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eeewise:
Been there bro
Mine was she broke up with me
We reconnected strong after some months and promised with tears she is now stable and we are meant to be

Being that I so much value stability I settled for her and invested emotionaly

Practically put my life on the line for this girl

Guess what after she traveled she changed and told me she fell out of love with me even thou I fought so hard to stay thru to my commitments despite the distance

God knows I tried to move on fast but it wasn't easy

Even till now a part of me still wonders how someone can go from "I love you and u are my number 1,my everything, my rainbow" to "I think we rushed and I didn't have time to fall in love with u and have fallen out of love with u"

Even thou I have moved on and keep moving on
My advice to u is please give it time u will be fine
Block every contact with her or access to her to enable u heal

Don't try hurting her, just try move on and leave things to karma

Most girls btw 19 and even 25 are walking time bombs without a sense of stability so u dont go investing emotionally, physically, financially without your head

Invest only in ur wife, help girlfriends without a string attached...

Give it time and turn your pains to prayers � for every pain talk to God he will comfort u

Lastly use your experiences as a guide for up coming ones. See ur experience as a badge u wear to guide others

Stay around people and others. U can't talk and think at the same time, so to avoid thinking talk to people

Exactly what I went through. I made some drastic adjustments to my life just to make sure she's accommodated well enough. I did some stupid selfless sh1t for her. Well, looking back at the whole thing now I think she wasn't worth it. I've learnt my lessons.

pansophist:
My young bro, take heart. The sad truth is, she has found someone better, and you should accept it even if you do not feature in the picture. It's about emotional maturity and letting this just be.

Your next step is to give yourself time, as time has a way of healing things. You'll pass through it, and you'll like yourself better after this. I experienced something you passed through when I was 18, and felt even worse than you, but I was naive, innocent, and didnt understood the timeless truth of female nature, keeping attraction, and stimulating the relationship sustainably. Looking back those times, I could see clearly the mistake I made, and I've refined myself to a point that such could not happen again. And in the unlikely scenario that it does, well, a replacement is around the corner. You should do the same.

It seems to me that your relationship with her is your job, you specialized in loving her and treating her as the best thing, while ignoring your own personal growth. Listen attentively, women DO NOT want to be your goal. They want to be part/beneficiary of it, not the goal. You treated her nice and gave her everything to the best of your ability and probably didn't focus on your growth, and compete with other men in the free world.

You were too available, making you appear as someone with female scarcity, with no option and not a real catch. Also, pursuing her even after her formal declaration for relationship withdrawal is something that men with no options do. You cannot beg a woman into a relationship with you, it's an instant attraction killer. You attract and keep her with the lifestyle you've built for yourself, and the man you've developed yourself to be.

Remember the biblical story of when God told Adam (after eating the forbidden fruit from Eve), that henceforth he would toil the ground for food and survival, and cursed Eve that she will suffer doing child birth? The true meaning of this story is that as a man, you have to be out there hustling, pursuing your goal and fulfilling your dreams, as no woman want to be for a man that is not out there toiling the ground.

She dont want to cry during child birth for man with no purpose, and be amother to his kids. Whether you believe in this story or not, you may comb any other religion, culture, science, and just observe the world around you, you would see that your value as a man is by being resourceful. You're almost depressed (that's if you're not), because you are not pursuing things in the real world that would make her wonder why you do not call her always, that even if she breaks up with you, you're too busy achieving and breaking through to even feel an inch of her jilting you.

That even if she breaks up with you, in the back of mind, she knows there are younger and far beautiful women out there waiting to take her place, and will question herself if she can get a man in the same calibre as you. Do you think Davido will be worried if Chioma decides to leave him? Davido will laugh at her because he knows that she will be dead lucky to meet a man in his status, and she knows this as well. In every relationship, many young boys are clouded with feelings and love without understanding the power dynamics that is ever present and playing in the background.

I hope you get well, but remember this, you will never loose women chasing money (interpret it as goals, achievements, purpose etc), but you'll always loose money chasing women. Goodluck young man.

Deep. I appreciate your contribution. Thank you very much sir

daddytime:
Quit with the whining, victim card playing or patronage seeking young man and get toughened up for your next relationship.

You are still young and haven't seen much of life obviously.

Since you sabi complain like this, you go complain tire for life o.

In life you don't always get what you ordered or wished so be prepared like a boy scout.


Listen to me, girls get repulsed by whining sissies as you...believe me.

All these cry and advertisement over a girl?

Come on man..

Smh..

I'm just hurt, man. Cut me, I bleed after all I'm human. Lessons learnt. I'm still learning. Thanks

iamjahmeyou:
You don't have feel depressed as far as your heart is clean and spotless, you gat to pick yourself again and look beyond her. don't forget to be good to whom ever you are going to give a chance a again, two wrongs can never make a right.

Thank you very much.

I've been in extreme emotional pains for the past few months. I don't even know where to start to narrate my ordeal. I do not want this experience to damage me emotionally and psychologically, that's why I'm seeking help. Please pardon the length and blunders.

Earlier this year, just two weeks after my birthday, my ex-gf (gf of almost 7 years) broke up with me. I had just visited her and left two days prior to the breakup.
I went through the most challenging period of my life because I just suffered some job and graduate school rejections that period. The breakup worsened my situation and pushed me into a depression. I have never felt defeated in life till that point. She blocked me on all mediums of communication. It was too extreme. I went from 91kg to 85 kg in less than 3 weeks.

I visited her to understand the whole situation cos her behaviour was too extreme and I got a toxic dosage of embarrassments. She said she was done with me. She said a lot of hurtful things to me. The height of the embarrassments was calling her new boyfriend (barely 3 weeks after breaking up with me) right in front of me and telling him she doesn't know what I'm doing in her place. She even called some of her friends to inform them of my presence. They all sounded scared and concerned for her as if I was some kind of predator. They told her to leave her place at once and come to their place. All these calls were on speaker! This is someone I invested all these years and emotions for. I went through hell that period cos I was dealing with some other personal tribulations.

I can't imagine treating her or anybody else the way she treated me. I NEVER cheated on her, NOT ONCE or by chance! I have walked away from compromising situation countless times because I placed her so high. I had so much respect for her. She now went on to slander my name, accusing me of cheating!!! When I asked who was feeding her all those lies, she said her friends told her. How? Did I date you or your friends? It still boggles my mind to think she'll believe them and go about spreading those ugly rumours about me.

The straw that broke the camels back was when a friend of mine told me that she said she's grateful to God she didn't contract any infection/disease from me! I couldn't believe my ears. I broke down. This didn't just break my heart, it shattered my spirit. This is someone I imagined spending the rest of my life with. My whole family (even extended) accepted her as one of us.

I had to accept that things were beyond salvaging because any attempt from me to fix things kept doing the opposite. The minute it involved my sisters I had to accept defeat.

I never harmed her or attempt to lay a finger on her. I might not be perfect but I gave it my all. The situation is far worse than I described it here, it's even painful remembering them. I loved her to a fault.

I got a text from her about a month ago after I refused to answer her calls because I had just lost a loved one. She said she's getting married and hopes I find peace as she has found hers. I stared at those words speechless. The worst set of people one could ever encounter are those that hurt you, know that they hurt you and still turn around to play victim accusing you of hurting them. If there's anything I'm proud of is my level of self-control. I know few of my friends who made fun of me being extremely loyal to one girl, warning me severally that I'm wasting my time and good looks, that my youth is passing me by. At least I have a clean conscience that I never betrayed her trust. I never went about telling other people our business. Now I understand why they say good guys always finish last.


Women don't deserve loyalty, forget all their cliche that men are not faithful and honest. I went the faithful, loyal path what did I get in return? Venom! I feel repulsed when I hear women say "Men are dogs", "Men always cheat".

I just don't want this experience to turn me into something I'm not or make me an embittered soul. I'm traumatized beyond words. This was my first and only relationship and I gave it everything. I'm in my mid-twenties and I don't think I can ever love genuinely again. I need mature advice on how to come out of this ordeal a better person. I don't want to transfer any aggressions or micro-aggressions on anybody because of this experience. Please mature advice needed. Thank you.

Greatzeus:
I agree with you about Americans accepting crap music, especially rappers. Outcast once had highest selling rap album in a year like that. Winning lots of awards. They have good music,but as rappers outcast is wack. It's even worse now,geez. I thank God I fell in love with rap in the 90s,I heard good rap music and great albums. I shake my head to these crap they throw around today.
You mentioned Wu Tang and Jcole while talking about wacky,I don't get your message,can you please restate the point you want to make.
Wutang and Jcole mumble rappers? I give you opportunity of doubt that I don't understand what you meant.

Hollup! Did you just classify "Outkast" as wack rappers?! Please how did you arrive at this outrageous conclusion? Are you aware that most of your favourite rappers rank Andre 3stacks amongst their top 5 rappers of all time. Bigboi can hold his own too. So I don't understand your submission.

So oyibo dn start skull min.... Lemme not talk

Yeeeh!

On the bright side, she's about to cash out big time! Just hit the hospital with a lawsuit seeking substantial settlement for damages. Perks of living in a functional society.

Goztino:
I have not yet entered but will be coming to Aachen

Bro. I'm applying to Aachen for next summer. Working on my application. Respond to my pm. Thank you

Sedatylo:
Ok

Did you apply to RWTH Aachen? Kindly reply my pm. Thank you.

Gspeed:
Please did you put your weac scratch card inside the document you sent to uni-assist

The application is not via uni-assist.

Sedatylo:
Last time i checked bro, RWTH has ended their winter application for 2019/2020

I'm applying for summer 2020

dejifabz:
IELTS requirement is 5.5

Did you apply to RWTH Aachen for Applied Geosciences?

Swiftsailor23:
Thanks for the information bro. Got admitted to RWTH Aachen (Applied Geosciences). I need some information from you, is it okay if I PM you?

Bro, I'm applying to RWTH Aachen for Applied Geosciences. I'm having some issues with the application portal. Please reply my pm. Thank you

oli19937:
@ Goztino and all those coming to RWTH Aachen Applied Geosciences please make sure to write an English exam ( IELTS or TOEFLS) I will suggest TOEFL the ibt score needed is 90.. Note their is no shortcut to this ( proof of English language proficiency) and what have you.. If you don't write in Nigeria, you will write when you come and this will cause you to miss registering important courses.. See what I mean
• once you arrive, you do health insurance and proceed for enrollment ( I must say at this point that enrollment is not done from Nigeria, it must be here!)
• it is after enrollment that you will be transferred from being an applicant to being a student
• most courses registration don't last long and so if any of your enrollment requirements is missing, you might be attending lectures but no course registration ( you can't write exam for any course you didn't register)

So my advice is as follows
• get your English exam certificate ready if you have not gotten
• your degree result, transcript and any other documents that you feel is important
• once your Visa comes out, pay your semester dues from Nigeria. This has 2 very important advantage
1. You can complete your enrollment in a day
2. Your semester ticket will be processed within a week
Don't delay that so that you won't spend your money on trains and bus that you are supposed to enter for free.
• keep on checking your application page for that place they write PRINT INVOICE you will know when the invoice for winter semester dues is out. It contains the bank details and the amount.
• last but very important is ACCOMMODATION.. To this I have two suggestions
1. Search for Studierendenwerk Aachen, register and stand on the queue for any accommodation of your choice.
2. Their is a Facebook group called INCAS AACHEN join and you will see time to time accommodation advert.
It hadn't reached my turn in Studierendenwerk but I got accommodation before coming " thanks to INCAS AACHEN "
** also if the embassy needs any proof that you course will be thought in English, send me a pm our course coordinator will send you a letter to that effect.
Do these things, prepare well for interview and we will all see by the coming fall.
Remain blessed.

I sent you a pm.

okosodo:
Deontay wilder will defeat this man

Go to the nearest pharmacy and ask for Coartem.

It was 2009, as a very curious 15 year old then, I used to surf the web endlessly. Reading everything readable. I spent most of my time on Wikipedia and MySpace. I was Googling something about the Nigerian Entertainment industry and Nairaland was the first result that showed up.
The thread was amazing! Comments were very intelligent and incredibly sarcastic! I laughed till my ribs started to hurt. I created an account promptly, although I've lost that account. I created this one in 2011.
I have to say a whole lot have changed over the years. I think the golden era on Nairaland ended circa 2013-14. It just went downhill since then! Bigotry,. Tribalism, Meaningless trolling and annoying spam ads are now the order of the day!

user4321:
Hello My people, Official scores came in today... and Yes I beat my 4.5 AWA.. to get 6.0 AWA.... So happy!!!... 99th Percentile.
===== UPDATED PROFILE =====
GRE
Q-169
V-162
AWA- 6.0
TOEFL
116 (R-28 S-28 L-30 W-30)
GPA
4.74/5
3.82/4 (WES UNOFFICIAL)

cc- ponpon calculator123 scholastica16

You are very gifted! All your scores and GPA are seriously not smiling! Shoot for all the top 10 schools, I would be surprised if you don't get admitted into all! The sky is truly your starting point.
I am going to rewrite, I'll follow your advice and study plan religiously.

Can you imagine?

BecaciaBarbie:
Are you sure about that moniker? because the Ogugua1 I know here on NL is or was a female who was in a relationship with sexkillz and we saw pics of them together, when she came from US to visit him.

Those were the glory days of NL. Good to see an active NL vet.

Ehen! UDonMeanIt!






Believe twitter stories at your own peril.

Everything is unnecessarily hard and frustrating in this country. God who we offend? Nigerians need preferential treatment on judgement day cos we've been through hell already. It'll be unfair to go to hell again in the afterlife.

deepwater:
I keep saying it, guys worked hard earn you money and buy what u can afford.
That babe wey no gree follow u becus of champagne free am, make she go
No impress anybody
most babes you guys buy maltina for are actually fanta girls self.
Some mumu boys go still go buy ACE OF SPADES for maltina girls...

Omo if i be guy before u go drink AOS for my head u go MUST first rap that JayZ black album finish A to Z

More especially that chorus hook "I got 99 problems, but a bitch ain't one" from the 3rd track

You a real G!

Ewu nmmeeeee!

I'm not really feeling this dreadlocks look, Hov.

Real Madrid, this is your chance to grab this lad.

Listen to Naija songs at the detriment of your IQ. Na very big risk especially mainstream artists.

@ponpon

I've been trying to reach you to no avail.

Aunty, who is deceiving you? Apart from your questionable waist to hips ratio, what else do you think will attract a man to you? Your horrendous face? Issorite, kontinu wallowing in self deception.

She must think most of us are as dull as she and her followers.

Hanty, pls receive sense.

Hewwu!!
Which way Nigeria?

STD circulation!