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RealestG:
Hi. Wanna get a perfume for myself so I'll like to know what perfume would be perfect, also long lasting...

Budget is 2 -3k

Go for Tomford black. very good

lefulefu:
but brother i dont see anything wrong o if a guy dates and marries lady a lady who might come frm a family that is not well off but she also hustle to contribute.there are ladies in school from poor homes who also do small business in school to raise money plus the little money their parents send to them.and also some young ladies help their moms to sell stuff in the market.such ladies are industrious and they would make good wives.not those ones forming lady gaga and kim k on instagram and calling men broke .

I believe you and such ladies don't talk much but understands the world we are into but if not in these category you just said now, talks a lot "Say No to broke guy" and they are even more broke than guys.

IdeyFindWife:
Dis is so onPoint

Thanks

CaroLyner:
I still attended a christian lady's wedding today

Definitely you will soon attend another

dingbang:
because they have not sat down to ask themselves the problem

And they don't know the answer....

lefulefu:
these points got me
broke guys and broke girls thread

Bro , it got me too

Safiaa:
We can see how nobody has bashed this op. This is what the men like to hear, it strokes their ego. Once the truth sets in, they retaliate with anger. Lool. Wonders shall never end.

This is the truth and nothing but the truth.

ztanleechima:
So we can't ask girls... HAVE U EATEN? In Nigeria
again?
Me: Have you eaten?
Girl: Nope.. I am broke.. Don't even have food
stuff.. Right now.. I Borrowed my friend's phone
to chat with u.. No money to fix my phone.. N my school fee sef. I used It To do a business and they
cheated me.. I don't know how to get the money
back.. All my friends that I trust.. Disappointed
me.. And my body is doing me somehow.. I hate
sickness. Especially when I am broke.. And my
landlord is on my neck.. But I have raise half of my rent.. Still looking for who will help me with
half.. I hate this life.. N I don't want to disturb my
parents.. For money.. I know we not too close and
I don't want to look like I am a beggar but I really
need help now.. Anything u can send.. Will send
my account number to u now.. Or I can come for the weekend if u send t.p
Me: Chai.. Babe.. I just ask if u don chop o.. I
didn't ask what the problem of your generation
is.... No vex.. NA ME LOOK FOR TROUBLE

That same girl will open her mouth , saying no to broke guys.
Like one called me telling me to borrow her money for house rent and she lost her mum also if I can still help her with some money.
I just simply told her to knee and pray to God for money to come her side.
This is a girl (gf) that was working when I lost my job and calling me was a problem for her not even to give me little cash( which I swore not to even ask from her), am nothing paying back with bad but God used that incident to open my eyes about her. NO TO BROKE GIRLS

uk10:
this is why i'm working hard to make good money and when i do I'M ENJOYING IT ALONE BABY,that's right,after checking a lot of comments about nowadays feminists,is safe to say dating or marrying will be disastrous,so i'm eating my money alone,if i want a child i will adopt

Exactly, for peace of mind bro

smardray:
But sire, where can we find dose dat are not broke....they are nowhere
even thosd dat aint broke wanna sap u dry

Chat them up and filter, staying with broke girls, attracts more broke girls your side. Well to do girls , vice versa

chicoMX:
Op. You must have dated so many broke girls to know all these about them... Nice article

Lol, They are annoying bro

ifyan:
They wouldn't appreciate men effort rather they will fighting nature about equality

Tell they brother

Young03:
Well iam only dating a hungry girl

she walk into ur room, her next word is good evening, oga iam hungry oo
any tym she calls u on phone, oga iam hungry oo

hian, i be ur papa?

Naija girls r fake

Bro , please God don't want you to suffer . Leave her and move to the well to do girls

yusufyusuf1:
Just like the relationship am in now the only thing my girlfriend can offer is sex and cook her job can't even pay her transport and she is comfortable with it cause she only goes to work 3days in a week and that scared me of what the future hold cause I can't be catering for my mum who is a widow and be saving to established a business and be taking care of all her bill when we have not married how will I move forward with the situation of the country economy

Say NO to broke girls, package yourself with the money you given to her , I bet you, well to do girls will come your way and move forward. You don't need to suffer because of her

MrBrownJay1:
The above quote is where you lost the single babes left out there.. Bwaaash, Work?! Forget about nails (aka NO Brazilian hair etc)?!
You are a comedian!!!

They are looking for MADE MEN, with top cars and, most importantly, his own house, and able to pay for a fancy wedding. He could be a Yahoo boy, demon or armed robber... Doesn't matter so long as he can provide for the above.

And they have nothing to bring to the table only talking talking...

CaroLyner:
I still attended a christian lady's wedding today

That's a good one

yaqq:
guys forget ladies! most of them re broke, even the not so broke got their money from men who sees given as norm! if all men decides to withdraw from given ladies money then u ll see 90 percent of ladies will walk around with one hair 4 months! we just have to help their assess

You are on point bro

QueenSuccubus:




Uummm ...i was looking around and im shock no other female came to say sumtin


Broke is broke...who cares..

I Wish they do, cause pointing someone a finger don't forget the remaining four is Ponting the the person ....... You said it all


BROKE is BROKE

shregscorner:
See as u don wash deir lyf!!!!anyways,, itz makin sense!!!
Watch this funny video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BtNQwrDziKA

What do you expect me to do brother..

AnthonioAlsaid:
The only thing they know how to cook is noodles

Imagine and they will want to access you, comparing you with another man while they are empty..

ojun50:
Broke girls add problem to ones life

Serious problem with nothing to bring to the table ....

TUNSBOYLE:
Thanks man i have notice this for so long, I never go for home girls you must be financially ok

Bros , run away from broke girls please

youngbabaj:
tell them

You know I will bro

Jacksparr0w127:
What can I say?

Lets avoid them Bro

dingbang:
What is the op even saying... People are getting married every saturday

You right but many are still seeking

Newboss:
Can't find right husband even among Christians? Hmmm

You will ....

This article is mainly for mature Christian single women. Mature. Christian. Women. Why? Because Girls might get offended or not understand but a mature Christian woman will probably get it and take the knowledge.

A. A woman’s relationship status does not define her, so being single is not a disease or an indication of something “wrong” with her. So this article is not to list a bunch of reasons why you are at fault for not being married …as if marriage was something you just bought at the store. I wouldn’t do that. I respect and care about women’s issues more than there is space to write about here. As a daughter of God, he is working out your story beautifully, so bask in that. This is however, for Christian ladies who are ready for marriage but frustrated that they can’t find the right guy even though there seems to be options.


Ok so here we go. Why can’t our wonderful Christian sisters find their Boaz, David or Joseph?


1. Many Christian ladies want a man that “knows where he is going”… but God’s men usually don’t have a clue: Think about that for a moment. Think through the Bible…all the great men that had relationships with God and who he used and blessed….they usually didn’t have a clue about where they were going and (here is the even crazier part) even if they had a clue, their lives for a long time did not reflect that great place God said he was taking them. Just think about it. All the way from Abraham …going to a land he did not know; Joseph having a dream that people would bow down to him but became a slave and then a prisoner; David who was anointed to be King and then lived the next 15 years in the wilderness as a fugitive; Peter the great fisher of men who was barely able to catch fish.
These men would have had a rough time finding a wife today. Could you imagine?
Abraham calling sister Sarah aside after church and saying “Errrmmm Sarah you know I love you right? Soooo God wants to take us somewhere …but I have no idea where. Wanna marry me and come?”
David too. “Look baby…I really care about you and want to spend the rest of my life taking care of you… In fact, I’ve just been anointed King…buuutttt I’m kinda living in the bushes right now and on the run from the King I’m supposed to replace.”
Or Joseph. “Look Jill, God has shown me many dreams that people will bow down to me and I’ll be a great leader. But right now I wash dishes in Potiphar’s house and I’m a slave boy there”
God’s men don’t “always” have a direction or know the details. So stop looking for men who have it all figured out!
Here is the solution though…..here is the good news. Here is what you SHOULD be looking for: Men who can be LED by God. (Rom 8:14) Don’t look for a man who already has the best laid plans. Look for one who knows how to follow directions from the best planner.

2. Many ladies approach relationships from the perspective of “Low Risk, High Reward”: Meaning, they want to get the absolute best man with the least amount of risk. (And I’m not just talking about finances here)They don’t want to put themselves out there at all.
They want the man to take ALL the risks…to be utterly convinced he wants to be with them before they open up about who they really are. You know who you are…You act like YOU are the ONLY prize in the equation. He doesn’t know anything about your background but you turned into a private investigator to make sure he is good enough for you. You are financially irresponsible and an impulsive spender, you’re spending insane percentages of your income on your hair, shoes, bags, and your “package” but you want a man who knows how to make and keep money. You have not grown your faith or prayer life to where it needs to be but you want a demon chasing, tongue speaking, Bible spitting warrior of a husband…because “he is the leader of the home”.
You’ve dated a bunch of losers that didn’t work out but he is no good because he has had several failed relationships too? You want to see him as he is but you cover yourself up in perfectly filtered Instagram pictures, hair extensions, push up bras, makeup and layers of stuff that make it impossible to see who you really are. You are lazy with not much follow-through but you want a man who can stay up all night working on a project. If he put that spotlight on you, would YOU make the cut?
In essence, many Christian ladies say they have faith but they don’t. They say that God is their source but they are lying. They say that they trust God’s will for their future but they are lying. They don’t. They put their trust in a man. What kind of job he has/can get. How much he is making or can make. They want to make sure he has the “ability to provide”. They want him to have his life utterly figured out…
But I have met many great men who haven’t found the employment they have the potential to get. I have met many others who were living it up until the economy crashed. I have met some who had it all but God insisted they give it up to go and further the gospel.

3. Many ladies forget that good Christian men look for women who share similar non-romantic, non-spiritual values: Sure he should be romantic and sure he must share those spiritual values but eerrmmm ladies…these Christian brothers are looking for those other character traits as well that speak to the OPERATION of your possible lives together. Dependability, thriftiness, work ethic, time management, hard work, follow-through and so on.
One of the first things we learn about Ruth for example, was her work ethic. ( Ruth chapter 2). She knew how to pull her hair back, forget about her nails, roll up her sleeves and get on the grind. She worked really hard and even when she got the attention of the “well established guy with the sensitive heart” she didn’t stop working. She took the break that he offered her and went back to work.
That’s how you earn a man’s respect…when you can show him that what he HAS does not define who you are.
Here is the icing on that cake. Just because Ruth could get down and work, didn’t mean she couldn’t look pretty and tidy up (Ruth 3:3)

4. Many Christian women want a Proverbs 31 Man: That’s not a typo. Pick up your Bible and read Proverbs 31 again with fresh eyes… from the perspective of the character of that woman…and you will see that those qualities are the ones that many women are looking for in a man when they should be busy developing those qualities themselves.
Single Christian men are reading that passage looking for those qualities in a woman, and women are putting that passage down and instead looking for those qualities in a man.

5. Many Christian ladies want to be married but they are not truly ready to be led: They want to marry a boyfriend but not a husband. They want only a partner but not a leader. They want an emotional prenup that things will always be 50:50. They say they will concede authority to God himself but in their heart, they are not willing to be led by his representative in the home. What I am about to say next I say with the utmost respect to women.
Men were created to lead at home. Now, with that leadership comes accountability to God meaning that God holds him accountable and will punish him first for bad leadership. But a man cannot be accountable for a woman he can’t lead….and a Christian man does not want to be over anything he can’t be accountable to God about.

6. Many young married Christian women are painting a fairytale picture of marriage to their single ladies
Many young married women are doing a major disservice to single women. These young married women create a fairytale picture of weddings and marriage to their single friends. They love being the center of attention and talk up how dreamy it is. Perfect Instagram photos, perfect wedding photos, expensive glamorous weddings, perfect Facebook updates, photos and so on. Is there anything wrong with that? No. It would just help a lot more when married young women keep it real with their sisters and tell them that the wedding day does not make the marriage. It would help a whole lot more if they sit their single friends down and talk about the importance of a praying wife, a strong wife, a submissive wife (to a Godly man) and how contrary to popular opinion, the faith of a wife is both a weapon for the family and its defense as well. Instead, they get their single sisters all dreamy eyed and waiting for a perfect story and a perfect man…waiting for KalEl from planet Krypton with the big “S” on his chest and a red cape, when they should look at Clark Kent from Planet earth.

Sisters, God has a beautiful story of love written for you. Am I saying settle? No way. But I am saying look at these men through the eyes of Christ. Get your pride out of the way. Don’t define your marital success by how well your wedding day or “lifestyle” stacks up with other women. Most importantly, start seeing yourself as a true (not just perceived) gift from God that can bring God’s favor and blessings into your husband’s life because that’s what you are. So work to BECOME that and I truly truly wish you a love-filled, Christ centered happy marriage when it does happen.

6 PROBLEMS WITH DATING BROKE GIRLS

There’s little worse than dating a girl who’s broke. Dating a broke girl is like keeping a Redbox rental too long, eventually you will pay way too much for that shit! I don’t care how sexy a girl is, you have to remember there is no machine in the gym that makes your wallet bigger. The bad news is there is an epidemic of girls so broke they couldn’t pay attention, but they have on designer purses and shoes. I would rather give a bum on an off-ramp my money. At least he will work for food! If you’re going to still date that refugee from a job fair, you will need to know the pitfalls. So, here you go.

1. Broke girls remain focused on keeping their hair and nails done.

Why the f**k are broke girls so worried about how their hair looks? What is she getting ready for; the miss unemployed pageant? Everywhere you turn there are girls with designer purses, and only $6.00 worth of Chucky Cheese tokens in that muthafucka. Having a purse with no money in it is like being a firefighter that fights fires with a super soaker, you can’t get shit done.

2. Broke girls are always looking for a Baller in the club.

I’m sorry, but your broke ass is standing by the bar like an alcoholic Tiny Tim saying “Please sir, I want some more.” And, you expect a guy to be a financial powerhouse? Broke girls perch on the bar waiting for free drinks like crows at the park waiting on free food. Being broke and looking for a rich dude is like being homeless and refusing to hang out with other bums, because you’re looking for a more sophisticated crowd to hang out with.

3. Broke girls love to tell people what to spend money on.

She knows all the latest fashion trends and every new expensive restaurant, but she has no idea what a W-2 form is. Every time I get around a broke girl, all she talks about is the new iPhone or the new iPad, and the entire time I’m thinking, “Hey, how about finding an iJob?” Broke girls are very focused on appearing to be rich, which is why they need the iPhone and the iPad. Too bad Apple doesn’t make an iBus Pass. I once knew a girl so broke, when she called me her ring tone was the theme song from Good Times.

4. Broke girls LOVE social media.

She may be allergic to a job application, but you better believe she has a status update every four seconds. Broke girls will comment on every single photo, link, article and fan page in creation. Broke girls will literally narrate their entire day through Facebook as if they are some kind of superhero. Some girls may be wondering, “Do I post things that make me look broke?” Here are a few questions to ask yourself to find out if you post like a broke girl on social media:

Have you ever taken a pic of your food at a restaurant?

Doing this makes you look like a homeless person so happy they got a hot meal that they needed proof.

Have you ever posted a status about what you should wear?

Nobody, I repeat, nobody gives half a rat’s ass crack about what you wear to your non-job-related task for the day.

Have you ever taken a picture of yourself holding money or you got from sleeping with men?

This is the broke girl I.D badge. No one wants to see your unemployment check money in all fives and singles fanned out with the caption “Hustler” written on the pic. You should hustle your broke ass to a job interview.

5. Broke girls know everyone’s personal business.

When you don’t have a job, it’s easy to stay up to date on all current random ass, unimportant bullshit. Broke girls know everything, it’s like they have a 24-hour news channel that broadcasts all the breaking news you don’t give a shit about. Broke girls can tell you who is dating who, who is getting dumped, and who is moving in or out of the neighborhood. The only thing a broke girl can’t tell you is where the local job fair is being held.

6. Broke girls give the worst goddamn gifts is history.

I once had a broke girl give me a hand written card for my birthday. The card would have been fine if we were dating in the 3rd grade, but we were 27 years old, so that broke shit is not cool. Broke girls always try to give you stuff that’s free and call it a gift. Every Valentine’s Day, broke girls put on lingerie and stroll in the bedroom, umm how exactly is this a gift? I’m pretty sure under that lingerie I’ll find the same titties from yesterday. If that’s ok to do, then I’ll go get that bracelet I bought you last year, I’ll wrap it in new wrapping paper, and there you go, it’s a new gift now.

And remember, her booty may bounce, but so do her checks.

Safiaa:
I know most men will be triggered by the title of this thread, without reading what i have to say. I really couldn't care less lol. This thread is directed to the ladies !!!


Now ladies, i'm not encouraging you to be lazy gold diggers with no ambition. I'm not encouraging you to use a man entirely for his money. Get your education, work hard and make something of yourself. Strive to be successful. HOWEVER....

Don't be lured into what we call 'ride or die'. A lot of men are deluded by their unrealistic dreams and goals, and believe they can sell you that dream. They'll tell you that they want to do this and that, but they never work towards achieving their goals. I call them empty vessels. Its really sad, because I've seen so many women waste their youth on men who sold them a dream, and end up suffering for the rest of their lives. There's a difference between a broke man with a vision, and a broke man with a fantasy. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO. This is not Bonnie and Clyde, this is the real world, and if you can clearly see that this man is destined to be broke, RUNN!

As a woman, you need to use your YOUTH and BEAUTY to attract the best man who is financially stable as possible. This is not gold digging this is being SMART. Think about your children, think about your future. You don't want to be in your 30's wishing that you spent your younger years with another man. Money is very IMPORTANT in a relationship, and you need to be with someone who will compliment your finances.

Stop making excuses for men, who clearly don't have plans. Stop trying to be the ride or die chick, because you will die in poverty. Yes, we know that women can be the breadwinners of the house, But i can assure you that most women want to be taken care of. If you want to struggle with him now, open your eyes and be sure that you will NOT struggle with him FOREVER.

LADIES BE SMART, YOU'RE ONLY YOUNG ONCE! USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE.

That's why I really don't understand a man well made, handsome, educated, smart, intelligent and to crown it all, with wisdom let himself so low for a girl not of his pedigree, a gold digger, a pretender to the highest order, a dumb ( only believes in sleeping around to make it in life), rude. cos she will continue sleeping with men even when married as we are experiencing now ( taking in for another man and imposing it on the husband as his child).
Guys don't waste your time on sure ladies.
Guys please use your wealth, ur physical attributes, your connections and get a lady worth being with as a wife not girlfriend converted to wife, a working class lady and if she has made the money, she is now good to go as what God said ( a helper) and not a liability, make sure she ain't stingy cos 98% are too stingy,...JESU

Guys be wise, no time wasting from a girl.
I rest my case