₦airaland Forum

dayokanu:
Thats my argument in support of abotion, Wouldnt it have been better to abort the child than torture an innocent child to be born

But our religious crowd would come out with sticks

I agree!

AngelNeky:
From my observations u are not a nigeria lady,if u are not then listen to this.African men can be funny at times maybe he is playing one hide nd seek with u irrespective of the children so if u are not cleared with all u are observing walk up to him nd get urself cleared he is your husband.But for the fb age he can never put his real age there goodluck.For more advice u know how to get me.

After she has stated she is white abi?

Anybody who understands grieving will know what he's trying to achieve by the question. The man's wife is dead and knowing how his mother felt about her I'm sure he is feeling guilty and wondering if maybe there were things he could have done to prevent her death. The answers won't bring her back but they can go a long way in helping him deal with his grief.

@OP
Bros, take heart. There's nothing you could have done to change the relationship between the two of them. I'm sorry to say this but your mother sounds like a quarrelsome woman who will probably find fault in Jesus himself. Those kinds of people are hard to deal with and it is better to just leave them in the hand of God. Take comfort in the fact that your wife was a good woman and inspite of how wicked your mother was to her, she still liked her.

@ All
It is offensive that someone comes here to pour their hearts out, some people respond with insults. A man lost his wife and someone is suggests he should be castrated. Is that supposed to be funny?

I don't have any advice for you but I do have a favor to ask, please read what you just wrote and ask yourself what you should do. To help you along, I'll key in on the main points

He left you when you were pregnant
You don't have a # to contact him
His family hasn't come to see your son
He comes every 6months
He has not made any move to commit to you
He shows a complete lack of interest in his son

You said you don't know how long you are supposed "to wait" for him, my dear how can you know when he has not asked you to?

If the girl was from a broken home, it would be used against her.
But her parents stayed together and it is still used against her.
Nobody comes from a perfect home, you know?

Who says being the butt boy to a powerful man doesn't pay off

It's ironic that the one defending "God" and "Christianity" is the one behaving in the most ungodly manner

The thread is not about YOU, you attention seeking nitwit.
Take your immature drama somewhere else.

Will the two of you STFU and go get a room?
Nobody is interested in your childish drama.

Why single out the mothers?

Somewhere out there Jim Iyke is reading this and snickering

I'm surprised they are not #1, when I watch what my aunty and her friends do on a daily basis, me sef I stress for them.

I know it's hard but you can't factor your brother into your decision making process, he gets reprieve from them because he gets to go school and just come home for visit. Another way to get out of the house without making them angry is to look for job in another state, it would be like you're moving out because you have to not because you want to. With that said, I think you should continue with your masters, it won't hurt you.

You are 25yrs old man now, bros it is time to move out of that house and be your own person. Your mother is controlling you because you are still under her roof. Your parents lives, the decisions and consequences on how to live is theirs alone, why are you carrying the burden of how they turned on your shoulder. At least with them as example, you know what not to do. Resolve in your mind to do the opposite of your father and you will be fine.

0lumide:
haters!!

Stop calling yourselves Lagosians seriously!!

Go back to your villages and complain of the amenities you don't have!!

You scumbags don't contribute nothing to Lagos state and your absence will bring serenity seriously!


Lying punkassa saying they pay taxes, Who you trying to fool? When it's time for census, you'll see Lagosians aren't more than 12million,

And stop lying about your ancestors living in Lagos because non Yorubas haven't been in Lagos for a century so don't be telling me your great grand dad lived in Lagos and paid taxes!!


Whenever something happens, you all blame Yorubas as the owners of Lagos but whenever wedo something right about our state, you fool say it's a no man's land,
The streets of Lagos is watching!!!

You shouldn't feel entitled to Lagos because you are the problems of Lagos, Stop moving here, it's not a perfect city, Build your village!!! We don full!!

Very little makes you laugh on Nairaland but i have to say this was funny!!

I did not need the flood to make up my mind not to live in Lagos. I made the decision after my first visit there when I was just 11yrs old. That place is not fit for animals.

dave2:
Divorce will not solve anything here as it will leave u worse
Stop giving him any money

How?

This is getting ridiculous, is Lagos the only state in Nigeria? Don't get me wrong, I have no affiliation or desire to live in that dump but enough with the topics. It's not the only state with issues abeg.

akanxpress:
I appreciate that good cars cost fortunes and that the brand new ones brought into 9ja are stripped down versions, but the recurring issues in this thread that has not been identified is - Most 9jarians in alll their life never have up to Millions to afford these vehicles and Gov't is banning motobiles - like here in Uyo. Any idea that fingers prices of vehicles imported (new or toks ) as costly is spurred by Cars Dealers/Importers.
Must 9jerians continue to spend their lives watching thieving politicians, government and top business tycoons as the only fellows worthy of owing cars?
Should an average graduate that finishes school and work not dream of car till s/he become director, principal or whatever with access to bulky imprest?
In india, consciousness and efforts are geared towards affordable cars. We hear of Suzuki & Maruti Altos, Tata Nano.
fhemmy & others should admit that even in almighty Japan, we have category of cars called kei cars with engine capacity below 1L.  some 0.3L, 0.6L, 0.8L
see:  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suzuki_Alto
These cars are cheap and meant for the masses and middle income category.
In Nigeria, persons with expenditure capacity of millions are RICH.
So I am tired of this standard of dismissing sincere and honest 9jerians with 200k, 300k, etc as unfit for car ownership.
Lets promote this Vehicles here in Nigeria please - that is what our standard of living warrants. It was so in Europe after world war 2, cheap cars were promoted. White men dont manufacture cars with our income situation in Mind
Airbags & Other Options - for most part of car history, men drove cars without airbags, so if cheaper cars are available without airbags, it is still good. It is better than trekking under rain/flooded street with cover shoes to work/market - or is it not true?
I don't welcome this mentality in NL  - that you buy good toks for 4m or so or else trek
A businessman should come up with 200,000.COM - a platform where sellers and buyers of used cars at that price should meet and transact - it is just and idea
Summary: Yes we can get a car at cheap prices if we think and drive towards it, it is possible engineering-wise and business-wise.
More arguments welcomed

While I understand what you are saying and in a perfect world, it would work but let's ask ourselves this - How many Nigerian car buyers want to buy those cheap cars? They all want Toyota, Honda, Mazda, Acura, BMW and other big names cars. The dealers can promote and promote until the can promote no more, if the buyers don't want it they won't buy it. Until the buyers stop reaching for the stars with their meager budgets, they will continue to be dismissed.

Governor Fashola, is that you?

Stop frightening the ladies, there's always hope

https://i1080.photobucket.com/albums/j326/Moderator26/Yemi.jpg

Husbands are not that scarce

pslm23:
I might be wrong, but i think he's trying to say if he's wife could drive/take herself to the clinic for her antenatal when she was 9 months pregnant, she sure doesn't need him for what he considers minor "abdominal pains" 

I don't think he's saying she's currently pregnant but like i said, I could be wrong in my understanding of his post. Maybe he needs to expatiate some more on this.

Personally, I think she might be hiding some kind of ailment from her hubby and that's why she refused to go to the company clinic which is free compare to a mosquito biting clinic  with an absentee doctor who is now asking her hubby to pay the bills.

Oh well, that's just my take on it,   

Maybe you women are wired differently or you have some special deciphering sense because I don't see how you can come to the conclusion that she has some kind of ailment she is hiding from her husband. The basis of your conclusion, that she went to another hospital, is so flimsy, it can be explained by saying since it was her Landlord and Landlady that helped her and it was very late at night, they took her to hospital closest to the house.
Once again, why will she be adamant about her husband coming home to take her to the hospital if she wants to hide her ailment from him?!
So

I don't think I will ever understand why anyone wants to live in Lagos. That state is a dump, they need to let it slip gently into the ocean that wants to swallow it so badly.

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[quote author=aloy/emeka link=topic=710473.msg8691632#msg8691632 date=1310343912]WE don't have the resources they have besides this is natural disaster and it happened in the US a month or two ago.[/quote]You should have stopped your sentence after resources.

Richvkunt:
I am the poster who made this point and i stand by it!
As I have said times without number,Men will cheat on their wives or girlfriends if they get the opportunity because men are polygamous by nature.
It is quite easy for a man to have series of affairs with various women apart from their wives or girlfriends but in reality that does not mean they love their wives/girlfriends less.On the other hand women find it harder to have extra marital affairs because they are different from men emotionally,however in certain cases when pushed to the wall,women could engage in extra marital affairs to get back at their husbands.
Lots of times in nigeria I have seen instances where a man dies and at his funeral two or three women appear with children for this man that the wife knew nothing about.I am quite sure you have witnessed events like this.
Women know these facts but choose to be in denial:"My husband can not do this or I trust my husband with all my heart and he can not hurt me."
I advise you to wake up and smell the coffee.
Thank you>

Hogwash

Mrs. Chaircover this your topic is not phrased right oh because when you say "Have the opportunity" you make it sound accidental or pure luck. I can tell you for a fact that cheating is not accidental or pure luck, if a man wants to cheat, he will create ways to do it. His wife being out of town has nothing to do with it, she could be in town or even in the next office and if he wants to do it he will find a way. However, I agree that there's nothing like cheating gene or polygamous nature. It all comes down to how seriously a man takes his vows.

Outstrip:
Actually you are over analyzing and very narrowly I might add. Why would a woman who is 9 months pregnant and not feeling well not first ask for assistance from someone. would that someone not logically be the husband? You are simply over analyzing what she said. That was her thought on it and if you go with that line of thinking then it actually makes some sense.

Madam, let us see who is over analyzing the issue here

This is my stance - She is 9 months pregnant, she wasn't feeling well, she called her husband to come and take her to the hospital because she has nothing to hide.

This is your stance - She's 9 months pregnant, she was not feeling well. She knows what is wrong and she wants to conceal that information from her husband. Yet she calls said husband to come and take her to the hospital. Why? Because she knows since he won't be allowed into the examination room, her secret will remain hidden. Still in the mindset of keeping her secret from him, she does not go to the hospital but waits for her husband to come home from work and take her to the hospital even though he already told her hours ago to take a taxi.

Let's let the people decide which one is more logical and who is over analyzing the issue.

claremont:
Rational thinking, right?! So the "rationality" of your thinking did not allow you to decipher the meaning of "No Work or Recourse to Public Funds"?! Moreover, you keep on harping on and on about "knowing immigration laws more than Brits themselves", where is it stated that someone must be a Brit/American/Canadian to understand basic immigration fraud? or is the phrase "knowing immigration laws more than Brits themselves" an attempt to prove some form of callous superiority over others in this argument since you have already failed woefully to convince people on the rationality of fraud?! "knowing immigration laws more than Brits themselves" my black a*rse

It's not about superiority, it's about COMMON SENSE. If the Brits saw Bimbo as what you keep saying she is, don't you think the BRITISH IMMIGRATION SYSTEM would have deported her? Aren't they in a better position to judge what is what considering they are THE BRITISH IMMIGRATION SYSTEM?!
Bros just quit and stop embarrassing yourself on this thread.

claremont:
Of course, your stand in supporting illegality and fraud will have been the same and solidly resolute!

Why is this the tune you people sing when someone shows the flaws in your thinking?

Outstrip:
Wouldn't it be easier to keep it private if she was not using his company's hospital. I am almost certain that her husband will not go into the examining room with her. Especially when it is the kind of man that is okay with his landlord taking his pregnant wife to the hospital. IMO I think that you should go with a doctor you are comfortable with. I find it hard to believe that a woman wold go to a quack hospital that is expensive than one that is 5 star and not as expensive.

Wouldn't it be easier to keep it private if she went to the hospital on her own without alerting him at all?
Have people just stopped thinking?

Richvkunt:
Sorry to pry,but how old are you?

The woman you are addressing with such disrespect is one, if not the only poster, worth reading on this section.

[quote author=CY_clone link=topic=709542.msg8681923#msg8681923 date=1310186527]When she was 9 months pregnant? Is she still pregnant now? How many months now? 

Ok, she probably knows what's up with her but;
a. She doesn't want you to be privy to that info
b. she knows all is well and was just playing for attention
Or c. she doesn't trust the docs at your coy's five star hospital![/quote]How did you come to that conclusion? If she didn't want him to be privy to the information, why will she call him and then wait all day for him to come and take her to the hospital? Does that make any sense to you?
Some people just pull trash out of their anus and post so they can be counted present.

Why would you want to touch something that you think is ugly?
Maybe is you we should be wondering about