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The problem is that both the media & government are still adamant this gruesome killing is been perpetrated by gunmen instead of tagging it the Original name.....

Diano154715:
I can't cope again I fainted 2 times mth is too abstract, cramming 3 pages, just one definition with Latin symbols
I feel like a loser am so depressed

Okay...but since your HOD said you are good and your results are good as well, it means something is taking away your focus, I think it's time to open up to ur HOD on why you can't continue, or better still u need to get attached with the mathematicians in your department or faculty.... Personally I prefer maths over any other courses any day any time, because it's the only exams i can go to bed peacefully and write successfully, it requires constant practice, hook up with the gurus in your dept or seek assistance from your lecturers as well am sure with time, concentration and dedication you will excel, instead of going through the process of writing another jamb....

All this my Igbo brothers shaah... We no dey carry last, las las

All this my Igbo brothers shaah... We no dey carry last, las las

ddippset:
Am still looking for the place where the article that I read said anything about an eye witness.

All i see is suspected suspected suspected.

You people should keep sentiments aside and allow the relevant authorities investige and tell us who did it.

Stop the foolishness.

I'm versatile....I already read other account of this news before posting this, The problem is you shedding them as if it was an attack perpetrated by armed robbers

backbone503:
And more, not less, American lives will be lost.

Sure.... That's why it's called War

WackyJ1:
I came here because I wanted to give you some careful valuable advice.

I hope I can articulately type everything I want to tell you in a way that you will understand.

Your Sister wants to have sex with a man that is 27 years old, someone who is older than her with 13 years. And you want to beat her.

After beating her what next? You tell her don't do it again?
How effective has that been in changing anything? The runs girls and the hoes out there were all beaten by their parents but it didn't stop them from being promiscuous.

Beating, flogging is easy because it is easy to dispense and it saves the adult from doing what is more difficult, Actually talking to the Child.
Read what I wrote again, "Talking to the Child". Not Talking at the Child but actually engaging in a conversation where you strive to understand what the child feels, striking a rapport with the child and then passing your message across through that connection that has been established.

Doing this requires emotional intelligence and understanding of psychology with the majority of people in this country and even the world at large lacks.
Nigerian parents and perhaps African parents at large believe that flogging with solve everything so they end up raising children that suffer from trauma. This is the same way most American parents respond to problems with their children by administering drugs but they are better than us in the sense that they also take the children for therapy and counseling.

Enough of the background story.
Let me tell you how you must approach this situation.


You must first understand what motivates young girls like this.
You must also talk to her like someone that UNDERSTANDS. Not like an adult reprimanding a Junior and dishing out the commandments, thou shall not. You must sound like someone that knows how she is thinking at the moment and what she is thinking and this is where your emotional intelligence comes into play.

Anything else and you risk not connecting with her and all your words are empty. She will only act like she understands.

Now let me talk about her motivations and what she is going through.

1. Curiosity.
2. Peer Pressure.

Every young girl is curious about sex, they want to know what it is like, they want to know how it feels. Most of this pressure comes from the kind of company that they keep. Their clique of friends and what they discuss. It comes from boys they have a crush on and the ones that pressure her for sex.

This is a point where I must mention another truth:
She is going to have crushes on 60% if not more of all the guys that she meets until she is 20 years old.

These guys are going to have an influence over her because of what she feels for them. It is this influence that they will use to try and get what they want from her.

Everything I have just told you (From the word: "Truth", you should tell her, So she knows that you know and that you understand. Tell her that it is normal. Tell her that if she gives into sex with every single guy that she is going to have a crush on then she will have opened her legs for 15 guys before she is 20.

3. Connection.
How is the home environment like? Does she get to talk well with her parents? Do your parents understand her or are they too old and outdated to do so? Does she have a best friend who understands her? Is she lonely even in the midst of many friends? You need to know the answers to this. Sometimes what she is seeking is that Love and connection. This guy is offering it to her and she wants to reciprocate it by giving the guy what he wants which is sex.


4. Ask her about her sex drive.
Does she have the urge to have sex constantly? Does she have to urge to continuously view pornography? If she does, that is where the problem is coming from, her body is constantly pulling her towards a path that she cannot resist.

This is the point where I tell you another truth that you must tell her.
If she starts having sex now at 14, she will get addicted. She will crave more and more till she gets to the point where she cannot say no to any guy even if she doesn't like his character. Once she gets addicted she will discover that she will sleep with as much as 10 guys in a year. This is even a conservative figure. May girls do as much as 2 a month, totally different guys. They can't help it, in fact they love it. They want to sleep with a guy just to taste him.

5. What are her goals for the future?
Is your family well to do? Or are there financial issues that the family is struggling with? Does she want to become someone well known and respected in the future? Does she want to be someone who can get excellent grades in Senior Secondary School and the University?
If she starts having sex now, she will not be able to concentrate any longer.
She will never be able to focus, the number of men in her life will never allow her to do so and if she can not concentrate she cannot study and if she cannot study, she cannot get good grades and she cannot become someone of importance in the future.

You need to let her know all this.

I have more to say, but I have gotten tired of typing.
We can connect via PM and eventually talk on the phone.

However, read what I have written and if you have not tried this approach then it is imperative that you do so.

Indeed u made a whole lotta sense....
I know of a girl who doesn't misbehave because of what yes u stated above, the father also told her "that any material thing any man is ready to offer her just to have sex with her, she should tell him, he will provide it"

smat101:
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning

What I was scared of is finally happening...
I've a lot to say but let me try to be brief...

It's been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.

There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed breast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about sex, boyfriends, pornography relationship, sex, everything in that area.

Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done...

Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in... What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send nudes to a guy and the guy was planning to have sex with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid...

My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27...

So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again...
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys...

I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter .

27 years old and 14years old.... Damn!!
Some people self... Probably the same girl someone is yelling to go and wear pant about 10years ago is the same girl he's begging to pull down pant...

I still don't know how girls of nowadays does it with mighty behind and already standing erect boobs at a very tender age of 15-17yrs...same way am afraid for my cousin sis with mighty ass and boobs at just 17....I have done my part in talking sense to her, but again am not around to monitor her movement.

Bro in your own case, if it's possible for change of environment for your sis closer to you, it will help calm her down a little...14yrs is just too young for Christ sake, The painful part is that the idiot might be here on NL raining fire and brainstorm as motivational words...
If your location is around Abuja, anyday u want to beat the guy, tell me, i will be of great help to fry his dick cap with lighter

ddippset:
Reason like person we go school na.

So it has turned to a naming competition?

Name your own, I name my own?


So only Fulani herdsmen kill people in Nigeria abi?

What about community disputes?
What about armed militia?

Yes it could as well be herdsmen!

But who knows for now?


The article says "SUSPECTED" because no investigation has been done.
And the writer did not give any eye witness account.
And I know the writer wasn't at the scene of the massacre.

If this is not junk journalism then tell me what is?


Make una dey reason like educate people abeg.

Oga.... I woke up to see this news, an eyewitness said it was carried out by fulani herdsmen, suspected to be a reprisal attack been executed by the Nigerian soldiers for killing 4 fulani headsmen who are kidnappers as a result of a tip off by the people of tawani...
I don't know what your point, but shielding the fulani herdsmen won't increase your bank account financially

Akuko N'kasobi..... One thing is certain for Iranians, it will surely end in tears

MaxVee:
I Am Losing My Mind, Could This Be Love Or Foolishness?

Okay, I'd be quick and brief as well.

So about 6 months ago, I met my girl on facebook, And after months wooing her to date me, she finally agreed and we started dating..

Like everything was perfect and indeed I fell deeply in love with her even before I met her.

So along the line in our relationship she told she had a best friend who is a guy and they have know each other for like 4years..and that they talk very well (calls and chat) and that they tell each other they love themselves, but if I wasn't cool with it,I could break up she would understand.

As a guy I knew I had fallen for her and I embraced her telling me about the guy after a strong assurance from her that they were not into any sort of relationship with each other.

So my girl called me like let's say a month after we started dating that there was this her friend who she hadn't met and that wanted and she was going to see him, and I was like fine, she should just be fine.

P.S:- I hadn't met with my girl even till the point she went to meet the guy...I was in the west and she was in one of the states in the East..more like a long distance relationship.

Fast forward to days after they met I became uncomfortable with the relationship between my girl and the said new guy she met..I talked to her severally about it and she was at some point swearing not having anything to do with the new guy she just met.

Fast forward to the festive season I came back and I met my girl for the first time..indeed she was everything I imagined and we flowed amazingly well.

Long story cut short in the midst of one of our long conversations I discovered she have at some point had sex severally with her said best friend...so I was like since it was before we met I forgave her and we moved on..

yesterday I asked her if she has anything with the new guy and she swore again not having anything with him that the guy has been asking her out and she refused dating him.

She said plenty of things that convinced me into believing that nothing was going between them.

P.S:- before yesterday I told her to tell the new guy she has a boyfriend and she promised to..(from the actions of my girl I could tell she loves me.) She later told me that day that she told him and she had blocked him and stuff..and trust me I did believe her.

So this morning while she was sleeping I reaching out to her phone and went straight to her WhatsApp.. opened the chat with the guy and what I saw broke me..

She was reconciling with him over the break up she instigated of which was caused by something totally different not even because she told him she had a guy..what killed my spirit was a message she wrote to the guy saying "she left me for him even though I was far much a better option"..I confronted her and she has been pleading saying she loves me but she likes him and that they haven't had anything except kissing and caressing..that she loves me so much..that she started liking him when she started talking to him more frequently and I was far away. She hadn't know me..so she got fond of him and she likes him.

I love this babe so much, I told her I forgive her..but please I need your opinions..am I blinded by love or am being foolish..

How would you handle the situation. If it was you..
La La.. please help move this to front page
Am breaking every hour.

You are a better option than the other guy, meaning she is with you for what you can offer, meaning with the way u love this said girl, you have been sending money and gifts sheepishly without setting your eyes on yet (wow every potential oloshos dream) ;S.....
My brother, you dey "one chance" and i can categorically inform you that it will surely end in tears....!!

itsme01:
come to think of it, if Iran Russia and US blow off themselves, perhaps Nigeria can finally become world leaders with our visa selling very fast and we calling America a shithole after their nuclear wreck

Exactly....

itsme01:
Oga shiites protest in US that one isnt new, both shiite and Ipob should laylow this time so as to remain invisible if a world war emerges

Leave IPOB outta this oO, this one pass them This guys needs to know this war looming involves nuclear heads and not their usual cutlass and knives

itsme01:




Shiitee little members protesting against the unprovoked murder of their fellow Iranian Shiite and financer , yet Lamidi COwardly Kanu still managed to include Biafra and tag the whole North (100million people)

this Nigga is sick in the head

Ipobians are free to protest and rally in support of US and Trumps (human right violations and extra judical killing) while shiite in the north cant do the same even when one of them in Iran was murdered without any trail or evidence of crime

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IPOB members do carry out their protest both in Nigeria and USA abi, so let them do the same, if they finish protesting in Nigeria they should match up straight to USA, let me see if it doesn't end in Nigeria.....

That is how this people will put us in trouble one day for something that doesn't concern us....
Formally is was Lai Mohammed challenging a whole Isreal for battle now this haggardly looking almajiris

Scottallen:
It is not voodoo but science. However, if your mind is made up on voodoo. Then,so be it

Not that my mind is made up, I don't know what else to call it

sotall:
What do you mean there is power from above and power from beneath?

The sentence is self explanatory, in fact feel free to give it your own meaning, before i say one thing, then another fellow will come and give it another meaning...

Scottallen:
Not voodoo, they use similar process as rain seeding used by road contractors and other scientists.

Usually, the rain maker makes some fire using some local components and the components of the vapor can induce rain. The rain can stop when the fire stops.

Voodoo is pure science displayed to ignorant folks.

The major thing is that compounds of potassium iodide or other similar compounds capable of inducing rain are released into the atmosphere

Like I said earlier, if its not voodoo, i don't know what else to call it...

kingxsamz:
I'm not an atheist, never said I was.

They're are the worst to you because they keep proving you wrong.

Prove me wrong in what ways?? I have seen the manifestation of God's works around me, I know the importance and the powers of prayers, so I'm not moved by their wordings about the evolution of bible, just that somethings about the mystery surrounding life are better left unsaid...

There is power from above and power from beneath, you are free to believe whatever u want to believe in!! After all, we all came into this world incognito

One thing is certain, you can't be repping "banana island" while your girl is repping the "Cucumber nation"

If your preek is small, it's not your fault, your girl has enlarged her kpekus beyond your limit, simply look for your size!!

kingxsamz:
The belief of nonsense makes one dumb, and decreases one's ability to reason logically.
That was the case of you and your 'cousin bro'.

I don't have strength to type, I hear you sir....Magana yakari ko?? torr!!
#Atheist are the worst set of people to converse with, Topics like this, to them "food is ready'

Omotayor123:
Met this guy late September, he was in for loving doving and all. Told me I was the perfect definition of what he was looking for in a bride.

This is a well to do single man with chains of businesses, cars, a good house & also working for mining company. He is Responsible disciplined and religious.
Bottom line is He's what any lady would be glad to have.

The thing is, He had problems with his bae & wanted to find solace and comfort with me, forget his Fiancee and moved on.

I could have taken Advantage of their situation, played the Angelic Good wife, hold him tight, pretend to tolerate all his mess & made him forget totally about his bae.
But I see it as a challenge I have to overcome.
Why

I had issues with my fiance, he left to find comfort in the hands of another girl. The girl jumped on the opportunity without hesitation, played the perfect babe and the rest is history...

I couldn't do the same to another girl, i know how heartbreak & betrayal feels.
so I decided to help them for I know their issue isn't beyond repair.

I took my time to let the guy know I am not perfect and equally have my flaws.
I made him see reason why he shouldn't give up and run to a comfort zone each time his relationship has issues.
Their issue was just communication breakdown & lack of understanding. They could fix it if they really want to and ready to shift grounds...

And now, I'm grateful my efforts played off, with my coaching, he realized he was making a mistake taking the risk of throwing a 3 years relationship away for another one which the outcome is yet unknown.

Now they are back Together, settled all differences and their wedding date is set.
I just received an IV to attend their wedding holding on 18th of January 2020.

If i had entered their Picture, it may be impossible or almost imposssible for this great feat to happen.

I couldn't be more proud of myself.

Ladies This Year Let's help ourselves out!
Don't take Advantage of other people's situations
Don't be the reason why a relationship or marriage breaks totally.
Don't let Despiration push you into hurting others.
May God help us, Give us the best of partners and not make us a stumbling block to the happiness of others.

I did well right


Sorry for the Long Epistle
Cc. Lalasticlala help push to Front Page, Let others Learn.
lalasticlala
farano

In as much as no one can dispute the fact that you did well, but i just have to ask this important question, are you allergic to better thing? Nawa oO

KingAzubuike:
And some Nigerians here will be claiming they can use juju to stop and create rain. We always tell theme juju doesn't exist but they wouldn't wanna believe.

When my cousin bro was doing his tradition marriage on a very sunny afternoon around December 28th 3yrs ago, some men came to us (Rain makers) & demanded we pay them or they will send down heavy rainfall to scatter everything.... People like you thought it was a joke including myself, until heavy black cloud gathered around us within 15minx, all of a sudden it started drizzling, we had to negotiate & we settled the case amicably with 10K...after that, about 5minx later the day became bright and sunny again, so if this is not voodoo i don't know what else to call it....

AwkaetitiBabe:
Let them contact me. My ancestors were rainmakers. Anyi na ra mmiri, ne Ji ya.

For 50k$ I'll stop d rain.

Asin ehh something they will pay one of our Igbo brothers to hold and send the rain away from Jakarta

Which kind lies be this one naw......
Anyways am not surprised, this regime was built on fallacious foundation

Jack500:
Stop spewing nonsense, Why can't Goatluck Jonathan that u and ur family worship do it? Why do ur folks cry over port den, that no functioning one in the east, since port is also Nigeria's own not ibos own.

GEJ was busy doing things for Northern folks because to him the Southerners loved him, Now almost all the useless Almajiri schools if not all are currently in shambles....

My favorite creamy wine any day any time...

My own is that I just hope Buhari and our loud mouthed Lai Mohammed should mind their business.... This War looming doesn't concern us

Well.... It will surely end in tears!!

Logically...!! useless things can be useful at some point.... at least the husband has paid off!!

Nawa ooooO.... This one loud oO

Yes naw.... The Money is innocent.... It's just coming from a wrong hands
Most Pastors in Nigeria do receive this kinda gift on a steady basis

Brother wey no wise vs Aunty wey mumu....!!