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From the topic I was wondering what the thread had to offer to this life...but it's just a pix of him hanging out with friends.

Indeed, nothing to learn here...and it's on FP just for traffic. SMH

The reality we see now is man know man

I recall a day I got to a company regarding a job search and after much talk, the next question was; who do you know here?

Like I had to know someone, that my education, knowledge and skills were not good enough to even earn an interview.

Even if one was opportune to drop a CV there, what are the chances of a fair process?

Some of the #DeadPose concepts are really funny
but 9ja can like to carry last on this one
#kolewerk
#swerve

sweerychick:
What an Irony? His name is dangote

Na why she trip for am in the first place.
I can imagine how he toast the girl...na just one line in the 007 way:
My name na Dangote...Ganiyu Dangote

Dats all

Hmmm...you went for NYSC where there are cheerful givers, and yet you are still...

BenjaminGrey:
You have been recommended and hereby invited for an Interview on Wed(11/01/17) by 9am at 16 Ondo Str, Ebuta Metta West, Moshalashi b/stop,Costain Lagos. PDL41

is this genuine..i need ur thoughts

Check what others have previously said about it
https://www.nairaland.com/2887371/friend-got-message-come-interview

Alhkerimu:
Guy stop abusing any one here, what i'm advising you today if follows it you'll enjoy and thanks me later. Use your time well and concentrate on something meaningful than sex.
Thanks & remain bless.
Happy sunday my GUY

I never insulted you...rather you threw the first jab at me by assuming I had sex, when all I wanted was to advice you on your approach to talking to people

Yet again...upon correction you fail to understand my message, and also the point I made when I said I was not guilty of the act...and that's twice you made a wrong assumption and yet you say I am insultive

Alhkerimu:
Guy you're guilty. Repent and focus more important things than sex.

I am not guilty...but that's not the issue.
You have no idea who I am or my personality.
Stop being immature and focus on the message...else you sound like a child without the wisdom to lead and learn from others

Alhkerimu:
I don't know why some people can't hold their body.
shame to all of you who have indulge in the act this year

Your first thought this day was to shame those people and invoke words of insult
Let he who is without sin cast the first stone

In as much as we know the sinful nature of man, we shouldn't pride ourselves in being perfect over others...rather provide words of wisdom and salvation to help them in their fault, or provide words of encouragement to help those that struggle with it.

Treat others as you would want others to treat you

Cavenchy:
Government can not leave formation at the hands of parents and teachers alone. It needs to grow an intellectual generation of Nigerians founded on the principle of Nation Building. No kid is really dumb, they just haven't found what interests them enough to be really good at. If they had more options you would probably see them shine in one of them. This is why most Nigerians thrive abroad. When you limit the aspirations of a human being to only what is available, you limit their creativity as well.

The government has to focus on what direction Nigeria is headed as a nation and concentrate on providing lucrative opportunities for people to venture into other areas for nation building, this is the only way to decongest the massive concentration of youths in the Big 4, and therefore combat unemployment.

PS: I do not have a team of paid advisers on these issues but even I know these things. This kind of topic wouldn't exist in the first place if our government did their jobs well at making every job decent for all.

Instead of providing a conducive environment for graduates to thrive in their respective industries, they tell them to learn how to weave a basket to survive. Nigeria is in a sorry state because many sections of the country are non functional due to a lack of incentive for participation or gross negligence. It's pathetic for the 21st century Nigeria to have mediocres ruling a supposedly educated populace.

I admire the thought to your words, but that is where the leaders lack wisdom.

There are promising ways in which we can build a nation with a thriving economy...yet we seem to be going back and forth.

It takes people with ideas and intellect to effect the change we need.

worworgirl:
Most times I tend to be hostile towards people I patronize especially when I sense delay , carelessness or sluggishness in them. I always have this notion that it's my money and I'm paying you for your service' I never thought for once that they might be having a bad day. This piece really got me, I will change henceforth.

I like the thought of that...a turnaround

Most times I always have to remind myself, if I was the other person how would I want to treat myself

Oyind17:
No hard feelings bros, just my observation. That girl still need to learn how to behave in public

I getcha...but not everyone can handle harsh criticism

Oyind17:
You are right, the smoking tout and the girl with busybody

Ease up on them dear. I get your reaction, but remember that nairaland is a mix of people of different ages and background, so don't expect everyone to behave alike.

Bsydes, while some might be free with everyone, others might be reserved.
It was an event and I guess they were just being themselves...having fun the way they know how

Culin:
Hahaha I won't come online for a week

Your mentions go read like pump for filling station by the next week.
Bsydes, them go form monitoring spirit on top ur moniker. If u dare post for any thread, OYO go be your case

Culin:
Shout out to all the smart intelligent girls. if you dig deep you'll find out they're all art student *runs away*

Now u came to find trouble. Ladies from other faculties might come for your head

eze2015:
Hello people, I seriously dont understand why I get erect while talking only to my girl, any explanation for this.

Btw, I am a V at 25, so i've been wondering why.

Thanks!

This got me curious...is it in person or over the phone?

I still dey wait man wey wan do bridesmaid duty...romancelanders how far nah?
Who wan open ground?

Kenshinmunac ...You really need to slow down a bit and understand the situation.
Since all this might be new to you, you need to understand what you both want from the relationship *if it has been established*

I can see you want the relationship...does she feel the same way?

Also, it sounds like you don't stay in Owerri, but you rather came around cz of the Christmas break...so, is it gonna be a long distance relationship after the holidays?

Being in a relationship takes a whole lot, but i'm assuming you already know that

Weiten concern me if she gush for me or not. I no send sef.
Cause me no carry my two leg go look for Babe o. I least expected Babe and Babe carry leg come. As I see am na I take.
I am enjoying the moment while it last. If it leads to something late on, I am ready

^^^^^
What I find troublesome are your words

You come off sounding like an opportunist. If she aint what you want let her know, else if you take things deeper and things don't work out...it may just be a reason for her to change her character and approach to people...cz from what you say, it seems she is a free-spirited person that's open to people.

As for the money part of everything from the 2k at the ATM queue to going dutch at the eatery, I can't give my opinion on that cz it all boils down to her views and opinion about people and life. If shez free and comfortable about it...no problem, but if shez sizing you up...you definitely have thrown curve balls.

It's one thing to be hurt by someone...and even though it's hard to forgive/forget, she should remember that the marriage vows she took with him were not just mere words.

Hashimyussufamao:
''dear you should trust me now am seriously sick even am at home now ehn sweethearth'' I was now like heyy! Tor. Buh seriously that gave me a little attention that can a relationship really exist without lies?

Trust...in relationships that requires giving up your worries and placing all confidence in your partner's words/actions

There are relationships that could be possible without lies...it's all about how understanding and open both partners are to telling everything without being judgmental on one another. It's never an easy choice sometimes cz moments would pop up where it would seem like a little white lie would be better than the obvious truth.

Bitchvibe:
I don't think I did. I think he does it to check when I'm online and when they are online cos he complains that I don't give him enough attention which is a lie cos I talk to him the most but can't base my whole life around chatting to only him.

There was a time I was changing my dp frequently and I guess that's when he monitors them but I don't talk to these guys anymore and he refuses to delete their numbers.

Well, it's safe to say that the level of trust he accords to you is really low. I dunno if he has ever had a bad experience in the past that prompted his actions, but it would be wise to try to understand his psyche so as to know your next move...either to build his confidence and trust, or ...

He should really understand that before him you had a life with others...with him you can still live your life with others...and if he chooses to walk away your life remains what you want it to be.

I'd still advise you both settle down to communicate and understand each other better so as to know where to draw the line between being needy and overbearing.

Let him explain better why he feels you don't give him enough attention, and make him see how different you are from a stereotype of his thoughts...cz i know it's always advisable to give partners a little breathing space so that things don't become stifling...or a better still; a reason for the couple to miss each other for a bit till when next they see or hear from each other.

efepro:
“A man who is of age, yet not married is as useless as a spoilt vegetable in a dustbin including the reverend fathers and popes. I, therefore, urge the men of today to wake up and marry. Stop the laziness for the grace of God to shine upon your entire life!”

He maintained that “marriage is what makes you a man and he who finds a wife obtains favour from God. No man can be very successful if he is not married so if you go for the woman and you can’t take care of her curses await you.”

His speech and thought pattern doesn't echo that of a person gifted with wisdom...yet alone someone called a marriage counselor

Well, as much as I find that disturbing, I think he's being paranoid about his partner and maybe does that to monitor the person in terms of what he updates as a dp on whatsapp or a comment on his status regarding any relationship...hoping his fears don't come to pass

@Bitchvibe ...did you give him a reason to check your every move on guyz?

NairalandDSS:
These are the reasons why men and women misunderstand each other.

While i might agree with some of these...we need to recognize that life has no definite rule regarding character and temperance being alike, and while some people might behave a certain way, others might chose to act different

Relationships are truly incomparable....as when one person may have not been compatible with their ex, the case could be different with a new partner.

Though this doesn't undermine the thoughts of finding out about the past, as you could find out certain traits/character/habits of the person whom you intend to date

Yet he can afford to present 25 Prado Jeeps and 2 Land cruisers to the Speaker and members of the Imo State House of Assembly. Issorait
https://www.nairaland.com/3535452/okorocha-presents-25-prado-jeeps

Truth is...it would take a while to build our economy, but I wonder who the best hands are to make this achievable

On the lady's part...for obvious reasons, this seems so wrong to be putting out there for one's parents or friends to see

If it's a personal pic for her man....no yawa

lonelydora:
Accidents are caused. God help them. One safety tip may have been boycotted.

Sometimes it might be out of neglect for a safety protocol...other times, maybe a faulty equipment or something that was overlooked

@SirMichael1
When any lady close to you hears your intention of her being your girlfriend....or worse; a proposal

@saweide...this is a serious issue, cz this revolves around a home with a child in between
Truth is, no one but you knows the full story...how it all started to what it has become now

Compatibility in a couple is essential, and that has to be found from the onset of a relationship before taking things deeper.

Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell

Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit.

^^^ You said she has always been rude to you, disrespectful, nags alot, & never apologizes
so, the question is...why did you still stay and in the process sleep with her?
If you never wanted all these qualities in a wife, why did you lead her on...cz you should know you can't force people to change

She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career

you said she is not hard working...yet she is a good teacher and good with kids *that doesn't add up*

As for her not being encouraging regarding your career...i dunno when that started, but have you though it might be out of the frustration of being a single mother who feels she gets no love from you? it's not easy being with sum1 and feeling distant at heart *a feeling you know*

As for you, I know it's not easy being with someone who doesn't encourage you in your career...but it's best you forge ahead and make the best out of yourself despite the odds around you

She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it

^^^ I see progress in this cz you fought, she listened and changed

I dunno the method of how you did this...but if it could work for that, maybe it could work in other areas
Besides, life has no template...maybe there are other subtle ways you could make a difference with her

Also, you could sacrifice your relationship with others so as to focus on her, cz she might feel betrayed after she did the same for you
so, don't blame her for being a little protective in a way that seems possessive...she is only fighting for what is hers
why do you think your whatsapp profile picture was changed?...to mark her territory of course

My advice...As for the other lady, hold up for a bit and try to see if you can work out your current relationship
You can try sending the other lady a message to explain things and apologising for whatever happened

but in a way...try showing your baby mama a bit of love and concern...do those crazy things you did for her when you tried to woo her...get her to feel that love again and open up to you, then communicate with her all that needs to change in the relationship for things to work out.

It takes a lady in love with you, especially one who respects your person to be vulnerable for her to see all she has been doing to you and your family (especially your mother) and want to have a change of attitude.

It's no full proof and never a guarantee that things will change...as there are some ladies that are hell bent on frustrating the life of others, but it takes the grace of God, especially when you commit all in prayers.

May God give you the wisdom to make the best decision for your future, especially that of the child

simple...that's his attraction and what he intends getting married to. Besides, the look on her face confirms it...she knows!!