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RedCreme21:
where's that? thanks. I guess so.

cococandy:
OP you will be alright. Don’t worry about anything.
If you end up liking only men or liking only women or liking both. You will be fine. By the time you turn 30, you will wonder what in the world you were even worrying about.

It might seem overwhelming right now. But as you get more mature, you will learn how to handle such feelings and be the best version of whichever part of you becomes dominant.

Do experiment (when you become of age of course). And responsibly too. Don’t box yourself in.

Let whatever gives you the most peace and pleasure lead.

RedCreme21:
To think that you accused me of being a troll.
I was offended that you chose to be judgemental when you have no right to be. My sexual chastity is a thing i take pride in. So if you decide to latch unto a joke of a thread (regarding the porn) or this where i asked a honest question, then thats your buiz not mine.
For a woman i highly regard, you disappointed me. Your advice that i should ignore the homones flooding my body and the sexual confusion that comes with it, makes you nothing more than the hypocritical nigerians i've come to dislike.
Im sixteen, not twelve. That innocence that comes with childhood is gone!! In about 1yr and a three months, i'll be a legal adult.
Adolescence is a trying period, where im expected to be both a child and an adult. And it was easy for you, good. But it's hell now. The stress and depression i wake up with every day.
Either you advise me like you actually care or you ignore my thread. Thanks.

Dimples0303:
You think and talk about sex a lot for your age. I think you are a bored troll but I will remain sensitive incase some young girl is thinking like you. Sex is for adults. You are going through biological changes. All Women admire other women, they look to compare, and that can confuse you at your vulnerable ages.
By rule, sexuality takes time to form, and mature. If you corrupt the growing process of the brain, with none age appropriate martial (op watches porn at this tender age) then you will mess with your development process and may pick up the wrong understanding of sex and relationships.

Long story short! Act your age and go enjoy life.

RedCreme21:
i brought up a topic that's been upsetting me for years to get advice from females who could/can relate. I thought this nasty habit of shying away from sex education was a trait common of only nigerians. In the next 2 years, i'll be an adult. Its natural that i would be sexually inquisitive. Celibate though. The porn thread was joke. You lack humor.

pamelaayomide:
It is not too late to help me pls.
I don't have money to hire a lawyer, I am still a student.

Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

Mood11:
We should help you to unsex?

You claim to be in love but small quarrel you rush go collect pritck for neighbouring state

AjayOfficial:
Okay just recently my cousin got married,wedding ceremony was held in the east, Enugu state to be precise. A lot of people graced the occasion from far and near across states in Nigeria, but d attendants that got my attention was a family friend,a couple that flew in from Kenya. They are Nigerians but now based in Kenya. I took care of their travel arrangement and here is the breakdown;
: Return ticket from Kenya to Lagos N290k ×2 = 580k
: Return ticket Lagos to Owerri (because Enugu airport is closed) 46k × 2 = 92k
: Land transportation Owerri to Enugu 25k (chartered car)
: Hotel (5 nights) 75k
: chartered cab to move around 40k
Then feeding and other miscellaneous expenses which I cannot calculate, but those expenses listed above amounted to N712k.
So my thought was why not stay put in Kenya and send the couple even 500k and do video call to congratulate them rather than spending that much to come down here to shake their hands,take photographs and give them 50k inside brown envelope (that is the amount my cousin said the man gave him).

So guys what do u think, I don't know if am making sense oh but that is my own opinion to the matter.

Benclever1:
Hello everyone.

So I met this girl through a mutual friend and we started bonding. Initially, I didn't take the friendship seriously because this lady is a little older than me and I do not see any future between us.

Now, things got more intense between us. She visited me one time, one thing leading to another, we were in bed, about to have sex and then I pulled out the condom but she refused, insisting that she doesn't enjoy sex with condom. I was very surprised to hear that, so I tried to make her see reasons why the condom is very necessary. She adamantly refused. We ended up not having the sex that day.

Just last week she visited again and we spent the night together. We tried to have sex again but the same issue came up again. She insisted I must not used condom. Now this got me upset. During the conversation that ensued, she made it very clear to me that she does not have any STD/STI so I should not be afraid. She however admitted that she was ovulating and that the chances of getting her pregnant was high, but that I should not worry that she'd take care of herself and the pregnancy, if it happens. She said that she would not force me to get involved with the baby if I don't want. However, she made very clear that she's not ready to get married. This got me confused.

I don't want to let my guards down by indulging in unprotected sex with someone I don't trust. I also do not want to hurt her feelings. So I plan to take her for medical tests next week and then we can kick it off from there.

What's your advise for me.

Thank you.

Christonjnr:
Please health professionals in the house,i meet this particular girl 3yrs ago when i was in 4level in the university. Though she lied to me she was a virgin then,but i later realize it was a lie when we both gone intimate , she later apologized and admitted she lost it with one of her girlfriend when she was into lesbianism.

The issue now is that she always see her menstrual period at the 1st week of every month usually 3rd 4th or 5th.
but things got messy during my Nysc camping,before i left for the camp,we had sex and she took postnor2 the usual drug for pregnancy prevention,during the next month she didn't see her menses at the usual time and the next thing she told me was that it came out on 12th instead of the usual time, after that unusual one she started seeing it the normal date which is the 1st week of the month.

Now the issue is that,she called me after 4 months ago and told me her menses has changed from the usual date and the latest date now is 20th of every month,this continues like this for the past 4 months now.

So I'm getting suspicious of this latest change of date to 20th,which I'm thinking that she had an abortion.
Please health professionals in the forum should help me out,can something like this happen ?
I'm thinking of confronting her,which might lead to possible breakup.
And through out this date for the past 1yr now we have not had sex due to the place I'm working which is very far from her.
pls don't mind my grammatical error,
matured advice please,
mode please help to move to FP

Cryptomicon:
I have a "hole" in between my pinky toe and the fourth toe. It makes my entire pinky toe sore to the touch, and I think that I have had it for about a 3weeks. The skin in very clean and pink, and the edge of the "hole" is a little white. There is no puss or blood, but there is a little bit of a an odor. What should I do? It's very painful and swells at times

RejectedStone:
that's what I'm thinking bro, she will later need her school fees paid

RejectedStone:
We've known each other for like 3 three years now, she loved me and I loved her. Everything was going smoothly before I got tired of the relationship and I ditched her, I moved to a new location and I cut off all contact. All her effort to get in touch with me was proved abortive.
I hurt her feelings I admit but I later realized what I did was wrong cos she is a perfect girl for me and she's well mannered.
I try and tried to get back to her but it was all in vain, so many nights my conscience wouldn't allow me rest knowing that I hurt someone.
Time flies I got over everything.
Fast forward to July this year, I was on Facebook then I come across her sister. I sent her friend request and she accepted. We talked and I asked for sister's digit but she declined was so pained I had to beg to please give me. Later she sha gave me, I called that night she was so happy to hear my voice again. We talk talk and talked.
Since then I kept the communication steady, I call to ask after her most often just to win her back but it wasn't easy.
I take her out most times, buy her things, sweet talked her, I know she go get boyfriend but I no bother ask her.
One day I took her out, we chilled and I let her know I had missed her all this while, told her to forgive me for all I've done to her but she said she had forgiven me already I was so happy and I asked if we could get back but she said NO that she's already in a relationship but we can still be friends. Though she said the relationship wasn't that serious. Most times I ask her to come and visit me at my place but she won't come
I tried all my best to win her back it but it wasn't easy cos the guy she dey with still dey level her 24/7
I later gave up on her case, I felt she doesn't worth the effort and I stopped calling her.
She called me and asked why I no dey call her to check on her again I just told her straight up I can't be fetching water inside basket na cos she's already with someone else. She told me that doesn't mean anything na that I can still be calling that she may later consider me.
But for my mind I don already gave up on her case.
Fast forward to yesterday, she called that she needed money to buy traveling bag cos she just gained admission. I told her to come to my place, we had sex and I gave her the money.
She called me this evening saying she needed money for her acceptance fee.
"You are the only hope I got" she said, nobody could help, her family are poor even her boyfriend and Tuesday is the deadline.
I have the money but i no wan give her one gotta think twice before spending on naija girls. By the time she gets to campus she gonn forget my sorry ass. What will now be my gain?

So guys is it right I give her the money?

kizyalex10:
I have been dating a girl for over 2 years now.its a distant relationship so lets say the last time i saw her was when i visited naija last year.i love this girl and i even went formally to introduce myself to the parents about my intentions to settle down with her.she is beautiful and kinda reserved and intelligent. But she have pride issues lazy to a fault and she is gaining so much weight of late that iam nt finding funny.iam on the big side and i knw d health risk attached to it nd have been on exercise nd trying to cut down ny size.but all d whole thing i complain about her doesnt seem to move her or she gets angry anytime i point out her faults.now iam confused because of how far we have gone nd meeting her family nd she knowing her family.we have gone too deep for me or her to back out.she isnt making any effort to improve.and am plañning on an intro dis xmas.and i intend to set her up bfor leaving but i have a concern if she can handle d business.
N.B..my major concern is that most of things i said i love abt her like to be reserved is probably because she doesnt lack anything cos her family aupply her excess of her needs.so she is not the one u can decieve with money.my concern is what if we re married and d fund is nt coming like she used to get from d family.will she be calling her home everytime to ask for more money or keep nagging on my ear.am confused.plz help a brother

CarlyX8:
Reject it and let hunger kee you there

You only have to reject a job when there's another one around the corner.

fairfora:
Then what? Kindly explain. Tnx

aro1:
Next she would meet imo state governor,while the best graduating student in that state will not even be recognised.. Inside life!

fairfora:
Hello nairalanders. I have this colleague who was always sleeping in the office around july. He often complained of muscle and joint pain with dizziness and pain in his eyes and both sides of his head. Sometimes, he would be complaining of slight headache and abdominal pain.

I asked that some test be run by him, including an XYZ just to be sure. He did all that and all was negative except typhoid which was inherent in the diagnostic report with negligible malaria. He was placed on a broad spectrum ciprofloxacin. He was feeling relieved after which the symptoms came back.

He went back to the clinic and was placed on Zinax, a higher antibiotics. 2 weeks later, the symptoms came back again and this time, the dr asked him to repeat the test and still repeat the XYZ. As usual all came out negative except thyphoid. This time, he was placed on augmentine. In short, he completed the recommended dose barely 2 weeks ago and symptoms have returned as I speak . Yesterday, I asked that the test be repeated for the 3rd time same as usual. Please medics, pharms and traditional medics in the house, what drug can he use to get rid of this stubborn bacteria?

nrexzy:
Hmmm
If ur not giving them a new accommodation please stay d f##k away from their business... Sometimes life isn't fair allow nature play it's cause..

BOOOMNAIJA:
I want to confirm something.....


Share for mercy/tacha, like for okonjo iweala/chimamanda adichie.

garripack:
i have been having an itchy body for about two months... and it became worst when is came below my respiratory organ... My penis and tes

SKYloafFISH:
it's not funny. It's best to make a positive comment or just ignore

SKYloafFISH:
have I offended you in my privious life or this life??
WE will meet on judgement day

Harlaan007:
Doctors in the house. What could be the reason why a wowan would be bleeding after sex and she is not menstruating?

Nigeria2040:
240million voters/ N30 per voter

240000000×N30=N7,200,000,000
7.2 billion Naira

And the grand price is just N60,000,000

This people are making money from this country

lostsoul955:
Hello nairalanders..

I have been a visiting this forum as a guest for some time now and I decided to sign up for just this...

please I need all the advice I can get.. including insults


am a 300 level student in a state University,, I was doing fine at my first/second year in school
until my first semster in my 300level when I missed my full semster exams..

I don't want to be a drop out.... I need advice on step to take.. I know I will have an extra year but I don't want to be a drop out


please help a brother

Mensah007:
NB: She has already broken up with me and insists that my moving over is the only thing that can change her mind. She wants d best for us nd has been supportive of me throughout our uni days and is a very good girl. She is really really serious abt this.


lalasticala , mynd44 , ishilove, , farano , Rocktation mods pls move to FP