Hassanmaye:

Lol so intelligent and straight to the point, the problem is most people don't use their God given brain to think, just imagine if she said this it will have been over, but no she went up to hanging up his phone, Any girl that hang up my phone I will never marry her, my ex try that nonsense with me, I just japa me that I be alpha.

I have come to an understanding, never expect anything rational from a woman, there was a time i consider japa as a solution buh with time i come to realize how many women person wan run from, japa is a short term tinz best solution i s choose a gurl that shows tendencies of reasoning like a man, she go quick blend

Topleague:
good one @ pocohantas. Wish am still single

who says you can't marry two wives or divorce your wife. Man up

Trayceey:
you children boys should be there debating on my matter with your free MB. A guy that has already called me last night apologising to me

Aunty with a luxury data ... keep decieving yourself. ofcus naa him go beg buh remember if you fool us you can't fool yourself. enjoy d cruise

Fiscus105:



If you carry this toxic orientation into ur mariage .....i know it will wane down before you tie the knot, but if you try it, women will find it hard to leave with you

It as nothing to do with been toxic, let just call it redpill. if the requisite to having a wife @home is to be a fool for her then i don't wana marry.

Fiscus105:



I concur, it seems the tongue op used too heavy, If you follow my comments you will notice I don't comment on her post directly despite I saw the post earlier, I started commenting on comments that attacking mother in law, in this situation the person who made biggest mistake is fiance, I keep repeating it, though op didn't play her card accurately as well. We are In Africa let play accordingly plz, we should stop bringing ailien culture at detriment of our own,

My wife can not imagine going to my parents house without bringing gifts even when I complain I don't have money, likewise me

According to op, going to his in law house not compulsory because he told him, she would be around, why can't he stay behind if he doesn't prepare to give them gifts not even December period

Oga school we go shouldn't make us to jettison our culture of decency o, instead we should promote culture and politeness

Let me repeat my self, my sisters and brothers in laws used to complain I don't use to call, will it good to tell them If I don't call they too can call me? I have never thought of it once


Place you are going which is not often, haba

20years ago your comment would have been EOD, boss asking us to abide by our culture in this modern age is out of place because all these gurls we have now, operate under foreign culture team slay
i understand your morals, your personality is still rooted in how you were raised,some of have this upbringing to, buh now we evolve with the trends, anyhow they bring it we give it back. a cultured gurlfriend won't cut the call on her husband to be.
A woman that wants a cultured man must be cultured herself, if you gimme foreign vibe mesef go come with maths set & tape rule.

Mariangeles:
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Get out of my mention with your nonsense!

How you or anyone think or feel about the Igbos is irrelevant! It doesn't change who we are. A GREAT PEOPLE!

aunty you wrote "great" instead of "GREED" people. its in the blood we get

Fiscus105:



Follow nairaland people at ur own peril, many of them are just " fault finders". No matter how good intentions of the posts, they will attack the posters, many of the guys (attackers) can't try to go empty handed to ordinary girlfriend place not talk of mother in law.

Even sister in law, I buy gifts not to talk a whole mother of ur wife or wife to be.

Yet they will be Lamenting girls are bad, marriage is a scam

Why won't be problems for them, when they refused to play the game according to dictate of the rules

Bro its a "will" thing, no doctrine/culture stipulate you must bring gift. question of right or wrong doesnt play.
The most important thing a mother should be all about is ensure her daughter marries a gud man. gift is not the priority
I don't blame the mother and i won't blame the guy, the only person wrong here is the Op, instead of attacking her boyfriend she should have find a better way to give the guy heads up.

a call like; babe i notice you didnt come with any goodies to the house, i would love you to get something for mom o! no matter how small .. you can never tell these old people. laugh about it, a reasonable man wil get the message.

lielbree:

This is 2020. The age of telling people how to live based on custom and tradition created by a long dead person is gone!

The so called custom started one day. It was created by someone during his time. This is the time of others and they have the right not to live by the dictates of those before them.

As much as I personally do not like polyandry and polygamy, I and no one else has the right to condemn or try and ulter this woman and her husbands lifestyle. It's their choice!

Even if its 2050, you av to come to an understanding that customs, religion and laws are formidable factors that will alway influence our lives then you will realize time & age can only do little.
Truly we live in a modern world n people now decide what they want buh the fact is, laws & customs regulate how we attain our wants to a large extent, whether we admit it or not religion still influences our decision making. its 2020 a slay queen still quote "till wedding nite" as a guide in r/ship.
i don't have to condemn the woman am only postulating if polyandry is sustainable, can it last knowing a man's nature

lielbree:


It has worked for many people. Besides, people kick against it just same way people kick against polygamy.

it as work for many people, can we get an example in your family or just mention two women in nigeria married to two men presently.
our tradition & custom + two out of three religion supports polygamy while polyandry has none not even women are in support

molbic:
Chika Ike fine babe without personal man in her life. I wonder why Nigeria men dey run from successful ladies, Anyway if I were her I would froze my remaining eggs cause I know ago ain't in her side anymore

j




It not so hard to figure out, maybe you are refusing to acknowledge the truth.

Mycoin:
so because she flies private jet now makes her a prostitute and prospective wife of some man...

why do we Nigerians always have to be pessimistic and bittered ....

success to the babe...

Nigerian can be bitter & pessisimistic or even more @times, buh does are income commensurate the living style she is living. i think thats what people look @ most times.

Brachaa:


Mehnn see Hermes bag oo. I'm sure this bag will be running into 1.5M by now. Wow!

This was exactly how Regina was lured with private jet things.

This man should just open a foundation for the single ladies instead of calling it marriage. This one don't pass marriage o. Lol.. see cruise.

Ned Ned. This your ladies care foundation biz is thriving o. Lol .

I need that Hermes bag right now (not without a car though) ... Lol.. * jumps outta thread**

If you don't mind i have boiz in Aba that can produce that hermes bag, same size same colour ... our own wil even come with a fragrance the original no get, with hermes bodly written on it. @ affordable price price

lielbree:
God in the beginning never created man and two wives. He created Adam and Eve.

Man then started marrying multiple women. It all started one day.

Now women have started their own.

It's a free world...

polygandry is not new, do your research, moreover the fact that it is not sustainable makes it an issue for less concern. whoever wants to marry two men should do so, its not every time you tell a child not to put hands in fire , @ some point you let him/her try

pocohantas:
Marrying 2 men isn’t better than one. Apart from providing, which they even struggle to do now- what will you be doing with 2 men/husbands?

Will they wash, cook or clean? Will they be submissive? Or they will just sit on the couch like overgrown babies, waiting for her to serve them.

She better use one for rituals. Pffttt

Making money is not suppose to be easy its understandable if men are struggling with keeping up to provide and as a matter of fact if men cease to provide we all know what we happen to lots of women, the lekki gurls & our so called celebs.

cococandy:
the world didn’t end when men were doing it. Y’all must think God only exists to massage your egos.

For a sec lets forget about the world, its not a question of whether it wil roll or stop, you as a woman know how unrealistic is it to serve two husband @ a time.
Truly God did not only exist to massage men's ego... buh even @that, every condition favours man. also remember sex is detrimental to a woman's pride just as it validates a man's ego.

Ardar:
This is a real Alpha female.

Why have one when I can have two or more?

Talks is cheap aunty nike, just do it

Biglittlelois:
A welcome development, Indian women do it, so nothing new here.

I wonder how something as old as polyandry is a welcome development, maybe you don't know it was outlaw in northern nigeria as far back as 1968. I mentioned you cos i notice a self contradiction,

Enoch07:
omo!! sex therapist dey pay ooo

You can rent a shop or an office to start as well ...

vickydankal:

Who told you I’m interested in pulling your legs, if you find it too hard to believe my comment just try and change the type of ladies that you have been dating.

Some of us ladies are too useful to be in a relationship and not contribute financially.

Easy, lol ! i don't mean it that way and i don't need to change the type of ladies around me they are doing fine on there own thats ok.

thebosstrevor1:


you missed the point, the man didnt say you can not contribute, what he wrote down was about men preying on their wives finances thinking it is their own.

He has a point tho ! buh what he forget is that, most men that prey on there wives don't have or earn little compared to there wives. imagine linda ikeji marrying an average man, if she can't augment him with all she has ..whose shame abeg
A man that earn twice or triple of what his wife brings home wil most definitely not care about the wife income or need it.

vickydankal:
If my husband thinks this way I already have a problem. Any man that does not want the financial contribution of the wife, may as well ask her to stop working. Yes the man is the head of the house, if I can’t contribute why Am I here?


We will reach the family goal faster when we join heads together financially.

thanks for pulling our legs mrs.

SilverNorGold:


You are actually wrong

So if the guy wishes death to such heartless d

That said, Silver and Gold I do not have. That which I have I have given.

If am not wrong how will i learn and there is more to gain from learning sef.
In my own view i don't believe in 3rd party, i see creation in two ways only i.e you are either these or that, you are either black or white, whatever you now call ur complexion is ur cup of tea, by the virtue of creation there is no middle ground.
we have alphas & betas as you corrected, simping is a behavoral act exhibited by betas around women, simping varies, it could be low, high or extreme. remember betas don't have a mind of there own so external factors influences the volume.
Laycoon for instants is a beta buh his environment(street) is not conducive for simping so it on the low in him, when he got to BB, the environment changed nd almost turn up d simping in him, buh vee altered the settings.
Ozo is also a beta, he came from an environment conducive for simping, so it high in him, getting to BB its a similar environment, so he went on simping, there is no orientation in him that could make him feel he is fvckingup.
Both laycoon & ozo are beta/simps the difference is just that laycoon has orientation while ozo has none.
Taking redpills won't turn any beta to an alpha, the essence is just to regulate simping.
What keeps an alpha in check his is own intuitions and instinct while orientation is the only thing that keeps a beta in check.
Extreme simping not common has an underline factor such as mental disorder, voodoo. lastly i don't know how you came about simp are dangerous or killers

SilverNorGold:


The good news is that simps are not very common in Nigeria. Most of the guys they call simps are actually Mr Nice Guys. Don't ever pray to have anything conjugal with a simp. That they're less common doesn't mean they are in hundreds. Lol, they're in the millions, but still less, compared to the Nice Guys.

I understand that women with too many body counts want to settle down later in the future with a Nice Guy. But, LOL, don't mistake a Nice Guy for a Simp..

Bros i see you are having a misconception here, there are only two categories of men, i. an aplha ii. simp, as far as the feminine world is concern.
"Nice" is just an attribute that can be found in both an alpha & simp as well. the way we apply these very attribute is what differs, an alpha is nice to both gender buh more incline to his fellow man but a "simp is only nice to women n more incline to women. who is a simp?
A “Simp” is a man who is needy and a fool for women. the act of “Simping” means foolishly over catering to the exaggerated emotions of women.
In the animal kingdom only the alpha males procreate buh we are humans thats unrealistic, besides simps are just weakling for women buh they do well tew. why i disgree with vbunja on death 2 simp. its uncalled for - + makes d world.
Simps are common in every western & civilized countries, there is nothing like mr nice guy and a simp. simp or alpha no 3rd party

austine4real:
Lagos landlady



This is just to distract us



We have not heard anything from them since after the election

Edo election should be considered a lose for oshomole not apc, i don't see what jagban stands to gain where oshomole is

Sixfeetbelle:


Telling fellow ladies to condemn this act wouldn't change anything since men won't tell their fellow men to shun promiscuity. A nigga is cheating on his girlfriend with just about any lady and yet none of his friends will call him to order, but somehow you expect us to call ladies to order to achieve what? For more randy men to take advantage of them? Are they sex dolls? Even sex dolls get paid for. Premiumly.

I'd say girls who beg do it cause they know the men they beg from ultimately wants the pussy. The way I see it, it's a win-win scenario and interfering is pointless.

Don't mind him jare, how could he have exempted you, are you not a woman ... no matter what we say a gurl we never consider asking her man for money "begging" she earned it the moment she gave him her body thats d mentality.
The only way forward is equality, and not the selective equality feminist in naija preach.

Biglittlelois:



You have two options;

Tell her point blank that you won't give a dime,

Or

Delete her from your life.

The best option is to change the class of ladies you date/make friends with.

I don't think changing class of ladies really solves anything, cos entitlement is just a thing for women ... the only difference in these women is just how they go about it.
The mentality is just if you are my intimate boyfriend & i don't chop ur money then what are we doing ,same way guys feel if you are my gf and i don't have ur body whats that
it all boils down to entitlement sired in us, don't be surprise a cuppy wuld tax anthony joshua if they ever get intimate.
Women have other options of money tho buh naa man money sweet pass according to what i was told, the craving can be compared to what lions av for buffalo meat

mariahAngel:


For your information, this "simp" is the most desired Nigerian man by most Nigerian ladies.

Its like you took the words right out of there expression ...

Kriss216:

Means Evening newspapers and feminists don't stand a chance

i remember then we use to refer to those aunties as homebase, God 4give us.