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Romance / Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Shadbay(m): 9:13am On Aug 12, 2019 |
eeewise: Exactly what I went through. I made some drastic adjustments to my life just to make sure she's accommodated well enough. I did some stupid selfless sh1t for her. Well, looking back at the whole thing now I think she wasn't worth it. I've learnt my lessons. 13 Likes |
Romance / Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Shadbay(m): 10:07pm On Aug 11, 2019 |
pansophist: Deep. I appreciate your contribution. Thank you very much sir 53 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Shadbay(m): 9:59pm On Aug 11, 2019 |
daddytime: I'm just hurt, man. Cut me, I bleed after all I'm human. Lessons learnt. I'm still learning. Thanks 12 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Shadbay(m): 9:57pm On Aug 11, 2019 |
iamjahmeyou: Thank you very much. 1 Like |
Romance / Help! I'm Emotionally Wrecked! by Shadbay(m): 9:10pm On Aug 11, 2019 |
I've been in extreme emotional pains for the past few months. I don't even know where to start to narrate my ordeal. I do not want this experience to damage me emotionally and psychologically, that's why I'm seeking help. Please pardon the length and blunders. Earlier this year, just two weeks after my birthday, my ex-gf (gf of almost 7 years) broke up with me. I had just visited her and left two days prior to the breakup. I went through the most challenging period of my life because I just suffered some job and graduate school rejections that period. The breakup worsened my situation and pushed me into a depression. I have never felt defeated in life till that point. She blocked me on all mediums of communication. It was too extreme. I went from 91kg to 85 kg in less than 3 weeks. I visited her to understand the whole situation cos her behaviour was too extreme and I got a toxic dosage of embarrassments. She said she was done with me. She said a lot of hurtful things to me. The height of the embarrassments was calling her new boyfriend (barely 3 weeks after breaking up with me) right in front of me and telling him she doesn't know what I'm doing in her place. She even called some of her friends to inform them of my presence. They all sounded scared and concerned for her as if I was some kind of predator. They told her to leave her place at once and come to their place. All these calls were on speaker! This is someone I invested all these years and emotions for. I went through hell that period cos I was dealing with some other personal tribulations. I can't imagine treating her or anybody else the way she treated me. I NEVER cheated on her, NOT ONCE or by chance! I have walked away from compromising situation countless times because I placed her so high. I had so much respect for her. She now went on to slander my name, accusing me of cheating!!! When I asked who was feeding her all those lies, she said her friends told her. How? Did I date you or your friends? It still boggles my mind to think she'll believe them and go about spreading those ugly rumours about me. The straw that broke the camels back was when a friend of mine told me that she said she's grateful to God she didn't contract any infection/disease from me! I couldn't believe my ears. I broke down. This didn't just break my heart, it shattered my spirit. This is someone I imagined spending the rest of my life with. My whole family (even extended) accepted her as one of us. I had to accept that things were beyond salvaging because any attempt from me to fix things kept doing the opposite. The minute it involved my sisters I had to accept defeat. I never harmed her or attempt to lay a finger on her. I might not be perfect but I gave it my all. The situation is far worse than I described it here, it's even painful remembering them. I loved her to a fault. I got a text from her about a month ago after I refused to answer her calls because I had just lost a loved one. She said she's getting married and hopes I find peace as she has found hers. I stared at those words speechless. The worst set of people one could ever encounter are those that hurt you, know that they hurt you and still turn around to play victim accusing you of hurting them. If there's anything I'm proud of is my level of self-control. I know few of my friends who made fun of me being extremely loyal to one girl, warning me severally that I'm wasting my time and good looks, that my youth is passing me by. At least I have a clean conscience that I never betrayed her trust. I never went about telling other people our business. Now I understand why they say good guys always finish last. Women don't deserve loyalty, forget all their cliche that men are not faithful and honest. I went the faithful, loyal path what did I get in return? Venom! I feel repulsed when I hear women say "Men are dogs", "Men always cheat". I just don't want this experience to turn me into something I'm not or make me an embittered soul. I'm traumatized beyond words. This was my first and only relationship and I gave it everything. I'm in my mid-twenties and I don't think I can ever love genuinely again. I need mature advice on how to come out of this ordeal a better person. I don't want to transfer any aggressions or micro-aggressions on anybody because of this experience. Please mature advice needed. Thank you. 256 Likes 25 Shares |
Music/Radio / Re: Beyonce’s Lion King Album Flopped In The UK After Being Downloaded Just 949 Time by Shadbay(m): 9:41pm On Jul 26, 2019 |
Greatzeus: Hollup! Did you just classify "Outkast" as wack rappers?! Please how did you arrive at this outrageous conclusion? Are you aware that most of your favourite rappers rank Andre 3stacks amongst their top 5 rappers of all time. Bigboi can hold his own too. So I don't understand your submission. 2 Likes |
Health / Re: FBI Discovers Human Chop Shop With Bucket Of Heads, Cooler Of joysticks & Corpses by Shadbay(m): 10:35am On Jul 26, 2019 |
So oyibo dn start skull min.... Lemme not talk |
Health / Re: Woman Had Chemo & Breast Removal Surgery For A Cancer She Never Had by Shadbay(m): 6:40pm On Jul 23, 2019 |
Yeeeh! On the bright side, she's about to cash out big time! Just hit the hospital with a lawsuit seeking substantial settlement for damages. Perks of living in a functional society. 26 Likes |
Travel / Re: Nigerian Students In Germany..how Do You Survive?? by Shadbay(m): 5:16pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
Goztino: Bro. I'm applying to Aachen for next summer. Working on my application. Respond to my pm. Thank you |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 6 by Shadbay(m): 3:39pm On Jun 04, 2019 |
Sedatylo: Did you apply to RWTH Aachen? Kindly reply my pm. Thank you. |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 6 by Shadbay(m): 11:50am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Gspeed: The application is not via uni-assist. |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 6 by Shadbay(m): 11:43am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Sedatylo: I'm applying for summer 2020 |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 6 by Shadbay(m): 11:41am On Jun 04, 2019 |
dejifabz: Did you apply to RWTH Aachen for Applied Geosciences? |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 6 by Shadbay(m): 11:09am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Swiftsailor23: Bro, I'm applying to RWTH Aachen for Applied Geosciences. I'm having some issues with the application portal. Please reply my pm. Thank you |
Travel / Re: General German Student Visa Enquiries Part 6 by Shadbay(m): 10:55am On Jun 04, 2019 |
oli19937: I sent you a pm. 1 Like 1 Share |
Sports / Re: Anthony Joshua Smashes Punching Bag Fixed To Wall Off It’s Hinges by Shadbay(m): 12:53pm On May 29, 2019 |
okosodo: Go to the nearest pharmacy and ask for Coartem. |
Webmasters / Re: Nairalanders, How Did You Discover Nairaland? by Shadbay(m): 11:25am On May 27, 2019 |
It was 2009, as a very curious 15 year old then, I used to surf the web endlessly. Reading everything readable. I spent most of my time on Wikipedia and MySpace. I was Googling something about the Nigerian Entertainment industry and Nairaland was the first result that showed up. The thread was amazing! Comments were very intelligent and incredibly sarcastic! I laughed till my ribs started to hurt. I created an account promptly, although I've lost that account. I created this one in 2011. I have to say a whole lot have changed over the years. I think the golden era on Nairaland ended circa 2013-14. It just went downhill since then! Bigotry,. Tribalism, Meaningless trolling and annoying spam ads are now the order of the day! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Education / Re: How To Achieve High Scores On The GRE by Shadbay(m): 3:26pm On May 23, 2019 |
user4321: You are very gifted! All your scores and GPA are seriously not smiling! Shoot for all the top 10 schools, I would be surprised if you don't get admitted into all! The sky is truly your starting point. I am going to rewrite, I'll follow your advice and study plan religiously. 4 Likes |
Health / Re: Luth Doctors Protest 5 Months Unpaid Salaries by Shadbay(m): 2:27pm On May 23, 2019 |
Can you imagine? |
Crime / Re: How Were You Scammed? by Shadbay(m): 7:27pm On May 22, 2019 |
BecaciaBarbie: Those were the glory days of NL. Good to see an active NL vet. 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: How I Was Served By 6 Waiters After Been Snubbed In A 5-stars Restaurant by Shadbay(m): 3:11pm On May 14, 2019 |
Ehen! UDonMeanIt! Believe twitter stories at your own peril. 2 Likes
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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: NNPC Recruitment Criteria Exclude Graduates From Poor Homes, Says NANS by Shadbay(m): 8:56am On Apr 01, 2019 |
Everything is unnecessarily hard and frustrating in this country. God who we offend? Nigerians need preferential treatment on judgement day cos we've been through hell already. It'll be unfair to go to hell again in the afterlife. 3 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Richard Escape Exposes Celebrity Debtors At Cool FM by Shadbay(m): 11:06pm On Mar 29, 2019 |
deepwater: You a real G!
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Celebrities / Re: Ali Nuhu Dances To Celebrate Buhari Election Victory, Displays 4+4 Sign by Shadbay(m): 10:12am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Ewu nmmeeeee! 5 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Beyonce And Her Husband Jay Z Looking Good At Their ROC Nation Brunch by Shadbay(m): 2:54pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
I'm not really feeling this dreadlocks look, Hov. 1 Like |
Sports / Re: Chelsea Manager Sarri Decides, Says Hazard Can Leave by Shadbay(m): 11:46am On Jan 30, 2019 |
Real Madrid, this is your chance to grab this lad. |
Music/Radio / Re: 13 Songs Of 2018 That Should Have Been Hits by Shadbay(m): 8:55pm On Jan 29, 2019 |
Listen to Naija songs at the detriment of your IQ. Na very big risk especially mainstream artists. 26 Likes 2 Shares |
Education / Re: How To Achieve High Scores On The GRE by Shadbay(m): 8:46pm On Jan 11, 2019 |
@ponpon I've been trying to reach you to no avail. |
Celebrities / Re: Tinny Waist Actress Princess Shyngle Reveals Why She Is Still Single by Shadbay(m): 12:53pm On Nov 26, 2018 |
Aunty, who is deceiving you? Apart from your questionable waist to hips ratio, what else do you think will attract a man to you? Your horrendous face? Issorite, kontinu wallowing in self deception.
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Celebrities / Re: Liz Anjorin: God Is My Sugar Daddy, He Bought Me A New Car by Shadbay(m): 5:00pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
She must think most of us are as dull as she and her followers. Hanty, pls receive sense. 9 Likes
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Celebrities / Re: No Water To Flush At Lagos International Airport - Remmy Njoku Rants by Shadbay(m): 6:59am On Nov 20, 2018 |
Hewwu!! Which way Nigeria?
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Celebrities / Re: Pearl Derriere Poised To Break Record For World's Largest Orgy by Shadbay(m): 12:45am On Nov 20, 2018 |
STD circulation! |
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