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lilmax:
So this week on Friday, she confessed that she accepted to date the guy, that she did it becaue the guy is disturbing her too much.. I got mad at her and tell her again to blocked the guy number which she did. She later accused me of not having human feelings that I should pity the guy, she said if she blocked the guy now that how do I expect the guy to feel.






Look at this WEAK animal, you're a woman not a man

hahaha
bet y? make we just advise am. na y ds forum dey

Hurlarzan139:
Lol bro. That's my plan, to drop her. But my sister said I should talk to her about what she did first that she's being childish. She will be 20 soon oo.

bro don’t talk anything, that girl has a lot of years ahead in school. This one is just the beginning. later she won’t even tell you anything anymore. don’t raise your expectations high bro, leave early so as not to develop high blood pressure later. Girls wey just enter school dey get one kind spirit

Hurlarzan139:
Good afternoon Nairalanders.

There is this girl that we've been dating for up to a year now, she love me so much and I love her so much too. When we started everything is going on smoothly until like 3 months back now that we started having issues regularly.

She has this attitude of talking recklessly without thinking of the consequences of what she says. I am the angry type, whenever she talk to me anyhow and I reply her back anyhow too she will be crying foul. For me not to be receiving blame, I always cool my temper even when she know I'm 100% angry. So as not to overreact, I wlll just be quiet. She just entered school this October and fast forward to around last week, she told me that one guy living around her hostel always disturb her that she like her and when the disturb is much she later gave him her number, immediately I told her to tell the guy not to call her again and she should block the guy number. So this week on Friday, she confessed that she accepted to date the guy, that she did it becaue the guy is disturbing her too much.. I got mad at her and tell her again to blocked the guy number which she did. She later accused me of not having human feelings that I should pity the guy, she said if she blocked the guy now that how do I expect the guy to feel. Since then I just couldn't think straight, I don't know if I should call this attitude of her kind hearted or she's making fool of me. She has been begging me since last night to forgive her that she will not do such again, but I don't believe her, cause my mind is telling me she will continue talking to the guy becaue they live next house to each other.
She's not a kid cause she' will be 20 soon.

This is someone with all what she's doing that I still instructed my younger sister which is the same age with her to help me buy stuff for her for Christmas and New Year. I told my sister this morning all what happened, she couldn't believe it.

Please, my question is what should I do? She's coming to my place next week, and I'm thinking of sitting her down and let her know the gravity of what she did. Or I should just zero her from my mind.

Make Una no mind my English ooo..

Please moderators, Abeg help me push this to front page so that elders on here can see it and contribute.

bro forget that babe joor. As she don dey skul she belongs to others. Before i left nigeria, my gf just got admitted to the university. i told her straight up to find a new bf, i no dey like long distance thing

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

bro you are no overreacting. I experienced little of this shit too but mine was if her kids liked what she got for me, she gives them or something she gives me d ones her kids reject. I only forgave that lady after my father adviced me to.

naijaguy123456:
Is that not why chioma married him cos of American papers and access to real money. If davido was a shoe maker or huzzling bottle water will she marry him ?

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if u wer a girl, would u marry a shoe maker?

ebixxx:
Let somebody shout HALLELUJAH!!!
It's PPR eFamily!!!

TIMELINE:
NOC: 4032
IELTS (Accompanying Spouse) [2nd Feb, 2019]: LRWS = 8.5,8,7,8.5 (8.5,8,7,7.5 before EOR) British Council
IELTS (PA) 1st attempt [2nd Feb, 2019]: LRWS = 7.5,8.5,7,8 (after this, Wifee refused to write IELTS again... It took months of begging to convince her to write again, so I chose to pay for 2 tests back to back so she would not be under too much pressure)
2nd attempt [27th July 2019] British Council: 8,7.5,7.5,8
3rd attempt [1st August 2019] IDP: 8,9,7,7.5 (Never bothered to collect the TRF)
ECA (PA): Master’s degree (WES – January 14, 2019)
ECA (Accompanying Spouse): Professional degree needed to practice in a licensed profession (MCC – October 26, 2018)
ITA: 12/08/2019 (CRS 468)
AOR: 05/09/2019
MED PASSED/BIL: 19/09/2019
BIOMETRICS DONE: 25/09/2019
PPR: 16/12/19
FAMILY SIZE: 4

ITA:
Created our profile on the 11th of August immediately I picked up my wife’s IELTS Test Report Form. We got ITA the following day (12th August 2019)

MEDICALS: Was a seamless process at Qlife family clinic, Lagos on 3rd September, 2019.
I was initially quite worried because my son had a birth injury (Erb’s palsy) which makes him have some difficulty raising his left arm high above his head (he is otherwise a healthy and active boy) and I wasn’t sure of the grounds for medical inadmissibility.
I asked several questions back then on this forum, and @Topsmamen and @Ladymarshall were very helpful to us.
The Panel Physician assured us that we were fine, and then I could relax a bit.

PCC: Inspector Moshood sorted out our PCCs at 3.5k each on 2nd September 2019 (I got his contacts from this thread).

ECA:
I started out the process as the PA so I had gotten my ECA report from MCC since August 2018.
I, however, was too busy at work to give IELTS preparation any time. After the drop in ITA score to 438 in January 2019, I was gingered and immediately registered for IELTS.
After realizing that we had no hope with a CRS score of 444 we had to change strategy – Wifee had to be the PA (age advantage).
I evaluated my wife’s credentials with WES (Canadian Equivalence = Master’s degree). Slight delays from University of Port Harcourt’s end, but thank God it all ended in praise. The report was obtained on January 14th, 2019.

POF:
100% Gift Deed from my dad (PA’s father In-Law). Gift deed was notarized.
I also transferred 1.5m to wifee's account to buffer just in case of currency fluctuations.
We purchased treasury bills with the gifted sum, and left the 1.5million in her account.
We submitted: Treasury Bills certificate, My wife's 6months Bank account statement, Letter of reference from Bank (very generic letter from Access Bank with only the date the account was opened and that the customer is recommended for business relationship), a letter of non-indebtedness, notarized gift deed, transfer receipts from my dad’s account, my bank statement showing the transfers to my wife’s account, a letter of support from me stating I transferred funds to my wife’s account, and an image of OANDA converter exchange rate on the date of submission. I even went overboard to add my dad’s international passport and pictures of my parents with us on our wedding day (so no VO will say they aren’t sure of something – maybe this was too much sha).

REFERENCE LETTERS:
We claimed work experience from 2 different schools my wife worked for.
My wife worked for 2 years in the first school. She then took out time to go for her Master's degree full time).
Thereafter, she worked for 9 months in a second school, after which she resigned to go work as a customer care agent for over 9 months. Little did we know this would not count as it was under NOC C. When we realized (by further research) in May 2019, she immediately resigned and went back to the second school to continue teaching. As God will have it, when she was finally ready to write IELTS again in July 2019, she had gotten the extra 3months of work experience so we could claim 3years.
So, we added 2years (School 1) + 9months (School 2 – April to January 2018) + 4months (School 2 – May to Sept 2019).
N/B: The current principal in her PPA refused to give us a reference letter for her NYSC period. He said he could not find any records in the school of happenings before 2016 when he became principal, so he could not issue any letter. Thank God for making a way for us without needing that.
My wife was paid in cash in school 1, so we submitted a salary certificate in addition to the reference letter which stated mode of payment, employment letter, and resignation letter.
For her first period in school 2 she was paid via cash cheques. We submitted the reference letter which stated mode of payment, payslips, employment letter, resignation letter, and the schools 2018 brochure showing her pictures.
For her second period in school 2, she was paid via her bank, so we submitted the reference letter, payslips, re-instatement letter and bank account statement showing salary deposits.

VISA REFUSALS: I declared my previous US and UK visa refusals, and attached the refusal letters. I did NOT fill a schedule A form and was never asked for one.

LOEs: There was an age discrepancy on our marriage certificate, for which we did an "affidavit for correction of age" and also explained in an LOE.
We also had LOEs for proof of funds and visa refusals.

PASSPORT: Scanned only stamped pages or pages containing visas (NOT ALL PAGES). I included my old passport also.

THE WAIT:
Honestly, I was already mentally preparing to start waiting. Our TBills are to be due in January and was planning to send an updated POF then.
We do not know our Visa office and did not raise any CSE.
Had no ADR.
I joined an Indian and a Nigerian whatsapp group, but realized that I wasn’t ready for the tension generated by people second guessing their applications, hence I left all whatsapp groups and made this thread may daily stopover for encouragement – looking out for PPR stories.

PPR:
I watched Daddy GO almost every night of the RCCG Congress 2019, and when he said on day 6 that we should ask God for something big, getting our PPR in January was one of the things I asked for.
I even googled a sample picture of a PR visa, printed it out in colour, wrote my name on it with the issue date as January 2020 and put it on my bedroom wall (vision board). This was on Sunday the 15th of December (after the night session of Day 6 on the 14th of December).
Lo and behold, my wife shouted this evening, screaming that I should come downstairs with my laptop. I was initially wondering why, as she knew I was working on a project using my laptop. The first thought on my mind was that the golden mail had landed, but it was too good to be true so I pushed the thought aside and ran downstairs to go see to my damsel in distress…
The look on her face and her radiant smile said all I needed to know, and we started screaming…
The golden mail in her mailbox was dated 16th December 2019 even though she noticed it just this evening.
Our kids kept on asking us, “Daddy what is wrong?” Mummy, what is the problem?”
All we could say was: “There is no problem my love. With time you will know okay.”
Glad they are very understanding.

Thank God it has ended in praise for us.
It is still so unreal to me, but I will be ungrateful if I do not testify to God’s goodness unto us. I was expecting this in March when our 6months would have expired, not knowing my prayer of faith will be answered so speedily. Processing time of just over 3months. It can only be God! I pray this encourages someone also praying for the same.

Now I can focus and prepare for my final exams to become a Consultant Surgeon in a few months’ time (my back up plan if I ever have to return to Naija).

Hoping to travel in June 2020 God willing.

Many thanks to @Topsmamen, @Ladymarshall, @Cutieplum, @Adunnee, @ifeoma77, @Joo2018, @Intellectualmum, @Rebe, @shege45 for their selfless help through this process. May God richly bless you all!

Sorry for any typos. I was just in a hurry to share my joy.

Wow
congrats

jakandeola:
go tell ur generation mto shut up

Cow
When men do like women it gets irritating, how can a man with balls open a thread for this rubbish. I’m sure if u had a job u won’t do this

shacxy:
Bros how far have you gotten any solution and are you now free from typhoid I seriously need help please

I just realized that it wasn’t typhoid doing me. If its incessant, just know it’s not typhoid

shugaboy6102:
This is my story and I will appreciate if the mods can push it to front page so that others can read and learn from me, and I also need your honest comments and advice because you could be saving a drowning man. Am 29 years of age, a civil engineer by profession and a sanguine by temperament. Before my youth service @ age 24 I got my girl friend pregnant and I was scared of abortion so we decided to keep the baby with the full support of my mother and she agreed because I was an only son. After that, we proceeded to see her people with my mum and relatives to my girl friends village and we paid something on her head but didn't complete the whole traditional right, but this was not even the traditional wedding proper. After that we saw ourselves as husbands and wife and we were living fine for sometime. After sometime, the relationship took a different turn as we were always fighting and didn't agree on even the slightest matter. I remember vividly one occasion we fought over a female colleague @ work who sent me a whatsapp message and why we fought was that she came to my work place and fought the young lady openly embarrassing me in the process in front of everyone. There were times I would try to reconcile but she would blatantly refused, sometimes she will tell me she is fed up of this thing we call marriage and that she's looking for someone that I too should look for someone else.
Fast foreword I met a lady and one thing led to another and I started picking interest in her. It was never my intention to be with another woman but I don't have peace of mind and I feel I am loosing my mind. Note: I haven't wedded in a church before of done a full traditional marriage. Here comes the question: would it be considered a divorce if I quit this union and marry this new lady?
I am full of unhappiness and pain and I don't want to live a life of endurance and pity. Pls nobody should pressure you into getting married, marriage is not a license to live a happy life. If you are single, I envy you.

bro if una no do court wedding, una just be advanced bf n gf, not even common law partner. leave if it makes yoy happy

jakandeola:
we know marriage is sweet and most wish that after university at 24 25 dey got married but above 30 no hubby.
prideness is no 1 reason why most are not married.if u think u are most beautiful anoda girl is dear more beautiful Dan u. if u think ur wise and speak good English anoda is better than u.

shut up
must every one marry?
i wonder how people take this marriage thing

Gaspardd:
She told me specifically that if i do not go to church with her next sunday, i shld just forget about her for the rest of my life.

Her claim is...she has never made such request like that b4, so for her to insist on it means she is very serious about it. Tho my response was "I'll rather die" but reason why she would be so clear cut about it kinda bothers me. One mind is telling me to just say fùck it and be a man but another voice is telling me to give it a rethink or something.

lol i remember wen my gf back den use to threaten me like ds. I simply didn’t care. We have no longer being together for over two year.
bro d truth is that she would still leave weda u go or not. Just please ur self

Coldie:
This guy disowned Nigeria in his last fight.

When Andy Ruiz who is Mexican American entered d ring he played the anthems of his 2countries.

But this guy British Nigerian only played the anthem of Britain. Me as a Nigerian to me that is an insult to our country

What does that tell u, he has no loyalty or allegiance he is just after the money, anywhere that favours him he faces there

shuuu
i have disowned nigeria even while i was still there. What has the country done for me that i cannot disown them. Uk made this guy and ur here talking this one. For the fact he still claims he is a nigerian is a good image to nigeria. if na me i go deny say i from nigeria.

Lalast:
Hi guys,

So there's this lady I've known for a long time from my home church but she's 10years older than I am. She's like 35 but not married. She got my number when she learnt I moved to the state she is and sent me a message on whatsapp congratulating me on my new job. We started chatting since then. During one of our chats, I told her I would find time to come and see her and she said that would be nice. She said we could even see a movie together. Later during that week, she sent me a message and suggested we have lunch instead. Recently, she texted me the venue and time for the lunch. My concern is that I don't know what to expect given that she's older than me. I'm also wondering why she suddenly said we should have lunch instead of seeing a movie.

What do you guys think?

so just because of this you don dey think rubbish

advancedtechng:
The experience i had dating a female student wasn’t good at all, they always love one particular guy in school, 99% of female students have their lover in school this is completely from a true research worldwide so don’t just waste your time...let me not talk too much sha just try it, Well, If you would like to control your partner’s WhatsApp chats for life without having his/her phone with you and even if he/she lives far away from you then WhatsApp me and I will send you my tutorial on it for free but if you can’t go through the stress of doing it yourself then you can pay for my service 3k to have me do it for you quick. if you need this WhatsApp me 0*8*1*0*5*0*8*2*1*3*6

lol this guy again.

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

For the fact i was always saying women are like swimming pool

Just swim your own and move on shaperly

So you were actually swimming without swim suit(condom)?

not time for blame man

seanwilliam:
Walai is like the world is turning against me oo from phone hanging to body scratching..
Well the itching started 5days ago, and I've not been myself ... well my instinct is telling me it was the sex I had with one old lady that is mature enough to be our second born for house ( I didnt dive in raw, but she bloujob me well well) .. haah and na my girlfriend cause am oo, well the lady's lapse confused me sha.. well I've taken ampicillin cloxacillin bitchamp( that's name on the tablet).. I couldn't see any improvement so I took printing( i dont know the spellings but that's what the nurse called it).. I even bought deworming drug and used it. Well I thought maybe the worms in my stomach don full.. I've stopped using my old sponge and soap.. I bought a new soap( of same maker).. I dnt use any sponge right now.. it gets intense whenever I dip my hands in water( my palm especially). I've used aloe vera to rub my body but somebody suggested I buy cacatin with dettol liquid and soap.. please help me .. abeg nobody should mention HIV here.. no kill me abeg please tell me what to do please.. I don cause that lady already...

just talk to a doctor. Stop this self medication

freshupdates:
Don’t mind him babe, hustle for yourself, he just wants you to have his time so he can be lashing you front and back day and night and yo he doesn’t wants to be buying food from outside cause it costs a lot and nor dey belle full....By the way, I help gain access to your partner’s WhatsApp Account remotely without touching his/her phone, even if he/she lives far away from you. I will send you my tutorial for free but if you can’t go through the stress of doing it yourself then you can pay for my service 3k. if you need this WhatsApp me 081,05,08,21,36

are you sure bro that u won’t touch d persons fone? Cus d one i dey do u go touch d person fone ooo

SyberKate:
Good day, all.

So I have been dating this my BF for 6 months now and we plan to get married in about 3 months.
Now he wants me to quit my job, a job I got by myself without anybody's help. Yes, the pay is not fantastic but I can take care of my basic needs, and I do get stressed out every day and too tired to cook when I get home.

But my BF wants me to quit that he will be giving me pocket money while I look for a better job. And this is someone who is still hustling o!
Now I have a funny feeling he doesn't have my best interest at heart.

Yes I am actively looking for a better job but I don't think it is wise to quit a job without having another and be hoping for BF to be giving me pocket money

why did he say u shld quit

Godsonjolly:
Funny indeed. Your mum is just too funny..
But I think it's possible to get pregnant through mouth action especially if the person is an ulcer patient or has a opening or wound in the stomach. Well, a test will determine who's responsible. Congratulations � on becoming a father

possible fire

Lol
Guy leave that babe joor
Make she go find who dey responsible

tstx:
They turned up for OLAMIDE

nah
Wizzy likes fireboy and teni

TheGoodJoe:
I just broke up with my Girlfriend unexpectedly. We had dinner at her place together and everything was going well until she was walking me home and told me she was spending a night at one of her girlfriend's place and I just flipped.

History:

I honestly thought she was the one and I felt I have known her long enough to march her to the altar. We have been together for over a year and I have made my intentions known to her.

Well, I hit a brick wall financially and things have not been easy going as before. In the course of my challenges, I always do my best to meet up with her upkeep. She is the kind that can manage things.

However, a change in attitude came recently and she stopped doing things she used to do. Most especially making decisions or going out without informing me. She had done it three times recently and yesterday, I begged her that for the sake of our relationship which means a lot to me, she should talk to me before making some decisions or going out.

Climax:
We settled but she had planned to spend a night outside without telling me. I knew because I told her I was coming to see her tomorrow evening. She said no that she is spending a night with her girlfriend.

I just ended the relationship because I am tired of fighting.

So was I wrong or too harsh?

see if it wld gv you peace of mind, its fine

Bluebarbie10:
Hello nairalanders. For those who read the other thread of have I been charmed, here is what really transpired.
My boyfriend called me one night and his friend told me to come pick up his phone from his place and I asked him who he was because my screen was damaged. He said he was his friend and asked him who I was to his friend (my boyfriend) and I said I was his friend.
In my picture of things, I think he was telling his friends about our relationship and how we loved each other before calling.
When he came to town he asked me on a date where he walked out on me for no reason. I guess it was payback for what I did.
Lol what I'm about to say will sound really funny. When I called him a lady picked up shouting 'who are you?'
Pls guys did I do anything wrong here?

what are u saying

When i see people complain that doctors didn’t attend to them before payment especially in private hospitals, i laugh. Private hospitals don’t get funding from anywhere. How would they be there if patients don’t pay. I urge every private hospital to have a pos or a provision for transfer in case of emergency. So people won’t say they don’t av cash on them.

But if a government hospital do this, call them wicked. Because I don’t know why people pay taxes if not for situations like this.

monerozi5590:
You just spoke my mind. I have been having stomach problems for the past 15 years now. None of them seems to know what's wrong with me... They keep treating typhoid fever because test results shows typhoid. Some of them are even saying is psychological. I met one long time ago and he gave up on me.

I just wanna travel out for a better treatment. I will save up for that.

its like we are on same boat. I have been having stomach issues for over 3years. They all treat typhoid. Some people say make i reach LUTH, the doctor there said its in my head and wanted to refer me to the psychlogy department. I just smile, I just tell myself say i no go again till I comot country.

thesmallgod:
Around 2016, I had a skin condition and decided to go to a teaching hospital in Ogbomoso. When it was my turn to see the doctor, I met some group of doctors and some college students (they were doctors too but still undergoing training as they all sat and observing the senior doctors). After series of questions I was asked to UnCloth that they will like to see my lower limbs. Everybody including the students started looking me and observing my reaction. That day, I felt so bad because I thought they were just using me as an object of expression without seeking my consent.

lol the moment you go to a teaching hospital, you are already given consent. You pay less so that you would be used as a tool for learning

One in a govt hospital that met told me she knew what was wrong with me, then gave me her number to come to her private hospital for treatment but if i chose to be treated in the government hospital, she would just give me the normal treatment. That day i just confuse

You dey do music before? This one na style she dey take solicit for help

user283:
I've done that before but it doesn't change anything bro

even tho I hardly take things from girls because i no want make them talk rubbish when we break up, they still give even when them no get. Sometimes even if i insist I don’t want, they drop it and go. I no go come get choice. Bro , like I said earlier, God just use style dey show you wetin u wan enter. Its up to you. Cuz no be tomorrow u go come up thread here dey complain

user283:
There's this lady I've been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed the introduction due to an issue that might cause problem in the future

I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type. When I mean stingy, it's on the high side. Assuming she's just averagely stingy I wouldn't really be bothered but this is gross.

I work as a bank teller (contract staff) and my salary isn't really much while she works in Shoprite. Even from the little I earn, tipping my girlfriend whenever she's stranded or not has never been a load on my neck since I love her but how can I explain being with a lady for two solid years and I've never for once received any gift no matter how little it is?

Initially, I didn't see this as a big deal probably because I grew up with the mentality that it's a taboo for a man to expect gifts or little support from his girlfriend when he's in dire need
but I've now grown to see "give and take" as one of the key elements of a good relationship

Even if I get stranded or go into debt, my girlfriend act nonchalant and she'll be the
last person that will ever render a little financial assistance to help my situation. You might say I should sit her down and about it. Yes I've already done that and I made her understand that I postponed our introduction no other reason but because I'm still indecisive if I would want to end up with a selfish woman but her response shows it's her nature.

I even used logic to whine her younger brother recently and he told me her sister is stingy. I believe her brother should know her better.

You might want to talk about sex but my belief is that sex is just a mutual pleasure and does not define what a woman gives to you in a relationship. 

What's getting me worried is that we've come a long way but I don't want to end up with a selfish woman because it's written all over her that she cares so much about herself alone

Please advice your fellow brother. Do I have a reason to be worried? I've been jumping a lagoon for a woman who can't jump a gutter for me especially when it comes to giving

Should I tolerate this level of stinginess from a woman simply because I'm a man? Can you consider a marrying someone as stingy as this just because she has other good traits?

Please pardon my typos. I wrote this in a hurry

a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. That woman no go support you in hard times. Na only ur money go dey go House. Just know your salary would be for all of u. Be wise

I once forgave a cheating partner. I was serving and she was in school, we were in different states.
But that was then, I cannot do that now. Once you cheat, it’s over. If you catch me too end am

OROSUNBOLB:
I hate being taken for a ride! I won't forgive and forget such deceitful act. I will fix the two dirty bastards permanently. I have a case at hand now that I'm working on and by the time I'm done with that idi0t,there will certainly be gnashing of teeth and tears of sorrow in his households. You don't send unscrupulous messages to my wife at odd hours in the name of being a business partner or friend!

KOROFO won't forgive me if I don't treat your Bleep-up and put you where stinking fools like you deserve. Your G-nut is soaked in kokoma already and you must chop am.

lol baba abeg calm down.
Two wrongs no make right bro