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ferdiii:
it is coward? GST is needed here!

@ferdiii, first you must help me with GST? then I can help you with coward.

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=625434.msg7955702#msg7955702 date=1300718266]I have said it time and again that when you see a thread started by a Nigerian movie addict, you can tell. Why will I want to give out my kidney? God share am equal for everybody, u don spoil your own now u want collect my own. That is just selfiish,

My kidney is mine, I already gave her my heart, that should be enough for her,[/quote]BRAVO!!!

This is a tricky one actually, considering the plastic life we live today.

I suppose he can find love as soon as he can get over himself and forget about how rich he is.

Sometimes, you just have to keep your eyes on the price.

REALITY101:
No reasonable lover will ask me to giver her one of my kidney.

True that, People must learn to be reasonable, please.

Yes it can happen, nothing wrong in that. It only starts being wrong when you cant choose one. Its coward and sselfish.

Tosinville:
SA Lady

I know where you're going to, you want both sexes to be classify as the same right? but i'll let you know if a man bleep up to 200 girls in a town during his bachelor's life, there'll still be some girls who will always want his hand for marriage no matter how worst he's during his youth time.

2. but if its a lady that was bleep by 200 guys during her time before marriage then she'll always be the topic in town and no man will even try to cross her part due to her past experience they all know bout.

@Tonsin, this is not about sexes, forget it, I dont roll like that. This is about people, individuals, self respecting people.

Trust me I will not date anyone who has been around the block. My philosophy about such people is that they been there, done that and now awfully tired.

Any man for me who has been around the block is a major major turn off, sorry no cant do. I am not being naive about this either, becauese some idiot may choose not to tell me about their dark past. There's nothing I can do about it.

Tosinville:
For instance: D'banj & Genevieve Nnaji Romance


D'banj's family complaint that the relationship between both of them can't work not to talk of marriage, they ended up splitting just because his family knows about her past life with Atiku & Some other politics whereas we also know D'banj is a real playa in the past even till now but if D'banj still stand up today that he need a girl, many ladies across the globe will still want to marriage him not caring maybe is he a player or not even you SA lady & Bhusayor so lets be sincere with ourselves here.

This your D'banj I do not care how much money and or popularity he has, you are saying this to a wrong girl. I am not attracted let alone enticed by such.

Good riddens to this guy, not only does he sleep around but he's got family that maddles in his personal affairs, and I should call him a man? PLEASE!!! no wonder he sleeps around, seeking affirmation elsewhere and in other ways. Its called compensating, now we know just how much he is lacking. No whole and sane living being would choose to live their life like that

Give me a man who is self respecting, for i think I know who he sorrounds himself with, and what kind of a woman he's after then I am all game.

Simple, we are talking about people with class here, and no money or fame can buy you that.

Until you understand what the word MAN means @Tonsi, we are basically going nowhere slowly.

190:
[color=deeppink]For any relationship to go the right way, the foundation should always be based on trust. Trust is something that is built up with time. Being honest to each other is of utmost importance in any relationship. Although this is something every individual is aware about, I have noticed couples lie blatantly to each other! I have often wondered why do men lie to their girlfriends? Women have also been giving stiff competition to men off late! The problem with men remains to be…well, we can’t live with them nor live without them. Lies only creates more chaos in an already disturbed relationship although a little bit of white lies can at times, save a relationship. So, are men natural liars or is it a habit? My viewpoints are based on what I have seen and observed and the different kind of liars I have met so far!

Why do Men Lie to their Girlfriends?
There may be various reasons why a guy would choose to lie to his girlfriend. This brings up one really sweet incident to my mind. One of my good friends, ( Names with-held ), never did know how to [size=18pt]cook[/size] and when she met this really amazing guy and started going steady with him, she decided to whip up a good meal for him. The other day I happened to bump into her boyfriend so I casually asked him about the evening spent at her place! He told me he was really deep into the relationship though he admitted she sure was a bad cook! I was appalled thinking he may have blurted the truth to her but he reassured me saying he lied and had told her she is an excellent cook! Well, I guess this man really lied for a reason and it was only because he loved her to a great extent. It left me with a nice feeling all over.

The other day I came across another situation concerning a couple from my group! The girl had worn something that looked like it was dug up from the attic and when she cooed gently to her boyfriend, saying, ‘How do I look honey?’, I was appalled when her boyfriend said, ‘As beautiful as ever!’ I smiled as I thought if beauty truly lies in the eyes of the beholder or was that guy really lying to keep his girl happy! There are of course many reasons why a man would lie in this instance; it may simply be to keep out of trouble and being nagged by the girlfriend!

So, I came back to the golden question, why do men lie to their girlfriends? Apart from white lies, men also lie probably if they end up being habitual liars. For such men, telling a lie is no big deal; they lie for fun and as a form of entertainment. For them, telling a lie is merely a habit without any malicious intentions! Well, in that case, it would be difficult to spot a habitual liar although time would reveal the truth! For instance, I knew this person who often pretended to be busy! None of his dates planned at exclusive restaurants ever worked out, there were only false promises saying, ‘I’m busy’ or the usual, ‘I have a very important conference to attend’. In this case the reason could have been genuine, but there are times I felt lies was being told as a cover up for lack of interest. Whatever, the reason, one can never cover up lies for long! Truth always finds a way out and comes to the surface when a person least expects it to!

Men as well as women lie for various reasons (known to them!) But if you wish to be in a long-lasting relationship, then you need to be truly honest to yourself first and then with your partner! With love and trust as the base, you can then have a healthy relationship you can certainly cherish forever.[/color]

Aiyayaaa, give us a break will you?

MRbrownJAY:
Yes, we all evolve and grow as we mature but its a natural process called LIFE and it cannot be compared with changing because someone we are dating demands for it or it's needed in order to fit in that said r/ship.

I suppose its great when change is voluntary, not when its forced in order to fit into ones little idiosyncrasies all in the name of "I love you".

I dont know. I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

MRbrownJAY:
@nanidee
You will be very surprise to know that many people out there LOVE to lick asss or get there assss licked. Educate yourself before you unknowingly end up with such a man.

and just to name a few:
- I will never CHANGE for a r/ship.
Etc etc etc

I've always been hard ans fuss about this one but it seems to change as I grow. I've always believed that if I a in a relationship with anyone and i do not grow as a person then that relationship is a waste of time.

People dont have to stay forever in our lives but sometimes they come so that we can learn more about ourselves. With some you get affirmations and with some you learn that its time for adjustments.

Either way change is always involved.

Tosinville:
The way ppl will look at a promiscuous lady in the society will be extremely different to a man who's a playa

Just in case you aint know so.

Now which age do you come from, too much disease out there. Penicillin doesn't cure everything anymore. A man who sleeps aroung is no longer a hero but a skank spreading something we all dont want.

Now tell me again, how does spreading useless seed when you cant even afford a date translate to playa

You need to divorce your society, they liiiieeeeed to you.

When he takes a woman out and comes back to NL to complain about the money he spent "on the woman", now that's cheap.

again when he looks forward to having a woman take care of the bill after a date, seriously how hungry can you be?

Not forgeting the one that sleeps around and then calls the women he slept with who-hores, ha!ha! look whose talking.

When his life is about wherever I lay my head, now that's totally crass. Guy go home and sleep in your own bed.

Yep! with no doubt in my mind. Some things in life come before others, simple.

Analyse this even you

nebeolisa:
[color=][/color]Me and my gf are inlove let's say about two yrs nd.
we often had funz like romance to the maximun point but anytime i want to go beyond romance she will say no bout dat. she keep telln me dat if i try to disvirgin her in next one week dat i will regret dat. cos she cant control herself bout sex. D worst part of it is dat she said to me dat as for now she belongs to me but is i tried to deflowered her she will became sex machine to any man

mmmhhhh! tapping my fingers on the table and shaking my head slooowly.

@OP, my answer is a perfect NO

Sorry but I went as far as the word possessiveness in your first two lines. There is no need to be a jealous lover. You just have to realise that people will only be with you because its what they want to do and that you have no control over it in any way whatsoever, so forget it.

[quote author=mr_chemist link=topic=626154.msg7935210#msg7935210 date=1300420158]Hello House I m new here just to share my experience and see your view , before taking action.
Last week my wife called from usa that she is not more interested in our marriage, This is a Girl i married in Nigeria after our marriage 2yrs ago we agreed that She moved to USA for Master while there she Had a baby for me , While she was there I send food stuff and items worth of Thousand that she resell and keep the money for her daily Use I called her last week that Now she is done with Master that she come home to Nigeria and she is saying not interested need your advice, Pls I m mature need reasonable answer pls,[/quote]@Mr_chemist I am sorry, but you dont marry anyone and then live separate lives. Something tells me this is the advice you will ever need for the rest of your life and maybe to pass on to your buddies someday.

obowunmi:
What religion is this: devil worshipping ?

kwakwakwakwakwakwakwa!!!!!!!

spacyzuma:
A 3-4 month relationship just ended for me about 3 weeks ago , and I've not gotten over her.

She's about 8 yrs older. Her fiance has been away and mine is far away too. She hadnt seen hers for more than 2 yrs, and I hadnt seen mine for more then 1 year [still havent seen mine].

KAI !! For a full week, I was SOOOOOOO depressed. I knew she was right since I'm not yet ready for marriage, and it would have been very selfish of me to ask her to leave her fiance. I called her for the 1st time last night [she's been calling me occasionally]. We still see almost everyday, but nothing happens again.

^^^Something doesnt tie up, please help me out? What is wrong with those two embolded lines

You have a fiance, you are not ready to be married and you are having an affair. whats's going on

SA Goddess:
I dedicate this song, to all the boys I have loved before *smiling while singing in my best Julio voice*

Aish Lady, making me teary now, I love that song AND all the boys it is dedicated to

Yeah! man LOVE is the religion.

SA Goddess:
O bonolo Lady (easy) falling inlove with "every-budy" but I know what you mean about not going back, we are always evolving and what was good for us 5 years ago may not necessarily be what we want now

haha! I knew as I was typing, that the lines leave room for such scrutiny . Some we Loved and some came and went. But all the same to all the boys I've loved before. Lets sing along

An increase, are the serious? I mean what the heck for since the only thing they are good for is is to repeat the same programmes month after month and year after year.

NO! NO! NO!

Sorry, I cant

No, not me, I think I've loved every guy I've been with enough. I still know all the reasons why I had to end the relationships or why they ended it. The last main one that got away was in 2007 and funny thing is, everytime he crosses my mind I just know I could never be with him again as I am very clear in my head about why it ended.

Do I still love him? Yeah! (depends on one's definition of love). Do I still want to be with him? No! I have grown since then and I have learned enough, enough for me to see my tomorrow and I dont see how he may fit in.

I smile a lot whenever I think of him, fond memories is what I decided to take for myself when it ended and I have no doubt he continues to make somebody just as happy wherever he is. That's all I have for him now.

[quote author=tpiah! link=topic=624483.msg7919167#msg7919167 date=1300223753]is the girl a ho because you slept with her, btw.

does sleeping with you confer whoredom on a female?

i dey ask because i fear for your fiancee o. [/quote]hhmmm! this question kinda makes you think. So @OP your answer is

This I've got to hear.

Girls, lesson number one and write that down, guys will go out with anything that oozes s3x believe me. Trust me, your real self says nothing s3x about you hence you are being overlooked.

Your real self makes you look like he's gonna have to work extra hard to get in your knickers.

Dont worry, you probably dont need to go out with a guy that is attracted to such. I just hate being the next girl he dates after he's been with such.

Yes I would, smoking is not everything. Aaaactually, better that I am with a person that would encourage me to quit.

@OP, I was about to advice you to get another guy, but now that you have one, I really don't know what to say to you because soon this relationship is ending. Just true talk

I think anyone can be the one, once you make up your mind about them.

It really doesnt matter, who what when how

@OP, I didnt read the story, but the answer is a big FAT "NO". Its better to always sleep with the one you love, just in case you know, if you know what I mean.

I've learned that th equickest way to recover from a breakup, is to see a breakup coming from a mile away and then start working on an exit plan. Lets be honest, most of the time we know when things arent so great anymore in a relationship, right?

Guys you know those moments, remember those times when anything that came out of your mouth just annoyed the crap out of her. Now those are the near end moments, and remember how the relationship crambled no matter how hard you tried to keep things together, mm those moments indeed, will save you a nasty heartache.

Those red flags are saying get out while you still have all the dignity in you.

pro01:
Could be either men or women. Depends on who invested the most (financially and/or emotionally), or who stands to lose the most. I've discovered that women move on very quickly and without remorse or gratitude if the guy they broke up with is pretty much an 'average joe' in terms of money, status and all else. But they nearly die of heartbreak if the guy they broke up with is a very desirable guy (rich, etc.). When they remember all the awoof suya, isiewu, point-and-kill peppersoup, cash hand-outs, endless 'trips', gifts, rain of recharge-cards, gettaways to exotic places, and so on which they enjoyed from the guy. . .all of which made her the envy of her friends. . .they would nearly commit suicide when the relationship ends (unless she was lucky enough to meet an even 'bigger boy' shortly before or after the break-up).

eerrhhmmm! Not so fast, please highlight that the situation above is only more devastating if girl was seeing all these things you've mentioned here for the first time through the guy. Adnd obviously cant afford to get them herself. Otherwise any joe can hit the road if he is not meet the basic requirements. For a girl who can afford all these things, the issue is the TIME, let me say that again TIME  wasted on the man while she could have been doing other things with her life.