LolaO: My relationship of 5 years ended in the most heartbreaking way.
He got transferred to Asaba from Lagos and months later just stopped talking to me, no communication, no closure, nothing, just like that. It’s been 5 months now.
This is someone I had planned my whole life around. Sister, PRAY and God will help you get a mature thinking fellow that will give you peace of mind at anytime....between, NEVER do 5yrs relationship with any guy again please.
gidgiddy: Chukwuemeka Odumegwu Ojukwu was born in Zungeru, Northern Nigeria, to Sir Louis Philip Odumegwu Ojukwu on 4th November 1933. At an early age, his father moved him to Lagos where he had set up a thriving Transport business. Ojukwu attended Kings College Lagos until the age of 13 when his father now sent him to Epsom College, Surrey, England. From Epsom, Ojukwu proceeded to the prestigious Oxford University where he bagged a degree and masters degree in History.
On his return to Nigeria in 1955, Ojukwus father, who had by this time become one of the richest men in Nigeria, offered his son a top position in his business empire, which Ojukwu rejected. To the consternation of his father, Ojukwu joined the civil service of the Eastern Region and was posted as an assistant district officer of Udi division, in present day Enugu state. In 1956, Ojukwu was tranfered to Aba. It was while at Aba that Ojukwu attended a party where he met a newly commissioned Army officer called Robert Adeyinka Adebayo. Robert Adebayo told Ojukwu that the Nigerian Army was desperately short of Army officers. Ojukwu noted this. A few weeks later, Ojukwu was promoted to District officer and posted to Calabar. On hearing that his son was posted to Calabar, Ojukwus father used his influence with the colonial authorities to cancel the posting. When Ojukwu heard of this, he angrily resigned and drove to Kaduna where he enlisted into the Army as a lowly recruit. When Ojukwus father heard he had joined the Army, he cut off his son and both men would not talk to each other for almost 5 years. The British military officers at Kaduna kept wondering what an Oxford graduate was doing as a common recruit in the Army and decided to send Ojukwu on an officer cadet course. Ojukwu went Eaton Hall Officers training course and small arms training School Hythe, both in England. He returned to Nigeria in 1957 and was commissioned a second Lieutenant. Ojukwu became the first graduate to join the Nigerian Army. He was promoted to Lieutenant in 1958, Captain 1960, Major 1962 and Lt Col in 1964.
Ojukwu was commander of the 4th Battalion, Kano, when a coup led by Major Chukwuma Kaduna Nzeogwu was effected on the 15th of January 1966. Ojukwu's refusal to join Nzeogwu was one of the major reasons why the coup eventually failed. The coup resulted in General Ironsi coming to power. Subsequently, Ironsi appointed Ojukwu military Governor of the Eastern Region.
Northern elements of the Nigerian Army staged a coup 6 months later on the 29th of July 1966 in which they killed General Ironsi over 300 Eastern Army officers, mainly Igbos. This green lighted a pogrom where over 50, 000 Easterners, mainly Igbos were murdered in broad daylight by Northern mobs. With the massacre of killing of Igbos all over Nigeria, mainly in the North, Easterners besieged Ojukwu and asked him to pull the Eastern Region out of Nigeria. Meanwhile, the highest ranking Northerner at the time, Lt Col Gowon assumed power. Ojukwu was bitterly against it stating that the most senior officer, Brigadier Ogundipe should be the rightful person to take over according to military tradition. As the killing of Easterners continued in wave after wave of remorseless genocide, millions of Easterners returned to the East and more pressure was put on Ojukwu to declare the Eastern Region a separate country. The then President Of Ghana, General Joe Ankrah intervened. He invited Gowon and Ojukwu to his Hiltop Mansion in Aburi, Ghana, for peace talks. On the 4th of January 1967, Gowon and Ojukwu arrived at Aburi and spent the next 2 days in talks. In the end, Gowon and Ojukwu reached a deal that was to be known as the 'Aburi Accord'. In return for Ojukwu recognising Gowon as head of state and accepting Nigeria as one indivisible entity, Gowon agreed to 12 points which included the establishment of Regional police and Army, abrogation of decree 34, rehabilitation of Easterners affected by the pogrom, but most importantly, that Gowon would not change the 4 Regional structure of Nigeria unless the 4 Regional Military Governors of the time agreed with him. Essentially, the Aburi agreement turned Nigeria into a confederation of 4 Regions. Ojukwu and Gowon signed the agreement in front General Ankrah and shook hands. No sooner had Gowon returned to Nigeria than the full import of what he signed started to hit him. Northerners hated the agreement because it deprived them of what they wanted, the economic and political control of Nigeria. On the 26th of May 1967, Gowon broke the Aburi agreement by announcing Decree 14 which abolished the 4 Regions and replaced them with 12 states. This he did without consulting anybody as stipulated in the Aburi accord. On the 27th of May, Ojukwu then convened the Eastern Nigeria consultative Assembly, a group that consisted of the leaders and traditional rulers of the 20 provinces that made up the Eastern Region. Ojukwu asked them to advice him on the way forward since Gowon had broken the agreement. The assembly met for 2 days and reached a resolution mandating Ojukwu to declare the Eastern Region a separate country. One of the members of the assembly, an Ijaw man called Frank Opigo, suggested the name "Biafra" to Ojukwu for the new country since the Eastern Region was once historically known by that name.
On the 30th of May 1967, Ojukwu declared the Eastern Region as the "Republic Of Biafra"
Ojukwu chose the amber red-black-green Marcus Gavey flag of freedom with a rising sun that had eleven rays on it, as the flag of the new Republic. The eleven ray's of the rising sun represented the original eleven provinces that made up the Eastern Region.
Interesting narrative....according to history, @Oxford university, while some lecturers trekked to school, Ojukwu rode in Rolls Royce and gave them a lift.....he sure fought for the Ibos genuinely.
Alternatives are: bread, swallow, yams.....beans is NOT cheap as such and spaghetti is trying to increase....is the 50kg bag of rice@Shoprite Ota affordable?
There is hardwork which is good, smart work which is better but in addition to these two, there is the GOD/GRACE factor which some may mock at but those who know covenant benefits hide under this and are never disappointed because God OWES no one.
He should watch especially, the water he drinks and food he takes outside( water for cooking it should be clean enough_) and wash fruits properly. For now, he should STOP buying pure water( most are poisons) and buy bottle water....of he must buy pure water, it must be from reputable companies eg Cosharis or buy water purifier ( water guard) in tablet, powder or liquid form. The typhoid fever is recurrent in him because he keeps on putting in his body system what causes the ailment.
I wanted to be an Engineer though my dad, a German trained Metallurgical Engineer ( possibly the first in Naija) preferred Medicine and Engineering as 2nd choice. I ended up doing Physics( u know Naija and the way universities dish out courses) , I plan doing Nursing later though.....anyway, Naija seems to be a dream killer land somewhat.
marvin905: if you believe this your statement then your really gullible.. if I can dump you when have done the traditional marriage what stops me from still dumping you after white wedding..
Whether u like it or not Court wedding ( if u like add church's wedding with God's blessings) are IMPORTANT especially to a woman. One the marriage certificate is recognized at her place of work, she is not judged by the dictates of her tradition if the man dies especially if she has no kids, the man cannot just take off and many more on top of her head, if you seek to divorce her- u do it legally while the court decides what she gets from u out of the marriage no matter how small ( even if u deceived her)- if u don't divorce formally, u can't just hop on to another woman.
Introvertedmarc: If your goods is that important to the neighbouring country, use the SEA and adjust prices as neccessary.. same for the ones importing into Nigeria.
But really, why are people ( including foreigners) avoiding our sea ports and airports, why can't government critically look into this and adjust?
igwegeorgiano: Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.
There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.
When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.
Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex
I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.
This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks
My QUESTION is: Are you REALLY a CHRISTIAN or just attracted to a born again virgin? Have u not heard of people who did only traditional weddings, slept with their brides and impregnated them( since the lady would believe you are already her husband) only to be dumped?
Sirvingeo: op you got a good wife. She has the fear of God that is why she wants you to do the church wedding which depicts God's involvement. You better don't loose a good woman because of sex o. I promise you a lady that could go this far for God will never cheat on you after wedding .
I wish you happy marriage life and I pray I get a godly wife like her. Amen!!!
Very sensible reply, I hope he listens but he may choose to listen to the ones with no message and many LIKES.
Yes, when it involves money and men are the REAL DOGS because they only need unsatiable pleasure as their reward which is very deadly...reason why they easily can rape, commit incest or beastiality.
Is this one related to the judge that gave heavy bail conditions to Sowore? ......Sometimes this may be the final fate of judges in this regime who don't fear God again but fear the ruler in the country
Great....but, why wasn't there enough publicity nation wide before commencement of the program? I hope the right winners were selected not 'man know man'?
This is Fu’ad, head troublemaker at Zikoko. For 80 days, Toke, Kayode and I will be travelling across every mainland country in ECOWAS West Africa, along with our trusty interpreter/planner, Tosin, and our bus captain, Taiwo.
We’ll be looking for amazing stories about food, culture, language, money, the impact of technology and of course people, and we’ll be sharing those stories here, every day.
BigCabal: How Do You Buy Food When Can’t Speak The Language?
The first thing you learn quickly when you enter Lomé is that everything that was on the low in Benin, is on a high here.
The food is spicier. The motorcycles are trying to kill you. The police presence is especially stronger. So what happens when you’re driving in Lomé with Nigerian plates? Chances you’ll get flagged by the police is pretty high.
“If you hear the whistle,” Captain says, “just stop.”
Where I come from, when the police really wants you to stop, they; - Jump in front of your car, - Try to shoot your car, or, - Doublecross your car like a gun fight is about to start.
I’ll take whistles over any of these anyday. And the bribery scene? “They ask for money, but mostly like tips,” Captain explains. “If you don’t have your papers complete, there’s nothing you’ll give them that they’ll collect. They don’t play with documents at all.”
Our first stop of the day is Ecobank’s Headquarters. If you haven’t already noticed, these guys are our partners in making sure we have friends in every country we enter, because they are in every country we enter. So if we’re coming to Lomé, might as well drop by at their Headquarters.
We run into a couple of people; from Carl who speaks like. Then there’s Femi.
“I find your name very interesting,” I say, “what’s the meaning?”
“I have no idea,” she laughs.
“You should tell them how you got your name,” Osahon says. She smiles the smile of someone who’s said the story so many times.
“My dad named me Femi because he likes Femi Kuti so much,” she says. “He’s Malian, and my mum is Togolese.”
We talk some more about Togo, and our itinerary, and all the places we should be visiting. Like the Fetish Market. Or the beach on the weekend.
Time to move, and our compass is pointed in any direction that leads to food. We end up at a canteen whose owner reminds us all of all the Buka mummies we didn’t like very much.
“Does our Travel Insurance cover sickness,” Toke asks when she’s triggered by how the Buka mummy handles the food. Of course it does. It’s Leadway.
Everyone’s having Pounded Yam, the type that makes you wonder what exactly Nigerians have been pounding all your life.
It’s smooth, and fluffy, almost like a memory pillow. The consistent struggle is that, like the Pounded Yam we had at Cotonou, this one’s also cold.
The soup is even more interesting. It’s Sauce Blanc – White Soup – but it’s nothing like Ofe Nsala, the Igbo White Soup, and it’s for more than one reason. First of all, Togo and Benin les cantines have a thing for making sure you don’t miss out on the pepper and tomatoes.
So they just throw in the fruits whole – the tomatoes and peppers that is. So if you really want your pepper or tomatoes, you’ll have to dig in with your teeth.
One other difference it seems to have with Ofe Nsala is the thickness – Nsala uses a thickener like yam to reduces the chances of the soup dripping down to your elbow.
Toke tries to go in on Pounded Yam too, but the groundnut flavour in her groundnut soup is too strong for. Not too strong for me though. Or Kayode.
Still on food – a few hours later, Kayode and I step out of our hotel to try out a neighbourhood Canteen.
It’s the first time we’re trying to get food without Tosin, and to put it simply, it almost ended in tears.
“Riz, riz dey?” I ask. “Riz something-something-that-even-I-can’t-remember-because-I-was-saying-nonsense.”
This woman is ready for me, because she just says a bunch of things, and all I remember is “Ivory Coast” and “Poule”. We’re not in Ivory Coast, but I assume whatever she’s making is from Ivory Coast. I know Poule is chicken.
So the oui begins. We just yes everything.
“Jkbidkpkd poule?”
“Oui oui.”
“Jibdjbkbidvbubjojd.”
“Oui oui.”
Next thing you know, one of the women working there has pulled a full chicken out of the freezer, and she’s prepping it for us.
“Kayode, did we ask for full chicken?”
“I dunno, man.”
But language is a bastard, because we’re sitting there and we’re worried that if we complicate matters, we’ll end up pissing them off, and go to bed without dinner.
One guy there is slowly pounding pepper in a mortar, and looking at us. I don’t even know even if it’s sympathy or disgust. I don’t care, I’m hungry.
The woman running the place is pounding with him, her right hand holding a pestle, her left holding a cigarette.
Just when it looked like our fate of Poule was about sealed, Gerrard, our Saviour showed up – he’s the receptionist at the hotel on duty. I’d have cried and hugged him if he’d come 10 minutes later.
Apparently, we’d oui’d to Chicken, a full chicken, and chips.
What is the moral of this story? If you must buy food in a place where you don’t understand the language, maybe point at the food. If you can’t, you better have pictures.
And if you don’t have pictures, I guess you’ll have to oui-oui and take whatever lands in front of you.
For these places with language barrier, go handy with pictures in phone and Google translate ( have some data)....try to know their money too eg deux cent franc(200 CFA), deux cent cinquante(250 CFA)......Nigeria still has the most varied food type in Africa, also the best cooks with internationally exported food loved by many.....Do you know that the Chief cook of Ellen Sirleaf, ex-President of Liberia was a Nigerian woman?
iamadonis2: My Girlfriend still reaches out to her Ex Boyfriend for financial assistance. I admit it gets me really upset.
I want the best for her and want her to grow financially, but I feel help from an Ex is going too far and quite disrespectful.
Please advise, guys, is my anger justified and reasonable?
Either she is greedy or you as her boyfriend isn't giving her tangible cash.....I hope you are telling us everything? Why does she prefer you to her ex-boyfriend or the guy is just so benevolent?
sexy74: That's not possible its one of those things that spice up a relationship. If a lady tell you no sex until marriage she should not expect any thing from you until marriage too.
Sure.....but come to think of it, seriously what do average Nigerian men give to ladies to warrant the sex they so crave for( even without giving her anything) before marriage?
I hope they will be submissive to themselves, no oversabi....there used to be a family friend couple we had then in the late 80s, both lawyers- everyday quarrel.
Let her buy Menstrogen and take 2 before and 2 after sex and she will be fine....let her keenly practice monitoring her safe period too, as a cooperative guy like others advised, cum outside her( if u can control yourself)-practice makes perfect.
Romance › Re: My 5 Year Old Relationship Ended Just Like That by sharone21(f): 2:01pm On Nov 04, 2019
