₦airaland Forum

How maximum is Kirikiri?

N'er heard of her

damiso: Oga Dayo , thank God for the IUD cos morning after pill is EMERGENCY contraception, not to be used lightly and frequently ..And by run foul you mean

...the lady/ladies were missing their Ps definitely...
Dayo, God is watching you.

dayokanu: Abi ooo

If it was the woman that had the problem I am certain the guys husband would have made a full flavour Nabania album of abuse on her head.

If you are dating test run your partner wellla, And if you test run and you no miss period for 1-2yrs omo na long thing oo.

In my own case we dey always run foul every 3-4 months we had to get an IUD cos Morning after refused to work again

Even if that woman has test-ran/run and she didn't get pregnant or didn't want to, she wouldn't have found out still until now.

Fertility tests would have been a better option for her since she was waiting.

teeo: My own view...

It depends on the family, culturally Nigerians see marriage as a merging of two families, if a family is already one by a previous marriage another marriage could be like committing Inc.est. Yorubas even view it as a taboo or they believe a curse could come upon the family. My aunty got married into a family that her cousin had already married from, uptil this moment my grand mum feels like the reason why my aunt is not rich is because the marriage was wrong.

Dont try to diss culture, it has some powers as long as you are african, culture has some roots in you.

This is some thought.

^I thought they were same too until now.

Op,your grandmother is what she is and your biological mother is your mother.
If you don't feel good calling her mummy,don't !..for now.
If you don't feel good establishing a relationship with her,don't ! ..for now but in time your are going to have to forgive the past and accept her if she is ready to want and be what she has not been to you all these years.

Be thankful that she at least didn't throw you in a bin somewhere as a child . She gave you to a capable hand-someone who she was sure would take care of you as her own and who did.
If you can,let her know how hurt you feel and demand an explanation for her reasons for staying away.
It will be okay.

Omo_Alata: Giving birth does not make you a mother, it is the unconditional love and caring for that child that makes you a mother. In my opinion,your grandmother is your mother and your bio mum is your sister. Yes she brought you into the world, but she is not your mother. You have absolutely no obligation to call her mum and you shouldn't feel guilt about it. You can refer to get as a sister or aunt or whatever

SeanBell: Thank you slimyem and teeo,I updated in my diary oo with a pic of him

Rushing off to see rightaway.

I doubt there's any Nigerian woman who would leave out the option of having her own biological children for adoption especially when she's perfectly okay.

Op says she wants her own children with her eyes,nose,ear and all that and every woman can identify with the feeling that gives.

This man doesn't deserve any sympathy for this big deceit. If he had been sincere,op might have left him but he would sooner or later have found someone willing to love him like that and/or compromise. Probably a single mother with one or two children of her own and willing to keep his secret by considering DS or adoption.

All the best op. May HIS grace see you through this.

Seanbell,congrats.I also followed your diary religiously. You didn't update on the good news.
Love your imput on this issue too.

This kind of stories scare me. Jeez!!

ayans4: Ironically, DS maybe out of it too because as a result of the fracas that brought about the "revelation",my family parents, siblings etc are not happy with their behaviour since they threw my bags out, asked me for my children amongst other insults/ embarrassments I got from them....so after the fertility tests results, and after I told him that I cannot continue in the marriage, he got his family members far and near to talk to me about continuing.....
so, they are aware that he cannot "father" a child.....

I really do not think you have many options outside this.

I told him I would remarry and raise a decent family

Like someone above said,his family might never accept or treat those children as their if you try DS or another man.

But neighbours said the animals were only fed
twice a week and had become aggressive.

This must have been it.
They knew chicken meatballs could not satisfy them so they went for larger and juicier meat.
Amimals will always be animals!

free2ryhme: maggot

....and maggots are edible..

uniqueren: i once lived in a hostel near another hostel for physically challenged guys
the blind guys in that hostel really changed my perspective of them (blind people)

there was this particular blind guy always complaining of girls having hard palms and coarse voices
he even had problems with the kind of name you answer.
He was pretty much amazing, but i've never ceased to wonder what kind of a troublesome person he wld have being
if he had his sight

The blind peeps I know are troublesome, naughty and lewd. The educated and opportuned ones do pretty much everything normal people do.
I even know a blind guy who clubs regularly.

Why not?
He has only lost his sight..not his vision.

I have a blind friend and his wife material requirements are so top notch. Blind people are not less human than everyone else who wants a good thing.
Handsome/beautiful blind people get told they are that. They also get told if their partner is the same too.

No one on this thread is taking this seriously...

yuzedo: two ugly poeple. d girl is tin like slimyam
wen shes fastin four boyfrend. and d boy
loooooook like dat bingo MOD dat have not
eaattttt since las 7year. dint dey have boli +
akamu in side america to make dem fat?? we give
uppp!!!!!!

Yuzedo, If I catch you....I go deal with you!!

dayokanu: But when you want to date a girl you wont ask what does your family collect as brideprice first probably its after 2yrs dating and youre ready for marriage that you see the shocker.

So if it was your brother given that kind of list what would you say or do?

You should have an idea. Throw it in as a joke in a conversation or something. Attend weddings of people from her place and access the conditions. Its not that hard.
These thing don't come as a shocker anymore if you are marrying from certain tribes.

If my brother was given that kinda list,no biggie if he is capable and believes the lady. Is worth it but I'll throw in the option of one of my friends who would save him the unnecessary expense.

^^definitely not my tribe kinda demands. More like a hungry family list.
A man who is marrying from such family should know what he is getting into and should be able to bear the cost. I still insist that engagement items and bride price is the groom and his family's responsibility.

Abeg,make person tell me the meaning of "Oyolima"

twaintoy: GORGEOUS. I just love this woman...

I don't!

The scene that got me is not even here..
That scene where Paul grabbed his crotch while swinging his waist... oh la la

A woman can pay or lend the guy money for other things but NOT bride price or engagement items sef. That's for himself and family to find/bring whichever way.

I don't know about other tribes but in Yoruba land,the bride price is usually not back breaking such that any groom can afford. It is the most meaningful part of the whole ceremony.

This sounds like comic.
...and why "Tourism" of all courses? No Perfoming arts or Communication studies or something else closely related and more benefitting?

How long are you planning to stay?
What state are your cousins based? That'd tell how safe it is. A lot of Nigerians come visiting all the time and they return to their base safely. I don't think you should be as worried as you are except your people have given you reasons to.

You don't trust people by not trying so give yourself a chance to know the kind of people you have as relations. Give only what you have and can afford. Don't dwell on what their expectations could be.
Come home, establish those connections and enjoy yourself if you will. Cheers!

Gboliwe: lol. i doubt that. Check out 190 with his many aliases

@Obinoscopy, Mukina has more than 100 of her topics on facebook. The quiz is asking who has 10? Not more or less

Most regular members/posters have had more than 10 sef.
Op should have put it at 50. 10 is not a milestone.

Envy is a good thing. There's no need trying to overcome it. It should make you strive to be like such people or be better.

My question is how do the drivers of these trucks dissapear from the scene of accident?

I thought Ceasarean section is supposed to be a minor operation..?

Pretty Woman!!
Iku loro! May God comfort her family.