control over their libido; which is quite scary.

I do however beleive that for some married men, even though they come in contact with nice looking ladies on a daily basis; It is his integrity that stops him from taking it any further.

And to people insisting that 60 year old housemaids are the way to stop a man from being unfaithful, if as a wife you carry on tying wrapper round your chest all day and do the missionarystyle night after night for 5 years, and cook salty soup om a regular basis, then you run the risk of the man being tempted by he 60 year old.

Lets face it, if a man is tempted by his househelp, there is no guarantee that he wont be tempted by his wife's junior sister bearing in mind that the wife's sister will most probably have the same "assets" & mannerisms etc and the same things that made him fall for his wife.

Again for the record before y'all come down on me like a ton of bricks. I never said that he should employ the housegirl. All I am saying is that he should look within into why he thinks that it is very likely that he will fall into bed with the girl.

I rest my case. Peace.

Say no more, if no one is willing to hear what u say here, well what shall we do?

!!Mr Cork:

Afamdman, brother, u been watchin too many nollywood movies!!

^^^Shuuuuuuu! finally somebody says it.

zionmmv:

Well first of all after all of this time we are still not in a monogamous committed relationship.

I am just going to be honest and say you know he's still playing outside why complain. Its up to him hun.

zionmmv:

When we first started seeing each other we both said that we were looking for someone to spend time with and honestly have intimacy with, but if something more were to come out of it we would welcome it.

You sold youself too short, the best thing you could've done here was to shush up and not utter a word, just to keep him guessing and enought to keep him on his toes. I believe at this point he would have been the one asking for your direction of the relationship.

zionmmv:


has met my son which is a huge step for me.

Wrong move again, everything else that came after this statement above should have been done first. You've got it all twisted.

From me to you, is good luck try and save what you think is left to be saved, otherwise quit him and dont get involved until you are certain of what you want from a man/relationship. Just my two bob.

favouredjb:

my bag is always so heavy guilty as charged!

small compact mirror,a long scarf incase am not driving and have to be on okada,you know how low them jeans can be
writing material,hand cream shower cap ,diary,etc

lets add perfume, multivitamins, cell phone & charger, ipod, a smaller purse with your panty liners, sunblock and a leisure book to read for those silent moments or otherwise when people start fighting over patty things.