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Romance / Re: My Husband Refuse To Buy Me A Wedding Ring, Please Help! by SALady(f): 11:30am On Apr 11, 2011 |
Well @OP, look at it this way. Once he gets you a ring will it improve the nature of your relationship Will it make you guys lov eeach other more As for now enjoy the guys toasting, its good for the ego. |
Romance / Re: Is Out Of Sight Truly Out Of Mind To You? by SALady(f): 11:21am On Apr 11, 2011 |
^^^yep!! in depends, sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder and that's just the way I like it. |
Romance / Re: My Fat Boyfriend Needs To Lose Weight ASAP, or else. . . . by SALady(f): 8:15am On Apr 11, 2011 |
divalishis: ^^^Forget it, he is not going to loose the weight for as long as he find nothing wrong with it. You on the other hand are not helping, you seem a very nice and understanding person. Dont get me wrong am not insinuating that you should change on him, stay as sweet as you are. The best help you can offer this man is that you work on yourself. Go to gym and eat healthy and hope he follows your example. Guys lets be honest, there's nothing worse than watching the one you love change into a shrek or fiona right before your eyes. Its a huge frustration. |
Family / Re: The Nonsense Called Divorce Settlement by SALady(f): 8:16am On Apr 08, 2011 |
chaircover: GBAM! you renting space in ma head. |
Romance / Re: My Fat Boyfriend Needs To Lose Weight ASAP, or else. . . . by SALady(f): 7:48am On Apr 08, 2011 |
kwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa!!!! @OP Your post is damn hilarious, what a way to start a friday morning. Now I cant stop laughing all because of you. |
Family / Re: The Nonsense Called Divorce Settlement by SALady(f): 3:37pm On Apr 07, 2011 |
Sagamite: Now in an emotionally charged divorce process (I mean all divorce), where all love is lost, just how many men do you think would actually be inclined to do the humane thing, let alone be nice . So what dumb woman out there would not attempt to take a man to the cleaners, when she knows that the man will be making emotional decisions Women have been lied to, told that men are not emotional beings haha! I always laugh when I hear this. Men are most probably more emotional than women especially where money matters are concerned e.g. men kill women everyday in the name of money, now if that's not emotions of the highest order then I dont know. Now dont get me wrong if I were a man too I'd make sure to get a prenup no doubt. Question is, how on earth do people introduce these subjects to their partners. It would be nice to hear from the married people in NL as to how they went about it and how did the decision affect the relationships if at all. Sagamite: Any contract, till death do us part, in/out of community of property, with/without accrual. BTW this is just things I pick up as hear say since am not there yet, quite frankly not interested since it all doesnt make sense in my world. Never even been tempted to google the nonsense. Cant people have personal contract other than the obvious and standard marriage contracts?? eerrm!! trust me if anybody finds themselves in a divorce battle with me and there is mention of the third person, I'm afraid they wont be able to spell the word Tosh anymore. And yes if compensation is the only thing I can get away with it will be coming out of her time and pocket too. I never signed a contract that says anything about open marriage, again I'd like to believe that I married my equal not a child that needs to be baby sat all the time. Afterall that I'll wait for those divorce papers from angry cheating liar of a hubby and see you in court once more, and please make sure you have a chat with tiger woods and he'll tell you what happens in a divorce court to a cheating spouse. Oh! am not sure how is the truck example different from the health risk example though. Like a licensed driver my husband has signed away his license to sleep around. And if there is no law for this then Ladies I dont think we are well covered by the law. Does anyone care to sign a petition >: |
Romance / Re: . by SALady(f): 3:45pm On Apr 06, 2011 |
kandiikane: ^^^ In that case lets hold hands in prayer and thank the Good Lawd for blessing me with common sense, which I dont have a problem using as he expects. |
Romance / Re: Do Black Women Have Bad Attitudes? by SALady(f): 3:30pm On Apr 06, 2011 |
190: Noo! ROTFLMFAO (Whatever that means) @ Why? you like roborts. Its a Killer. |
Romance / Re: Pls Sincere Advice: Am In A Dilemma by SALady(f): 2:58pm On Apr 06, 2011 |
Enigmatikchikala: @Enigma, I dont have a problem with comprehension please. Arent you the girl who's who's caught in a dilemma involving two men?? One you've never met and gives you money and the other who is pursuing you and you get to see when you can So now what's the dilemma about, let alone the topic In case you dont have a problem with the questions above then I'd say you've mamaged to waste our time. Just for the record I never use sarcasm, I always prefer true talk simply because its a lot cuter, on point and wont allow me to beat around the bush. My opinion about your situation is that, you dont love this man you've never met, dont get love confused. Just admit you LOVE receiving money from him. simple Again you havent answered my question on the MINISTER OF FINANCE PART. I am trying to get you to tell us the answer you already know about your topic. We all know that you are going to cheat on the guy who sends money, so dont worry about us, we wont judge you. |
Romance / Re: . by SALady(f): 2:39pm On Apr 06, 2011 |
Kgdavid: A 16 year old is not a child, blah blah blah May the Good Lawd forgive you, sigh!!! |
Romance / Re: What Makes You Happy In A Relationship? by SALady(f): 2:28pm On Apr 06, 2011 |
That I am allowed to be myself and never judged for anything. |
Romance / Re: . by SALady(f): 1:46pm On Apr 05, 2011 |
There's nothing wrong with the 7 year age gap if both of them are in their twenties. Not when the other is still a teen, hell NO!!!! |
Romance / Re: Pls Sincere Advice: Am In A Dilemma by SALady(f): 12:58pm On Apr 05, 2011 |
@OP let me ask you this. WHAT ON EARTH DO YOU EXPECT YOUR MINISTER OF FINANCE TO SAY WHEN YOU TELL HIM YOU HAVE FOUND ANOTHER AND HAVE NO USE FOR HIM ANYMORE Don't pick offense its a fair question. |
Romance / Re: Pls Sincere Advice: Am In A Dilemma by SALady(f): 12:46pm On Apr 05, 2011 |
Guys can we learn to raise opinions without insulting each other. @OP, i didnt meant to interrogate you, was just trying to understand some things. In fact your situation got me asking myself a few question and also deparately trying to remain objective over the money matter. Since this post I've been asking myself questions about how men have been socialized in terms of thier interaction with women and how they should assert themselves with women. Its sad actually as It would seem men have been socialised to associate women with money, and that relatively comes down to how they perceive their position in their relationships. I cant blame @OP, she may have asked for the money but guy should have had the sence to say "NO" again its his right. Once more guy could have volunteered to give her the money without being asked its his money he does what he wants with it. Now, to be a bit subjective the fact that men use money to secure their position in a relationship, and that us women allow it is a bit disturbing. |
Family / Re: The Nonsense Called Divorce Settlement by SALady(f): 12:25pm On Apr 05, 2011 |
Sagamite: OK we’re on the same page now. Someone may have raised this in the former pages, but all the same let me say it. We must all acknowledge that the divorce process reeks emotions and not much logic. People forget about how they use to care for each other and become more focused on the anger, the contractual matter and what's in it for them. We can’t run away from that fact. The court is also there to entertain the contract and who feels claim over what, nothing more nothing less. Soooo, moral of the story, get a f&*kn good lawyer, kapish! Sagamite: Nothing rubbish about it if you are going to find it normative to put my life and health at risk, not to mention the emotional distress. The law will not purnish anyone for feelings true that, but am sure the law will purnish anyone for reckless decisions, especially when they are under oath and contract. Nobody is forced to be with me and that is why they have this thing called divorce which you are more than welcome to call for anytime. Moral of the story, never go against the terms of any contract at random it may cost you severly. |
Family / Re: The Nonsense Called Divorce Settlement by SALady(f): 4:10pm On Apr 04, 2011 |
Sagamite: C'mon give me a break 9 pages, I couldnt have. I scanned through it and decided to make my contributions based on my personal opinion re the topic. Sagamite: So as much as we are attracted to each other and fond of each others company, the only way for us to make it permanently exclusive (hopefully forever, but realistically as long as we can) was through the contract? way to go!!!! Lets agree then that the marriage contract has nothing to do with us being fond of each other but assets acquired while we were hoping to be together forever. The contract and us being fond of each other are two separate issues , at least by my standards. Sagamite: Fair deal Sagamite: If these are the reasons then I'll pass. I need to find the person who made point one in your list popular and stone him/her to death. As for the rest I have no doubt that I dont need a contract to achieve all that. When I say I want to be with you I mean the list, simple rules of engagement from the onset. Sagamite: eerrmmm! not so fast make sure there is no third party involved in the end and that she is not the reason for this divorce, cos I'll even drag her to court and its a promise. I am being serious, I'll sue both of you and I still wont file for a divorce. Remember I married absolutely and am not the one with the roving eye. But honestly guys, marriage is fast losing its base. There is no need for it anymore, especially if its in the name of love. Love is faaar bigger than marriage and we have managed to reduce it to a mere contract. In my world I reckon your conscience should speak to you first before any form of contract, but I also want to acknowledge that I may be just another dreamer. |
Family / Re: The Nonsense Called Divorce Settlement by SALady(f): 12:07pm On Apr 04, 2011 |
Sagamite: This is what I hear from a prenup, Lady here's a prenup in case when this thing comes to an end you get nothing. I mean for f&*k sake why would I even ask for anything. What a nerve, for a man to even think I am in it to get some cash out of it just in case, you know. Are you not worthy of more as a man? Three questions: 1. Do we marry to remain one or a unit. 2. Whoever makes more is he/she making it for the individual or for the family he/she has been building since the conception of the "lets get married idea"? 3. Why do we marry"? no one has answered. Could somebody please help me out. BTW, when I am with you I am with you absolutely and trust me when I leave you I'll leave you absolutely. And how you are going to leave me is soooo up to you. |
Romance / Re: She Is Pregnant For Me But I Don't Want To Marry Her cos I Don't Luv Her. by SALady(f): 8:58am On Apr 04, 2011 |
@OP, you dont love her and fro three years you kept on going back for more hhhmmm!!! |
Romance / Re: What Is The Fastest Way To Breakup A Loveless Relationship? by SALady(f): 8:49am On Apr 04, 2011 |
Send him a phone text message, it goes very very fast. Now if that's not the fastest way to end a relationship, then I dont know of any other that compares. |
Romance / Re: Pls Sincere Advice: Am In A Dilemma by SALady(f): 8:14am On Apr 04, 2011 |
Enigmatikchikala: eerrmm!!! how did he end up knowing there's bills to pay and which bills to pay and how much is needed to pay the bills? |
Romance / Re: Pls Sincere Advice: Am In A Dilemma by SALady(f): 7:51am On Apr 04, 2011 |
Enigmatikchikala: :oYou've never met him and he never fails to pay your bills already, DAMN some chicks are good. I need to learn this art. Please help lady out with some lessons. How do you start asking for money? what words do you use? Do you use a stern voice and straight face which in this case he hasnr seen, soooo exactly how does it work |
Romance / Re: 6 Different Kinds Of Men! by SALady(f): 7:34am On Apr 04, 2011 |
Pweety4me: ^^^I look forward to being married and now you've just f&k*d up my dream. No hope. |
Romance / Re: My Wife And Heavy Makeup by SALady(f): 6:57am On Mar 31, 2011 |
deniyor: And let the truth be said, Kapish indeed. |
Romance / Re: Why Do Guys Prefer Sluts To Decent Ladies by SALady(f): 6:53am On Mar 31, 2011 |
@OP, brilliant question. An enigma that only men can unravel for us. The only answer I've ever managed to get out of a few guys I've asked is that, "well since she's been around, she knows what's expected in bed, she's now tired of sleeping with different men and wont cheat, she is experianced and knows how to handle a man" All this blah! blah! blah! still doesnt add up to me. |
Romance / Re: I Broke Her Heart Now I Want Her To Forgive Me by SALady(f): 6:40am On Mar 31, 2011 |
iniestar: Guy you've said your apology and its written on the wall, so now forgive yourself and move on. You dont have to see her to say it. Stop using issues of yesterday as an excuse for failure in your current relationships. You just need to accept those relationships for what they were/are and soldier on until you find the right one. If you ask me I'd say you are standing in your own way and you want to blame it on her inability to forgive you. She's moved on, and her not wanting to talk to you is just a message to say you are a thing of the past that she'd rather forget. |
Family / Re: Would A Nigerian Dad Ever Strike His Adult Daughter? by SALady(f): 1:07pm On Mar 30, 2011 |
eghost247: ^^^mtchew, for what now |
Romance / Re: Ladies: Vote For Your Desired Profession For Your Future Spouse by SALady(f): 3:47pm On Mar 29, 2011 |
aloy/emeka: hhhmmm! you missing the point, its about the things he can do for you with his own hands. Unfortunately they dont make them like that anymore. Man today cant even replace a light bulp. Hopeless. Yeah! as for marrying a millionaire anyday. He'll find me waiting at the alter. |
Romance / Re: Want Her Out Of My Life Cos She Lies by SALady(f): 1:12pm On Mar 29, 2011 |
Bring the matter to her attention and yes drop her its possible she's a compulsive liar and needs to take care of it one way or the other. Some people never stop their bad habits cos nobody ever tells them the real truth about who they are or how they present themselves. |
Romance / Re: Ladies: Vote For Your Desired Profession For Your Future Spouse by SALady(f): 1:05pm On Mar 29, 2011 |
An engineer, and if its civil engineer all the better. This is for one reason only. I've always dreamt of a lake house and it came with a sweet husband who was going to build me a bridge to cross over the lake to and from home. This bridge he was going to design himself and be hands on in the construction. That dream still lives on. hhhmmm! if only wishes were horses hey! |
Romance / Re: I Quit My Marriage For My Boyfriend by SALady(f): 12:57pm On Mar 29, 2011 |
But why do people lie so much in the name of love. Listen to this women:" "I discovered too late that I love my husband", I mean really lady, now am rolling my eyes. Also, if someone is in love with you no matter what they will try by all means possible to contact you. She's the only person who's been making efforts to contact lover boy, and lover boy was getting all cosy with his new squeeze with no care in the world. really lady |
Family / Re: Would A Nigerian Dad Ever Strike His Adult Daughter? by SALady(f): 11:39am On Mar 29, 2011 |
Wonder how old is the woman on the story. But if my dad tried to hit me, he had better be prepared what's coming his way. I'd get all kung-fu all over him. mxewww!!! |
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