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[quote author=~Royal~]
Group 3 Is a Travesty!!!!!

Can i speak to a Judge Please!...

Wtf is this...

I vote for the Niqqah with the 1997 Indoor House Phone with the Bright White Cord.

Who takes a pic, while talking on a house phone with a cord!?

More Importantly, Who still has house phones with Cords connected to the receiver.[/quote]Royal is crazy...!
This guy is making me laugh so hard at 4 in the morning...
Damn!!

Two times...

Abeg,i nor sabi grouping o...
My votes...
Ikekings..
Lalaosky..
Jackbauer'sballs..
Chucky234..
Freshdude..
Cantell..
Obinoscopy..
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Debosky,Seun and Jaybee aint gon be interested so no point wasting votes...
The rest people are Ugly..with a capital U..
I'm scared of going to sleep for fear of the nightmare the pictures i viewed are going to cause me..

Creating a scene/confronting MIL was one big mistake.
You are going to have to plead for forgiveness/grovel your way out of it while putting aside the issue of her staying/leaving for a while.
You are supposed to apply wisdom in dealing with situations like that and lots of it too but you missed it and so can't say nothing else until the storm you started calms..!

Dunno if its only a Yoruba thing but is definitely a ridiculous superstion..
Its supposed implication is synonymous to people who put their bibles beside their pillow and think it'll protect them from evil...
Stupidity!!

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]I don't get it. . .if we're gonna ask this kinda question, wouldn't the better question be SHOULD PARENTS DRINK ALCOHOL?

What makes a mother drinking alcohol less responsible than a father who drinks too?!

Is only the mother who can influence a child? Fathers have no role to play at all?!![/quote]the thread title is clearly a sexist question..
Waiting for the op an other anti-married women drinking to answer the above questions.

Long One: She gave up her most prized possession, never used before, even though I tried hard to resist…

Damn, she set my loins on fire, pity I ended up being a jerk…

what most-prized possession?
Pls tell me...

I don think am tire...and i nor gree remember any..!
Without bias and in all truth,NOTHING!!!

Your fiancee cannot adopt your son after marriage as long as the boy's father is alive,is not a potential threat to the boy or you and doesn't consent to it.
A man who truly loves and deserves you should not make such demands on you or put you in this position.
If he loves ,treats and trains your son as his,the better for him as someday,the child's going to become a man and will recognise who truly is/was a "father" to him whether his "daddy" takes him from you or not!
Does your man not understand that anything he does for your son,he's also doing for you?
Why do you think you have to settle for this man because you are not getting any younger?
Why would you even want to settle for this kind of agreement?
Having your son live away from you because of a man?
You are 25 and have a whole life ahead of you.Don't make this choice because you think there'd be no other person that'd be as good or even better than him.
Goodluck to you!

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coogar: i only need to read 2 to get an idea of what obtains in nigerian youth camps. i don't really expect my cousins to make up such stories - it's not like they are getting paid to exaggerate!

Exaggeration is in the course of things and humans are inclined to exagerrate almost anything except their own mistakes.They could as well have dislocated the truth a little while trying to clarify things..

by the words that come out of your mouth, i can tell you are clueless....

..as usual with you,resort to name-calling when you run out of substance to reply or argue with.
Keep it up!

whoever said all NYSC camps are terrible.....are you making your own arguments here or you are just arguing without logic? i said the living conditions in the damaturu and the abia state camp are horrible - i never mentioned lagos or the hawaii camp you served at!

My argument was because of your basing your assertions and deductions on what just two of your cousins told you as against the experiences of millions of other people...and all your other arguments around Nysc both on this thread and on the forum like you are the all seeing and all knowing one...when in truth,all you have is just hearsay!

why would anyone want to stay in those
camps for 3 weeks? my cousin told me
he only had one small piece of mattress
as bed and they were sleeping outside
because of the heat.....i was like wow!!!

you wouldn't know what a standard living condition should be - so going to the bush to spread your butt to shyte would be a perfect living condition to you. as for me, i see that as something from the stone age. i don't expect to get the 5-star hotel treatment but at least make it conducive and cosy - not somewhere i would be infected because of the poor hygienic conditions.

Same thing i took you on-generalization without solid facts!
It is not all as hellish or as horrific as your paintings....and its not just about Nysc camps but about the society that birthed it which is ridden with faults itself you cannot deny.
Quit all your diasporic smear-campaigning around Nysc with your unsubstantiated facts!
Nysc has it faults on many grounds but stop blowing the problem out of proportions!
That's my issue with your arguments!

Yes o..
It is very important.If you know where you are coming from,you should also where you are going.
It doesn't make sense to go marry a first born of a family with seven siblings and financially incapable parents when you are from an indigent family with responsibilities of your own.
Wisdom should be applied in cases like this else it'll put a strain on the marriage so much one'd wish to not have made that choice.

coogar: contrary to what you think, i have heard from people who camped there -

Passed-around info...

seen digital images of the living conditions and the diaries they kept while they camped there for 3 weeks......

digital images of how many camps...and how many diaries did you read?

people like you who have never ever been out of lagos state tend to live in a bubble - your mentality = "what does not exist in lagos does not exist anywhere else".

Duh!
...you don't know nothing about me,where i have been or haven't so don't even go there!

i bet you think there's a beach in every state in nigeria, don't you?

Yes...the same way i think Cocoa house is situated at Maitama,Abuja.
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All i'm saying is not all Nysc camps are as terrible as you think still.
Do your homework mister.
There are camps that give people reasons to want to stay for more than 3 weeks.Keffi camp in Nassarawa for example is in good conditions like Pak stated same as Osun state camp...and a few others.
Besides,the idea of those three weeks in camp is not to make you totally comfortable or feel at home.
Stop painting Nysc camps as hell!

Somehow, the idea of Don Jazzy been the face of Loya milk doesn't sound appealing to the senses...
A female ambassador would have made more sense and effect..!

[quote author=Sapele_Don]Somebody even suggested that you should be a chaperon or send another adult to be with the kids when his dad takes them,is that writer serious?a wife sending somebody to monitor a dad be with his biological kids?seriously?as if the dad sends somebody to monitor the ex-wife everyday the kids are with her.[/quote]Don't get ahead of yourself sir...!
This is about the woman not trusting her kids with her ex's relations..not about their father.
...and the idea was not to
monitor the man around his kids but to care for them as the man might have to delegate that to "untrusted" relations.

maclatunji: Slimyem, I am tempted to tell you to shut-up unless you can sincerely say your posting to Lagos was due to marriage and not manipulation.

It was the hand of God...

coogar: why won't you think so when you served in lagos?
you should have gone to damaturu or isiala ngwa to see the living conditions. see her mouth like "pass around stories"...

Have you been to Damaturu or Isiala-Ngwa?
What do you know about their camp conditions for a fact?

spikes C: Pfft

If you need me to notice you,just say so next time...!
Ode!

spikes C: U have overstayed ya welcome

who is this?

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coogar: why would anyone want to stay in those camps for 3 weeks? my cousin told me he only had one small piece of mattress as bed and they were sleeping outside because of the heat.....i was like wow!!!

Most of the info you have about NYSC are passed around stories..
Its not all as bad as you've been made to believe and argue with mister!!

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]Don't stress. Nnkan kan ko ti sele.
We still dey chat beer parlor style till someone start campaigning.[/quote]

xynerise: Nothing much. Just some sissies showing some talents

Thank you jare..!
..didn't expect much anyways...
NL boys men are swagger-less as usual...!

Summary of this whole thread please...along with links of the contestants..
Help a sister out o..

pak: Is it because I have not yet called your surname ba ? just wait . . . . . .

Actually your name is a synonym for mine, both mean the same thing ( . . .am assuming your prefix is 'oluwa' anyway).


And by the way do you have a problem with your name ? Okay from now, maybe I should just call you Deborah or somethin

Why are you assuming when you already know...?
I don't have a problem with my name but there's a reason i have a username and a reason you do too.Please respect that reason.
...and didn't you post my first and surname on some thread sometime ago?
Who are you btw and what's your case with me?
Do i know you or do you know me?

barakah: Detesting her is the problem, I shouldn't do that.
I need a good reason not to feel bad about her attitude but It amazes me each time I think about it...who should've told her that she was wrong?
I told my wife to correct her several times but I wonder if she did or not.
She also got her share of her Sister's show of shame.
I suppose she was being nice to her youngest sibling.
The age difference is enough to scare her or make her respect me, I'd say some fifteen long years.
She's in her second year in the University.
I'm the reserved type, I've never engaged her in free talk to suggest that I encourage her keeping a boyfriend.
However,I'm the conventional type one who holds custom in high esteem.

Yes,you shouldn' detest her..Its not healthy.
Isn't there anything good or remarkable about her that you can't focus on instead of her faults?
That might help you deal with the "detest".
..and since she's in the university already and your wife too isn't complaining about her boyfriend status,your encouraging it or not will not count.
You also have to be careful about getting too concerned or invovled in trying to correct her as she is a grown female and it might be interpreted as something else.
Pass on all your concerns/grouse to your wife and have her act on them as she deems fit.

maclatunji: It was in Lagos that a female married corp member was caught pants down with a male corper in broad daylight. Her husband was notified before she was kicked out of camp. This story is here on Nairaland.

Well,i don't know about that. All i know is anyone that has the time and can find a place to do that in Lagos camp must be really desperate and extraordinarily loose.
Lagos camp is small and open.There are no bushes or corners anywhere except for the Man o' war place behind the kitchen which is really dirty and smelly....
Even on camp fire night,we were sent in 10 on the dot such that the males started shouting "we want to fvck" outside the girls hostel for almost 30 minutes before the soldiers sent them in...the more reason i don't believe there's any place or any time for that to happen in Lagos camp.

pak: What the heck ? NYSC in the 90's - guy was 'finding' admission then

Senior Aunties Jidegirl , GreatGod and Efemena - good bye

Exits thread in search of freshers. (Now where is slimyem ? abi you sef finish secondary school in the 80s ni ?)

Infact,i finished in the 70's.Just call me grandma slimyem.
....and what's with you and my real name nah...
Why have you made bandying it here an habit?

She obviously is an irresponsible person and your wife doesn't seem to be saying or doing anything about it.
...and why do you think her tribe has something to do with her attidude?
Is your wife not from the same?
Anyone can be disrespectful or irresponsible irrespective of the tribe..
What advise do you want?
Do you want her to change,want to know if you should be involved in the change, or you want to stop detesting her even if she doesn't?

You can't deny the father his kids..
I'd say you go with them or find a trusted adult/sister to go with them if you can't.

bjcole: We r heard some much complains here, some women cant control themselves, some men dont ve morals, sleep wit anything in skirt be it goat or mammal. These is so much rampant in our society, church, school, government, workplace, everywhere, someone even said as far as Naija women and men r concern, trust only urself, so what is d solution? we r so much in d worship of God, i dnt know if there is any nation that worship God more than us or we r just bunch of hypocrites, lets not pretend, this is real, why?

Fixed!!
There's no real solution.You can only affect the few around you teaching/inspiring them with values that count while living by the same yourself.
....and yes,hypocrites a bunch of us (Nigerians) are.No denying that!

All these talks about married women getting it on in Nysc camps remain a myth to me..
I served in Lagos and none of such happened in my camp..even with singles.There was hardly time and space for it..
So much flirting but nothing more!
It doesn't take away the fact that we live in a morally bankrupt society though...
Its only here online that i see people make a big deal out of infidelity issues..
Its seen as a norm in real life these days.Cuts accross all tribes,religions and sectors.
Sad but true!

Ramsey is a far better interpreter of roles..
Emeka Ike talks like he has hot yam in his mouth.he's just there...