₦airaland Forum

girlxxhiddenxx:
I am in Nigeria and not America. same sex relationships are a crime here.

anty no too wory ur self joor

tosinntoyin:
Dear all,

I really need an advice. I currently work with one of the Nigerian banks. My monthly take home is about 450k and quite good. My major problem right now is that I have just been transferred from a Branch at one end of Lagos to another end of Lagos. All efforts to convince my boss to deploy me to a closer branch has proved abortive.

Going to work daily right now is a very difficult especially during this raining season and covid 19th period. I spend roughly 3-4 hours on the road when going to work and back home.

I am currently raising my kids on my own right now and dont know how I would manage when school resumes. Before now I drop them off on my way to work in the morning and my friend picks them up to her house in the afternoon till I get back.

I currently have a savings of 2million and would love to start a biz( I dont know what kind) as am comptemplating resigning and start a biz instead so that I can have time for my kids and not die due to stress

Please i really need advice for you all.

oga call your mother or pay a nanny but install cctv in your house. In this era you wan leave that job

Oxb90:
Can you please stop disturbing us with this rubbish. Haba it's too early.

i swear

salam8528:
don't let him deceive u he has paid 70% of DAT money as tax. canada govt is not stupid.

my bro if you like look am any how. Asides this money dem give, we dey collect tax return here. I was over shocked from the amount I got from my tax return. Since i done dey pay tax for Nigeria, I never get 500naira tax return

hamid6249:
What stupid rationale?this shows how wicked you are in real life ,so thier familiesshould be eating sand during the lock down and you expect them to come back licking your ass when the lockdown is over ,I'm sorry you are nothing less than those Lebanese that uses our brothers like slaves.what happens to advance salary,soft loans ,reduction in salary to accommodate partial loss of revenue , small stipend to at lease get food for their families ..oga you are a wicked or intending wicked boss

There is nothing like being wicked here. It’s the bitter truth, I used to reason like you when i used to work for my old boss in Nigeria. That man would tel you he won’t pay you if you don’t show up for work even when sick,we would argue with him until he finally pays , but in canada here, i totally understood an example that man gives us. If you call in sick to work here, you would not get paid. No show, no pay. Don’t bring in families here, its the harsh reality of life

Admissionclass:
When a girl you like starts playing hard to get, what should you do especially when she is showing subtle signs she likes you, leaving you confused.

Should one continue to chase her till she accepts or move on?

channel your energy into another thing

Brilliant7:
Something strange happened today at 3am I was viewing some status on my whatsapp and I saw a caption "I still love my ex" I later looked at the person that posted it, my people the person is my elder brother fiancee I was shocked that nobody can please nowadays lady despite all the money my brother spent on her, how can still be in love with her ex...
This eventually gave me a sleepless night, I was thinking that is there any way someone can use to please a lady, to my own view I knew she pretended to love my brother. I don't know whether to tell my brother or to sit down and watch the love story to the end..
To be sincere I don't just like the girl self...

shuuuu its a challenge on whatsap now

freeman131:
I have noticed for about a year now that my Elder brother(age 29) who's a doctor masturbates for a living.

I started living with him in Abuja since April last year.

One night I had a strange nightmare so I decided to tell him about this but to my utmost surprise I caught him masturbating using a porn video in his laptop.

I was really shocked and as a caring younger bro I tried to confront him.

He told me that he's been battling with this act since his University days.

The surprising thing is that he's got a pretty girlfriend who loves him so much.

I had already advised him on seeking spiritual cleansing from our pastor, all to no avail.Now I feel really guilty knowing this and confused about how to make him stop this.

Should I inform my parents, pastor, siblings or his girlfriend?

Please I need constructive advice thanks.

You must be foolish to even consider tell someone. It’s totally normal.
What is your business

Romanoff:
Please educate yourself on an annulment.

annulment is also a legal term. ok let me rephrase my question , you frown at fornication but encourage annulment? I thought marriage in church was till death do part

Romanoff:
See ehn, stories like this will not change the fact that God frowns at fornication. But there is something to be done, instead of running here to share this story, what have you done on your own?

Have you sat him down to ask him questions like "how long have you had this issue, why didn't you tell me, what steps have you taken to solve the issue, what do we do"?

These are questions you can ask him if you love him and are interested in the marriage.

If he deceived you into marriage even after knowing he can't perform sexually, the marriage can be annulled since it hasn't been consummated. Lawyers, correct me if I'm wrong o.

If you can forgive his deception, you both can seek medical counsel from a urologist on what his options and chances are.

you frown at fornication but encourage divorce.

youngvikthor:
my brother has not bring any girl in that house nor he call eny girl so what the fk is the used cond*om doin there

oga advice him and if he denies, face wetin carry u go there

Casalindal:
What about my own feelings and what I want?? Should that be taken out of the table?? I dnt feel mine is less trifle.. there should be firm convictions on why he should not be

anty don’t marry him if you cannot understand. marry ur bestie.

This shouldn’t be an issue sef
y would u want a male as a maid of honor

Gforce2019:
Pls, it is not compulsory to marry. So, don't make people.that re not.marry feel bad. Everybody have his or.her own timing..the kind wahala wey some people dey face because of the wrong marriage wey dem don enter pass hellfire.
The customary court is full with marriage divorce case because of the two nonsense things that join themselves together and calling themselves husband and wife..pls help our society to get rid of bastard children.marriage is.not compulsory...

If.you want to.learn about celibate, you can dm me.

God bless you. if person no get moni him fit choose not to marry

DateMynd44:
hmm what an advice.
SMH!

ok

udoekere:
I just received an SMS with my utme score being

English-45
Government-54
Crs-49
Economic-44
Total=192

so what are my chance of getting admission into the university of uyo to study political science

oga go learn work

seniormallam:
No wahala na.......refuse to attend to patients and let the corona breakout .........let me see if you will dig hole and start living inside with your families.

imagine working two months and u don’t get paid

SenecaTheYonger:
I've never heard that a coffin maker died. It's difficult to hear that because they work for death.

deep

Davash222:
Hope you do contribute for sick persons in Nigeria?

let me worry about that bro
Just give if you can and be calm if you can’t. No be every situation you gats talk

Davash222:
I should contribute money for someone staying in US Seems your head is paining you.

dont u see d condition? what’s the big deal about US. if you no go drop money just keep quiet. me sef no go drop cus dem go still deport am but if a sick person in america needs contribution, i wouldn’t do it gladly

Fineboy444:
I have been having sex with prostitutes since the age of 18. Now I'm 21 and I can't stop,the urge just keeps coming. I am just tired,I've tried so many ways to stop but all to no avail. Please you guys should help me. I need durgs that will kill my testeorone. My father is a politician,I always see money and I've slept with so many ladies which I have no emotional connections with. After sleeping with them I will have low self esteem and shame. I will start to regret and hate myself. I like going to ocabique in ph city. I spend close to 50k everyday and I go there like 4 times in a week. The girls there are not helping matters at all. So many fine girls there. Please I seriously need help. Please move this to front page. I am just tired. Please help me. I need to save money.
Please take it to the front page.
cc farano

get a gf

Tife556:
I was at a party today with my bf ..it was his cousin's wedding... After everything and it was time for food at the reception... My bf was greeting some guests and the caterer sharing the food brought me rice...I just took a spoon and behold I saw a woman behind the caterer saying the food isn't for me.. I told her am eating already I can't release the food anymore... Then she began shouting at the caterer before I knew it..people were gathering and I politely told her to leave the caterer alone since she made a mistake but she faced me instead....I was furious and we rained insult on each other..my bf had to drag me away from there...
He took me outside and said all sorts of things to me , even called me a glutton without knowing what really happened...And he said he was tired of my eating attitude and needed a break ..The painful part was when he said all the food I eat goes to waste without it showing in me..I was really hurt and I left there angrily...but I was really ashamed because his mum was there....
I admit I eat a lot but I just can't control my urge for food...
I don't know if I should be angry or apologize to my bf ...
Someone pls help me

you sef y u go dey fall yout hand for public like dat. if dem say food no be for you just leave am. d drama was not necessary

emmyeuler1:
After 5yrs of dating,companionship and serious affection,my girlfriend finally dumped me for a banker.We are both undergraduates of the Obafemi Awolowo University,Ile-Ife and about entering final year.I just discovered a change in attitude on her part.She finally opened up that she was no longer interested and started dating a banker who works at the Access bank located inside the OAU campus.Please should I go spiritual by making her pay for it or ignore it?...I need ur advice

i understand how you feel bro but move on. It happens alot
I have been there

Vyvyanvyvy:
Thanks for nice advice. You are right my son has become a thief due to the way my sister in law has being treating him , depriving him from food and many bad things the boy had no other choice than to steel. Since I’m alive I want him to be with me and I will take good care of him

at this point u av to choose between ur husband and ur child. if u love ur child den u might leave ur husband to rent ur place

ok

Icon79:
Wow. At 15 years of age and it's already an expressway down there

May God have mercy on this generation!


O pari

i am very sure d man did not rape her

myndd444:
Shut you Pharisee. He has realized his mistake and is feeling guilt already. Why then do you keep judging him? Are you God?

Be very careful before I ban you

leave am
na so dem dey do.

Davash222:
Your wife must be a nice woman.

I'll advice your brother to ensure she's a virgin. No guy should marry a non virgin Nigerian girl.

una go just calm down, type rubbish. Why una dey look this sex thing as big thing

Make thunder fire me if i even think am

Johness:
Hi everyone, My name's John.

I've been on incognito mode for months now but i just decided to register today so i could pour out my mind here.

I'm still a young chap of 20, since i left school to play football things has really been tough for me, the pressure from loved ones is really too much for me; not that i can't play but the connection is not there, no one to help.

Every morning when i wake up, the zeal to train is no longer there. It's just as if I've lost hope after 4 years of leaving my confort zone.

Last month i decided to start a street hustle but that one also is another frustration. Things are not just working, at age 20 I've really suffered.

The passion for football is still there but no encouragement. I just feel regret written all over me. It's 3:29am and i can't sleep, thinking hard about my life.

Who did i really offend, where did i go wrong, so many questions running through my mind. I'm just tired of this life, if not for hell fire i would have done the unthinkable.

No one in my family to talk to, everyday i smile but deep down inside of me I'm really hurting. I just came to nairaland to pour out my emotions maybe i will feel a little confort. Thank you for your time reading.

you are alive, you are healthy , you are young and you think like this.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Older brother who is 11 years older called his younger sister an slowpoke and obesed.

And then proceeded to throw her purse on the stairs. Showing a total lack of respect for her.[/color]

wetin you do am? besides na normal siblings fight

WilliamsTheGrea:
Hello everyone, my name is Williams, I'm a young guy of 26 years old currently engaged to a very pretty young lady who is 24 years old

I do business online and earn good income before I decided to find a lady and settle down with and luckily I found a good one who is decent and don't flirt around or do social media's like whatsapp or Facebook. Hardly receives calls, not friendly with males lol (I managed to woo her through a church member)

We have been 1 year into the relationship now and we are to get married next month but guys the problem I am having now is that she has a child for another man which is her ex she was with when she was young she gave birth at age 20, we dated for about 7 months before she told me this.

Ever since then I haven't really been myself, the child is a male child who lives with her mother but recently the mother called her to come carry the child as she can no longer look after him due to him being a very stubborn boy, the child is 4 years old.

Now she has gone to bring the child to our home, a two bedroom apartment, I'm a kind of guy who loves peaceful environment with no single drop of noise, now ever since the child came in about a week now, I have not had peace, we have quarreled several times because of the child, I'm not really comfortable with the child because I can't love another man's child as my own

My girlfriend is yet to give me a child of my own, the child runs around and doesn't listen except when beaten and each time I beat the boy up when he does wrong my girlfriend looks at me with hatred like I'm maltreating the boy because I'm not the father.

Please guys help me I don't know what to do but I can't cope with the child, I remember paying the child school fees about 3 times since we are together because the child's father isn't doing anything at all.

Now today is the child's birthday and she is asking me for money to get him cake and take him out.


My people of nairaland I cannot accept another man's child no matter what I love the mother but not the child the connection is just now there because the boy isn't of my character I'm a calm man, very calm but the boy is very radical and stubborn children irritate me so much.

I don't know what to do.

Each time this child topic comes up between I and my girlfriend she becomes bitter.

She says she will never take the child to the father or the family of the father that she must raise the child herself.

I don't think I can help train anothrr man child whom in the end will go and find his father after he is all grown.

Please I need advice, she says over her death body will she return the child to the father

I'm not comfortable in my own home.

A lot of things running through my mind like to break up with her for peace to reign

Or rent another apartment for her and the boy to go live in.

Please I need matured advice

she has clearly chosen the child and if you not comfy with it, move on bro. life is too short to let these things bother you

Girlwhocares:
Please help me, I'm loosing my sanity everyday!
I'm scared to open up to friends and families because of what they will think or how disappointed or bad I will make them feel, also I'm afraid people will be judgemental about my actions.

I'm not physically and emotional connected with my husband which is affecting our marriage and my well-being, we live as co-tenant, we hardly have any conversation, we do things differently, we share different rooms, no sex for the past 3 years! Even during courtship and the fist two years of marriage I can account for days we were intimate.

Things are fallen out of place everyday, we have a child together who will be 4yrs and the thought of having another child has not crossed my mind.

I get irritated at everything, I hardly show appreciation towards him even if it means he has done his best, which later i will find myself guilty and try to make up but the spark and connection isn't just there.

Most times, I have a non-challant attitude towards him and everything he does to make me happy.

I feel lonely, bored and incomplete even when I'm 90% sure my husband loves me and always ready to make me happy.

I feel awkward communicating my feelings and thoughts to him because I know I might flare up with anger even when he hasn't done or said anything to warrant it.

Please I have come to this faceless forum to pour out my mind, my heart is heavy, I need someone to talk to, I'm afraid my personal intention of walking out this marriage even when my husband hasn't done anything to deserve this might backfire and has its negative effect on our child.

I honestly don't need anyone to insult me please as I'm going through a lot. All i need is mature married wo(men) opinions

Thank you for your time.

life is too short for all these. Yes the deed has been done, you married the wrong person. Pity that man and divorce him. Don’t let him continue to suffer cus u wld never love him