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Its a waste of time and energy

It makes one loose focus and miss great opportunities.
you may end up loosing the true love of your life who would have been your perfect husband/wife

All the brothers in here that will agree to marry a girl because of a ride are all broke a$$ losers.
You'll forever remain a puppet in her grip. Love or no love.

@poster, wake up from your day dreams and work hard for your future

"The future belongs to those who prepare today", Malcolm X.

Very ready but still searching for a cool headed, simple, educated christain lady

Cutlass ke? The woman no get brothers and parents?
Unless the woman tried to poison him and failed, i dont see what she could have done to deserve cutlass cuts.
what is she still doing in that house?
Legally, they can lock up the man and throw away the keys. YES. Thats assault and attempted murder.

From the way i'm seeing a lot of marriages in Naija, our girls are all marrying for the wrong reasons and soon their fantasies and infatuations quickly turn to nightmares

Theblessed:
No, men are not rare or scarce rather, they are scared of commitment, marriage and responsibility, that's really it. By the way, who would say they warm up to responsibility No, one! As of commitment? Men have always been scared of being tied to one woman hence the high rate of infidelity among men - and its so good the girls are catching up.

1. The Economic situation in the country makes most young men afraid of getting married, thats why it seems men are scarce

2. Some of Those who have made it financially are still scared because most ladies now are only interested in men's financial capacity

3. Because our girls are now materialistic, good ones are hard to find (i don search tire)

4. Infidelity is a spiritual/ psycological problem. Not all men/women cheat

i dated a girl for 4 years and i never cheated on her. Not once.

Morrocco and Libya are just transit points for them.

Their destination is Europe. Most of them travel by road through Kano and Sokoto, across the desert just to get to Libya or Morocco and then if lucky are smuggled into Spain via fishing vessels.

Many die en route to Libya. Its a real tragedy

According to Chief Zebrudaya of New Masqurade, "i'm does not gree, i'm does not gree are tear cloth"

chaircover:
I dont know why you singled me out with that question, however the answer is;

God forbid.

I respect my husband too much for that; respect that he has righfully earned over the years

i singled you out cos i like your name. chaircover "akwa-oche" besides you sound interesting

xstdreason:
I will expect d man to take his mum. He can always find another wife & its a man,s world u knw,

i get your point. No woman will want her sons to choose their wives over her

spikedcylinder:
Lol! Wtf is jiggy jiggy?

so you dont know?
its that thing you do in cover of darkness without audience

A little evangelism wont hurt us.

I'm searching for the right lady. i no wan carry my bachelorhood enter next 2010.

strangleyo:
Want to see a modern day colony? Look nowhere than Hong Kong. It was run by a British Governor until 1996. I can almost guarantee that if Nigeria was a colony of the UK, ran by a British governor, it would look like Japan today, almost guaranteed. Our population density would allow the British to apply their highly successfull economic model.

However, is that what we want? To be run by the white man?

I think if the British had the the time to break our tradition of patronage we would have been a world superpower today (not African, WORLD superpower, with nukes, tanks, etc).

Yep. Hong Kong is paradise.

But This is just pure fantasy

Beaf:

Kai! Mere hunters on holiday from trapping grasscutters now want to commit suicide!
Their loved ones should warn them that rat traps arent the equal of heavy duty machine guns.

Only coffin builders could have given OPC such bad advice. . . Fight MEND ke! Wa shere!

This is hilarious

Even the great US Army lost a war in the jungles/swamps of vietnam. JTF dey fear to enter the swamps

i wonder how OPC dey plan to take revenge sef.
The worst they'll do is to start a riot in their own back yard and agberos will loot the shops of innocent people as usual

The black guy is wearing a really nice pair of sneakers. He's lucky he's in a cool neighborhood. He'd been mugged

Beaf:
Now, this is one contructive leader the nation can be proud of.
God bless the man.

Amen to this Prayer

And these are people who claim to be fighting crime and corruption.

Nigeria i salute thee

Nobel Laureate, Professor Wole Soyinka, has slammed the Yoruba Council of Elders (YCE) over their comment describing the bombing of the Atlas Cove jetty by the Movement for the Emancipation of the Niger Delta (MEND) as an invitation to inter tribal war.

Speaking at a press conference in Lagos yesterday, Professor Soyinka asserted that the recent attack on the oil jetty in Lagos belonging to the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation (NNPC) by MEND fighters had no ethnic consideration as some people including the YCE leadership would like the world to believe.

Soyinka, warned against any reaction that would attempt to turn the attack into an assault on any ethnic group, stating emphatically that, “I don’t feel I have been assaulted as a Yoruba man by the attack.”
He, therefore, warned against any form of reaction by anybody that could link the attack with any attempt to single out an ethnic group as a target of attack warning that, such unguided reactions could be more dangerous than the bombing of installations.

Hear him: “There are dangers that are greater, even than the bombing of the Atlas Cove. There are other forms of dangers which can emerge from the kind of language and kind of reactions whenever anything abnormal happened. And particularly, with an attempt to turn the unfortunate event into an assault by one ethnic group against another by any organisation.

“In other words, I think that, our response should not be based on ethnic recognition. And so, leaders, elders and perceived leaders of thoughts should be more guided in their language,” Soyinka warned.
While suspecting that those who carried out the bombing in the name of MEND might be dissidents that might have proliferated the ranks and files of the group, the Nobel Laureate stated further that, “in the history of the world, there has never been any kind of movement which does not have its share of its dissidents,” just as he advised that, the MEND has the responsibility, like any other liberal organisations, to flush out the defiants from its midst.

Speaking further, the concerned scholar advised President Umaru Musa Yar’Adua not to lose the opportunity presented by the Niger Delta crisis to solve the fundamental problems of the country holistically, saying the cause of the agitation was the same issues other organisations like the Pro-National Conference (PRONACO) had been complaining about.

Though Soyinka welcomed the idea of the amnesty for the militants, he expressed strong conviction that amnesty was just part of the solution, pointing out the need for the country to be restructured in line with vision 1960, where every component of the country had the chance of developing at its own pace.

Soyinka wanted restructuring that would address physical federalism, revenue generation, derivation, contribution and distribution, as well as electoral process that would make people’s votes to count, stressing that, the problems could not be solved outside holistic approach.
According to the renowned author, it would be foolish and naïve for anybody to think that, when a problem was solved at a small corner, the whole problem had been solved, pointing out that, MEND really wanted the real mending of the country and not re-branding it.

Nigeria, Soyinka said, needed complete body work like a vehicle, pointing out that, re-branding was like putting lipstick on a pig which could never make it Year 2020 Miss Nigeria.
MEND, Soyinka stated, meant proper mending in deep concept, stating that, it was foolish to have dismissed the militants as a bunch of rascals the way the government wanted us to see them.
On the issue of demand for apology, the Nobel laureate said the demand was borne out of emotion, adding that some languages like ‘ultimatum’ and the likes were very dangerous in some circumstances.
To Soyinka, every Nigerian suffered various types of denials in the contraption called Nigeria, saying other meanings of violence included denial of shelter, denial of basic infrastructure for Nigerian to reproduce their lives in more dignified level and denial of democratic right to choose who should govern them through free and fair election.

Excerpts from the press briefing:
Atlas Cove bombing
We must begin by sending our condolences to the relations of the victims of the Atlas Cove attack. We must deplore the necessity of any kind of action that leads to losses of Nigerians’ lives as a result of insecurity. This and other factors that are lamentable. They are not normal. We are not living under normal circumstances. I will like to appeal to Lagos State Government to do something for the dependants of the casualties of the attack and also to wherever possible, beef up security because it is the responsibility of any government.

Having said that, there are dangers which are greater than even than the blowing of the Atlas Cove. We have spoken about the physical conflagration. But then, there are other forms of potential conflagration which can be from the kind of language, from the kind of attitude that had been expressed when an unusual event of this nature happens - the attempt to turn this as an attack by one ethnic group against another or by one organization against an ethnic group. In other words, I feel that our response can’t be based on any kind of any ethnic recognition.

Fashola’s response
This violence took place on Lagos soil. The Lagos State Government which is responsible for the safety of its citizens has the responsibility to protect its citizens. That is understood. That is the responsibility of the governor. He’s the chief security officer of Lagos and his ward or constituency, Lagos State. But I noticed with great commendation that Governor Fashola never attempted to turn this into an assault on his ethnic group. Fashola spoke as the governor of Lagos with the concern of Lagos, his own responsibility. What I deplore is the attempt by other groups to suggest that this was an assault on the Yoruba people.
As a Yoruba man, I want to state quite clearly that I don’t think that I have been assaulted because of the reality of ethnic grouping.

Danger signal!
And it is very dangerous and far more dangerous than even the explosion which took place on the Atlas Cove. The kind of language that is used to classify it as ethnic attack is fraught with dangers, not only for the Yoruba people, not just for Lagos State, but also for the entire nation and I think that elders, especially those who called themselves elders and therefore leaders of thought and leaders of reactions and responses, have to be far more guarded in their language. The facility that was blown up, I am not aware that it was labelled Yoruba oil depot. I haven’t seen any Benin Oil Depot, I haven’t seen any Hausa Oil Depot. I haven’t even seen any Ijaw Oil Depot.

So, where does ethnicity come into the picture? It’s a very dangerous use of language because of the way it appears to sycophants, to those who are physically prone to violence anyway, who are looking for any excuse to inflict mayhem on any community. That type of language, the language of ultimatum, the language of ‘we the Yoruba people and so on…’ is unacceptable especially given the very circumstances of this particular attack.

Violence
Now, let me use this opportunity also to say one or two things about violence. In the history of the world, there has never been any kind of movement, however principled, which does not have its share of the mentally unbalanced, of the opportunists of the sycophants, of the kidnappers, of the sorcerers even racists.
It is not unusual and people should stop pretending that MEND, those who claim they are acting or defending the same course as MEND, you find among them, those who do not have conviction of any kind, not even an ethnic conviction. It is not unusual.

Violence has been institutionalized in this nation anyway. Thuggery has been institutionalized and at no time more frequently so, than under the last president of this nation. We had an entire state handed over to thugs. We had the president of the nation as political a father to a notorious son and virtually handing over the whole state to him. We had the state of Anambra handed over with the connivance of the Federal Government to thugs for mayhem.

So, let’s not over dramatized violence, at least not in this particular country. What I’m saying is this, don’t let’s get too sanctimonious.
Don’t let’s start pretending that we are not aware that human being is such that, the purity attached very often is to the loftiest ideals. Therefore, nobody in this country should expect an organization like MEND, to be composed entirely of angels. But MEND also has a responsibility to assist the general community in flushing its racketeers. This is the responsibility of any liberal organization.

Opportunity for Yar’Adua
But the government of Yar’Adua again is about to lose another opportunity. What do I mean? You hand over amnesty, you offer rehabilitation money, you offer the proposed structures for the mobilization etc. etc. But this government is still making a fundamental mistake. The crisis of the Delta region can only be solved holistically because the core issue for which MEND is fighting, from my research and contact with some MEND militants is exactly what the majority of people have been fighting for, for many years – the restructuring of this nation on more equitable lines. We are talking about fiscal federalism, for instance. We are talking about issues of revenue allocation, derivation, generation etc. etc. We are talking about the distortion that has taken place since this nation obtained “independence.”

In one of my articles, I did pose a question that people are talking about 20-2020, whatever happened to the Vision1960. You can’t be talking about 2020, when you have already distorted the Vision of 1960, which was a federal vision which enabled various regions to generate their resources for development, deciding their own priority, a kind of equitable relationship between a component part of the federation of Nigeria. All that has been distorted. MEND is simply PRONACO by other means. What PRONACO was about, was precisely to avoid the result to this other means. The aims of PRONACO and MEND in fact, tally at various points. It is the methodology that is different. That is why I used the expression, ‘MEND is simply PRONACO by other means’ and the problem of the Niger Delta can’t be solved outside a holistic concept of what Nigeria should be.

Apology demand
We need to distinguish between pragmatism, realism and emotionalism. I can take the demand for apology etc., to be an emotional reaction. What becomes so dangerous as I said is issuing ultimatum. To whom are you issuing it exactly? Do you know MEND? Who are the forces of MEND? Who do you direct the ultimatum to? I don’t like the language of ultimatum especially when that ultimatum is being issued on behalf of the entity that which I am a part of. Yoruba nation issuing an ultimatum? I don’t like that language.
Once again, I wish to re-emphasise the loss of lives and the fact that the violence shifted to Lagos. It is unlikely to recur if things move on at the projected tempo and pace.

Re-branding or Mending
We have a lot of re-branding and we have MEND, which like a coincidence, is an acronym which poses itself as a kind of conceptual option to re-branding. Is what Nigeria needs re-branding or mending that it requires? If you have a rickety vehicle for instance, if you are re-branding with a coat of paints on it, even repair some of the woods in the Bolekaja, put slogans, ‘united we stand, divided we fall,’ ‘it’s a long way to heaven,’ some of those things we used to see. We don’t see them often now. I regret them because I used to call them mobile mirrors. You cannot re-brand those things because the engine of the vehicle is still going to knock. The body work is going to fall into pieces. The paint will peel sooner or later. You have got to mend that vehicle in a very structured way. You’ve got to get to the inner workings and completely retool the components of that vehicle before you can start re-branding. Otherwise, all the expressions, trying to put a lipstick on a pig’s mouth… it is still a pig. It doesn’t turn the pig to Miss Nigeria beauty queen or beauty queen of 2020. No.

When I hear to re-brand, re-brand, my mind actually goes to mend, mend, mend. What we need to do is to mend this vehicle and mend it in a more fundamental way. And that is the question that has been passed by MEND. That is why it has been foolish all along to dismiss the militants in the Delta as a bunch of rascals as the governments had tried to do for so many years. That’s what has brought us to our present situation. Let’s not sentimentalise violence. We know what violence is. We know the violence that is being committed against Nigerian people even as I speak – violence that comes from the denial of facilities, denial of shelter, violence that comes from the basic infrastructure, that enables people to reproduce themselves. These are all forms of violence.

Are You a MEND supporter?
I am not sympathetic to MEND. But I have been involved in Delta crisis and in a very constructive way. The Nobel laureate visited the region, presented proposals to the Federal Government.

Rev. Kukah’s attack on you on Obama’s visit to Ghana
If you want to wait for Obama to come and re-brand Nigeria for you, you’ll wait for so long. You see, I know about the article you are referring to. I read it and decided to ignore all the statements because some people really have a problem with language. I would have expected somebody of Father Kukah’s intelligence to know that there are things called metaphor. There is metaphorical speaking. Anybody who thought that if Obama had come here, that I was actually going to indeed pick a stone and stone him, that person is most likely mentally troubled. That is what I can say about that. But the language, what I meant should have been clear to the entire world. So, all this is a metaphorical language. Those who have a problem with that, I am very sorry, they are mainly abusing their own intelligence. I didn’t expect that type of commentary coming from somebody of Father Kukah’s pedigree. He’s intelligent. I had worked with him on issues. It’s bit disappointing.

No matter where we are, we always think of home, cos sooner or later we will go back.

The guy himself should have brought it all up before marriage so that the girl knows what she's getting into. UK is not their home and Africa has a way of beckoning one to return.

The guy should explain his reasons for wanting to relocate to his wife and ask her to join him for a try out. If she doesnt like it, well they'll cross that bridge when they get there.

That's why i no wan marry oyibo.

chaircover:
Completely wrong

There are many “normal” men out there who remain faithful to their wives till they die.

Being unfaithful is a choice a man or woman makes and is not forced on anyone; same as you will choose to drink or smoke etc.

For once i agree with you

:-x

ol boy you funny.
anya gi du kwa na umu oma ndi ozo, yar'adua muru? Idikwa egwu

Nwanne, idikwa too much o

RSA:
The bottom line is there is no Giant in Africa because there is poverty in every country in Africa.

Any country that totally wipe out poverty in it's population,will be worth being called Giant.Until then we're all corrupt,poor third world countries,nothing more and nothing less.

if we go by the emboldened statement, it means there is no country in the world, worthy of being called Giant, because every country in the world has its share of poor and homeless people including USA and UK

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Nna men, Emeka, na wah o. you don dey eye person wife

any way, the babe fine sha. but be careful before they amputate your hand for looking another man wife

Abroad, ok(for rent sake + other issues)

but in naija, i'm against it totally.

Check yourself, before you wreck yourself and find yourself all by yourself.

Get a divorce sharply. He's clearly not yet over his ex

Sounds like a question you'd ask at a bachelors party

mama no get part 2

@poster
but you'll have sex before marriage?

Dont tell me you're a virgin.

since you've agreed to marry the guy, whats wrong with that? you've both been sleeping together for the fun of it, so what difference does it make.

its just a matter of no longer using condom or contraceptives.

As long as the guy has paid your bride price, carry goooo

3 of us can make it to safety.

Mum would use 1 parachute

My wife and i would use the 2nd. (i learnt that theory in military school)

@chaircover
would you have done what the woman did?

@outstrip
remember the poster said they got into a heated arguement. Women have a tendency to rant and say things they wont even remember when they're angry.

The man should have known that pregnant women have mood swings. They can get angry for no reason at all.
If she wasnt pregnant and pulled this kind of stunt, i'd say she deserves some serious punishment which can come in any form the husband desires, but in this case, she has her "hormones over drive" as an excuse. So sad.

Thanks

Redman44:
Like someone said earlier on, the chinese and other asians cannot be really trusted to execute a perfect job. Nigeria needs to start collaborating with countries like Canada and the scandinavian countries of Sweden, Norway, Denmark and Finland. Canada has a special interest in developing countries.

I've used the subways in Hong Kong and China and they're great. Chinese firms are currrently working in Russia. The Russian military boots and kits are produced in China.

If you like invite contractors from another Planet, our politicians always ruin everything.

Redman44:
. When CANWEST was supplying NTA with programmes in the 80's and early 90's, NTA was the best in Children's entertainment. CANWEST'S programs were educative and very interesting. Where is NTA today? The Asians are in Africa to exploit us. They have their own agenda for Africa. Cheers.

We have talented and creative minds in Nigeria. We dont need to look outside for such. Our writers can do wonders and provide programmes which will be acknowledged internationally.

NTA is controlled by the government and also suffers from corruption.