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ibechris:
This life is funny.

We have gotten to an age where parents now leave the care of their sons and daughters to the care of one nanny.

If na abroad,I bet u.

Chioma might be in prison.

ibechris:
This life is funny.

We have gotten to an age where parents now leave the care of their sons and daughters to the care of one nanny.

If na abroad,I bet u.

Chioma might be in prison.

PeterObi4LP:
We go insult una even add salt until una get sense

successmatters:
We all have agreed that Peter Oluwadare Obi and Yusuf Baba Datti Ahmed is our choice for president of Nigeria in 2023.

emmyileri:
I read so many of your comments here and suddenly you turn to preacher. searching the internet to support your misguided believe. Every comments I made here is biblically proven and verified. My account of discipline is a typical of a Christian home not just any home. I'm from a family of 11,I'm the 11th. Not a single one of us have a bad account of troubling our parents in any way because we were disciplined in the Christian way.You stick to what you believe and I will stick to mine. Good luck on your method of training your children, your comments so far on this platform as truly shown "how much your method of training is really working" on your children."

emmyileri:
1. My source : Are the friends who live there. I'm sure you know not every of these events is on news. A child of 15 killing tens in primary school, and high schools with high caliber guns used in war. You don't have that in Africa.
Kenneth hagins and Co (They) won't tell you when they did that. But I'm sure they live by the principles of the scripture NIV:Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away.. Proverbs 22:15
Rod of discipline is two 1. The word, 2. The cane
I'm also a teacher by profession, a well trained teacher.

They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness.
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NIV:No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace.. Hebrews 12:10-11
Have you seen where a shepherd leads his sheep. If you have you will see how he uses his rod to bring about obedience in his sheep.
Am I using cane to abuse or destroy my child? NO. the purpose is to trained him for value both now and future. I was trained by it and it works

The word rod indicates a thin stick or switch that can be used to give a small amount of physical pain with no lasting physical injury.Physical discipline is always done in love, never as a vent to the parent’s frustration. It is also just one part of discipline and should be used when the child shows defiance to a clear limit, not in the heat of the moment.... NIV:A rod and a reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces its mother. Prov 29:15
It's on this uncorrupted principle I stand on as a parent.

emmyileri:
Daily killings and violence in Europe and America is ten times that seen in Africa. Spare the rod, destroy the child

Acidosis:
...depends on who is initiating the divorce. Whoever is on the receiving end will find it difficult to accept, whether male or female.

As per the colleague in your story, she's definitely not a serious person. Which abused person will continue to wait for the abuser to sign a divorce paper? Take your evidence to the magistrate and get your divorce. His consent is useless.

My cousin has been separated for three years, took her evidence to the court. Wife wants out, husband already has another woman but says he will drag the case forever, and will not sign divorce papers. Lady even offered the guy full custody of the teenage kids, the man refused because he believes and claims the moment he signs it, we will relocate her. Its sad. For two years, the court has been insisting on reconciliation or spousal consent

SamOchuko:
As in 439m people? Base on as world bank president or what? Hmmm, this is seriously serious

Obavoh:
My wife put to bed 2 weeks ago.

My mother usually takes care of her but her aunty decided to come this time.

I usually have sex with my wife 2 weeks after she puts to bed. It pains her a little but I am very gentle with her. She knows I am not a cheating husband that is why.

Last night as I tried to make love to her, she was crying as usual. Before you know it, her aunty started banging the door and was shouting that I want to kill my wife.

I felt so embarrassed and went tried to explain to her that it’s not so. She said if I try it again she will carry my wife and children back to the village and will return her bride price.

She asked me to wait for at least 4 months before I touch my wife again which I promised her I will as I did not want her to report to my wife’s family.

What can I do? I don’t want to cheat on my wife and I don’t want to disrespect my Inlaw by sending her away. She is a nice woman but she is making me uncomfortable in my own home.

buksarki:
Tinubu go to Ekiti using the same method Atiku is used in the North, to campaign. Is like Tinubu and Atiku is forgetting that if people vote based on the tribe Peter Obi stand more chance than them. Igbos cut across three regions in Nigeria and asuch the highest single tribe in Nigeria.

DaddyFreeze2020:
1. Recruit 50 million youths into the Army.....and ehhh...what they will eat? Cassava, agbado, garri and ewa ehhhh...

2. PVC has an expiry date

3. Dolapo Osinbajo, wife of the President

4. And yet we started disconnecting from NIPP (Electricity) our phone numbers.

5. El Rufai has turned a rotten situation to a bad one.

6. Getting over management of anger is a shorter of life.

7. 100 bags thousand barrels of oil

Now you don't need to be told why Tinubu keeps avoiding conferences.

IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

inoki247:
That's one from the Bishops....

https://punchng.com/bishop-row-3000-imo-diocese-members-protest-against-popes-choice/

since you say they're accommodating...

Vyzz:





Someone said Obi is the best regarded.


Inec no waste money for election when we simply know the winner, declare Obi the winner already so we can use the election budgets to help build Nigerians and Nigeria.

The winner is already verified

Redstubpen:




Village people are definitely real. He just threw away the opportunity hundreds of people would almost kill for.


And I am here stuck, stagnant , overwhelmed, anxious , depressed ,no show, no family, no loved ones, no clue. I am 36 and I feel I have my wasted my life and existence despite my abilities and paper qualifications.

I am genuinely demoralized and I can't help myself anymore because I lost my steam already. Someone should come through for me and brighten my way, advise and boost my confidence.

Truthsoldier:
Good day nairalanders

There is the sweet young lady,godly,smart and intelligent lady I plan settling down soon,we are so much into each other, we have discussed so many things concerning our future but the issue here is that she told me she would not want us to have our kids in Nigeria.
I told her that there are actually some good places in Nigeria, in fact she told me she would want us to have a permanent residency over there in Canada,I told her about my work,she said that there is no problem if I would want to be coming visiting them to which I disagreed, she told me that she would want us to go there and continue more on her education and I settle and get a job there.
I tried to let her know that she may choose to have our kids born there and we still return to Nigeria, but she's having none of that,she loves me so much,but this aspect is what I want to figure out.

Should I grant her that desire of totally relocating, or let us have our home there while I work here in Port Harcourt, I would not like to stay away from my family and kids.

What should I do now?

Klass99:
Lol, Coco I am very okay. There's nothing sinister going on with my NL account or with me.

I intentionally and deliberately deleted all my posts, sort of like a master cleanse and social media detox.

That's just me working towards a limited use or zero use of NL. I am truly sick and tired of the disrespect and toxicity on this forum.

I'm saying NO to negativity in my life and my account may likely be deactivated come end of year, for a fresh start and new beginning when 2023 rolls in.

I have also put recent posts in quotes to avoid being quoted, because the plan is to delete them later and do a final cleanse of my posts.

ednut1:
An Ontario appeal court has sent three children back to Nigeria and the custody of their father, rejecting their mother’s arguments that she could not get a fair shake in that country because of patriarchal attitudes and anti-gay prejudice.

The case of Olubukola Ajayi and Eyitope Ajayi is one of a growing number of disputes in Canada that set concerns about international child abduction against arguments about unfairness and discrimination in foreign jurisdictions.

Ms. Ajayi argued in court that she was justified in bringing their three young children to Canada without the father’s consent last November, because of discrimination, abuse (which Mr. Ajayi denies committing), patriarchal attitudes and the influence of her ex-husband’s family in Nigeria.

She asked the Ontario Superior Court to assume jurisdiction for the couple’s parenting issues and grant her sole decision-making authority over the children.

On the same day, Mr. Ajayi asked a Nigerian court to dissolve the marriage.

In Nigeria, homosexual acts may be punished with jail sentences. Mr. Ajayi made reference in a court document filed in Nigeria to Ms. Ajayi being linked to the LGBTQ community. That forced Ontario judges, in an initial ruling and an appeal, to grapple with how Nigeria’s legal system operates, and determine whether its courts would put the children first.

“I ran here just for a fair shot at protecting my rights as their mom,” Ms. Ajayi, who trained as a lawyer in Nigeria, said in an interview. Both she and her ex-husband are dual citizens of Canada and Nigeria, as are the children; Ms. Ajayi travelled to Canada to give birth to the children here.

But the courts here, she said, “did not understand how being a man in Nigeria gives all this extra privilege and power. I had never planned to alienate my children from their father and his family. But I knew that that’s what they wanted to do to me in Nigeria.”

Paul Riley, a lawyer for the father, said the decision showed that Ontario courts will stand up to child abduction.

“I think what the decision shows this week is that Canada is not going to embrace those who involve themselves in child abduction. You are not going to leave your country and then wrap yourselves in the warm embrace of the Ontario judicial system.”

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Canada is a signatory to the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction, which sets out the legal rules for returning children to their home jurisdiction. But Nigeria is not a member of the convention, and Ontario law provides that the province’s courts may take jurisdiction in such a case where it is satisfied that the foreign country does not put children’s best interests first.

A two-woman, one-male panel of Ontario’s Divisional Court released a written ruling this week explaining why they had upheld Family Court Justice Tracy Engelking’s decision to reject jurisdiction in the case. Having taken the children without consent, Ms. Ajayi needed to show they would suffer serious harm if returned to Nigeria, Justice Elizabeth Sheard, Justice Katherine Swinton and Justice David Aston said.

The judges said they accepted Justice Engelking’s ruling from May that Ms. Ajayi had failed to do so. Justice Engelking found that Ms. Ajayi had only ever said she might be asexual, and that Mr. Ajayi himself had testified in Ontario that he supports gay rights. An expert in Nigerian law testified that none of this would be a factor in determining the children’s best interests in a Nigerian court.

Justice Engelking also ruled the children were not at risk of harm with their father, noting that Ms. Ajayi had left the two older children in their father’s care for an extended period when she came to Canada to give birth. As for the father’s family’s influence, Justice Engelking pointed out that Ms. Ajayi’s mother is a superior court judge in Nigeria.

The children are now back in Nigeria. Ms. Ajayi said she will not return to Nigeria but her lawyers will fight in that country for primary custody for her, “and to have them returned back to me.” If they do not succeed, they will ask for video call access and holidays with Ms. Ajayi in Ottawa.

Nigerian students challenge English language proficiency requirements as unnecessary, discriminatory

Nicholas Bala, a professor specializing in family law at Queen’s University, said that more mobile societies have produced growing numbers of international family law disputes.

“In the absence of persuasive evidence of abuse or discrimination, it’s appropriate to send these cases back to the country of origin – which also has the effect of telling people that Canada is not going to become a haven for child abduction,” he said.

He said it is also a “question of balance.” In some countries, politics may wrongly enter family-law disputes. “I think the court was satisfied that Nigeria in 2022 is not one of those countries.”

Ms. Ajayi’s lawyer Valerie Akujobi said it’s a challenge when Canadian courts have to make determinations based in part on attitudes and sentiments in a foreign jurisdiction.

“The court does try to strike the right balance; in this case, we just felt that certain aspects had been perhaps lost in translation.”

https://www.theglobeandmail.com/canada/article-mother-loses-appeal-in-custody-case-ontario-court-sends-her-three/

osazsky:
ivf nor dey bible...so we can try it..if it where a sin..it would have been stated in the book of revelation
..so she can carry on sir

Ginaz:
A teen in my compound has a problem with body odor. several times she come to my house left the air smelling so stale and rotten, i noticed her younger sister had same issue too.

i couldn't take it anymore, it was so bad and i was afraid she might be mocked in the future if nothing is done to combat it.

i asked her if she ever heard about roll-on or antiperspirant, she replied NO! and this is someone using an iphone and changes clothing periodically.

i gave her my antiperspirant and taught her the need to use it daily as most of the odor comes from her armpit. i told her point blank she doesn't smell nice, her face changed somehow as if i insulted her and she left.

i saw her today and she walked passed me while i was trying to talk to her.

did i do wrong ? children of these days.

raphretle:
So supposing an unmarried woman decides to artificially inseminate herself because she is approaching menopause.. Then she gets pregnant.
Is it a sin??
Note: Fornication is not involved.
What would be the stand of the church on such issues?

Pegi23:
I can’t hide it anymore. I am in severe pains. I’m crying currently now. I’ve taken drugs and I am tired of swallowing drugs. Yet it isn’t going. And I don’t know any dentist around because me I want to just remove it and move on with my life. My friends said I should not do that. Pls is there anything else I can do or use for this tooth pain. Help.

Kobojunkie:
Is there some way to at least ensure he remits support back to his family at home even after he has left for Canada though?
If she can at least get something like that working, that will be better than having the man completely abandon them with nothing.

Baztardmods:
Hello Guys,

Please am writing to inquire if anyone knows the process to follow a selfish & disloyal spouse (hubby) who wants to immigrate to Canada without carrying the 3 kids and wife along.. what can the wife do in this situation to at least fight for her kids rights and make sure he provides for them before leaving and even after he leaves, the wife doesn’t want to suffer alone for the kids upkeep.. is there any option for her to fight this??

Cc Lalasticlala justwise, seun, Obinoscopy, Oa4mj Mynd44

BATified2023:
so remi tinubu is vying for presidency?

casualobserver:
tinubu is not 86, if you want to engage in falsehoods, then lets end here. For me this discussion is not even about the others, it is about you. if you are a youth led movement, your candidate should be a 35-50 year old to spearhead the movement. it is intellectual deceitfulness or lazyness at best to say "younger".

If you are now falling behind special advisers, then it goes against the ageism in your movement because an old man can also appoint special advisers!!
This discussion and your responses goes to the heart of flaw in the Obidient movement...it is not an idealogical or intellectual movement but a movement borne out of convergent strange bedfellows of frustrated naive youth, tribal considerations and wokism who have simply rallied behind an opportunist because he was all that was available!!!

The irony is you gave him the platform, you could easily have found a youth amongst yourselves and used the plaform which is of your creation to field somoene who is truly not part of the old establishment and at least represents you and your aspirations.

casualobserver:
Like I said you guys are not thinking right, the only people whose brains are working correctly are the Ibos. You are a youth say 30 and below and you are busting your ass in the name of age to hand power to a 64 year old? Are you fucking kidding me Younger is what you are using to fool yourselves? What is the difference between 64 and 70? A man who is 64 is just as remote and removed from a 30 yr old as someone who is 70. When youths were working to bring change in America, they were working for a 40 yr old Obama!! Not a man who when Deola asked 3 times how will you create jobs for tech savvy youths waffled on and on for 11 minutes and couldn’t give an answer that shows he understands the needs of youths. Go watch the video. They are asking you about tech savvy youths and he is answering as if he is talking about mechanic or trader apprentice schemes!!!!

casualobserver:
Keep dreaming, when these current old guard seized power they didn’t do it in stages, they grabbed it in their youth and have been Shari g it among themselves ever since….why? Because they worked for it!!!!