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MimiSheWrote:
Hello Everyone, first of all I apologize in advance for the long note and also about my English, not actually my first language.

My name is Mimi, I was born in Nigeria... But cos of the nature of my dad's profession i have spent around 75% of my life in different countries outside Nigeria... Mostly in EU.

Well enough said about myself, cos this topic is not about me but about Nigerians... Our general mentality and perception of abroad.

Guys listen up... All that glitters is not really gold. Out there is not entirely what people think it is. And you might think just because I have spent so much time outside Nigeria i do not understand the struggle in Nigeria and therefore not qualified to tell you all this "nonsense"..... I completely get it.. trust me.

But even a random 3 years old kid knows that the country is messed up and nothing to write home about, we all know about the Suffering, depression and "starvation level of poverty" in Nigeria yeah.... That's why everyone is desperatly looking for a way out, no doubt... but trust me, JAPA is not 'always' your ticket out of poverty... Well 'sometimes' it is... but most times it's just your direct ticket to being subjected to racism,more depression,more struggles,several mental disorder,homelessness, modern day slavery and the list goes on and on.

Trust me... when it comes to hustling field, success is much more louder than failure. cos our mind was designed to constantly search for hope. which means you would quickly hear about the lucky 3% that made it big through JAPA, but hardly hear about the remaining unlucky 97% that found themselves in worse possible condition after the same JAPA. There's no money tree out here... there's no diamond river out here...
Is there more opportunities? Well yes, But there are millions of people that already done and still doing whatever you intend to come do over here and yet they are still in the worse condition than you are in right now.

You would literally cry when you see what most of our African brothers and sisters go through around the world in the name of Japa. And as a Nigerian?? Trust me it gets worse.. and your chances gets even much smaller. Cos no one trust Nigerians anymore any where around the world and I believe we all know why.

Sorry but I'm not trying to burst anyone's bubble, kill anyone's vibe or being a negative biitch! Naaaah I'm only trying to be realistic! I'm only trying to tell you something no travel agent would ever tell you and something people abroad hardly tell you, and even when they eventually do tell you...? You don't believe them.. instead you result to asking them questions like "why are they still there if it's that bad"? .....

Well.... You wanna know why most of them are still there? Let me tell you why... there is a psychological reason for that... First They are still in DENIAL. Imagine dreaming your entire life to travel abroad and finally have a good life, you probably invested almost everything or everything you have got to make it happen (your money, your time, your last hope)
But then you finally got there and then meet a reality that is entirely different from your life long dreams and perception of these faraway green lands?
I don't know if you know... but our brain is defensive in nature, it will automatically switch straight to denial mode... Leaving you with atleast enough 'hope and wait for a magic or should i say a miracle' (afterall this is abroad where magic happens?)
This is just one of the reasons why most of these people continue sticking around instead of returning home.

Another reason is that they are worried about what people back home would say or think... Because the people back home also got this general fvcked up mentality and very high expectation of people coming back from Japa (y'all need to stop it! Y'all need to get rid of that mentality, seriously ) cos like I said earlier... there is no bleeping money tree over there! I don't know where Nigerians got that idea from in the first place...
It needs to stop, yall driving the youth nuts with such mentality, it's doing more harm than good. That high expectation/ pressure back home is mostly the reason our people are more likely to result to crime out here (so just stop it! )

I have met alot of other African nationalities abroad... and amazingly they don't share the same mentality we have about Abroad. They treat abroad as just another hustling ground and not a direct ticket to success... Therefore they are more relaxed and less pressured than Nigerians out here.

Moving Abroad is not such a bad idea though, it worked and still works for few lucky ones (including my Family) it would be wrong and biased of me if I fail to mention that..
There are plenty of and more opportunities over out here not doubt...
But what I'm just saying is that... it's not always that easily reached.. as most people automatically believe.
Look... Somehow all these countries are intelligently designed In such a way that it take back almost entirely everything you make out here from you one way or the other... Through tax, through mind blowing bills or random expenses around every corner.

And at the end of the day you realize you are nothing but a modern day slave building someone's country for free... And without freedom.

Most people screaming Japa in Nigeria are far in better living condition and more stable mentally ,more happy than majority of people in the so called abroad without even knowing it. Sometimes Instead of gambling and betting your hard earned million of naira on Japa, it's more advisable to chill out... relax and invest that Millions in Nigeria. I'm just saying... You would probably end up living a life most people over there can only envy and dream of.

Thanks for reading my long note... I hope this helps someone in making a life decision out there. #ItsYourGurlMimi

You have no right to advise anybody about that japa syndrome...!! Come back home if you want to enjoy such privilege else, kindly shut da fvck up...

Numerouno94:
My guy hope say u no try am?

Omo...I no later try am oO 🤣😂

Sure say nobi to go carry Bolivia straight win... I remembered when Messi experienced fatigue and vomitted on the pitch due to high altitude...!!

All this just because someone can kick football...?? Kai...My pikin must play football...!!

He must start undergoing #Project_Mbappe right from birth...

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

You want to marry somebody that is already giving you conditions before marriage...!! Seems like she's still the hot cake, probably in her early 20's!!

In as much as building a house is a good advice and project (kudos to her), but building under duress is a no no, because housing project are demanding and if care is not taken, you could exhaust your funds halfway into the project, going forward not possible and going backward not possible...!!

You just have to convince her to settle in a rented apartment while you carry out a feasibility studies on the area and location you want to build your house, get the master plan of the environment and build your dream house gradually...

Most importantly, get to know the reasons why she doesn't want a rented house, If Landlord issue is her problem, then rent a house where the landlord doesn't live there...

If Tenants issue is her problem, you can easily rent a house where OYO is your portion...

In all you do, settle down and build a house you will be proud of, and not the one where you will be rushing the engineer to finish up something of 1year under 3months just because you want to settle down...

Trust me, if you can't convince your wife to be of anything before marriage, you definitely cannot convince her of anything after marriage...!!

Quintessence44:
Don’t come here with your DECEIT and LIES.

I am too smart for that.

Igbos are FREE TO GO THEIR WAY.

NOBODY STOPPED YOU, SO SHUT UP, YOU LIAR.

It is because you want to STEAL and ANNEX NON IGBO STATES, that you are having problems.

NIGERIA WILL NEVER LET YOU DO THAT IN A BILLION YEARS.

You hate us because we are stopping you from seizing the oil and gas fields of the south-south for yourselves alone.

So keep hating us.

No problem.

But you will NOT lead us.

Guaranteed.

You claiming to be smart, but feign ignorance to historical facts...!! Continue oO

Reelmii:
Ok...ashawo dey ur husband eyes before so dont think u were the problem, he just used ur issues as an excuse....

My advice is for u to see ur therapist..i believe u will be fine, time will heal ur wounds....thank God he did not leave u with a child, atleast u are mot a single mother so it will be easy for u to move on with time...

A man that can throw away 14yrs in just a short period of time was just a disaster waiting to happen....
I pity the new woman because he might leave her too one day because of a flimsy issue.....but by then,, u would have healed and moved on

After reading the post and yours...I can confirm to you that your level of understanding is shallow and questionable...

Things are really happening...

ojun50:
Go back to the school teacher and explain tins to them and ask them to unteach that topic the proper wey

This is the comment I was looking for...!!

Zeel007:
you for just study mathematics as a course

I guess that was the mistake I made, I have two degrees currently, one in Estate Management and Economics...!!

My Physics in WAEC was displaying outstanding as at then, that's why I couldn't apply for a full science course... Why in my second degree I needed a 4year course!! I no wan stress at that point 😂

That's how they rejected over €100M for Koulibaly only to sell him to Chelsea for peanuts 2years...!!

Amotolongbo:
Hiring him only gives him more access to hack your system to do worse.
One who could delve into my privacy to invite himself into my organisation is surely coming in to finalise the task he started.

I won’t hire him. I would make sure I tighten up the security measures of my organisation

This is women thoughts...But a hacker won't damn show his face to you if he isn't genuine!!

Even Apple and FBI are recruiting bad hackers worldwide but here you are saying otherwise!!

As for me, he's getting the job with a double salary...

As long as I've come in contact with it, I don't sleep if I can't solve it... Calculation courses is my best during school days!!

But you see anything that has theory, those are my weaknesses!!

Sometimes in life...You have to asslick people to get to where you want to be!!

Useless people everywhere, they got served...!! I cannot imagine why someone in her right senses will choose to record herself while doing shit and send to another or keep in their phone...To what extent??

Mine is Gabri Veiga (21years) and Otavio Da Silva (28years)...both players are still young and has a lot to offer, but they made their choice!!

A certain NL legend called Ubunja has dealt with this topic, search for one of his/her misconceptions and get acquainted...

IconicR:
Nairalanders please is it fair for a mother to suspend her own daughter for fighting her staff?

My friend's mother owns a large company with lots of staff, so she recently completed her nysc program and waiting to be called up for a job so she had to put up at her mum's company as an intern and she was doing her job well to see things done.

Most of the staff do not like to take instructions from her and this has resulted to altercations with most of them, they keep reporting to her mum till a meeting was finally called.

The staff seems to have connived against her and without even bothering to hear her side of the story her mum said she knows what she can do and she won't allow her to cause problems in her company, so she immediately suspended her and ask her to leave and go home.

The staff were happy with this judgement and some made some snide remarks while she was leaving.

This thing has really troubled her recently and she's thinking maybe her mom doesn't like her as she stated that if it were her brother she won't give such judgement.

Was she wrong in trying to put things in order which resulted to most of those fights with the staff?

Was the mum right to have passed such kind of judgement before her staff ?

My friend's mom told her to go resume next week on the condition that she'll behave well but my friend told her mum she's not stepping foot in her company again.

Nairalanders please without being biased who is at fault here?

The company has been going well for years without problem until one spoilt brat came along because she feels her mom owes the company she can talk to people twice her age anyhow...!!

Tell your friend that I said she's very stupid...!!

That's how they will keep suspending...Ndi ara!!

African Leaders are shits...!!

I will die of hunger if this becomes the only choice I have...

IamRichards:
Ucl winner: Haaland
Epl winner: Haaland
Fa Cup winner: Haaland
Uefa SC winner: Haaland
Ucl golden boot: Haaland
Epl golden boot: Haaland
Epl POTS: Haaland
Pfa POTY: Haaland
Uefa POTY: Haaland
European golden shoe: Haaland
Uefa POTY : Haaland

He is the best player in the world right now,and he's just 23

But on a more serious not which best player?? Someone that cannot dribble my grandmother Football is not by goals alone!! It's high time FIFA should start considering other things...!!

Someone who only tapins and heading shouldn't be winning awards...

Switinthemiddle:
lol, gee calm down he no reach this level. He is still my main padi. Its just his ways ion like

Your main paddy no suppose geh eye for your sister...!! He's supposed to see her as a sister as well and not fvck mate (bro code)..!!

Your supposed paddy knows this rule, that's why he's doing it secretly...

AImiron:
Nah Messi matter go wound em , dem never see anything yet. We are just getting started. We endured a lot from that irritant obemgay slandering Messi over the years like say, he owe his family money. I dedicated this moniker to make life miserable for everybody penadogs on this section, even in their dreams I will hunt them. This is payback banter.. 2 can play the game. It’s fun at the end of the day cos Winners always laugh while losers explains.

We are solidly behind you...!!

AImiron:
His post validates my initial statement, these penadogs are vile human beings, frustrated and depressed pipu. They must be going through a lot, need to pass aggression. See wetin this wan type and still got 20 likes, while some minions Dey drag me for creating this thread. Hypocrisy na understand. I no send their papa, I go press their necks till it snaps.

Don't mind them, there are thousands of thread to display their madness, but na Messi success dey give them sleepless nights...

mutantninja:
She married the midget cos of money , Ronaldo is the greatest footballer on earth.

You and your 20likers are serial idiots...she was with Messi right from childhood, she's not your regular street ladies you mess around with...

Sharpsharp00123:
One thing I really don’t understand about igbos is this

So u hate Nigeria badly to the level of wishing we got wiped out from d surface of d earth but u still want to rule us

Aren’t we justified for not voting u now cos it would have been d greatest mistake of our lives if we had given sword to the one who hates us the most

To u non igbos that got decieved into voting their Igbo agenda during election, hope u can see now?

They never regard u, u were just a pawn in their chess game, now that your eyes are clear I pray u don’t make same stupid mistake in d future cos if people like us don’t repel your stupidity then we would have found ourselves in d hands of an enemy who disguised as a friend


Imagine how igbos so wish us bad on social media n tell me come 2027 that any of their candidate deserves to b given power

How does this relate to the fact Tinubu is about sending innocent men to a suicide mission?? A fight that doesn't concern them...

Nigeria against England...

It's safe to say this girls has reached their busstop...!! It will be a miracle if they can defeat the English girls...

PlayerMeji:
Did he serve Buhari in the just concluded administration, be truthful...?

He served in the first administration of Buhari same way El-Rufai served over 20 years ago...but not this just concluded administration....

make una just de there de mezebu...you are not even ashamed saying it, El rufai 20years ago was a minister, 20years later still a minister because Nigeria is filled with logs of wood right...

Next four years, you guys will still vote APC, and they will still recycle the same old corrupt leaders for you people...

Anyways!! before then, I will be praying for you guys all the way from Europe...!!

Lies and attention seekers everywhere...

PlayerMeji:
Mumuric people, so he should put someone who had just finished a ministerial appointment in his own tenure...

Na children dey dis ipob/Obidiooot camp oooo

Wow...I'm impressed!! So why does Heineken and Lalong names appeared on the second batch...??

Na here you go take off...

drizslim:
Bbnaija has zero value, not to Nigeria economic revamping, no moral support, nothing to add, jus useless Tv show that takes away ur moment

so how does it affect your moment?? BBN is someone's creativity...it has big sponsors ALLL over Nigeria and Africa...

Since it doesn't affect your live in any way, stop acting like my village witches trying to pull someone's business down...!!

Rest IJN....!!

YoungLionken:
In reality, y'all are suffering from mental illness, especially the poor watching it...

Oga rest...!! poor man no get DSTV...even Davido dey watch BBN.

The earlier your caliber understand they don't have the right to detect how people should live their lives, neither do you guys have the temerity to detect what and what people should watch on their tv set, that's when you will have peace of mind...

Ask yourself this question, how does people watching BBN affect your life personally...!! It doesn't, but here you are stressing yourself with agenda...how different are you from my village witches and wizard?? Because it's very obvious you guys are exhibiting the same behaviour...

Live so that others can live...!!