uwakeminent: I'm fond of doing these. If a girl should ask me for money, my brain will just stop working until i give her the money. It's a bad habit, that's why i need help
Please what's your location? Let me come and ask my own
captainking: Happy birthday to me and all may borns.
May we continue to be blessed.. May we experience plenty of favours, riches, God's protection and love.. And may God always put us at the right place at the right time.
Happy birthday Last picture. 10 years ago during service year..
Nazgul: Marriage became useless to men because we abandoned our culture and tradition and embraced that of the Western world.
When you start sleeping with girls from the age of 16 and have a body count of close to 50 girls by the time you're 30, what usefulness do you expect to get from marriage? Truth is even you the man wouldn't value the marriage and would immediately resume your sexcapade after your honeymoon
The only way to restore decorum in African marriages is to embrace back our culture.
Pre marital sex must be seen as an abomination, those who practice it would be banished from their community.
Virginity test should be one of the requirements a girl must possess before marriage can take place, this will reduce promiscuity in girls.
A law should be passed that ràpists would earn in instant death sentence upon conviction. This would reduce promiscuity in guys cos no one would be willing to risk his life for a few minutes of pleasure.
Also there should be laws governing marriages that would make unfaithful partners risk jail term.
Once this measures can be put in place, I strongly believe that marriages would become as rosy as it was meant to be. And wouldn't be useless to both men and women.
Thestormisover: I'm looking for my missing rib here on nairaland. I have money, i'm currently working in one of the biggest oil company in nigeria, i'm tall and location is delta. i'm 32, and i'm looking for a good curvy waiste girl of age between 23 and 26. She must be a good cook. Thanks
Slynation: This man doesn't even know what God has done for you... It's better for a woman to have low libido because my brother if it's high na you go run even if you are married, imagine coming back tired from work and somebody is already dragging off your boxers...
I thought I like sex until I met Jennifer...That girl nearly send me back to my ancestors because of constant sex, haba Jenny...!! Sex na food ni...!!
She's over jealous means she's only protecting her territory and she loves you, not talking to you means there is something you are not doing right, every man is supposed to know her woman's soft spot that will be used against her in times like this before getting married, perhaps, you both were in a very SERIOUS relationship...
I'm sure when you were dating her you saw that anger as love, find a way to love it and stop making her angry...
I won't advise you leave your marriage because the problem holds no water here, just little counselling and you both will be fine...
Agentsalt: Generator mechanic. He said he will teach me for free. Barbing. He said 25k Fridge repairs. 30k plus form 3k Rewinding of coil and repair of fans. 25k also. Please I need your help in picking the lucrative one for future purpose.
I'd suggest you go into Affiliate marketing, it's the new GOLD Btw Thinking Of Relocating Abroad With Your Family, But the IELTS Exam is Holding you back.
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Handsnigga: Which love movie will you recommend for couples to watch on a day like this.
Happy Valentine's day to everyone
A Naija Christmas
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StagethemTVee: Actress Toyin Abraham and her husband hang out with Tiwa Savage at a pre valentine outing where the actress rained money on Tiwa Savage.
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UGLYSALT: Okay Our Daughter is 4 Months Now !!! ..... This Woman no wan Go !!!
Abi na 20k Pocket Money i dey Give her every Month for my House !!!
Please you Guys should tell me what to do !!!
She Came for OMUGWO oooooo .... Before you wake up in the morning , This woman don already.... ON DSTV Dey watch African Magic Showcase , With a Bottle For Cool Drink !!!
She No Wan Go Again !!!
I Don tell her Daughter and wetin my wife tell me is ..... "IF SHE GO NOW ..... HOW WILL I BE BATHING OUR BABY" ..... I Don tell her that I Can Bath Our Baby .... She is insisting that she must stay !!!
Here is WHERE The Problem dey ooooo , Read below.
Una know say .... them talk say if woman born , All her curves will come out .... I Think say na Joke oooo
As my wife Born Last 4 Months .... Chaiaa ... come see soft body and Curves ....
But do you know that her Mother Told her Not to Give me Kpekusss Untill Our Baby is 6 To 8 Months !!! .... SINCE THIS WOMAN Born . I NEVER NACK HER oooooooo , and she dey flaunt all those Curves for my Face !!!
Her Mother Can Give Advice for Africa , This woman will come to my room , KNOCK and ask me to come to the LIVING ROOM !!! She will start Giving all those village advice !!! weah dey vex me ..... Make i no dey keep friends , Make i dey drink 1 beer in a week , That i chop too much suya , That i should be going to Morning Mass (Church everyday) .
Biko am Tired , what should i do !!!
Eyaa, chai This post is very funny sha but I'll let the married ones give the advise
Btw
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jaelz: Okay guys so I created this thread so we all can show our valentines day gifts from our loved ones, below is mine from my special someone
I'm still waiting for mine from people that have been preaching love o Btw
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Stormtrooper11: I'm gonna be playing COD, Far cry, Resident evil, FIFA and other games. I got my music and I got enough snack for the ride . Singles aren't loners contrary to the popular stereotypes. I'm really enjoying it this way.
Interesting15: God is very good to us, despite that we don't deserve the least of His mercies. He has been furnishing us with constant goodness (even those that are yet to know Him are also enjoying this). It's wisdom to pause occasionally and reflect upon God's goodness towards us, and this should propel us to worship Him in spirit and in truth.
Here are some things you should thank God for today.
1. For The Gift Of Life
Some of those who saw the new year with you are now dead and couldn't see this month. In fact, there are people who slept last night but couldn't see today. Thus, that you are alive today is a function of God's Grace. Many of those that are dead are much better than you are. Worship God for the gift of life. And always remember that one major reason He has enabled you to see today is so you could take a step closer to Him in an intimate relationship, before the end of today.
2. For The Gift Of Salvation
Because of Love, GOD decided to come into the world to reconcile us back to Himself through Jesus Christ. And the Bible says, 'For GOD so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life' John 3:16. If not for Jesus coming to reclaim for us the authority and dominion we lost in the garden of Eden, we would still be under the bondage of sin, the devil, hell and everything negative.
3. For The Beautiful Things He Has Given Us
First, as we embrace Jesus Christ as LORD and Saviour and we yield to His Holy Spirit, He makes us alive in the realm of the spirit, and we became kings and priests unto God, exercising dominion on the earth realm. He gave us the sweet Holy Spirit Who keeps helping us in all ways. Also, GOD has blessed us with great and wonderful things (a beautiful family, cars, houses, thriving business, flourishing ministry, etc,). Thank Him for these beautiful things. He is a good God Who keeps blessing us with pleasant things.
4. For The Wisdom In His Word
The Word of GOD is a great blessing to us. If we live in accordance with His precepts, we become wise, and we enjoy eternal life. The Bible should be given greater priority above all other opinions and thoughts. Also, be always eager to hear what God is saying to you per time. You will keep experiencing true peace and prosperity.
5. For The Glory He Has Prepared For Us In Eternity
GOD is not myopic. Rather, He has prepared glorious things for us beyond time and this brief corrupt world. We are aware that when we die, or when Jesus Christ comes back again, we will be alive with Him in eternity, and we will enjoy glory and bliss forever more! Glory to God! Remember, only those who have embraced Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior (and are living a life of holiness) will get to heaven, while sinners will walk into eternal trouble. Appreciate GOD for giving us Jesus Christ to take us to eternal peace.
Iamdbull: Was hungry so I decided to visit the mall, got something to eat fast and I was heading back home as I was bout to leave the mall I saw some slides displayed in the showglass so I decided to window shop, saw the price 35k its expensive tho but hey how much is 35k out of the millions in my account. Just gave them my CC and transaction done. Since I don't have a boo let me spoil myself.
Might be dashing it out soon, don't use my slides for more than a month
Stargurl20: Guys, do not lose a good woman just because she unintentionally had a fling with a guy or something. Learn to forgive, forget and move on with her
Yeah, please forgive us. For we do not know what we are doing
mollie12: Everybody knows unemployment is a big issue in this country. So many are searching for jobs long after completion of tertiary education and youth service, with few offers in sight.
We come over here to complain about the lack of job opportunities. But my experience over the past 4 months in this arena has been very interesting.
On average, hiring managers forward 3-4 job vacancies/offers to me each week, asking me for candidates I can refer to them for one job opportunity or the other.
I just moved cities and changed jobs within Nigeria, and my experience on my previous job and the new one is the same: the HR department has a LOT of open roles. They are looking for job candidates but cannot find any.
One of the HR staff keeps coming to our side of the office almost every day that they are looking for candidates to fill this role, do we know anyone to refer?
Only yesterday I was speaking with a manager on a job I'd left 2 years ago. He was complaining that he had roles to fill but didn't have candidates. I had a similar conversation with yet another ex-supervisor of mine - looking for staff for a new team he was putting together.
And it makes one wonder: so many jobs, so few qualified candidates? Or what exactly is going on?
Like I said, the last 4 months have given me a clue to what is going on.
Over the last 4 months, I have had to seek staff for short-term roles. And my experience has been lamentable. Horror stories. I could write a book on them.
The number of candidates that talk a good game but cannot deliver scrap, that promise Mount Everest but deliver an anthill - is appalling.
Initially, I kept an open mind and was willing to take people on their word, and trust that they would be reliable enough to deliver. I wanted to open up opportunities for young people to earn income commensurate to their skills. I actually had a dream to through my short-term role opportunities, nurture a pipeline of promising talent that I can whole-heartedly refer to my previous colleagues and managers who come to me seeking job candidates because they have done great work I can vouch for (I don't just refer anyone because these people come to me because they know I do quality work and value quality work and will only refer quality talent to them - I have a reputation to protect).
But after quite a few false starts and hundreds of thousands of naira down the drain, I have to ask myself: are our graduates really employable?
From my experience, and those of others, here are a few ways our graduates shoot themselves in the foot and deny themselves a chance of a rewarding job opportunity or offer:
1. Lack a can-do attitude. I remember once contacting a job candidate who had applied to fill a role to do a preliminary interview. I could tell from his CV that he had almost no experience, but the job to be done was not that technical so I felt this is something someone that learns fast can do. On calling him and explaining the work to be done in detail, imagine what the fellow told me? He sighed and started grumbling and hissing "I don't think I can do this kind of work o". And this was basic research and data gathering oo, work every university graduate would have done in their final year. I just jejely left him.
I wonder why a graduate looking for work would act that way. This is a job you sent your CV for, no one forced you to send it in. The least you could do is do research on what the role entails, and convey confidence when your interviewer calls by explaining that even though you have limited experience, you can learn quickly. I guess he wasn't really looking. But these are those people will look at, and say the Nigerian system has failed job seekers.
2. Lack a growth mindset (allergic to learning and constructive feedback). I have noticed this trend with youths, particularly in the 21-28 age range. They do not know how to handle feedback on their work output well. If you tell them their work needs improvement, they act like you have slapped them in the face. And when I see this sort of reaction I just want to shake them and tell them: you are too young to be thinking your work will be perfect from scratch! That's the value of time and experience - it improves the quality of work. You work cannot be 100% at the first attempt or even the second attempt, but with refinement, feedback, work and skills get better. But these ones will go around to report you to others that you are wicked or other falsehoods, meanwhile, you are only looking out for their own progress. (Let me iterate here that I do constructive feedback - I don't shout or insult or put down people's personalities in the name of feedback because I know this is not helpful: it only destroys self-esteem. So I am referring to normal, even-toned, dispassioned feedback. And this is the feedback they take offense with. SMH)
3. Religious fanaticism. You hear of candidates that tell interviewers that they cannot come to work on Fridays. Or that they have to leave early on Wednesdays for choir practice. Meanwhile, the first interviewer is a Muslim, and the second interviewer is a Christian, a church deacon. Imagine what the interviewers think of such candidates. When these candidates get the job rejection, they will be consoling themselves that they are facing persecution for their faith, not knowing that what they are facing is the consequence of stupidity.
That's all I will say on this one. In all things, apply wisdom.
4. Entitlement mentality. I think this is an issue I will blame the motivational speakers on Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn for. They have sold this stupendous idea to young people that they can get a job that will earn them millions with almost zero experience. They convince them to toss aside "low-paying" jobs and demand to be paid "their worth". They lie to them that only paid internships should be pursued.
Let me clarify something here. I absolutely hate the idea of jobs that pay graduates what can barely take them home. But the unfortunate reality is that in a capitalist market, money follows value. People will pay you a high salary because they believe you will deliver a high value to their company. Not because you hold a certificate paper, because everyone holds that, and you know what they say about supply and demand. If you don't have in-demand, hot skills that are scarce, be ready to take up that peanut-paying job and that unpaid internship to learn what you need to learn to be in demand. It is called stooping to conquer.
But many job candidates don't understand the market they are in yet. So they struggle in this area.
5. Poor work ethic. This is one I can write a book on. It appears many graduates don't understand that employers employ them to ADD value. So they engage in behaviors that erode or destroy value for their employer. And wonder why no one wants to hire them. What is value to an employer? Time and Trust.
How is the value of Time and Trust eroded? i. By missing deadlines. This is when someone is asked to complete a task by 3 pm on Wednesday, but instead, completes it and send it by 5 pm on Friday. And does not apologize or communicate ahead of time that there will be a delay so their employer can manage the impact. Time is money - this is unacceptable behavior ii. By being unreliable. This is connected to the above in a way. When a supervisor gives work to you, they want to be able to go elsewhere and come back assured that you will do the exact work. But sometimes, there is no communication, and after the time elapses, the work is not done. When your employer has to engage in prayer and fasting for you to deliver your work on time and in good quality, know you won't last long. You are creating too much stress.
6. Refusal to self-develop. In the world we are living in, the biggest disservice you can do to yourself is to end your personal learning and development with a BSc or BA. Even if you cannot afford a Master's program, there are so many free online courses that allow one to take up relevant digital skills (mind you, digital skills go beyond software programming, so there are skills for you if you absolutely hate the idea of coding).
And even asides from digital skills, there are so many other things to learn to become workplace-ready (employable). You need to learn business writing, proper verbal and written communication skills, telephone and email etiquette, emotional intelligence, team and collaboration skills. And all of these are available - for FREE! - on this internet. Same internet all of us are using. So it is always disappointing when I encounter a job seeker who has been searching for years but in all this time of searching, did not set apart time to ensure they have the workplace skills to succeed.
After all my plenty story, I'm still hoping we do have employable Nigerian graduates out there. Those that know better than to fall into the above-listed traps. What do you think? Share in the comments
Exprofressor: I will try to be brief as I can. Pls read on
I was born in a broken home from two different tribes in the country. My late mom was a lecturer in one of the state polytechnics though she resigned her job when she couldn't cope with her mental illness. Me and my siblings were only in primary school then
My dad showed no concern for her health and came back to his hometown engaging himself in politics that have benefitted him nothing.
Me and my elder bro grew up with our dad while my two little sisters stayed with my mom, though we lost our last born the year 2005
I grew up with asthma and lacked mother's care. My dad and extended family even my grannies disliked me because they taught I was slow and couldn't cope with my mates
The truth is that my asthma was severe. I couldn't move an itch without my inhaler. The abuse got worse when in my early youth I couldn't do basic work to earn like my mates by working on building sites.
I was called lazy and the day I tried to prove I wasn't lazy, I nearly died of cement dust
My mom died last year April She died poor and in pains due to liver disease.
I didn't remember giving my mom anything substantial before her demise, though i didn't have, but I feel I wasted my early youth by not making use of the best opportunity that presented itself after I left secondary which would have bettered me
Few years before her death she pleaded I move to stay with her. I couldn't because she lives in Northern Nigeria and there's no job in the area. I am in deep pains!
My mum mental health resulted to her adding hypo in her food and water claiming it's a cure for BP.(she also have BP) I feel I am responsible for her death and hate myself for not reaching for my mom when she needs me. If I was around she wouldn't have drank hypo occasionally thereby destroying her liver
Now I feel I am becoming a demon. I hate helping people, infact when I see people in need I withhold any kind of help because God didn't give me chance to offer help to the woman I love most. I think because I couldn't do for my late mom no one is worth it.
My lack of empathy is growing by the day. My girlfriend left, saying she couldn't cope, she says I have to start forgiving myself. Do you believe I refused rendering help to my dad when he had accident? This was even before my mom died
I have taught about suicide but I can't just imagine how my bro will feel. Despite causing him pains too, he have always tolerated me and I know the damage my death will cause him. I wish I was never his brother
Pls I am tired of being angry and depressed Is there a remedy for me? Sometime I think I behave abnormal, I really don't know if I am mentally insufficient too
Take it to the Lord in prayer, you'll be fine surely
seunsiju: Even though she always warn me to be using condom, but i like it raw and sweet, couple of weeks ago, she is feeling sick and tired, and i sent her money for checkup, the news break my heart, the test shows she is three weeks pregnant! i want to denied the pregnancy based on say i read her chats on Whatsapp cheating and having sex with another guy, but deep down i know i responsible for this cos the date tally with the time we had last sex....we have agreed to abortion, but am scared it might go wrong.
Pls advice me Should i denied that i owned the pregnancy, cos i can back my claim up cos she cheated during that periosd or should we go for the abortion.
Pls am not ready to be a father to another kid!!! Help a depressed brother
NotBeenPaid: This is the third ribbon snake I've killed within a year on the same property. And this is the biggest of them all. Runs faster than Usain Bolt.
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by SheCeo(f): 2:22pm On May 27, 2022
. Singles aren't loners contrary to the popular stereotypes. I'm really enjoying it this way.
