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I condemn this foolish act but it take grace of God not to beat women when they provoked you to the extreme.

agbolahan1991:
Her husband has been away for almost a month, I feel pity though have been having a crush on her right from before she got married, now she has a shop beside our office and I can't get my heart off her each day I see her....

Am a married man too but my wife gives me hell, with her anger, bad mouth and ojukokoro
Am not happy as a married man and I really need someone I can talk to, open up to and someone that can relieve the pain in my heart..

You are digging a grave of pain and regret for either yourself, your family or both.

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused.

This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it.

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

I understand your fear, but kissing a 6 months old baby is not bad at all, even from your maid, as they child aged more the kissing will stop without anybody telling them. Don't add hypertension to your unnecessary fear. Read Job 3:25, What people greatly fear most often happen to them.

Father Lord God, have mercy on us.

This is a non venomous snake, the head shape is enough evidence but keeping snakes as pet is one of the stupid idea in this part of the world.

Ugonna62:
So johnatan was a wrong candidate and pdp a wrong party when SE supported him for president abi? The same johnatan apc is hoping on as their presidential flagbearer if he eventualy decamp to APC.

Taar..., It is foolish of any party to flag Jonathan as their presidential candidate in 2023. Jonathan is done with political position. APC can not used Jonathan because he can only contest for just once, so he can not fit in to a long term future plan of any party that want to remain in power for long.

saphiere:
In my opinion, he rejected her because she is a girl.

kid's way of reasoning. Grow up please.

kcnwaigbo:
You are the politically ignorant one not me.Osibanjo is a political nobody.He has never won an elective office as substantive candidate.

funny, you truly has shallow understanding of politics and also the permutations and calculations of Nigerian type of politics. Let me add to your shock, Osinbajo as vice for 8 years loyalty to Buhari that won general election twice will pull the largest vote of the north and also the SW than any northerner just because he is in the rulling party and not because he is more qualified. The only major force greater that Osinbajo is Jagaban. Apart from Tinubu, every other candidate will be behind Osinbajo

I LAUGHED IN EBIRA LANGUAGE. IGBO SURELY KNOWS NOTHING ABOUT POLITICS AND WILL FOREVER BE SHORT-CHANGE, THEY ALWAYS QUE BEHIND THE WRONG PARTY AND WRONG CANDIDATE. AS AT TODAY26TH SEPT 2021, NIGERIA HAVE JUST 1 PARTY THAT CAN WIN PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION AND THAT IS APC. WHOEVER EMERGES AS THE FLAG BEARER OF APC IS THE NEXT PRESIDENT.

gift2xl:
I keep say, before you tackle crime first tackle poverty. A hungry man can do anything to survive. Who knows how much they have promised these women. Laslas the law is no respectal of anyone.

You are right in a normal setting but Nigeria case is much more different. Apart from poverty, our greed zeal to become rich is out of this world.

DropsMic:
It's the same everywhere even in Hollywood

Na them get the professions below

Actresses
Hotel workers
Boutique owners
Wig sellers
Most models
Bar workers
Masseuse
Sales girl

You can add yours

how come you jump the supposed number 1. Hairdressers

Sonnobax15:
Pray make you survive reach tomorrow . Just pray hard... Because e fit be say that ashawo don use you do money self . Nothing is impossible these days you know

You are a wicked somebody, You just want to kill the guy with fear. I can't stop laughing.

Snake

Avoid anything that has Arsenal identification on them.

My 3 kids school fees in one plate? I shall never eat my future "wastefully" in Jesus name.

Iamagoodgirll:
So I came across this post in a group

NL guys have you experienced this?, also share your view.

I NEED ADVAISE FROM A MALE READERS:

And no, my story is not made up. It’s for real, actually very real. I am a top executive of a very successful conglomerate my father founded. I resumed the job early this year when I returned from the U.K after completing my MBA.
As a result of my job, I usually find myself frequenting places I ordinarily wouldn’t want to- Ikoyi club, society weddings, conferences, etc. I’m a geek for the most part, and something of a recluse. I would rather stay in my house at the end of day and watch TV. When I became Deputy CEO of the company, I realized that I had to start hanging out at these places to build a social circle, mostly for business reasons. I am not a very sociable person, but with the help of my more outgoing cousins, I have been able to build a pretty decent network of Lagos ‘big boys’ between January when I returned and now.

During a conference in Lagos this year, I was approached by a young lady banker. She was working in the Marketing department at one of these banks, She’s pretty young- about 7 years my junior. I’m 28; this lady is about 21. You know how young these graduates are these days.

Anyway, she walked up to me and started persuading me to consider opening up a bank account with her bank and told me all the benefits of the account, etc. She looked so innocent and desperate, and practically begged me for an opportunity to see me again so that she could convince me. I ended up giving her my complimentary card. I usually don’t just give out my card like that, but I did.
Three days later, when I was hanging out with my new-found friends and my cousins at a bar at one of the Hotels on the Island during the early evening, this girl called me and reminded me who she was. She said she really needed me to open an account, and that she was eager to convince me on why I needed to open an account. My friends noticed I was talking to a girl on the phone. You know how guys are; they teased me and asked me to just play around with her and invite her for drinks.
I asked her to come over to the Hotel, and surprisingly, she said she would be there in 20 minutes. The branch she worked in is on the Island, so she apparently took a Bike and came to meet us. This was about 6pm. The girl came, and my friends all saw her. They smiled and talked among themselves in hush tones, and I talked briefly with her for like 5 minutes and told her I would make a decision on banking with her or not. She was desperate from what I could see, and she was eager to get my account.

When she left, my friends all laughed mischievously and told me in plain terms that I had to sleep with the girl. They went on talking about how all these bank marketers sleep with different men before getting deposits, and insisted that I must not be any different. Now, I’m not a virgin; I’ve had my own fair share of sex in the past, but I’ve never been one to take advantage of a girl. I knew she was desperate as she had a target to meet up to, or something of the sort. But when you’re a guy hanging out with guys, it’s pretty difficult to be the odd one out. All my friends made me promise that I’d sleep with the girl. I promised; I didn’t want to look like some geek. And I’m really trying to feel among these guys.

To cut a long story short, two days later, when I was in my office, this girl called me and tried persuading me to bank with her. As she was talking to me on phone, I asked her jokingly: “What are you willing to do in order for me to open an account with you?”

She hesitated and then she told me: “Anything you want sir.”

Gbam! That was my cue. I asked her to meet me at one hotel for drinks later that evening. I asked my PA to book a room for me at the Hotel. She came to meet me. We had drinks, we chatted. She told me that her bosses had ordered her to deliver N10million to the bank that month, and that so far, she hadn’t gotten anything. Her job was on the line, and she had only just started working there 3 weeks before. I asked her to follow me to the room. She did. I slept with her.

Surprisingly, it turns out she was doing it for the first time. She was actually a Virgin. The bed sheet was stained with her blood and all that stuff, and I was just amazed. I thought being a marketer and all, that she would have been sampled many times. But no, she was a virgin. When we finished, she was shy of looking at me in the eye. We didn’t talk much. I gave her money for a Taxi, and gave her the name of the Finance director of the subsidiary I am in charge of. I asked her to meet him the following day to open up a corporate account. I instructed the guy to open up an account worth a few hundreds of millions- probably enough to meet her target for the next 2 years if there is such a thing in commercial banking circles. I don’t know how these banks work.

Anyway, she called me and thanked me profusely for saving her job. My friends now know I have slept with her, and I have solidified my place among them as a ‘bad’ guy.

The issue is this: I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her. It’s been like six weeks now. I haven’t called her since then, even though she keeps sending me text messages asking after my wellbeing and thanking me for banking with her. She deals directly with my Finance guy so we don’t talk money ever. But I think about her every day. I think I actually have feelings for her, and the idea that I was her first makes me feel like she should belong to me. I’ve never been a Lady’s first. I’m actually going crazy with thoughts about this girl.

Am I crazy? Should I call her up and ask her out? How would that feel? How would she react? Also, considering that my friends all see her as the bank ‘LovePeddler’ would it be a good idea to still ask her out? How will my friends see me? I’m not looking for sex from her; I’m looking for something real, something intimate. I want something that’d last- probably forever.

I’ve never felt this way about any other lady in a really really long time. What should I do?

I feel like slapping you from my room right now for taking advantage of her but the taught of you ending up marrying her is the only way to show that you really have dignity. You are not crazy, please go ahead and love her sincerely. She can hardly react negatively, she surely already have feelings for you. As for your friends, shock them that you are actually not as bad as they can think. You don't need to explain to them that you are her first. Put them into confusion by dating the girl for real. Kindly take her out of the target job that may complicate her life more if you have the power to do so. She is only trying to survive and this lead her to you, if she did not stop the job anytime soon, another man will still repeat what you did.

November24:
Don't act like a child.
Do you know she's hurting the man,it's not what the doer does,but who's at the receiving end. She has to stop that nonsense,you don't hurt people deliberately.
I'm married.even in my dreams,I can never tell husband that satanic words.

I am disappointed that you claim to be a woman and this insensitive statement coming from you, just because you can not say such does not mean you can not do something worse than that from another area of relationship, every man has a unique way to manage their wife and you should respect your husband for managing that your own weak area. For you to even publicly advice another man, someone's husband to stop acting like a child has shown that you too is not perfect and need schooling when it comes to settling misunderstanding in marriage.

9jayes:
All the rocks in Nigeria was as a result of volcanic eruptions including Aso-rock, I wish it’s now its erupting and swallow all the bad leaders in aso-roak

but Bubu is not even around, so your evil mind towards him is a total waste of time, bad leaders alone is your problem when the followers are even worst

ademidedavid:
My greetings nairalanders,
I am married for 10years now and blessed woth 3 wonderful kids but my woman is a bit difficult.

To cut the long story short, i went out with a colleague on friday and due to the fact that the kids are on holiday, i took my wife along because she was already raising the roof bout my outing ( NOTE: I have never ever gone out without my family to avoid wife's palava).

On getting there, she complained i was looking at some ladies lustfully which was not at all.......just trying to figure out some important things in my head. After which she complained that i was drunk.....lo and behold i wasnt because i dont take beer, i only take red wine, bullet and spinnorf......which i took a red wine and bullet before leaving the house and also took 3 bottles of spinnorff ( I was never drunk with all of those)

Fast forward to today, i am very open with my finances guess one of my mistakes.........she noticed that a thousand naira (#1000) was missing in my wallet and all means to explain to her proved abortive even though i give her money for things she love like body cream, cloths and others but after all nagging, i was vexed and went to the kids room which i politely asked her to let me be at the moment because i cant withstand her nagging over a thousand naira but she persisted and i have to shut the door against her but she opened it and told me she hates me and regret marrying me.....sounded like the rapture sound initially but later realised it actually came from my woman, my mother of my kids!!!!

i still cant place those words.....could it be out of anger or she actually mean the words for real?

Please help a heartbroken brother.

just as if I know where your story will end right from reading just the title of the gist. I imagine my wife in the scenario and that is exactly what i get. My brother, she did not mean 1% of that statement, You will even be shocked, that she will repeat it again as she meant it, n.a. lie. She only loves you but making mistakes on persistent nagging, You can not avoid nagging with women but persisted one is a turn off. Now, on how to handle this issue, pretend that those words she said really hurt you and insist on been alone with a little change in your attitude and magical change in how she will adjust on the nagging thing. Please don't let the misunderstanding prolong than 24hrs, draw her back to yourself if she did not do it first. God bless your home

TarOrfeeek:
Thankfully she observed social distance

She would not want to be infected with failure.


Even me sef, I would have stood outside to greet Gen. Failure.

it's a pity you choose to ridicule the number leader of your father's land this way. Yet you still pray to God who forbid you to treat your leaders in that manner.

DaddyRochie1642:
Now, she has learnt the hard way,

"All that glitters is not GOLD"

100% sure, she has not learnt any lesson, she will easily get deceived by another man who throw her little money and promised to take care of the kids. It is a serious trouble if a woman has no meaningful skill, rely on what man can do for her and above all lack good home character. For her to have suffered from 3 different men, she sure lack many good women virtues.

JimmyDarmody:
Every point i make here is based on the fact that more than 50% of what i said is statistically correct.

Not all moms are the same but more than 50% of all moms are amazing.

I thought you should have known this. Every crop or animal farm that doesn't yield more than 50% profit is detrimental to its owner.

every decision is peculiar to every individual involved and even at the situation that surrounds each moment of the decision making, nothing like % in life. In case you need to know, some crops and animals need to yield just 30% of what they are capable of to give you over 100% profit on investment.

JimmyDarmody:
Never buy for a woman what you haven't bought for your mom

all mum are not THE Same though.

FalseProphet1:
I see Atiku going no where come 2023, Nigeria wouldn't even be existing by then.

This I have seen.

I want to counter your submission before, then I sigjt9your name and my hand drop. You really merit that your name.

Richy4:

I feel really sad for the woman, Assuming she was my younger sister that I never have, I will just ask her to leave that marriage because there is nothing to salvage ..I will help her pack her things and ask her to come and leave with me... what an insult to her dignity and sensibility...She made a mistake though by telling the other woman's husband instead of confronting her own husband..

However, If Mrs was not attached to her name, she will not die...If she doesn't wear a ring in the middle of her fingers, she will not die... If she can't have sex, she will not die as a matter of fact, having sex in that relationship might kill her faster...

It indeed feels really great wearing the bigger trouser ...

always remember the children's life and future in your advice when counselling married people. Don't be quick to call for separation when children are already in the marriage. I grow up in a broken home and only hell can be compared to it.

Chemistry in Nigeria is dead. That man is one of the greatest pillar Chemistry ever produce in Nigeria

KINGOROOLA:
As a business OWNER what salary do you deem fit for a farm manager?

As a farm manager whats the lowest/highest salary you can go for?

NOTE- You are to oversea day2day runing and growth of the farm.

FARM SIZE/TYPE: 50arc, Animals husbandry (goat,cow and pigs, aqua culture, vegetable.

experienced should not be less than 100k plus accommodation.

This is the ki d or rubbish making front page? Nairaland moderator should do better, educative stories has finished?

I hope Ondo state can do the same, I was recently transferred from Lagos to Ondo city, this is when I discovered that people with mental health challenges in the town alone is more than that of the whole Lagos state.

owenseddies40:
My wife gave birth to 3boys and one girl for me,my last son scares me a lot because whenever I see him, it's like am before my father.they look alike,talk alike and behaviours too, it's really scarry

You should be happy that you son is not a bastard or what are you thinking? I don't understand the reason behind the scare. Except you want to tell us that you dislike your father.

The movie is on my laptop since two weeks now and no motivation to even see it.

gnykelly:
Can't the water be used for Large scale irrigation farming in the area rather than this perennial release.

A 5000 hectares will utilize the excess fully. Why are we so dumb

You have a wise suggestion but because you did not understand the terrain of the area makes you think farming land is possible in that area. However, your suggestion of irrigation is the key to sustainable agriculture and food security. We are totally dum in this country.