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Seems Peter started this reconciliation thing because pride will not allow the other 2 to start it.

I guess his mind wasn't at rest when all this fight was going on and was trying to draw his twin brother's attention with some of his instagram stuff he was doing

Seems Peter is the most mature out of the 3.

JBoss25:
Jealousy is real, we have to be moving smart

Especially between men...that bro code na lie

QuickStandard:


Even Bible say, that of the poor will be taken from them and given to the rich. No surprises

Great bank..

Been banking with them since 2005.

It is a nice feeling to also have people who give to givers. Rich people sometimes feel lonely in giving out all the time.

toujurs:
Men are really trying, they work all their life to sustain a family, that is why they age faster and die faster.

Lifestyle and village people kill men more...

You see that fake bro code guys form and hide their true feelings against their fellow men only to poison or stab them later is hypocritical.... Women will show u even from their facial expression say dem no like u and even fight there.

Besides, Sir Olu Jacob is an old man and looking his age

It is good to marry your rib ooo...See peace of mind and freshness for both...

Same girl( I believe), who was a dancer in a Christian group, made first class in school though an orphan

More blessings and many years together.

tyup post=a107630193:
Everything you see them do, they learnt it from their white counterpart. your own duty rn is to pray or work against low self-esteem affecting ur psych

Samething for Naija women...Anything ( especially bad) u see dem display, they learnt it from their ogas( Naija men).

planetx:
Go and sit down none of those shitty vaccines work. The delta variant is from the vaccinated, go and do your research you are being played.

Try researching from those outside the country...
Truth is bitter....Your choice anyway

BrandSpurNG:
SOURCE:https://brandspurng.com/2021/11/14/ogun-directs-industries-to-vaccinate-workers/

Pfizer, Modern a very good...Johnson & Johnson not bad too....the other Azeneca not too trusted.

Now it is free, it is better to take advantage of it especially those who have plans to travel, soon money will have to be exchanged to get vaccinated.

The Delta variant is real and very deadly, it is wise to get vaccinated once the opportunity arises.

I go with what Klass99 said.

For men with wives who have an ailment what do they do?....I have seen a 70 something yrs old man trying to divorce his mid 60 something year wife( frustrating her in many ways) due to the sex palava even when the woman has an ailment which she sustained during her younger years while birthing her kids.

My question for men who want to cheat on their wives for not having sex with them is:" what will you tell your maker if during the act with a prostitute or side chick, you die untop her?? Just wondering because, the sex thing na serious business for men , i also wonder why men usually bash women on body counts and sex when they are landlords in this domain....

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Incandescent:
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If you go into marraige with this nairaland/Twitter myopic mentality of yours, you'd have serious issues.

The nonsense I read here about simp this and simp that are from immature minds

Ask responsible men around you offline to talk to you about marriage and it'd be better of for you my brother.

Take this advice seriously.

A lot of men are suffering because they fed their minds with loads of crap from the internet

Go to the one who instituted marriage and learn from Him.

Best response so far... Thanks for your maturity.

[quote author=BigBashiru post=107477492]1. As for baby, the woman wants the baby too. And that's a curse God put on her so it's not the man's fault.

2. As a man, I can do 100% for only 12 months due to child birth after that its back to 50-50.[/quote

You assume women want the baby too for such a man? LIE...Not every woman wants to be bugged with motherhood as 1 child alone takes 6 years off a woman's life, since the child will start school and till 6 years before he can independently go to school and come back on his own without mum.

See, marriage is for mature people only...I don't think I ever saw my parents arguing on who go foot bills even when my mum was a FULL career woman and my dad was a professional who worked from home.... In fact from them I learnt a lot...

E get some things I read from Nairaland boys and laugh...

And my dad is someone that can give us ( wife & kids)his eyes... You will wonder why u see some kids hustling to do a lot for their dad when they are adults...the simple word is SACRIFICE...Despite my dad's busy schedule, we had him more seeing to a lot of things in our lives than even mum....Dad knew us to the extent that we have no secrets before him....Papa wen go do chores even when we had maids...

See, both partners must be fools and as head of a home( even when just courting), there must be true love which ought to come first from the man THEN the woman reciprocates even to the extent of doing spending lavishly for the home.

NB: I know some women that even when they have small change, they can never spend for their kids unless the man brings money and I cannot stand this.

BigBashiru:
Why shouldn't being a mother be selfless? she doesn't know what it means to be a mother.

50-50 should be enforced on a woman at all times and if she's doesn't want she should go and find another man and the man finds a woman that wants 50-50. Shekina. There's no long sermon in evening service.

Why marry a man then? A woman with such lazy man who has no self respect will do better on HER own till her OWN rib comes( that man is NOT hers....women please, don't be blindly desperate to marry)...You want woman to sweat it for the man to dey flex around with girlfriends since he has so much extra change? ( lol).... Kolewerk....

I have said it that Nairaland is full of boys...even if your wife earns more and wants to do more, this initial oversabi will not allow that coupled with not pampering her.....

I guess u need to get into the labour room to see what women go through and BLEED as some babies come to the world breeched( birth positions aside from the normal cephalic head position)... Giving birth alone is LIFE & DEATH....As one man of God put it some years back,' if men were told to have kids, na by force them go do am...highest 1 kid'( lol)... Since everything is 50-50, the man must give birth or pay a surrogate, so both man and woman can dedicate their fresh bodies for work.

Boys on Nairaland need good role models/mentors.

Peace.

eazzzy1:
Definitely, no adult can be forced to do anything they don’t want to do. The man also can’t be forced to fully take care of the home or to contribute more than his wife is bringing to the table. If the wife was living alone wouldn’t she sort 100% of the bill despite being economically disadvantaged?

If a man decides to take full responsibility for the bills it should be seen as a favour to the woman, not as a responsibility.

Let me tell you a long story, a friend of mine was working as call centre agent, he was making $34k per year, his wife worked in a bank and made $76k per year. They were splitting bills and chores. The guy was sponsoring himself to school too in hope for a better job.

Soon the guy got a job in a firm with $90k salary. The next month his wife asked him how they were splitting the bills, he responded with nothing has changed, same old same old.

The next month after that she asked again, he repeated his response and that’s when she went gaga, she said if he wasn’t going to man-up she had no need for him. Family got involved, the guy said she was earning double what he earned and bills were split equally, now he’s earning just slightly above her and she wants to change the formula.

Family then advised that they share bills on a percentage of income basis. The couple reluctantly agreed, after the meeting, the wife insisted that he paid the rent $2k while she takes care of food and water, electricity etc $500.

Long story short, they got divorced. Moral of my story; most women will not do for a man what a man would do for them. If my guy was the one earning 76k while his wife earned 34k, he would have been solely responsible for the bills, he would not have been splitting bills equally with her.

Your guy was SELFISH and doesn't know what it means to be a MAN, husband and father... Fatherhood actually is selflessness ( i dont know what boys interprete fatherhood to be) and a woman is a h-e-l-p-e-r to a man...
I repeat 50-50 should not be enforced on a woman unless the man will carry the pregnancy and give birth to their kids apart from chores since the man wan open eye.

It takes 2 fools to make marriage work. If the woman earns more and wants to do more than whatever she was previously doing fine since they are both partners in progress BUT this should not make the man not to man up and pamper her with gifts, outings to make her happy.... That is where an African man misses it.

eazzzy1:
The days when paying bills was the sole responsibility of a man are far gone. In those days men didn’t want their wives working and the made that abundantly clear.

If a woman makes money she should contribute towards the bills. They either contribute a percentage of their income to a joint account with which they take care of all bills or they split bills equally.

Even children should pay bills when they start earning, if they continue to live at home. Any woman who doesn’t want to split bills should be fine if her husband tells her to stop working.

It’s this kind of pride that makes men die early. Keep paying bills while she saves up all her own money. You will be telling your siblings you don’t have 10k to give them, she will send her own siblings abroad for studies.

You are right but the part u said bills should be split equally CANNOT be forced...Or during pregnancy and child bearing, u will help her carry it or help her pay a surrogate?
I believe in partnership in marriage and a wife supporting her husband and if God blesses her more, even be the breadwinner while the man helps out...but understand that unlike men who are not bugged down by child birthing and care which takes a chunk of a woman's life and economic wellbeing, many women have lost opportunities of more progressive promotions at their places of work and subsequently are at the lower rung of life financially.
There must be balance and each home is uniquely different.

Congrats to one of best/finest Comedians Nigeria has...

Come o...the man and his mum look alike...the man looks like someone that could be his father...all of them too look alike....

vickydevoka:
U are very right. I think they have to dialogue. My wife can't claim all my properties if I happen to be dangote. I will write a will. Bcus she can stop being my wife anytime buh my blood na my blood. Person like me way my family done soen up to 20 million on top my head. I won't lie I owe Dem alot. I can't will everything to my wife or else my conscience will not rest

Then u help your siblings when you are still alive so they too can become independent and put money in your kids account and write properties in their names.....Women too may adopt same mindset since men would definitely remarry in most cases after death of wife...

That's a beautiful Scottish attire...which they even use to dance with...Remember Frank Spencer in 'Some mothers do have them'( a particular episode)...

Anyway, for parents who don't feel comfortable with it on their boys, they should not come to school till the gender equality display is over.

Original tower of babel( Pt2)
Supposing he allowed the Police to arrest him in 2020 at worst he will be in prison or doing court case ALIVE... It is never good to be MANIPULATIVE(wriggling/settling his way) which many Nigerians like to do thinking they are smart even when God wants to use such situations to save his life... While he was trapped for 3days+, he would have been begging God like Jonah in the whale's belly to spare his life one more time and he would do EVERYTHING possible( pay tithe, help others ...just anything good) to thank Him for sparing his life�....Now, he killed himself with almost 35+ other people....Though ultimately it seemed he escaped man's judgement( court & prison)... I believe he would have begged God for forgiveness... If it was 15 floors maybe he would have been rescued earlier( just maybe), however, he chose to put up a faulty 21 floor.... His village people no good at all....He did everything by his power and might to easily make himself 'unrescuable'...a dead meat

Mkingz:
One thing I’ll never wrap my head around is why a man will wanto dress and behave like a woman...very strange

His testosterone level is low and estrogen/progesterone levels are higher... Making a mistake in putting such kids in single sex schools could trigger this hormones.

He needs intense, repetitive psycho counselling also love and prayers.

Nanavati:
For saying this contact me with 08029936845 I will be supporting you with 5k every week till you are able to get a job

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God BLESSyou richly for this for having a merciful heart.
I'm indeed short of words.

Explorers:
414-Pound Gorilla On The Exam Table.

Very interesting...

Explorer please, keep on sending us lovely informative inspiring posts to really keep our minds positively inspired.....You don't know the extent of what u are doing especially to black minds....at least it keeps everyone focused instead of idle posts that SIMPlify some people here, by their weakened way of reasoning and commenting which ends of revealing debased African men who are miles apart in their reasoning faculties compared to their counterparts.

Kudos Explorer.

His kids too are BLESSED...

There is this SWEET feeling with a GREAT father.... Mouth no fit explain am....Ronaldo is also a great/good partner to his woman.... I pray they have at least a daughter too, since girls no dey ever leave their fathers( good one ooo) even wen they marry so that he will be well taken care of in his older years after taking good, loving care of them as kids...

I know that even his woman's family/siblings are blessed with him in their lives.

nijaomegacode:
I'm deeply sorry for your loss. Advice young girls around you not to throw their destinies to dogs by sleeping with a men who isn't their husband.

1st advice your sisters...

For your mental health, the earlier u stop this nonsense of castigating Naija girls the better for u...

Other Africans who don't have hardworking babes like Nigerians ladies no go destroy internet with their rants, na people like una wen no even achieve...broke asses they lament up and down.

Anything u want as a change, start with yourself and sisters... Go and first marry those girls u disvirgined so others can follow likewise then we will have lesser people who are "pots" trying to castigate Naija ladies that they disvirgined...

Also, get busy with good stuffs....

nijaomegacode:
Deep down inside you wish you marry as a virgin.
It's pains you that you have made a mistake. You regret sleeping with the men who didn't marry you. This is why you're hurt. I'm sorry. But I can't help you. No one can.
All is left for you now is to sit back, fold your hands and watch the consequences of your actions unfold.
Folks, NEVER marry a woman you did not disvirgin. She's a curse to her children: born and unborn.

I repeat, u NO well....

So, for your dreams you think your type with barbaric mindsets is/are my level of men( lol)?

Please, go and sit down and stop disturbing us... Better people are thinking of progressing even as the year is coming to an end and one VISIONLESS Nairaland boy is telling me I wished some men had married me( lol)...

I know your problem, ur background and LACK of tall dreams and good job.

Don't ever mention me again, go and meet your cadre of girlfriends...

Nonsense.

nijaomegacode:
My advice to young leaders is this. For your light to keep shining, For your glory to keep shining and for you to move higher in life , listen to this -
Never marry a woman you did not disvirgin. She's a curse to her children: born and unborn.

You NO well this 1st day of November...

How old are you? Are u a virgin or just get misplaced priorities looking for virgins like ritualist?

You better grow up and stop behaving childishly...Your mates are doing exploits and marrying women that we will further propel them forward, u dey yarn virgin up and down like cursed person...

I'm sure u are cursed, meaning invariably that you r mum wasn't a Virgin, abi how can one explain your nuisance/crase since this week on frontpage in Nairaland.

Be warned...Stop disturbing the front page with your nonsense write up....If u want virgin go your village to marry and live.

bepositive11:
Why should women risk dating a man for 2 years with no direction in the first place? Him not proposing means that he's not interested and is not scared of losing her

Very correct....Even from day 1, the guy must FIRST be crazily in love with the lady, then the lady will later reciprocrate THEN, the relationship can start, NOT the other way round....Ladies MUST NEVER love a man( especially Naija men) more than he loves them, if not, disaster is not far off.
Before 2 years sef, if the lady is very observant, prayerful ( ie watching & praying). sensitive( spiritually & physically) she will know if the man is ready for her.
Marriage though is a partnershipand both partners must be ready to put in efforts to make it work so that in marriage vital things like money will not be too lacking.

In Naija, people are donating eggs and sperms for N100,000-300,000 ....So, for these qualities she listed( lol) her N1 million no too bad.

I imagine the amount CRonaldo paid his surrogates( donors for eggs)....

If Mr. Linus was emphasizing on Virgin, I no want used newspaper etc, he would have missed out on his pretty rib.

I just like when 2 selfless and mature people are in a relationship.

Military administration loading for Anambra State

Ayolzi:
I got C's and B's in other subjects but my Maths was D7.
Will Babcock, Covenant or Lead city accept this.
And which other Universities will accept this result for mass communication.

Learn to combine your courses well....I know for Science students, Economics is important and for Social sciences& Art, Biology is important...

Anyway, even for Nursing, Cameroon can still consider you

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Delta women

I love them ehnnnn

They have balls....

If you have the opportunity to date one...you will so enjoy her....they will be everything rolled up in one
They will be your companion....your friend, your girlfriend, they will be behaving like your niggar...they will behave like your mother...your sister

You are very correct...
Delta and Edo women are usually lucky with great men, I don't know how they sense a man will be great even when they start out together with the man just having tall dreams.

Arabiandude:
Madam, I am not based in Nigeria and what I told you is base on experience and not common hearsays.

Outside Nigeria, majority of Nigerian women are seen as ingrates and opportunists. But you see Nigerian men? Outside Nigeria we are so Reverend and both black and white women always wishes and dream to have us

Na only a Naija woman that doesn't believe in herself or want to explore other races they end up without mqn or waiting for one Naija man with many having bad, foul mouth calling them old newspapers.

Races dey wen want Naija women... Many Indian & Pak CHRISTIANS dey die for our ladies....unless something dey wrong spiritually with the woman... And I'm speaking from experience.