₦airaland Forum

obayendo1010:
Family is everything.

I love Davido but he doesn't have his own family yet, this one he has now is a dysfunctional family... The problem with baby mamaism/papaism. By the time his eyes will be clear on what he is actually doing, I hope it won't be too late...
Like Tuface, I don't know if they don't have family members that advise them.

Having a daddy( living) is what is gelling them together now but later nko?

Also, once these ladies find their true ribs and become dedicated wives, they may not find this gathering as fun again even when money is helping Davido play his fatherly roles to his children.

But I like Davido sha for his generosity to his baby mamas if not, none of them will be here....Na Davido for just be Snow white baby daddy instead of her marrying a man that thinks he will be wasting money sending money to her and F-O-U-R boys( boys wen sabi chop well well)...Davido @ 29 years still get some sense pass the man @ 60 years after 38 years of no sense(* he married his 1st wife @22years).

jaszplus12:
ReAD Heb 6:18
God CANNOT use lies and liars to glorify himself!! Year in year out these people who claim God's servants have failed to prove themselves to anyone except those who still believe in them!
Open your eyes and let the bible speak to you

Same reason y Jonah was angry that God changed his mind concerning those he sent Jonah to on the destruction of the people and their land....To him, it would make him( Jonah) seem like a liar....When u pray, u can change negative prophecies then, it would now seem as if the man of God was giving out fake prophecies...

YoungLionken:
One thing is sure this year..

It will be tougher than last year, brace yourself for the bumpy ride ahead..

If you like argue...

Tougher if u are not in the ark of covenant...especially when u try to rationalize things with your carnal mind.

A country doing very well, even handling Covid issue well and under the leadership of a woman as President( also Estonia)

2021: Wonderful

2020: Suspense ( For Nigerians)

pocohantas:
Beautiful. That is why I love girls. Even if they are doing olosho in town, they don’t mind milking all the men in Lagos/Abj and sending it home. Once a girl starts dating a working man, let alone working, you will start seeing little changes in her family house. Even if na curtain, she go buy.

But you see Tallesty’s gender. That is how they’ll be posting “Mama’s prayer keeps me going”. “Doing this for mama”.

Make mama looseguard drop 2k for parlour, them go move am.

If they even do yahoo and hit big, their family house would become below them. They will stay in a hotel for months.

I can’t imagine life without a daughter. Chukwu okike ekwela ihe ojo!!!!!

Well said....Nothing to add biko.

I won't just judge your fiance....Have u really done introduction? Some ladies won't be behaving like wives when they are just girlfriends in the relationship.

But wait ooo...Nairaland men that like whites, if na white woman she be will u tell her to go to the next compound to fetch water?

Anyway, u know why u have dated her this long, watch and pray and commit all to God do we don't miss our actual rib because of present circumstance also, so we don't make girlfriend as wife and make wife as girlfriend.

yunqdady:
Sometimes I feel you are just an admission agent

Hahaha

Ini Edo's look alike....Congrats

toyini1234:
What pg courses do you guys suggest I go for?
I am thinking MSC in chemical pathology , medical biochemistry or medical microbiology

If you can, just enter Cameroon to do 2years HND+1 year top up BSc and get licensed there....Or do Nursing...

Favfables1:
The most sensible comment I've seen so far...

Personally if it's just a one time thing, I won't be bothered buh it happening consistently is something that'll make me raise eyebrows...

OP talk to your wife and tell her exactly how this makes you feel...
She may be doing it without meaning to upset or disrespect you...

I know this may seem like something "not worth talking about", buh if it hurts you enough for you to open a thread on nairaland, then it's better you communicate with her rather than allow it grow into resentment...

And please leave all those folks up there insulting you for whatever reason, if you do your investigations they're probably not married and thus won't know *exactly* how it feels...

Good luck Chief...

You and the person you quoted are both sensible in what u wrote...

So, someone should not be comfortable in his own house again? After telling his wife he was very hungry....Assuming the food determined his living or dying, it means she doesn't care...

In many things in life, it is good to have priority and know how to apply it( prioritization).

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Heard the news on instagram( Punch).

Na wa o ..

If true, maybe his own rib is the first girl he would have married but only put her in baby mama role....I hope the past isn't hunting

If we are to follow the Bible as Christians, we need to give to Caesar what belongs to him and give to God what belongs to Him. Period

Let's not because of lack or stinginess begin to determine from our canal mind who receives what....Even if this is done, it should be temporary.

[quote author=Sime900 post=108628091][/quote]Most of these banks became pro-thiefs since as they have to deduct some VATs for government and since most can't explain all these to their numerous customers all the time, they just deduct by default.

The present government killed a lot of businesses such that even fixed deposits were no longer attractive apart from Wema that lowered its own to half unlike others that lowered theirs to miserable %s.

SportsHD:
I bet she uses access bank or gtb or wema.

Wema will give interest if it is Alat WEMA

Gtb not bad, but accessing customer care is a herculean task

Some are shouting Kuda bank: The most useless of them all.

slimjohn2k5:
The best person to come for omugwo is from wife's family unless they are not available.

Moreover, do not take it against her as the person above me have told you she may be suffering from
postpartum depression.

Despite that please let her own people come first

You are right but, this plays out in South East & South South cultures but for Yorubas, the man's mum comes....Op may be Yoruba and would have felt his mum was supposed to come rather than his wife's mum...

I have seen such in which the S/S's wife's mum and the SW's husband's mum showed up almost at the sanetime( lol),.. Couples must come to prior agreement so it doesn't look as if one parent is unloved.

Op seems to be subtly fighting for a place in his home for his mum thus, the continuous unforgiveness.

Woman just born, ask her which one she is comfortable with? Mind u her own mum may do more for her including helping with house chores without feeling somehow.
Only when her own mum or mum figure in her family is missing should a man bring his own mum especially considering the culture of the wife.

Marriage needs 2 forgiving spouses especially when the other partner is pleading and hopes to remedy the past hurts. Even God forgave/ives us our sins

It is good for intending couples to be emotionally and psychologically mature/ready for marriage.

They can separate for a while under a Pastor's monitoring and counselling.

Prayers should not be neglected please.

Martini101:
It is only a man that can do it for a woman without stress or drama !!!

Helper no get gender, tribe, race or religion.

God can even order animals to help u- remember the prophet fed by ravines in the bible?( Ravines who are naturally stingy to their own babies).... Or even when whale swallowed Jonah...

If you're truly a spiritual person, u don't limit who can be your helper.

christistruth01:
That is how they stop People from Jumping from Buildings or other dangerous places

Many of them latter go back to say" Thank you" because they didn't realize what they were doing at Time

Do you know Nnamdi Azikiwe was so frustrated that he tried to kill himself when he was just 23 years old

It was a kind hearted Black American that saw him and dragged him off the Railway Tracks and encouraged him to keep on living

Look What Nnamdi Azikiwe later became the Premier of the Eastern Region and the first Ceremonial Nigerian President before he passed away at almost 94 years

Seems u enjoy reading biographies of great people like me.

flexlatifa:
Don't be surprise 99 percent of the people that gave her that money are men...

Some Nigerian men can be stingy eeeh----

But when I did my own birthday I announced it months before that day to all my friends.

But that day reach no body gave me a dime, but was requesting food and drinks.

Nigerian man can see his friend/brother dying because of 100 naira, but will not save that life.
If a lady ask them that same time they will triple it.

But usually, it is NOT for free naw....Abi, wetin u get to exchange for his money?

If God no touch person heart to be selfless, there is no way they will give like that without strings attached....And since men have taught women the bitter way, u later hear them shouting that women don't like to give money they worked for...Women are only learning from their masters naw.

If wife material truly scare in Naija what about husband materials with the kid of men we are having?

[quote author=Kriss216 post=108556300]Lola is not a celebrity. She was lucky and opportuned to be the wife of a celebrity [/quote

Lola was already a big girl before meeting Peter....Infact, she made Psquare

She may not necessarily be called a celebrity but her CLASS and that of the Okoyes was not the same till Psquare blow

[quote author=ednut1 post=108554579]some ladies above 35 will say they cant marry a man with kids, he must be a Christian, must not have been married before bla bla bla [/quote.

JJC was never married....He once talked about his first ( i think) baby mama who dropped his baby on his door post after calling him to say she put to bed.

JJC has long been a London boy and one of those who discovered Don Jazzy & Dbanj.

I'm happy he finally found his rib in Funke and Funke too has gotten rest of mind despite her failed first marriage to one Alhaji.

You dated a girl for almist 8 yes, no proposal, the girl begins to pinch herself to reality also, coupled with what she would have heard from family and friends and u don't expect her to start rethinking her marital future + getting someone else which ultimately led to your relationship with her being toxic.


That is y it is not good to start this dating game too early, even university self, to start dating a girl as a male student might just bring premium years especially to the lady....it also permits a lot of immorality for a LONG time since u ain't ready.

Anyway, better a broken relationship than a broken marriage...

Move on.

Romanoff:
She has become greedy and lacks contentment.

Her Ojukokoro will lead her to steal more, of not from you guys then from somewhere else.

If she doesn't steal, she will do anything to feed her lack of contentment.

I second the guardroom idea.

From fry pan to fire...

We should not give room to the devil for wicked men this season to rape her please.

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izubext007:
That's while I encourage people to always go to any living Faith church for marriage counseling, it works like magic.
The warning was clear, but due to the saying "u don't know what u have untill u lose it's that made u to continue.

But there are some cases that it doesn't work like magic infact the opposite...

Anyway, prayers + counselling are always needed.

I wonder the age of the wife? No aunty can tell a full grown/blown adult lady this.

akinade28:
Op, I want you to "put yourself in your wife's shoes". You need to understand that women are often emotionally attached to their family members especially those that raised them, it is usually difficult to break the bond suddenly because of marriage. Everyone has that evil crazy extended family member, but we don't throw them away just because they are bad, we just establish caution when relating with them, blood is thicker than water. She has known this woman all her life and see the aunt as her second mother, forcing her to break all ties will put her in a very difficult position ( that's how you get a bitter wife). She might hold it against you in the future especially when relating to your own family members. However, you can relocate to a different place where it will be difficult them to have free access to your house. Then, you can tell her to reduce communication with them to the barest minimum.
To nairalanders with their baised and one sided advice. Assuming it was a woman that came to seek advice on the case of her husband's evil aunt who practically raised him for 18 years, but didn't like her nor wanted him to marry her, so she laid curses on her during the wedding ceremony but she and her children still comes to the house at will after the wedding. The advice will be completely different. You will hear things like " forgive her, she is like a mother to your husband", " no wife should separate a man from his relatives irrespective of what they have done", " you have to learn to accommodate your husband's relatives" etc.
Most of you guys can't take half of what you dish out.
Just because we are women doesn't mean no one ever sacrificed for us, you usually forget that someone raised your wives, they paid the price and invested so much in them to that level that you got married to them. If they had not sacrifice for them, you won't have gotten that beautiful woman you call your wife today.

I fully understand where you are coming from because Nairaland men write a lot of rubbish but sometimes u still see some that will say the truth in the midst of their nonsense write ups.

I wonder why someone would train a person as the aunt claims and would not wish for the happiness of that person....Abi if her 'child' is a bigger, better and blessed person due to peace of mind etc won't she be remembered?

Even the mother that actually carried her for 9 months didn't do any wahala na aunty all because she trained someone, even cursing and wishing their marriage will fail, is this not witchcraft?

The Op and wife ought to be decisive and take steps in that direction.

bummyla:
Welcome to my world! My wife said she would rather leave this fucking marriage, than curtail her association with her divorced aunty that brought her to Lagos, her evil elder sister that has refused to marry and her friends.

Every day new wahala!

Bros there is not much you can do, than to put your feet down like I did!

I dont want them in my house! I dont want them, If I come back and see they came, I call them and warn them. Thank God the boys and the men are by my side, I will call the boys and the men to warn them too.

Every place will be on fire for a while!

Finally she will ruin your marriage like they ruined mine, but dont worry, if she is your wife her eyes will open.

Madam, even this evening called, was bagging me, to come and take her back, to the house, but I no gree! Make she enjoy their company very very! She don stay one year with them now, my plan is that she will stay two years with them. I learnt tension is getting high over there! If they no fight, I no go come carry am. Period!

After while we are going to relocate very far from them

Best response so far...

The Op and wife are just plain too gentle...Op must find out whose side his wife is on....

This is why marriage is for READY persons.

I learnt years ago that 'what u don't want/like, don't allow it to continue'.

blamingthedevil:
Oyedepo and co are hypocrites, when bombs are flying up and down in Abuja and all over the country during Jonathan, where was he? Boko Haram was everywhere, churches were bombed every Sunday,where was he?

Nigerians seem to have short memories

And who made the bombs to be flying to disrupt his government?

benzics:
I currently work with a Canadian company as a codeigniter developer, and I’ve seen job postings in the past from Nigerian companies, the pay is just not worth it.

And I just recently got admitted into the University (a 100level student working a 9 - 5 EST ), most of these job postings from Nigerian companies will ask you for certificates, I just don’t bother applying for them, this is my 6th year as an active web dev.

On how I got this job, it was true upwork. Be sure to have portfolios, projects you started and seen through to the end that is relevant in your field. Mine were e-commerce websites, MLM softwares etc.

Is the modality of being paid now less complex@ Up work?