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luckgames: Your Dumb A?? need to grow up in the real world
Nobody in a relationship should have full control
[b]Married is a partnership [/b]pilot and co-pilot
I am not sure what part of the world you live in
Try and find out
If you bless and make lot of money Yes you can F??king pay all the bill
You sound ignorant

you can say it but do you practise it as such?
Do you treat you wife as a partner or as someone lower in ranking?
Do you consult her before you take decisions or you just do because you are the man?
Do her opinions count?
Y'all can cry foul about how women disrectpect you and bla bla butyou do nothing to earn the respect!
Nothing except typing it out on NL.
Nonsense!
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M with you on some of these op..not all!

ayobase: Thank u my brother!

of everything wey dm post for hia,na only nonsense you fit agree with?
Smh for you big time!

Na wa o...
Na so so bad bad news everywhere!
Hia!
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Ilu yi su mi,ewa fun mi ni visa!

Idowuogbo: Kai! Dis na disaster o! Small Kondo ke? Ha! Mo sori gan mehn......

i thought you don't mind.
Shebi you tell me say aboki own na like your little finger and you love it still?

Babzilla: By the bolded I take it its You. Well Id say as long as the guy sticks with U and doesnt beat U and he screws U good, U have nothing 2 worry abt. When thw mum passes on she'll leave a fortune 4 y'all

No.its NOT me!
Thanks for your opinion!

VEE2010: Why can't his Mum give him some money to establish a business of his own? I think, this overstretch by his Mum has several under tone that may not be known. Also, the OP didn't tell us the educational background/health condition of the said Husband to be.

he's a regular Nigerian graduate with sound health...at least physically!

you can do all of the above and the man still wouldn't worship,adore or respect you if he wouldnt!

Olalekan 0: Since he's unable to get a job,do you expect his mom to neglect him and watch him suffer?

No,i don't!
...and i wouldnt sign on him as a fiancee or husband to anyone too...

^She's willing to go to any legths to help.
This much i know!
She has a thriving business and remember ,he's her only child!

pendo89: How old is this fellow ??

about or around 30..i guess!

Hassan11: Slimyem i understand ur worries abt ur friend. The question i av 4u is dis. Does ur friend understand it d way u do. If she does and she wants to go ahead wt it then she should be ready to work hard to save her marriage. Because there no way d guy's mother wil not influence things in their affair.

i don't think she sees things the way i do.
Is she a little worried?
Yes!
But not as much as i am...no!
Chances of her backing out now are low..so i dunno!

cowgurl: Well, good thing she's gat a sweet motherinlaw cos I don't see any ill intentions towards her from your post. She's just a loving mother taking care of her son, who knows how long it took for her to conceive him. Research has it that 'only child' has the tendencies to be spoilt by their folks and as such it makes it pretty hard for them to hussle. Now, about the introduction/ wedding, it's goin to be difficult for her to stop her motherinlaw cos she's already living with her fiance in the house she paid for. 'l suggest she talks to her fiance and make him see reasons why he should take care of his responsibilities cos he's no longer a kid, this should be done lovingly.

i thing she's a loving mother-in-law with no ill intentions whatsoever in this case.
...and no,she's not living with him!
Now,how do you talk to a 30-year old man about how he is no longer a kid and is supposed to take care of his responsiblities?
You think he doesnt know that already?
You think that's gon effect the desired change straight-up?

this is what my people will call...oro yi so si ni lenu,o bu yo si.iso o see pon'la,iyo o see tu danu...meaning the stench of fart in your mouth plus salt.you can't swallow the fart and you can't spit out the salt!

be willing to kiss my feet anytime,anyday and anywhere!

[quote author=Mynd_44]Killjoy[/quote]whatever!

queensmith: the mum probably knows that her son is a loser and is looking for a woman to secure his future with.

Does your friend have a job?

even if its weekends or every other thursday, its his house why doesnt he do the cooking?

she has a job.not a very good one but sustainable.
Why doesn't he do the cooking?
Babe,we are talking about a typical Nigerian man here!

queensmith: marriage should be the last thing on his mind if he doesnt have a job. Momsie is just looking for a slave for her son. So the girl parades over to the guys house to cook for him? Well done, lmfao, well done very much.

she only gets to cook for him when she's there to spend weekends.
He's not as keen on marriage as his mum his.She's the mastermind!

ayobase: Judging someone afar via hearsay is an allegation!
You might be surprise if he is not the kind of guy u tot of.
Allow ur friend to work it out!

hey mister,i'm not judging nothing from afar.
The lady in question is my best friend and more (no homo!)
I am privy to the genesis and exodus of the relationship.i know EVERYTHING or almost so just take my word for it!

pendo89: I felt nauseated after reading the bolded. Is that a man or a baby!

I d rather marry a hardworking poor fellow than this kind of men who dont want to live mummy's breast.
They are lazy and of no good use to a woman.
No thanks he can go back to mummy

at least,you understand the cause of my worry...and there's only little i can say to this friend so it doesnt sound like i'm trying to break-up her relationship.
But she's so dear to me and i just dunno what to do.

[quote author=Mynd_44]this might get interesting
*following*[/quote]it won't.
don't waste your bytes.
Unfollow for your own good!

Idowuogbo: Hmmmmm...... Mama is working on d instructions of her babalawo I think!

He must b a calabash baby IMO

forget that thing!
Nor be babalawo matter but a mother's overstreched protection and responsibility towars her son.

is this a thread or thrash?

He's my friend's fiance,and the only child to his mum,who will do anything for him.
He doesn't have a job but his mum wants him to get married.

His Mum loves my friend,gives her pocket money, buys her stuff,call her and do all other assumed responsibilities of the fiance asides intimacy.

When she sensed my friend wasn't comfortable coming to visit the guy in her house,she rented a 3-bedroom apartment for him and equipped it.She's responsible for EVERYTHING in the house, and even gives my girlfriend money to cook food for her son if she isn't able to send food stuff and ingredients down.

Whenever the guy is broke,he calls mummy and she responds.Though he says he's trying to make money but his avenues are not clear-cut.trying to land contracts and hanging around political god-fathers.

A date has being fixed for introductions and an assumed wedding date already.

What kind of a husband would he be because technically he's nothing without his mum?
My friend is worried and so am i for her.

lmao @ op's post directed at women and other posters turning it around to men..
everyone loves clean feet...
But not everyone take care of theirs.

i don't care if you are emotinal as long as you do a good job of hiding it!