₦airaland Forum

aperture11:
You have discussions with your spouse about breaking up, like divorce and life after?

Wow!

We had issues like everything other couple and discussed an amicable divorce. (somehow we did not get around to divorcing )

KidDarkness:
Be grateful to God if your wife forgives you because it's going to be very difficult. Confession is a must , so brace up because a huge marital storm is ahead and you must do all you can to calm it. You and your wife should understand that the little girl is innocent so she must not be a victim of transferred aggression. For pulling such a stunt, I would make sure the young lady never sees or have a relationship with the daughter ever

This is not a stunt. The lady believes that the child will fare better with her father. Perhaps she is not able to feed herself or the child. Remember she held unto this child for years. If she had the resources to keep the child she would have kept it. I always tell my spouse "If ever we split up. immediately after my kids get their citizenship I do not mind dropping them with your sisters them because they will be treated as royalty (Some people in Nigeria are quietly and stupendously wealthy)"
You cannot blame this woman for wanting better for her child even if she never sees the child again

You cant make a payment with a card. Nigerian banks have international limits of $100 per month on cards. You should
1. Use the flywire option to pay through the bank in CAD and when that is generated take the slip to the bank (Wema or GTB - I'm going to use GTB for my brother comin to UofOttawa) and request to fill a form A IF THE TUTION DUE DATE IS NOT CLOSE

2. Get flywire option to pay through bank in USD. Buy USD and put in a domiciliary account. Ask the bank to transfer to the flywire USD account. Flywire will then convert to CAD and remit to the school. This takes about 72 hours.

I can see you mentioned that you were not successful at GTB or Access and that is because the Country is not making lots of foreign exchange, or rather some people are taking it for themselves., but I still decided to talk about it just incase others have the time to go through the form A route

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Because of high increase in abortion and babies been dumped, this man created a baby saver box, so instead of dumping the child, the mothers put the baby in the box and man and his wife take care of the child and provide for all it's needs during infancy..

This is humanity❤️

NB: Most of the kids are black because this is a country in Africa.

Jmw2kblogposts:
To all the hoes trying to make me apologetic by mentioning my mom,try again!!
its not working b***ches
my mom is your head hoe!!!

This is really sad. I have read a lot of your posts and your mom isn't setting a good example.
But you need to protect yourself and sisters first.
Can you leave her home and if possible take your sisters? You do not want them to turn into the very thing that you resent.

Biggaboi:
U think he'd make his wife do a CS when she can deliver normally just cos he wants the date to be the same?

Lol, I actually think she decided that. Its more likely the woman decided that. I know because I did the same. 02/02 ..... all my kids

Biggaboi:

Is this some lucky coincidence or planned?

To the Doctors and medic experts in the house, what's the probability of the EDD happening exactly as predicted?

Easy-peasy. Caesarian-Section

I support that people defend [/b]themselves from destruction whether as an individual, family, village, unauthorized vigilante group, government owned militia. I do not support going on the offensive
Just [b]defend yourselves.

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Itstrending:
ok before 40 you will have sense if you will be alive then. Because people that reason like you don't livelong.

They actually live long. Its nature that decides how long a person lives

DEMZEE:
U are clearly insane

Barren bitch

Haba! Are you no longer a conservative Christian. You should not be responding to people like this. That lady did not insult you, but you have insulted her twice.
Calm down and learn not to take social media personal

Wendy006:
Hi Folks, to hide my identity i had to use my alternate account. Your advise is hugely needed.

This happened mid 2019, this new guy joined the office from a competition and we were sort of close acquaintance. We managed different zones, so there was no rivalry. Shortly after his arrival, he joined forces with the area manger to pull me down. The guys had this dislike for me, honestly i don't know why despite hitting/surpassing targets time after time and some cases i was a global winner. The hatred was immense that i had to confront them several times, just incase i was unknowingly doing something against their wish. The AM was unable to influence my transfer cos i had some folks at HQ behind me. When this was not achieved, then the scheming began, It got so intense that i had to write the management for a rotation to a different department. The whole Nigeria went berserk with the decision, when i was questioned, i gave them my reason. The rest of what happened should be a story for another day.

Recently, I was sent to audit their records and i found things that once i escalate will instantly cost them both their jobs. The questions remains, if you were in my shoes, what would you do?

Two options
1, escalate, they will both loose their jobs amd possibly detained
2, Give them an opportunity to recover the money or block it with personal funds.

Late scheme of events shows that management is just waiting for a ruse to ask them both to leave, and this should be the final nail on thier coffin. Seems i have been carrying a moral burden since last night.

Are you working for free or being paid salary?

If you are being paid, do your job following company policies. Please do not carry emotions into the office

uptimum123:
See those useless EndSars miscreants again


The UK police should arrest them before they start their destruction and lootings, especially those holding free sowore placards.

They will not be arrested, only monitored

Patrioticman007:
The most common punishment for blasphemers was capital punishment through hanging or stoning, justified by the words of Leviticus 24:13–16. This for the Christians in the house, go & read your Bible.

However this effect of insanity, the man was supposed to be taken to mental asylum, however frustrated Nigerians transfered their anger on him.

I believe you mean this is for Jews. Christianity is based on the new testament not the old

JovialJune:
You really need to know when to shut the fvck up

Igbo people and their archaic culture sef

that thing quoted there is not Igbo culture and the Igbo culture is actually good.

1. The child of a single mom is her father's. Why? Because parenthood is difficult so the community spares the girl that stress because the boy who impregnated her, up till today, even in your culture, goes scot free and can decide he is not interested in both girl and child.

In the case of an impotent man, he discusses the matter with his wife and permits her. Even the family of the sperm donor is investigated to be sure that the bloodline is good. Keyword is impotent

Igno culture does not condone cheating. If your husband is not impotent and you cheat he can return the bride price before the child is born. Allowing the woman stay till after childbirth means he has forgiven. Some men will let you stay but will not sleep with the woman anymore.

Naijahops:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless And A Worthless Piece Of Shieit.

oh puhlease stop laying curses on your female kids even before they are born.
Silence is golden

doggedfighter:
They are his children. It makes no difference .


In my culture if you pay the bride price all children are yours . Nobody can lay claims.

If you marry a girl with a child ,her child becomes yours , you can't say you don't want her child.

Even the person that impregnated her can't claim that child.

People wake up and start looking for what's not missing.

As we dance and embrace DNA , we should be ready for what it brings.

A lot of things goes into fathering a child Not JUST SPERM !

These things are not as simple as Nairaland boys think.

It makes a huge difference. Its not about claiming the child. Its about betrayal

Vyolet:
I'm beginning to think this institution called marriage has something to do with luck, it's a black market, you never know what you will get once you go into it.

OP, the Lord is your strength.

Its not luck. Nigerians need to stop marrying strangers. The key to marriage is marrying someone you like, so that days when love is not felt, at least you still like the person and will not hurt him/her.

OP thinks that visiting someone twice a year is equal to courtship

If there is no child there is enough time to walk away. When baby girl cannot sustain a business yet has liver to transfer money that is not hers to another man ........................................

Mindlog:
Another "content creator", same patterns!

Might not be. When I needed advice from Nairalanders about family issues, I created a new moniker. I have lost the password to that account so if I ever need advice for a sensitive and personal issue, I will definitely be creating a new account

OP needs to first show us what wonderful changes he has made in his own village.

Charity begins at home. Let's see your village

Verysmart101:
Who told u so? Sometimes the way u guys assume things surprises me.

I don't assume. I see. Women talk to each other. This is not an assumption.

jeff1607:
You only hear them get married, take 3 or more years the said ladies aren't happy or their homes are shambles.

For every one round girl that has her home in shambles, five runs girls are enjoying their marriage

wpadmin:
You remember that saying “You cannot eat your cake and have it”.

That’s not the case any longer.

Highway Ladies actually eat their cake and have it with icing sugar.

Like how else do you explain this?

A girl that is wayward in school getting married to a guy that is well to do and doesn’t look like someone that can cause trouble (not written on the face though).

This is not the first nor the 10th time I’m seeing this in 2021 alone.

When I say wayward I mean girls that are never in class, friday nights you can’t see them in the school hostels.

These girls are the most connected. They know influential people. After playing dirty in school, they still get married to great guys.

Meanwhile, a high percentage of girls that actually study hard in school stay longer without getting married.

But you see guys here saying they would go for brains over beauty. If that’s the case, then who are the ones marrying these ladies of the highway.

I am a non teaching staff in one of Nigeria’s Polytechnics. I finished from the school and got a programming job at the same school.

Due to my age and kind of Job, I meet a lot of students everyday; both male and female.

I know a runs girl when I see one.

They upload the same kinds of stuffs on their WhatsApp status. Dress the same way to school. Have the same attitude.

I don’t have issues with these people, but i am shocked with the choices men make when taking a life partner.

One of them got engaged today and my head became warm. The bros was just smiling as he was putting on the engagement ring. After some staffs I know have screwed and unscrewed this same lady.

Is it that guys don’t know what’s up or this is what they really want.

It's called experience. While I don't advocate for this life, these runs ladies have dated several men and gained experience of what men desire. So they are able to easily fill that role, unlike good girls who are new recruits and require training.

Most men are not ready to lead by example. They want a girl who gets married life things right the first time. No mistakes. And this can only be gotten through experience.

preciousmetals:
This is a clear indication that Igbos are no more interested in Nigeria affair, they should dissolve this animal kingdom called a country

Who is the person called "they" that is supposed to split Nigeria?

Ishilove:
I never knew Cold stone ice cream is so expensive.

Expensive poison

I doubt it. Perhaps the cashier cheated him

Juliusmalema:
Many traditional rulers in Igboland are not warrant chiefs and have been king even before the whitemen arrived.

The republican system are just to cover una lapses of leadership.

Igbos have king and I advise you to read well though it is not lost on me that Imo lack Kingship pattern but it doesn't exist like that in other places.

Infact many communities in Igboland has her Kingship tied on blood line, how do warrant chief come to play here?

Be specific with the community you want to use as example and stop igbo as a whole as testing ground for your propganda.

Source please? Very interested in learning more about this school of thought

Sheunma:
To love someone and to dispense justice are separate issues.

Stick to the bone of contention: When Jesus said to love ones enemies, does it mean to love your enemies only when they love you back? No, you love them at all times

Is the purpose of loving ones enemies not predicated on their inability to love you back? It does not matter if they are not able to love back

Is there anywhere Jesus said or showed he loved Satan, his number one enemy, despite Satan not loving in back? He never showed that he loved or hated him. We can only depend on his words that if he asked us to love our enemies then he had enough integrity to love one he considers an enemy

Below we see that he could easily have tormented the evil spirit but he didnt bother. He just wanted them out where they were not causing havoc on the man

For those who would like to enjoy a cup of coldstone ice cream

https://nigerianprice.com/cold-stone-ice-cream-price-list-in-nigeria/

Sheunma:
Even Satan?

The bible says that God is Love, not God has love. If God is love, then it means he is 100% love. Meaning he does not have hate in him.

This brings us to two options: we must either

1. Agree the bible is true, and God is love and God loves Lucifer, but Satan has no love to return to his Creator. Pride fuels Satan's hate and desires not to be with God. And that God is able to forgive Satan if Satan is able to repent.

2. Declare that the bible is not true and God is not love and has some hate in him and does not love Lucifer.

Note that loving someone does not mean you will not dispense justice accordingly. I can bet you that the judges that sentence men to death do not hate those men. Some even feel pity for them but there are laws. Same way earth has laws, heaven and hell also have laws

Sheunma:
Even jesus doesn't love all his enemies.

Jesus proved his love for enemies by praying for mercy upon his murderers. Yes he loves all his enemies.