₦airaland Forum

DEMZEE:
Because they are too masculine and most of them are pseudo masculine hybrid beast women

We all know that this is not true

Annoms:
I'll try to make this short.

Yesterday I was having a conversation with my fiancée about my mum's suggestion about how to go about our wedding which is scheduled to take place Jan next year. My mum suggested that we do both trad and white wedding on the same day to cut cost. She opined that we do the white wedding in the morning and hold the traditional marriage as a reception in the afternoon. I pretty much see reasons from her perspective considering the harsh economic condition in Nigeria.

I was relating this to my fiancée yesterday in a phone call, when she flared up and said I should have consulted her to seek her opinion on this marriage arrangement before going to my family to seek theirs because I said my mum's advise seems okay.

What I deduce from her plight was that she wants the trad marriage at the village (south-east) while the white at the town where we base (South-West). That was what I initially wanted but due to high inflation in the land, I'm actually tilting towards my mum advise because I can't go bankruptcy just because I want to satisfy her. Why not use a stone to kill two birds?

She wants a cream-de-la-cream kind of wedding but she's not ready to assist financially to make that happen. (she's an awaiting corper)

I told her that the cost of transportation and lodging people from the village (hers and mine) to the city for our white marriage alone is gulping about 500/600k. That's transportation & lodging alone ooo.. I'll now spend if not x2 of what I spent on trad for white.. Why not just do everything in the village and move on with our lives? We can actually have it in the village and it will still be all nice and glamourous.

She said she wants to have a say in how her marriage will look like. Her imput is welcomed. But if she still insist on having the white wedding and not putting finances into consideration. I'm thinking that she want the white wedding on the city because of her friends who will attend which is not enough reason to go bankruptcy for.

It was a heated argument yesterday. We both went to bed angrily and not in talking terms till now

Pls advice accordingly. Thanks

If you are my son, I will ask you to think twice about marrying her in her current state.
Not because she is a bad person. I dont think she is bad but she has not really earned money and does not understand its value.

You cannot assist financially but are ready to swallow all that is available.

Son, if she wants to go to the southeast, (I think she deserves some form of ceremony in her grandfather's compound) go and do the rites.
No parties, no nothing, It should not cost more than N100k to feed extended family only. Then you can do only the white wedding in the south-west.

Until your future wife finds a job and learns how money is made, you are in for it. May God give you strength.

That's not abuse. That's discipline

DavilleBadt:
A wonderful Nairalander has helped me.

itsamakaagain@yahoo.co.uk

MisterRuk:
Lol
We Africans really hate ourselves. African Americans see our women the same way we see theirs, cheap and vulgar.
Ironically our own communities are just as bad as theirs (or worse). It's just like a pot calling a kettle black.

Good point. I also noticed that hatred between African Americans and Africans only exist amongst the poor or lower middle class.

The upper middle class and above in both of these populations are friends with each other

Any woman that a person meets in the hood will be stressful. Boys need to go to the Ivy league universities and look for African-American ladies

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Hi all, why are black American ladies/girls seen as animals and hated?[/color]

African Americans (whether male or female) are not viewed as animals except by the devil himself.
Who is mortal man that he can view a human creation of God as an animal - Not even a specific person because of the persons characters but just generalizing a set of people?
May such person judging these people in general as animals never rise from the dust.

Gloriagee:
Yeah, we are on the same page. I feel if he goes back to the wife now with no reconciliation and with so much anger on his end, 3 days behind bar can escalate into a conviction so I was countering the poster that said he should go back to his wife.

Ok,

Gloriagee:
He should go back to a cheating wife who contributes nothing and disrespects him. Maka why but more disturbing is the violent relationship between the two. His wife is really annoying but he could end up behind bars for a really long time and what of the impact of criminal records on his job search?

Sister, Nothing is stopping him from getting another good job in Canada. There are bank jobs available all day, everyday, especially with his wealth of experience.
3 days in jail will not impact his job search. He needs a conviction for a criminal offence for that to happen.

sokkatua:
Hi fellow Nairalanders, I want to share my story with you. I have been living in Canada for over 20 years, unfortunately, a Nigerian girl whom I love very much broke my heart in 2005, I was disillusioned and almost died from the depression. In 2007, my father, God rest his soul decided to introduce me to his doctor, a fresh graduate of the nation's premier university. I instantly fell in love with her, we would talk for hours, my phone bill was astronomical, unfortunately, in 2008 I was arrested in a caribean country for attempted smuggling. My wife patiently waited for me till I got out in 2012. We got married and had a daughter, but because of my criminal past, I could not sponsor my wife and daughter till 2019, so I had to travel to Nigeria every year to visit them.
To cut the long story short, i spent almost 15K dollars altogether, everything was great in the beginning but then I lost my 60k a year job in 2020 and that was the beginning of the end of my marriage. My wife would leave home for two days claiming she's working overtime, she would cook for my daughter but not for me , we longer communicate in the house, she refuses to contribute anything towards mortgage or bills because according to her, it's man's job to pay for everything even though I m only making minimum wage working as a concierge. A particular guy drops her off every time she goes to work and when i asked her who he is , she went into a tirade questioning my rights to question her.I tolerated her effrontery till three weeks ago when she was boldly telling a guy she loves him right in front of me . I lost my cool and I ended up in jail for 3 days . Right now I m not allowed to go back to the house or contact my daughter whom she now claims is not mine .I have decided to return to Nigeria with the 25k left in my account, I cant go back to prison again because prisoners often targets anyone accused of harming a woman or a child. I'm appealing to anyone to please hook me up with a job or any hustle in Nigeria.

1. Are you sure you have told the whole truth

2. Are you willing to relocate out of GTA? Send me a message or go on Alterna savings website, send your resume for the position open (they always have positions open for bankers, and then send me your name via DM. I can ask someone to send your name as a referral. Least position starts at 40K. You have no business in the GTA if your family income is not up to $90,000

3. Nigeria is messed up. Do not go back

4. Who is paying the mortgage right now? Talk to a realtor/bank about your inability to pay

5. Children always look for their parents

helinues:
Sinners runneth when no one pursueth... Are you the first to hypocritically asked dumb questions about how other spend their time?

My message is being directed to you and your likes to mind your business...

I can't count how many suggestions/recommendations which I have made on this NL that have been applicable to some of the Nigeria's problems... End Sars, it was after 3 days I joined the campaign it was disbanded.. I promote it elsewhere, Banning of open grazing in southern region was also part of my recommendations with so many other important issues..

That's my only way of contributing my quota towards the development of Nigeria. What contribution have you made towards the development of Nigeria? Which suggestions/recommendations have you made regarding any of the issues affecting Nigeria..

Like I said, you people should mind your damn business... No one can say they have been seeing me on Baba Ijesa, BBA, or other petty gossip discussion..

You don't cry of others staring at you when you did not see them with your anus... Or perhaps, it's something heavy you have been harboring for quite some time but decided to offload the unnecessary headache... Here you have it

Mind your business



As you can see below, I have myself all that cos they are cashable. Hian

In all your silliness, you were responding to dumb questions.
Good you listened to my advice. Quote the person you have an issue with and say what is on your mind. Stop gossiping. Men do not gossip. Men should not be fearful of confrontation. They face issues head-on

helinues:
God bless you for that question...

They would never mind their business... Those are the same people who you will see arguing about celebrities, Pantami this, Tinubu that..

You will never see them on important discussion...

Too bad, too poor

This is very low of you and despicable. In another thread, you complained of people gossiping about you and not speaking directly to you. What do you think you are doing here if not petty gossiping.

I mentioned you and spoke to you decently and you hypocritically answered decently, only to come here and type rubbish referring to me.

What is wrong with you children? This is so two-faced. Please if you want to tell me how I argue about celebrities mention me and say it to me. Stop gossiping because you do not like it as well. And to make matters worse nobody likes your comments until you leave the thread which is suspect.
What is wrong with you? I am too old for gossip. If you want to tell me "too bad and too poor" and tell me that I do not appear on important discussion, you are a young man - I do not believe that men should engage in gossip. kindly mention me and stop this petty gossip.

helinues:
When you have access to lots of information, engaging in topics of interest would be natural and flowing without forcing a thing.

As long as the time used for business/ job isn't hampered while engaging in Nairaland topics, please feel free to strive towards a target of 100k comments and 500k likes. Also ensure the information you have is legit and not not twisted journalism. I bid you good morning and hope you have a great day,

helinues:
That can only be regarded as self servicing which is meant for those with inferiority complex and need to seek cheaply attention...

Reflex to topics is the key cos loads dey store

Cos loads dey store? Kindly clarify

Not saying you are, however superfluous commentators/ communicators typically have underlying needs for attention, except they are paid for words eg bloggers, TV presenters, and might I add the notorious Nairaland 40-man lappy

helinues:
It's interesting to have 45,000 comments with 200k likes... Those who are giving them are not dumbos

I totally agree, except its one person registered twenty times liking his own comments. Not saying you did or did not, but it happens

helinues:
I am mostly active on Politics section...Or have you seen me in any of the Baba Ijesa, Celebrities gossip threads?

I was going to comment on 45,000 comments in just 7 years but at this point I acquiesce, while noting that 45,000 comments is an brow-raising number of comments

helinues:
It's surprising how you have been noticing

Lol, I read through threads. I dont comment on all.

helinues:
Why should that be Kanu's headache....

Make you people continue with your photoshop photos

Amazing how you appear in every thread

While disliking Buhari, This is an old man's hands.
A person with Dementia is not fit to rule a country

Melokuhlea:
Hey everyone.


Looking forward to reading your KIND responses

My response may not be very kind. I think your spouse isn't happy or into you much. I think he is depressed and that's is why he is drinking. And I think he is trying to use non-verbal means of telling you to leave. A man will do anything to protect the woman/child that he loves.

Now here are my questions: For how long will your husband manage a marriage that makes him depressed? For how long will he punish the kids for a wife that causes him depression? Why put his health at risk by drinking because of you when it is NOT easier, BUT HEALTHIER to walk away

IS THERE AN AWARD FOR BEST MARRIAGE-SUFFERER?

NaijirianKing:
His statements are designed to cause division among brothers.

Whether he is christian or not is irrelevant, it is a fact that he is not under the submission of Allah, he is a foreigner to Islam, and yet he is trying to dictate to Muslims. He can only do this in the south, if he is brave, tell him to come up North and see how the results turn out...

He should allow those who follow Allah to practice without interference from an outsider. A word is enough for the wise.

How I wish jihadists Muslims can do exactly what you wrote here. Stop their jihad and allow people practice whatever religion they like

Simplyleo:
This is one of the animals listening to the nonsense being spread by ipob pigs on social media. So a Christian will now tell Muslims how they should practise their religion?

Once the moon is sighted by any of the moon sighting committees across the country, the message is conveyed to the sultan and he announces accordingly for the purpose of uniformity. If you, Sunday Igboho (a Christian) like, you are free to celebrate any day you want, that is entirely your foolish business. The sultanate never forced anyone to comply with its directive.

Bauchi celebrated their Sallah yesterday, did you hear any noise? The choice is entirely yours but Muslims who know what it means to be obedient to leaders will comply with the announcement of sultan.

Funny how fools who spend all their useless days insulting Islam as a religion will now tell you how Islam should be practised.

You aren't very smart if you think Sunday Igboho is a christian

Only three months!

Only three months!

Only three months!

Only three months!

Only three months!

IgweOfNnewi:
What will he say before, the hunchback fugitive Kanu Nnamdi that ran away inside car boot with goats and basket of tomatoes will never confirm him, he will deny like many like him in his land, they are all lies, scammers, drug traffickers and baby factory ritualists. He should go and release him.

Not really. I used to think they were drug traffickers but apparently crime is not a tribal thing. See below

Yankee101:
Cos he was killed already, not captured

You have a point however this daddy is rather too old to be handed such a position

Yankee101:
How dem go gree even if he was?

They agreed Ikonso was part of them

This grandpa is too old to be a member of ESN or an active IPOB member

They were chasing IPOB. Mtscheww

omorihi1:
This girl is abnormal, raping cannot stops someone from losing his or her sense.

Yes it can. Please do not say what you dont know. This question can easily be answered via google.

I see why this thread is so quiet. Because the drug pusher is not Igbo

Tufiakwa. I didn't see this

Ugochinyere1:
Good evening all.
Please I will really appreciate if anyone here has any link to FUTO transcript verification.
I've been notified for over a month now by Wes that they've sent a mail to my school to verify my transcript, but I sent my younger brother and they said they've not received anything yet.
Please I really need help ASAP, and would appreciate if anyone can help out please.
Thanks.

Hi there, pIs send your mail to itsamakaagain@yahoo.co.uk