Is this a topic? , and what am i doing replying sef, (walks out)

What i simply see is lack of control over your own household? are you playing your role as a man? if you are then how can you leave your house for your wife and her mother? what kind of man are you? so if she brings in her boyfriend you pack out of the house too? You better go back to your house before some strangers assumes your role! if they are not ready to abide by what you say show them the door!!!!

This is a mightily clean car, and for a good price. Happy sale

There can never be justification for killing the innocent civillians but neither should criminal hide under the guise of freedom struggles, we are one nigeria regardless of all the odds. Giving free money to strong abled men in the name of amnesty would only indidcate that the hard working ones are fools; subsequently breeding more militants. A saying goes "Victory achieved by violence is the greatest defeat".

Most people who fall for scams have traces of greed in them, these prices are preposterous, if you always want to reap where you did not sow then you would always be a potential Mugu !!!!

Do not start a chain reaction, the pleasure would just be like 20 minutes and the consequence might last you a life time!!!!! beware!!! Its not weird to have such feelings, talk to your wife because this signifies a lack in your marriage, she should give you more time. Her friend cooking for you signifies are lack of time for her family, that shouldn't happen. her friend must take her leave NOW!!!!

Sort out the trust issue with your wife, if she prevents you from the housemaid can she prevent you from all other females outside? Trust is the key word! Then hope you haven't done anything in the past to warrant such orders. The no housemaid contact is Totally wrong!!!!!

First clear your conscience; it was not the charm that worked, it was your desperation and persistence that got him. As per his behaviour ; your desperation got you blinded to his bad part before you married him, he had it all along thats why he could travel without telling you. Try all sorts of counselling and if it doesnt work; live with it or leave him.

Its different strokes for different folks. No fast rule, do not condemn Nigeria. I work in a communication company and we are all paid well, yes I agree not everybody would get that opportunity but saying Nigeria is all bad is myopic. Stay anywhere that works for you, its just that most of us are hypocrites and we would never come to terms with the truth. Please some of us should watch this program on Zone Reality tv "UK Border force" and you would understand what I am saying. We do much international travelling in my company and we are much respected at the embassies, we meet our people in some countries and wonder why they continued to wallow in misery in a foreign land. Yes again there are some lucky ones that have legal stay and good jobs but I would rather have a very good job amongst my people than have a good job in a foreign land where my colour "may" be a disadvantage for me. Some of you may not agree with me but we are all entitled to our opinions. As one wise man said "I have never learnt from someone that agrees with me", Most knowledge comes from disagreements. Remember that where your heart is; that's HOME for you.

Gays are born not made, don't even bother you cant change him, take your child and find another husband.

Daughters of Eve, when would men stop being fooled, hmmmmmmmm

I love Nairaland . , , , This is what Indian Hemp and computer system can produce!

A big YES!!!!!!! and they would gladly do it even for less and throw in his mother as goodwill.

What advise do you need? the facts are clear- she is HIV+, you now did "skin diving", so what else you wanna know? you two are selfish because you did not consider the faith of those kids, i rest my case.

All the ladies that responded that the poster should send his wife to catering school should cover their faces with their hands, This world don spoil o!!!!!! haba why dont you also advise him to send her to school of motherhood too? or school of marriage!!!! well, i dont blame you all or the woman, i blame the guy! didnt he notice this before he got married to her? why cry over spilt milk now. Abeg this is your cross; carry it!

This would have been an interesting topic if not for the tribalistic undertone. Tribalism in this modern age when the world is becoming a global village is rather parochial. No tribe is superior to the other. As per the allegations, "Let him who comes to equity come with clean hands".

This topic has been very interesting and educative, now i know some serious abusive words in hausa!!!!!

Wole Soyinka once said " it is only a mad man that would challenge a man that holds a gun". As much i dont subscribe to brutality from the armed forcemen, let private civillian citizens be careful with their actions and words. 90% of us would do worse than what these forcemen did if we were given the power. "Do you know who i am?" that sentence has caused a lots of trouble for people. Nothing stops you from walking away from a potential imbroglio, swallow your pride and pocket your ego for your family's sake. Remember these Armed Forcemen are human too; gentle answer turns away wrath. If you suffer a permanent body damage, hundred newspaper publications wont return your lost body parts. Be wise.

Can you rename this post as "10 Lessons on How to lose a man",

I am bound to comment, christianity is not supposed to be a religion and it is not, it means Christ-like; its a way of life. As it is wrongly believed you are not born a christian, you can't inherit it from your parents or family, you earn it!!!!! you should be called a Christian by virtue of your behaviour i.e. you act Christ-Like. This was the qualification of the first set of people called Christian in Antioch.
As per spanking, emmmmmm, did Jesus say it? NO!!!!! You spank you go to Jail and no prayer would deliver you! Except you two agree to spanking for "unholy" purpose (wife is a masochist).   .

going on guilt trip,

I feel your pains, but is coming home never an option?

Most often in a relationship we notice some odd behavior in our spouse but because we are blinded by so called love and comfort we ignore it. We often get married to images of people rather than who they really are. As they say "wedding is wonderful; it is the living together after that is the problem". Your husband must have exhibited traits of this character while you were courting but you were blinded by the whirlwind romance, that is the common mistake most people make. We often think marriage is an escape route out of our problems or rather we rush into a marriage to rush out. I don't often advice people to leave their marriage because it is an institution laid down by God but nevertheless do not sit down when you know your life is at stake. The deed has been done, try sit him down and have a love talk with him, find out what you doing that makes him behave that way, if that doesn't work talk to his mother or your pastor, let them sit you both down. If that doesn't work then the love is dead, no bond yet, get out while you can still walk with your legs don't wait for a wheel chair or body bag to help you out!

Its a different case if you call your partner by pet name, but to downgrade them especialluy when there are 3rd parties e.g. from boyfriend to friend or from husband to boyfriend, then your hands are not clean and your intentions questionable!!!!!! i can bet it your introduction would differ if he shows up in Range Rover Sport !!! you would borrow microphone to announce to everyone that cares to listen that you own him; upgrading him from Boyfriend to Husband!!!! Women/Men and Hypocrisy!!!

Cant really see the essence of this post, mschweeeeeeee!!!!!!![sub][/sub]hissed and walked out,

Whether we like it or not, our parents have important roles to play in our marriage, atimes they might be unreasonable but its not for us to decide. i'm sure your mum told you the exact reason she doesnt think you two are compartible but maybe you dont wanna share here, tis alright. Rememeber the adage that says, "what the elders see while lying down, the young ones would not see even if they climb to the top of a mountain". Have a family meeting with your mother and an elder in your family and if she insists, bro, dont make your mother your enemy,

Bloody opportunist, remember what goes round comes round, karma is a b*tch!!!!!!

Your mother did right o! and its for your girlfriend's good. Girls of nowadays don spoil, if you give a guy everything wey wife suppose give am, why would he wants to marry? If a man can get all that sex, food and house upkeep without the hassle and commitment of marriage why would you think he would marry you? once he gets tired, out you go!!!!!!

I have a "B" word for him, I wish he rots in hell with his donation

What positive impact does BBA have on young people? are the housemates role models? was Uti well behaved with all his drinking, smoking and blabbing? so what is Mr president talking about? If he wants Nigerian youth to emulate Uti then GEJ leaves much to be expected. I think the president and his wife should leave all comments and talking to Presidency's Press officers, His words are always coming out with controversies