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And who is Ronald Opus? A Nigerian politician?

Girlfriend-beating or wife-beating is a very easy problem to solve. All you need is a central database where girlfriends of violent men can submit their names and say "this is what he did, future girlfriends beware". But if you discuss it with women they'll express absolutely no interest.

If your husband is beating you and you take it to your mother she wil say "bear with it". If you take it to his mother she would say "it's your fault". SO I put the blame squarely on the shoulders of the womenfolk. If they are not happy with the status quo, then they should throw their weights behind efforts to change things.

Thanks, de-king, for sharing this story with us.

I think the blame lies solely with women - they permit it, they encourage it. If a mother trains her son not to be a wife-beater, he would not be a wife-beater. Nigerian women are quite liberated but they insist on holding on to traditions that do not pay them. In addition to that, women in positions of influence (e.g. mother of the husband) do little to discourage this problem from extending to the next generation.

I I'm going to put the blame on the women 100%. If you're interested in statistics, I know a marriage counselor who discovered that 50% of husbands in pentecostal churches, those miracle-believing, bible-quoting people, beat their wives from time to time. And of course they are protected by their women; you will not know such a thing happens unless it's happening in your house.

Me? trip? No way? I don't trip for nobody!

Forgive me but I'm no longer in a position to give the prize. Thanks, everyone, for participating!

hot-angel, you'd better tell him what you want. If you want a small car, tell him you want a small car. make it clear that you won't be happy if he gets you a truck. Why would he want to spend so much money if you won't be getting what you want?

Seun Osewa.

Thank you, bioye. She was presentable enough to be accepted as the Vice President on the World Bank Group so what the hell are you girls saying? She's good enough for the world bank and for president Obasanjo but not good enough for you because you are ... what?

To you she seems local because she's wearing native dress? Haven't you seen Richard Branson wearing native dress when he's in Nigeria? Does that make him local?

Follow the first link on the first post, you'l see that she's a Havard and MIT graduate:
"Okonjo-Iweala graduated with a A.B. magna cum laude in Economics from Harvard University and holds a Ph.D. in Regional Economics and Development from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology." link. Those are two of the most respected universities in the world and she's a graduate of both.

Please, people, let's learn to pay attention to what's important.

If a popular (and supposedly beautiful) woman like Stella Damascus has even 7 kids, it doesn't stop men from wanting to go out with her and even marrying her. Same with Omotola (sigh) and any other actress who, apart from being beautiful, is percieved as being cool-headed. (men can fall for beauty but when marriage comes into the picture we simply do not like domestic stress).

[The generalissue of marrying women with kids should be discussed on a new topic]

The second poster has made a most insightful comment. Even if Stella Damascus is not yet dating (I don't believe she is), she has to keep a high public profile to keep the money flowing in. Stardom is all about being popular and if she doesn't keep herself in the public eye, she may be forgotten. A forgotten star is a hungry star, and we do not want her children to go hungry!

I use a Fixed Wireless Phone on an ISP known as Multilinks to get round-the-clock internet access at dial-up speed. It costs almost exactly 500 naira per day.

I started out blogging for adsense, but to succeed as a professional blogger it has to be your primary pre-occupation. You have to be able to project an interesting, likeable personality and write about popular topics, or else you'll need to pick a topic where you're the expert. (That's why I moved to forums; so people can discuss issues they love but I have absolutely no interest in - like Sports)!

Back to the topic: Bloggers in the house, what motivated you to start your blog?

I work on Nairaland day and night. This is where I get my daily bread, not a "fun" venture. And that is why I don't appreciate it when some people try to mess it up by not following the simple rules.

(Yes, Nairaland is actually cash-flow positive).

[url=http://bible.gospelcom.net/passage/?search=I%20Corinthians%207;&version=31;]1 Corinthians 7[/url]:

Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
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Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
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Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned.

Well, any comments?

"The separation of church and state is a concept and philosophy in modern thought and practice, whereby the structures of state or national government are proposed as needing to be separate from those of religious institutions. The concept has long been a topic of political debate throughout history."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Separation_of_church_and_state

ikebe - backside
lepa - slim woman
urobo - fat-ish woman

She is 51 years old but definitely prettier than most of the girls who are saying she needs a make-over. This is what we call "bad-belle" in Nigeria. You are upset with her because she has been able to achieve so much without depending on men's attraction for her.

You are upset because while you were busy spending all your time in the mirror trying to look good for men, this woman was busy climbing the ladder of success using the right tools - hard work, determination, ambition, intelligence - and not sexual apeal or 'woman-power'.

The people saying she needs to be more presentable are saying absolute nonsense. I think she looks quite good, but then again I think it's absolutely irrelevant. The fact that the girls are harping on something so irrelevant is proof that Nigerian women are not ripe for positions of influence.

Actually, kazey, IAH deserved the credit for that observation.

What do I consider as beauty in a woman? Here are my first thoughts:

- When the presence of a woman brings peace, tranquility, and love - not stress.
- When a woman is strong enough to make decisions that make a difference and take full responsibility for her actions, instead of hiding in the shadow of the men in her life.
- When a woman does not habitually tell lies. You'll be surprised how rare this is.

whizkid, please continue with your daily updates. I'm making this thread a sticky thread.

Hmm ... this won't work unless we have a dedicated section for ringtones.  Nairaland WAP doesn't yet have support for downloading of attachments.  For the Nigeria Jaga Jaga Ringtone, try this link:

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Owolabi, you ought to post the details of on this forum.

You might not notice it. It won't be up to a day, and I might even change my mind. But thanks for the love. According to my expectations at the time of that post I should not even be online right now.

Hmmm. Be patient with the travel arrangements; no need to rush. No need to see her "next week" though you eventually should. The more the hurry, the more the chance of overlooking something important.

So tell us about the travel arrangement in more detail. Does she at least have a passport and US visa?

I don't know what to say. How is she to know that you genuinely love her, anyway?

It's a long distance relationship; nobody knows anything about anything until you meet. So if you care about her enough to want to meet her, then I don't see why you should be surprised that you as the (1) Man, and (2) Presumably affluent American is the one to pay. It shouldn't be a surprise at all.

Financial and superficial motivations cannot be separated from love. It'll always be easier for a woman to fall in love with a rich and charming man than a struggler.

So I think this decision is entirely yours. Do you care enough about the woman to take this risk? And is there a particular reason why you're not dating the women in your area?