₦airaland Forum

Ghostmode2two:
Can a Nigerian woman so that educated do this? I doubt and I bet with my left nyansh

You surely don't know what u are saying...

Andyvilly:
Please o naija guys don't turn our women to eunuchs, they have potentials and they are the whole package plus promo

Fear not....The wise ones are already looking outside.

Rosement:
Marriage is not by force, he should only marry her if he loves her and he is ready for marriage. If they are not able to come to an agreement on their own, the court will handle it better. Nobody is above the order of the court, whatever order the court makes, the both of them will have to follow it. There is no need for us to agrue, it is better for him to go to court, let's leave the decision to the court.

There will be specific visitation time, the guy will not be allowed to visit the house of the lady regularly because she is not his wife. The mother of the child might even decide to drop the child in the house of the man on the visitation days, if she doesn't want him to visit her house.

He should try to make investigations about those who were in similar positions previously and if they succeeded with court.

Some men na alakoba for life....He has caused that family enough pain and should not allow further foolishness on his part to permanently make him regret.

He should even tread softly as not every family would want any form of further embarrassment and could take it up with him in realms he will live to regret.

Marriage is not by force, sure they ought to love themselves...similarly, taking that child is not by force unless the family CHOOSES to be lenient but he go try and will not succeed with force or intimidation.

Come, even if court allow person wen no fit cater for child visitation rights, the family will only obey for a while....He has almost even succeeded in ruining that girl's marital chances if not that there is God up above.

Stop giving him false hopes biko.

Rosement:
According to what he said, it seems what he wants his visitation right not the child's custody. Being some else babyma will not affect a woman's marriage. I have seen situations like this in Nigeria and abroad. All they have to do is come to an agreement with each other. It is either, they discuss it on their own or in court.

It DEFINITINITELY will and can even tear a marriage apart. Marriage that he refused to give the girl.

It is marriage or forget about visitation...So, he wants to permanently be a distraction to that family.

If it is some wicked family, wen time reach, the child will be in boarding house.

He should learn to tame his urge in cohabiting with woman when he is not financially ready.

Will he accept this nonsense he wants to dish out to someone else?

Rosement:
He will be giving visitation right by the court if it is proven that he is the biological father of the child and he did not abadon the child. He might have to do a DNA test to prove to the court that he is the father of the child.

If he only wants the child under the deceitful guise of wanting to marry the child's mum, the girl's family ought to totally severe ties with him so that their daughter can focus on her education and marry a more suitable man later in future instead of throwing her pearls to dogs which the Bible advised us against. His meddling in any form in her life even her getting money from him ( bait) will not allow her to fully concentrate on her new man when the time comes and his asking for co- parenting( wen no be say he marry her) will be a distraction to the girl and her husband....

It should be the other way round...The family can also sue him to take care of the baby( to force him to do it), that is if they are ready for all that after he had succeeded in inflicting PAIN on their hearts.

Let him allow the Child to grow and decide if he is still needed in his/her life...Though if the woman is not a long throat collecting from him, her family and husband to train the child, she will not need his dime, would have long changed child's name to any name she prefers( her dad's or new husband) and would train a child as he ought to be trained and the child may most likely not need a distraction who saw him/her as a burden when he/she (child) was younger.

I thought DAD used to mean SACRIFICE... he can't eat his cake and have it using court to console himself...Even fiery lawyers when they had issues with theid wives didn't take their legally married wives to court dragging for custody...

I hope u are not a lawyer trying to deceive him that he will win this case. Which competent court of law go say make person wen no fit feed himself( probably without a comfortable home) to take care of baby when the mother ( unmarried)and her family her alive and well....Anyway, lawyer( Charge & Bail) wan chop money( lol)

Why cohabiting with someone's daughter when u know the economy is harsh and u ain't ready yet?

All those telling u to take her to court, I laugh in Spanish even contracted, fully wedded couple, don't drag for child when child is still young... You can ask fiery lawyer, K.E.Y.A.M.( lol).

You don't want a contract business due to oversense and u didn't see any future in it, profit miraculously come out, u now remember you needed to share in it( lol).

If u haven't paid bride price, since most of u believe this is even more marriage than church/court wedding, don't think u can claim that child...In fact, the girl can choose to name her child her family's name.

People dishing u foolish advice and even yourself, u won't take rubbish from her irresponsible boyfriend if your daughter brings this kind of shame home.

And those advocating condom all the time, know that it can 1) burst 2) Slip into a woman which will reqjire surgery to remove

Golan007:
Twice widowed.

The man has been through it.

I wish him the fortitude to bear the loss.

Pastor Taiwo Odukoya doesn't deserve all this deaths....If any Pastor is a father figure, loving husband and good mentor to young men, give it to Pastor Odukoya.

His prayer point in life should be 'Watch and Pray' no matter the level of grace or happiness he attains or plans to attain.

Indecision in men and iranu encourages multiple baby mamaism.

• WHEN TO AVOID SEX IN PREGNANCY
There are conditions where sex in pregnancy is not advised, they include:

1. PLACENTA PREVIA

This is when the placenta covers the gate of the womb called the cervix. Sex is not advised here because it could lead to life-threatening bleeding.

2. TWIN GESTATION

If a scan reveals you're having twins, you might need to reduce the rate at which you have sex especially if you've had a history of early labor.

And if your partner is not faithful, use a condom during sex to protect you and your baby from STI's.

3. CERVICAL WEAKNESS

The cervix is the gate of the womb and it should be close until it's time for the baby to come out but there are conditions where the cervix is weak and can't close the womb properly.

Sex would increase the risk of miscarriage or go into early labor.

Sex is safe in pregnancy and only becomes a problem if you have any of the above.

Sex during pregnancy should be "GENTLE".

There is a possibility that vigorous sex may cause the placenta to separate.

Pregnancy is not the time for "harder baby" kind of sex.

Benefits of having sex during pregnancy are as follows.
*It increase sexual satisfaction
*It help to women to reach their orgasms.

* reduce stress
*improve labor and recovery time
*It also help to reduce anxiety ��

And Excessive sex can cause

*Sex becomes a major interference in your work and life.

*Too much sex makes you forget your household
Or responsibilities.

*Excessive sex is causing inflammation or irritation in the vagina Too that is it..so u may have sex 3times per week


Note::
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�A health couple having frequently intercause have about an 18-20% chance of conceiving in a single menstrual cycle.
� Both frequency and timing of sexual intercause impact strongly on the chance of conceiving naturally.
� Couples having intercause three times a week are three times more likely to conceive than couples having intercause once a week.

Lastly � All women trying to conceive should Commence taking folic acid to reduce fetal neural tube Defects... thanks for listening..

Sign By #Al Jamiu# ✍️..

Esberry:
Please @sharon21 I will also be interested in the class

October- June( may still be lucky)....

Whatsapp please

Opeyemiextra:
Imagine ó, goat of all animals

Men that sleep with fowl even in Naija?

That is y when guys want to mock ladies I find it hilarious...Abi na because we dey help them cover their secrets....Women are more innocent than men in many ways...Men rotten more....Some, every hour na to think of sex that is y anything involving it being denied to them in relationship( which they dont even have a right to) and in marriage, they complain.

All those always abusing women here, u see y God said it wasn't good for man to be alone? He knows a man cannot do without a woman especially when it comes to sex.....men's greatest weakness.....This is y sex sells because customers PLENTY....

This bestiality thing too is done in Naija ooo and not only in the North as some would want us to believe.

Imagine he wasn't caught, he for dey rape her till goat get belle and born slowpoke( half goat and man).

Men NEED women at least to appear responsible outside(lol)....

Foodqueen:
I am sure, Anita will soon settle with her hubby.

There is no gain in fighting.

Let peace reign.

They would have already started talking to themselves on phone since the day Lola hosted them all in her house...

He would have told her not to worry as some ' emissaries' would be coming soon and she would host them( lol)...

They crippled their economy and this would have affected some people too like Jude and DJ Switch...

I'm sure DJ Switch might be part of those who initiated their coming together too.

What was supposed to be their unifying factor was what brought them apart...

Jude, Paul and even their mum no try at all, but we thank God all is now in the past...

I can imagine it, all the actions that happened in each twins life, dem go dey use this period narrate the stories to each other....

Let love lead..

Thanks dear....Friends alerted me to this news earlier this week...

But some Nigerians still feel getting vaccinated is joining the Antichrist...

Anyway, maybe those complaining really love being in Nigeria and not travelling round to be more enlightened and to see the world.

In one Pastor's voice, 'he touched heaven'....and he really touched heaven....Only him wan pack blessings of many years at once.

Wetin Davidoo do, he doesn't yet know the gravity of it, till he notices that him and his mates are so far apart as heaven is far apart from earth in terms of greatest... 

He just dey behave like David in the Bible.....dem fit misbehave, but they know how to go back to God to beg for forgiveness in kind and cash...

As a Pastor man will say, it is not easy to give out money but if u see someone doing so, he has tried to conquer greed in himself...

I remembered the story David Oyedepo once said that he once donated his car to God at the early days of his ministry and when he was going back, he heard a clear voice that said, even if he doesn't want to be blessed, it is already TOO late....See Oyedepo now: the richest Pastor In Africa.

If Davido is a spiritual person, he fit don hear/see angels singing and dancing for his 'unimaginable' N250m....

That was what Solomon did in the Bible and God vex come down to ask Solomon( a flirt and womanizer) to name whatever he wanted Him( God) to do for him...

Special name, special head/grace...even had the guts to pick the family he will be born into...who says all men are equal.

I be Davidoo fan ooo and even if I want to dislike him for somethings, this one of giving N250m in this Buhari's economy, he deserves his name in Guiness book of records and National Order award in Nigeria.

Davido's musical videos honestly arent as lewd as that of the other kid guy.

I know that Davido's father will be wondering which kind of mysteriously, great son he born.

Abeg Davido, we too need things from our heavenly Father and the little we can give we give till God promotes us...No come finish blessings for heaven with your lavishly, careless giving...

perambulator:
1. demand outweighs supply, competition is fierce and especially for a woman, time is limited.
2. women with undesirable qualities.. temper, history, attitude, family/background etc
3. women with over blown expectations of men which is usually tied with no 4
4. women who overate themselves. Women get a lot of attention from men for sex, it does not mean you are desirable as a wife. many women confuse male attention with desirablity as a wife.
5. many women think because they are women a husband is automatic instead of asking the question, does the kind of man i want to marry want to marry a woman like me?

The bottom line is this: A woman does not find a husband...a man finds a wife. if a woman has conducted her affairs in a way that is desirable to men and her attitude is right, believe me she will not lack for GOOD suitors for marriage. If you have to "look" for husband you are doing (have done) something wrong such that men do not see a wife in you or else you will not be the one doing the searching. The job of a woman who wants to marry a desirable man is to conduct her affairs so as to put herself in a position to be found. Desirable women do not "look" for husbands, husbands find them. If you are "looking" for a husband, it's probably time to come to terms with the fact that you are not as desirable as you think you are and start to make the necessary adjustments.

The quicker you make those changes the better because for a woman, you get to a certain age where, the ship has sailed no matter what you do. You get to 35+ and all the men that could have married a woman of your age are already married, the ones that arent want a younger wife, so even if you suddenly find wisdom and decide to change your mindset or your ways, it's very likely too late because at that age husbands just dont exist.

Character alone like what many men think is not the sole or major determinant of marrying desirable men or marrying early for ladies.

Other factors play a role: Destiny/Will of God, Location of your man( he doesn't have to necessarily be in the same geographical location with you), and the time that God will link you up with him may take some time..., also, God knowing the lady best, maybe trying to PREPARE her Adam, to be suitable for her, so it will seem like her Adam is busy building& tending to his garden.....

Some women too don't want to do sex before marriage, it will be as if she is choosy, but this can cause delay in marriage for her too.

The end goal is for a happy marriage NOT how early one rushes into it as some are presenting gnashing their teeth for this rush.

Truth is, if God is preparing Indomie for a lady, it will be very fast to get, but u see, when God is preparing pounded yam type of husband for you, you gat to be patient as His timing is always right....

Indians & Pk and real love...Very romantic people

His intuition was guiding him that this should ONLY be a friendship relationship BUT since he listens to that crap statement that in a relationship, a lady must love the man more rather than the reverse he fell for it....and his type will fall for it...He forgot that men marry for love usually, while women marry who is available that LOVES them and because of this love, if it wasn't love at first sight for her, she will grow in love as the relationship evolves...

I hope this so called lady is not a guy disguising as a lady... Anyway, if really this thief is a lady, it means she has well learnt from Naija guys...

It is well.

And food isn't cheap including rice.

In Cameroon, food is the cheapest thing u can get...Foreign rice bought as glass cups makes u spend 17,200 FRS per bag(1 bag is 22,000 FRS)... While their local rice: Ndop rice (99% stone free) , is 13,750 FRS per bag if u buy with glass cups. They are the champion in rice production in Central Africa.... One has the choice of buying the very white imported rice or the local rice( turns out white too to some extent).

We are still lagging behind in Agriculture.

This confirms that Entitlement mentality is not gender specific.

flexlatifa:
Be also ready to produce sperm and pregnant Ur selves thanks to tech..

There are many sperm donor banks even in Naija....N100,000 only....

See, until u men of this generation will stop this nonsense of 50-50, u may likely see more women who have been 'quiet' over the years on una Naija men oversabi, waking up to their full rights and demanding such in our constitution as being done in the Western world.

I'm not a feminist, but when I see our oversabi Naija men making foolish comments for which they don't know the full consequence of, I address it.

Women may not necessarily need men just majorly for companionship and title of being married, BUT men can't do without women....abi na fowl and goats una want to dey sleep with? ( Which some are already doing).... Or na to rape by force, if ALL women( including the ones u patronize in brothels) decide to close up....Some men have said when they have the urge, they feel like tearing their clothes and 'madly' running out( lol).

U guys on Nairaland hating women should change your ways.

flexlatifa:
Is it not your gender that are crying for equality??

NP....Sha be ready to carry babies to term...thanks to science & technology OR if u don't agree u are the physically stronger gender( personal choice), at least, be able to pay a surrogate....Equality is then truly achieved beyond just helping women with house chores.

flexlatifa:
That's why I keep telling my fellow gender not to die in struggle to take care of the so-called family...

Use the money and build Ur self for the future.

But women should go to the slaughter house more than once all in the name of creating a family and home with the man apart from other roles she plays?

So, what is being the physically stronger gender for?

Vireani79:
And how did u come up with this stats of more good women than men in nigeria
Una go just dey open mouth waaa
Same women that are oloshos ba

You don't need a Prophet for that...Abi, u want to tell me our men are not MORE criminally minded in many spheres and ways than Naija ladies?

Mouhstorph5:
You mean Yahoo boys hacking Kuda accounts??


I will give that Alat a trial. I switched to Kuda simply because of the unnecessary charges from both GTB and UBA

Kuda also has charges which u will later discover

oldienavie:
What is the best way to get a good wife in Nigeria these days ?

You don't have problems because there are still MORE good women than men in Naija.

Bible says, ' ask and u shall receive, SEEK and u shall find, KNOCK and the door shall be opened unto u'.... U have to go to your maker who made u and KNOWS u best...who made your rib into a beautiful woman located somewhere your human mind cannot easily fathom..

With God's help and prayers, u will get a wife and He will open your eyes( just like Adam's ) to see your wife....

flexlatifa:
What are you talking about

What else do you want them to do.
Men are out there struggling to put food,pay school fees and other things for the families

@50:50 mentality/mindset?

Na old age go tell.

flexlatifa:
Guy as Nairaland don table Ur matter na so your destiny helpers go locate you in Jesus name amen.

BUT ALSO REMEMBER YOUR FATHER BECAUSE I KNOW IF IT WAS UR FATHER'S BIRTHDAY U WOULDN'T HAD DONE THIS KIND OF THING.

FATHER ARE ALSO IMPORTANT LIKE MOTHER.

Father is supposed to = Sacrifice which makes their children especially females remember them...
But, many men of this generation seem to have lost that virtue.

Mouhstorph5:
It's the Kuda Bank for me

Too much Yahoo boys on this Kuda matter hacking accounts....

Wema ( Alat) app is the only totally online bank one can register, get ATM, do fixed deposit( has the highest annual rate in Naija) totally online.

VIP begging is the new trend....

Since the present government came in 2015, lesser shows for artistes( musicians, comedians etc)) and lesser money consequently.

Covid too came in to worsen it and the government doesn't know how to handle it viz a viz the economy.

vickydevoka:
If na u nko u go happy say ur brothers wan leave u?. Peter said he doesn't want Paul to manage Dem, Paul refuse say , how Dem go leave their brother.

Would u like a brother like Jude who, under the guise of senior brother is disrespecting Peter and his family and making Peter look like he is less talented aside from his dancing which Jude couldn't dispute?
Give it to Mr. P, he is the MVP here...