^^^ thank you, I wanted to mention it but somehow didnt want to go on and on about what would seem battle of the sexes, but somethings you cant ignore.

Somehow its as if the topic insinuates that its okay for men to be that person.

SA Lady:

@OP trust me, being unavailable always works. Start talking about things you want to do alone nicely insinuating that they are your things alone and he doesnt feature anywhere.

Wait and watch that space, as he does the typical male thing like getting a new girlfriend, much to your freedom. Again pray very hard that his new relationship works out.

Oh! Yeah! @OP as soon as he gets a new girlfriend you can dump him using the new girl as an excuse that he is cheating on you and in your good books cheating is a NO! NO!, trust me it works like a charm.

Phate07:



Its simple, innit? Just tell the person that to break-up is the most important thing in your life right now.

Rolling on the floor with laughter right now, you just cracked me up 

Albino? Anytime will marry him in a heart beat, ofcourse he has to meet the requirements I ask for in a man, you cant just be an Albino for nothing, please.

smarth-G:

Its not about going out with some one you are smarter than but proving someone that is already a partner wrong at all instance.

that's if I understand the poster.

Okay, so its a case of going out with an argumentative person, be it man or woman, who needs that 

@OP C'mon you know men are the BIGGEST gossip mongers.

@OP trust me, being unavailable always works. Start talking about things you want to do alone nicely insinuating that they are your things alone and he doesnt feature anywhere.

Wait and watch that space, as he does the typical male thing like getting a new girlfriend, much to your freedom. Again pray very hard that his new relationship works out.

@Topic, nothing good ever came out of it. I'll pass.

Guy: Did I make you c-um, that was sooooo good?

Girl: Oh Yes! 

12large1:

naija boy in town. everytime i go smack at a nigerian younganz they always want to go deep they act like they don't want sex but guy if a nigga with fresh gucci comes and toast them dem go open toto up. but akata girls when u toast them dey already know the deal they like the dicks and dont fake about it. infact after they fuk you they go tell their friend{if u satisfy them} in akata accent. "bit.ch dat nigga knows how to fuk" they will even say it loud in front of your friends and laugh when u bring them to your house they don't wait for you to say poo they just start licking the lollipop first den they open the tatas. if na naija girl the would tell u bring come house dem go tell u how dey no want se.x till marriage. and funniest thing about it is dat akata hoodrats fine pass Nigerian top celebrities one love babies just took time to appreciate y'all lol

@po stop ranting and raving and go get yourself some game. Stop blaming the girls if you aint got no game. Whose problem is this suppose to be

^^^ correct, but you know what I am a firm beliver in not clinging on to people you are resentful of. @OP must leave and find his angel.

Mr Orton1_0, never mind me I just came in here as a spectator to watch the life and death of the NL gay thread.

Turn the light down low, and pull the window curtain, lalala!!

can somebody please holler up a spliff as I sing this fine a-ss song

I am not sure why would a lady want to hang out with a someone she is wiser than, and still hope to get something out of it. Is she really as wise as she thinks she is? go figure.

Yes! if he is a loveable person, just like any other person.

As hard as it may be for me to say it, I say yes! if we are in persuation of a democratic state of being.

You have two options either you go and have her so called coffee with her and collect the debt or you just shut her out of your life.

Girl, work your business up or get a job but for whatever reason why you do it please let it not be about him. Do it for yourself, only you matter the most.

Let me ask you this question, say you get a job or the business thing works and you guys get married, what will then happen when the business collapses or you get chucked out of a job?

Odunnu:

In all sincerity, I dont gerrit.

Makes the two of us. Sorry @op i really tried to untangle this one.

MeNutty:

@ SA Lady, why would u wanna take your friends along for your honey moon?

Its not like him and I are going to be doing something we havent done before. Again I really really dont look forward to one of those big big weddings please spare me on that one, however I want this small celebration to go on and on and to linger on in the minds of those I hold dear to me.

Besides me and hubby have got all the time ahead of us to be alone and have those special holiday's for two and romantic nights. Honeymoon for me is just an extension of a wedding day and what better way to do it with your crazy friends.

Hey, what's a wedding/marriage without witnesses all the way I think I want fun on my honeymoon more than romance to be honest.

Mom NO! NO! NO! but my friends can come along

McHarry:

can gurls allow themselves to care for a man without that excess money to throw around in this modern world of BB.

Its not about excess money but, enough to take care of the basics. basics like, food, motgage and other bill, petrol in the car, clothes, school fees for those who have children, lets not forget weekend getaways here and there co's the last thing we need is monotony and then bore each other to death.

Will men ever get this

Sorry girls am for the boys. Without them my world would be so dull, they know how to caress a woman's ego.

@OP if you are being honest with us, then cancel the whole thing. Rather deal with that than years of a miserable marriage. Please save her the trouble.

LO4yrs:


@ SA Lady: "time you wasted on things you cannot have instead of loving your husband and then use an excuse that you had a psychological condition. "

What makes you think I don't love ma Husband, I have Limerence and know what it entails. When you read the book on Limerence, you get the whole concept of what it is. Limerence is different from Love, it just one of the phases you under go before a complete love comes into place. The love I have for my husband is not just the Chemistry piece of it. I though Love is all about giving, taking, respect, trust, loyal, faithfulness, chemistry, then I have that for my husband. and am not using it as an excuse for my marriage, If I have marriage issue, then the topic will be a different thing entirely.

Tick tock, clock is ticking, decisions decisions. Its up to you. If you ask me you have all the answers in your response to me as to why you should just forget about this person. Make up your mind, it'll sting though but hey!

@OP, abortion is not an option. You guys will do good with your lives in the future. Fine you dont have the financial means now but you both are working towards a better life annit, if not for your future family and children then for what?. As I always say, things arent always as bad as they seem really. Its only a matter of time and hard work. That's what we are here for anyway "hard work". Now get to work, start today and put your determination and will to do the right things to the test, you can make it.

Make sure the decision you make out of this situation will be the kind you are proud of when you look back 40-50 yrs from now. Think about this book you are writing. Will it make people go wow as they got through the pages or will they go oh! well.

Think about it

@OP, you are obviously very angry, c'mon catch some breath, grab a couch, kick off your shoes, lie down and tell us all about it in a calm manner. Surely you need therapy.

Soooo once upon a time, ? carry on.