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chariisGRACE:
Another question:

How did they raise this gigantic obelisks that was carved straight outta rock to stand erect?

If it was today, engineers would have set up some scaffolds - our dear obelisk would be cast-in-sutu.

Egypt was technologically ahead of many at that time. A lot of scientific research were based off past works from Eygpt and some other European countries like Greece and Roman Empire.

Optimistic4life:
Year 2021 February to be precise, my husband served me a divorce notice. Though I saw it coming as we have been separated for some months.
The case is still in court though.

We are blessed with 3 kids under 10.

Soon the divorce will be finalized and we will both move on.

How easy is it adjusting to a new life as a divorced lady?

I just want to let it out as I have never discussed this with anyone. Just my immediate family members knows about it.

What is life like out there for me?

The shame, mockery, coping with kids alone, moving on etc

I am sorry about your situation and I only want to talk about the emboldened. Do not overthink it. See this as a way to grow more and accomplish more. I know it is not going to be easy and I know it will be hard with aches.

What I will suggest is that you should not let this situation cage you. You grow, you can become better. You can acquire new skills that will open new doors of opportunity for you and your kids.

If you are confused about that, please when you have the time, enroll for courses on Udemy.com or use YouTube to learn more so that you can have better finances to take care of your kids and live a happier life.

I just want you to know that you have a better future.

angelEmade:
What kind of oloriburuku bridesmaid is that??
And the groom no even send anybody, man just dey take am with fullness of joy...
This is a great height of disrespect to someone you love and someone you are getting married to.

See the way he raised his hands and grooving his hardly erect dick to the yansh of Jezebel like lalasticlala whenever he sees a snake thread.
I can bet you, that bridesmaid don chop him dick before. I pity the bride, that man will definitely try to enter the babe again!

Who told you he loves her? Love comes with respect... Someone who disrespect you does not love you.

BABYharder:
For what exactly?
For leaving my friend with benefit?

Pilopher:
Hmmmm

I have just replied you.

tuzle:
But bone o, people do ace waec any how. I taught a school last year and even the least smartest person in ss3 got 2 A's. The most shocking thing was that one of the subject she got A1 in was math which she is very bad at and even the best student in math got b2

We are not talking about one A or two B... we are talking about straight As.. like 7As Expo can't give you that...

Truvelisback:
To me, i don't take any girl too serious, no matter how beautiful or sexy u are except u are virgin, yes. I.e no man has ever dicked u b4. If u aren't a virgin and i am dating u, to me it's like i am dating a 2nd hand product, wey i wan just manage. So, no just do shakara for me. If u have this mindset girls won't toil with u. This why i like Wizkid, him no send u. U can see the way he handle ladies, even the ones older than him, so do the same. But love them when they later reduce their ego and Shakara.

true talk bro.

Truvelisback:
She likes u but treated u that way because u have been to nice and needy towards her. If u want her to start craving for u and crawling after u, Bullshit her, ignore her. It's good u ignored her. Start chatting with other beautiful and sex girls. Girls hates it when guys ignore them or refuse to give attention. Hurtful truth, If u want girls to love u and have regard for u, see them as shit and treat them like Shit until they make adjustment in their behaviour and prove to u that they aren't a shit.

I don't know why we don't have a thump up emoji here.

Mercychen:
Maybe there's something they are gaining from the friendship. If not, they'll cut the guy off.

I remember during the lockdown, there was this man who was keeping me company via calls and chats. So he later started talking about relationship and marriage but I wasn't interested and I tried to make him understand we could be just friends and stick to the chats and calls only.

Now, I didn't like him for a relationship or marriage but I liked the fact that he kept me company that period ( lockdown) because the boredom was just too much plus I was enjoying the attention he was giving me.

Again, sometimes a girl can just be faking it that she wants to keep you as friends so you don't feel bad about the rejection or see her as heartless but in the real sense she doesn't want you around anymore for daring to ask her for a relationship. All that stunts is not to make you feel totally rejected. Been there, done that.

So guys. Don't go counting on it.

Yes but at least, shouldn't one reach out once a while to check up on the other to know what's up?

Okay a guy sees that you don't even buzz if he does not do it. He comes to you and says since this is how you want things to be, if it will lead to everything dying, so be it...

And you go ahead saying..." we can still be friends" and added, "we can still be gisting" to which I responded, "no problem if you bring the gist" she didn't reply to that because she knows that I understood what she is trying to do.

where is the sense in that?

Anyway, I have deleted her number a minutes ago.

Senomi:
This guy and dangote both chased ibeto and other businesses out of the market and ended up fighting themselves over whose products should be more superior.

If dangote and bua were into automobile, they would have chased innoson and other auto investors from the country,

If they were involved in the banking sector they would hv chased out almost all the modern banks in nigeria just to make their own thrive......

At the end these two theives and scamming bastards keep churning out inferior goods and underpaying workers...

Both are big theives who wouldn't smell a chance to be who they're now if nigeria was a sane country

Don't let hate drive you. When IBETO ish happened, this man hadn't even become as big as he is today. It was Dangote that was having a full monopoly

Truvelisback:
Stop complaining. Next time, learn to read ladies body language b4 approaching or shooting ur shot. I can see that ur feelings are hurt because she turned down ur proposal. Bro, let go of those feelings.

You are funny.

If you are even talking about body language, a girl can still mess you up if she wants to and if you give room for it... there are no rules for them when it comes to these girls... their emotion is their brain...

What If I told you this same girl was worried at one time that I was withdrawn or wanted to withdraw? I asked her why and she because I don't reply to her chats on time. What does that tell you?

Listen, there are girls who just want you to feed their attention tank... they want you to just be there giving them attention and as someone stated above, she happens to be one of such. And when they do that, they make it look like you are the one needing them...

Even her last words were that we can still be friends (there is nothing wrong about that, is there?)... same friendship she does not even do anything to nurture? If I don't reach out I don't hear anything.

If I don't make it known by being direct as I have been with her, stating my reasons and her attitude, she is going to pick up her phone one day and call, acting like she didn't know what happened. It happens, it has happened and it will happen.
In fact, it was about to happen with this one based on her reply. I don't want such cos we are not kids.

Would you still want to be around such person, like your self-esteem is so low that you can't move on to someone else? You don't understand what I am talking about but your own conclusion is that because she turned me down?

Okay, she turned me down according to you... and I made it known that I don't want to be the one nurturing (by reaching out) a friendship/relationship that she had quietly exited from and if that means nobody hears from the other and things die, so be it... and she comes offering friendship? Do you see what she is doing there?

To give you an example, she said we can still gist... again, she wants me to still be feeding her attention tank. And my response when she said this was, no problem as long as she brings the gist and she never replied after that cos she knew I understood what she meant.

It is a subtle manipulation that makes her feel very important.

She even tried to make me feel miserable by saying good luck in your quest for a relationship. I quickly reminded her that I am in one already and in that instant, she requested I let it all slide cos it shook her. She didn't like how that reply made her feel.
A woman will not insult you directly...

and as you said, pay attention to her body language.

They do it subtly and they get mad when you find out their games.

What she means is that, you should be reaching out since your life depends on it lol, I will respond but don't expect me to reach out to you.

I left out one statement and if I mention it, it will give you a clear picture of what she thinks of me. You will see someone that overestimates her worth.

Dude, understand what is going on between the lines. This is a case of someone wanting to use a guy to while away time... NOTHING ELSE. A lot of girls do this and you should know it by now.

I don't want her coming to look for me months or years later and acting like she didn't know what made things die. That would be rubbish!

This reply is for others that might be reading to learn a thing or two. That is why it is this long.

Senomi:
OLE!!!
After evading tax ( courtesy of the FG) and underpaying workers, even writing petitions to FG so his competitors will be pushed out of the way ( E.g ibeto cement)...... And his co- criminal ned nwoko who fish braindead nigerians are praising and worshipping without questioning the source of his wealth not knowing his net worth was acquired through loot and corruption, at the end he's squandering nigerians money by marrying underage girls and disposing his brownish grey watery sperm on their faces and hypnotizing them with private jets and lamborghini aventador...... rubbish!

That is Dangote... not this man. Dangote even wanted to chase him out of business too cos that is his style.

This man is even more accommodating than Dangote, very welcoming. Has more philantropic projects in the South. Donated heavily to the South East a few months back... October or a month before that.

I like him more than Dangote.

ConqueredWest:
Thanks for this wonderful thread and I wish to find out few things about it

1) Did you had sex with her.?

2) if yes, how many times.?

I don't know what your aim is with this question but I will advice you read the thread again.

Karleb:
Any sensible person would keep a good person as friend whether she decline your proposal or not.

Gbam..reason why she was not happy I don't want to be around her anymore and I had to add that I would rather go with someone else.

I know my worth baba. I do and I have decided to only allow a woman that values me into my life. She too is with someone but making it look like she is not yet dating someone else and chose to keep me on the "friend zone" lol.

This is 2022 and I have decided to focus on those who value me for real. The new babe values me. I am not willing to throw that away. Every morning she sends me a prayer link. I was in the East in my village for burial and she kept asking for updates to know what's happening there, she wants to know, she wants to be carried along. She is interested and she is willing. When a woman wants you, you will know. There will be no need for headaches and mind games.

We should allow people stay

qtguru:
Cuz one way or the other he will still be useful, be it attention, favour or what not.

yeah... absolutely. However, he won't be available for any of those as he has now found a woman who values him and have decided to give the new girl all those attention or favour or whatnot...

gift0123:
Chai see himoo, you are a good man, and you still have a soft spot for her, no wonder that girl is preying on you. Please she doesn't love you, and you did nothing wrong by telling her that you are seeing someone else, mind you.. telling her that you have another date won't stop her from coming back, babe is just trying to get some attention and you are weak.

lol... not that I am weak bro. I am okay with the current babe, we are working on developing ourselves. It is all about self-development for us. I am at peace. We will be working to build a career in tech industry... and I will pay for a course for both of us the week.

The current babe is actually much prettier, taller, shaper. I am not exaggerating.

I only asked hope I didn't do anything wrong because sometimes, they would say eh... he couldn't be patient or all those manipulative words, you get?

I honestly hate the idea of her coming to look for me cos I know it will happen, which is why I chose not to silently move on.

She telling me to still be friends is manipulative and we all know that. She had hoped I would stay around and continue doing all those things I used to do without getting another girl. So letting her know I had moved on with another girl would at least erase that from her brain.

And yes, I did things nice guys do which earned me this result. However, we are now both clear on the state of things between us.

Sadly, she is from my state but the other lady who is from Akwa Ibom values me more even though I have not spent ONE NAIRA on her as I did to the other one.

I actually made a decision not to.

She appreciates little things I have done and also proved that it is not until a man spends money that he would be appreciated.

akinade28:
Someone said this:
Dear friendships of life,
I will hate more than anything to wake up one day and find that I can no longer call you, chat you up, play with you, feel free with you like we used to because you picked romantic interest in me and I turned it down.

It will be so painful to see your WhatsApp story and then after typing a lengthy funny response, I will then pause to think and then go ahead to delete the message on remembering that we are not as we use to be.

It will be sad to soil the friendship we have built over the years because one of us did not understand that God did not put everyone in our life for us to date, no matter how beautiful the friendship might be.

I know there is this pressure to get married from your end but please hold your fire.

Maybe it is not even marriage pressure. It could be a longing to fish in love waters but we must not fish together.

You might want to ask 'what then happens to marry your friend?'

That might be correct. You should marry your friend but unfortunately, that friend is not me

And this doesn't mean you should shut the door on our friendship. That will be repeating the mistake many other persons are making.

Young folks are missing out on amazing valuable relationships because immediately we get close to someone and start building a beautiful friendship, the closeness can easily be misinterpreted to mean that the other party has feelings for us.

And that can stir us up to want to try and make a move to explore love waters.

When things don't go as we expect, we start reacting from mismatch or unmet expectations.

And then the 'what are we?' questions will follow.

But I don't understand. I thought we were friends? Which one is 'what are we?'

Ain't you supposed to assume nothing until I say something? Abi you're dating me without my permission?

And from experience, almost all the time, this is where we begin to bury opportunities, close important doors, and short change ourselves

Only to wake up one day to discover we wasted our angels simply because we didn't understand that not all beautiful friendships should evolve into a romantic relationship.

In my opinion 90% of the time, those friendships should stay as just friendships

History is filled with beautiful friendship stories that turned sour because of this.

Think of some of the most beautiful friendships that lack of discernment made you convert into love affairs.

How did they end?

Sometimes, it wasn't even a heartbreak that happened, maybe both of you just didn't work out and because of that, you have drifted apart.

You drifted so far apart that the value you would have gained from your friendship has now been truncated.

This is 2022

Don't waste another angel. Be discerning!

Protect your friendships. If a relationship leading towards marriage is what God wants, He will find a way to put the puzzles together, even when you both go ahead dating other people.

Don't immediately turn the next beautiful friendship into a soul mate searching adventure. Calm down. Your soul mate might still be under a bridge in Ajegunle and perhaps this next friendship is what might connect the dot for you.

Master the act of providing values in your friendship without fantasizing about matrimony and baecation in Maimi.

Value people.

Stick to the purpose of that friendship

Practice self-control

And learn to hold your body

So, my friendship of life, like I was saying before I got distracted, those your dreams of doing pyjamas photshot with matching pyjamas, hold them first.

It is not me and you that will do that pyjamas shot becasue I don't even like pyjamas�

And if I have been ignorantly leading you on all the while, please let this note say all the things I am too shy to say to your face.

Yours,
Potential Monk in the monastery.

If this post bless you, please share to provoke sanity for someone else

Walk on gold
Philip Emmanuel

Thanks... even the friendship, she was not doing anything about it.... I am not so stupid to be making efforts where the other does not want to.

Yes, she changed but had time to go out with others and even party. I don't want to be around her anymore to nurture her attention desires.

How do you keep being friends with someone that does not even buzz you for more than 5 months and you are the one doing the buzzing, the calls, the texting?

Am I that useless that I can't get another girl? Funny, quite funny!

If I mentioned what she said here, a lot of guys will laugh at me but in there you will see someone that has become too pompous because she thinks I am desperate.

Abeg make she carry her friendship out of my sight. I too I am important.

Ajmoziz:
Let me paint a picture for you as the reason
Suppose for the sake of this example that you have this female friend,that buys you food anytime you meet,calls you , trying to find out how you doing,just plain shows you tender loving care,would you date her knowing that if you break up,you lose access to all these freebies but if you continue as it is,you have access to these things, possibly for ever that's why she wants to be friends,she wants to enjoy.
Then for op, what he should tell the girl is that he can't be friends with someone he is attracted to,that if you are friends,she allowed to date someone else and he doesn't think he can handle that so it's best if they end it right here right now

See, with this kind of girls, they will come back months later looking for you... The signs are there. I don't want that and I don't like that. if i decide to wait for her to reach out after some months, with the way I feel about it all, my most immediate action would be to block her. It is annoying and childish.

Bros, I told her I would rather process things with another lady going forward. She thought she was the only one with options...

gift0123:
That gal is a flirt, she is a type that want attention from various men but finds it difficult to commit he will always manipulate you if you are so nice and a simp if you can't handle being a simp and giving her attention while she dumps you for another relationship avoid her completely.

Obviously. BUT hope I didn't do anything wrong by letting her know am already seeing someone else? I dont want her to come looking for me and that is why I did that.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
She might not want to hurt you tho..it's her choice not to date you why not respect that..
If she wanna be friends with you that's cool..

I don't want to be around her anymore. We are not quarreling... but I know what she is doing which why I ended up telling her that I am with someone else already. So that she does not think I will be doing all those things... I told her clearly that I am no long cut out for such things... She just wants the attention...

Sonnobax15:
At your own riisk

he is actually right... but I am not a simp. I made that clear to her.

GoodHardDick:
Simps will always be simps no Matter what!!

Oga She's only trying to control and manipulate you. that's how they behave towards Simps and weak men. She wants to make you a second or third option, should in case anything goes wrong with her current boyfriend, then she'll subscribe to you and keep cashing out

You better use your head, this is a new year and no guy is expected to simp around.

Bros, it is why I prefer to do make it known that I am off her radar instead of just going silent. It is to avoid the nonsense you describe above and I initially want to block her if she does that but what is the point? Make I kuku tell her straight. I don't like such mind and manipulative nonsense.

So, I just told her I am seeing someone else already.

CreepyBlackpool:
They want to enjoy the benefits thar comes with your friendship still. And also keep you as a spare tyre, in case the person they want serves them breakfast they'll come back to you to take care of them till they find someone else.

She'll still come back in a few weeks or months, to ask you "do you still like/love me?"

All na manipulations

Lol you just reminded me of an ex that asked me this... lmaoo. that one is still hoping till date.

helinues:
Some guys are yet to understand the nature of Ladies..

That you look good, financially stable doesn't necessarily mean all ladies would like/love you.

If a lady is in love, you would experience it yourself without even forcing her.

You might not be her type

She is not my type lol...

Fiscus105:
Friend to them is that they put u on wishing list, the day they would be stranded, they upgrade you as substantial.

A lady told me that on Facebook group sometimes ago, she said she can never be stranded ,because several guys are on her wishing list either physically or on social media, that she just need is to activate and upgrade him.
..........and trust naija guys, immediately the girl say hi, even if its after 6 years of abandonment, he will be happy and quickly jump to the offer.

That's why they usually labeled naija as "most cheapest" commodity in the whole universe!

Exactly. I don't want to be that kind of guy cos I know THAT THEY ALWAYS COME BACK, ALWAYS. and so I just kuku let her know that I am off her list abeg and make she no carry that nonsense come to my side. I told her I would prefer to be with another lady... she has not responded since then but read my message.

Initially, I thought of just keeping my distance but I also know that she will buzz me one day and try to do what you explained above. I actually thought of blocking her if that happens but what's the point? It is best to just tell her I am off so that she does not even try it. The whole thing is annoying.

I just had to find another lady who is willing and has been effective as well since. Make everybody rest.

Why do girls insist on being friends?

I met her, we clicked, we enjoyed each other's company. I got attached and wanted us to date, she declined and withdrew, she stopped initiating convos or calls... though she does respond when I call or chat her up.

I tried to sustain it by keeping things going with calls and texts but it looked like I was forcing myself on her... I tried to talk about her changed attitude and she said it is work or she is busy or I am overthinking.

When I saw how she was going about it, I had to open my options and cast my net into the river again.... of course, I got a few fish but kept them

After some months of trying and knowing that most girls always reach out to guys who ask them out previously, I didn't want her to come back as if she didnt know what happened. So I didn't wish her Merry Xmas or New Year. I just kept my distance and told her that it is best I allow things to die and that I have come to terms with how she wanted it to be.

She said she knew something was off when she didn't hear from me for some weeks but couldn't place her fingers on it because she was going through stuff.

She then apologized but insisted that we should still be friends. She said she will still see me as her friend if even I don't consider her as one. Of course, it is just bullshit talks to keep me in a queue.

imagine saying even if I don't count her as a friend, she still sees me as her friend. WTF does that mean?

I had started off with another lady from Akwa Ibom and I don't want this current to start wondering why I changed or why she does not hear from me again.

So I had to clear her on that and make it known that her attitude is the reason. I don't want her to reach out to me a few months later or a year later cos that is their game. and yeah, I ended my text with starting with another lady.

But why do girls insist on being friends when a guy says he will prefer to walk away and they don't want to date him? I will appreciate more experience guys to answer this one.

Asgard73:
Is normal for a Yoruba to hate igbos.. in reality it is what is it... igbos are learning to hate Yoruba ... they use to think it was Aboki

Nigeria is a great country but all this tribal monsters are real reason we do not make progress..

.... imagine a former minister

I am an Igbo person like yourself but you are foolish to allow this stupid girl to play on the emotions of millions of Igbos. I will give her a resounding slap that will make her cheeks go blood-red in seconds if she were to say this nonsense to my face?

she should go and deal with her problem with FFk and stop disturbing innocent Igbos who are more concerned about their personal problems.'

Did they put a gun to her head when she was opening her legs for the idiot or did she tell us anything when she was screaming "harder harder" under the control of his peniz?

make she go die abeg

WibusJaga:


Better oil dey dis AY head. I don't consider him the most talented comedian but he is definitely the most successful.
Congratulations & more Grace.

It is not oil. The man is more of a businessman/entrepreneur than a comedian. He is smart and I think he started like that before adding comedy

DubaiLandLord1:
Yes

The president of the FRN is in charge on the APC.

Anything GMB says in the APC, no Governor can go against it, even the Governors combine.

You should have understand how powerful a president is after seeing what happened between GEJ and some governors like Amechi, kwankwaso etc

See the way GEJ outmuscle everybody in the APC and made sure he got the presidential ticket. The likes of Atiku were sent packing.
Never underestimate how powerful a Nigerian president is.

And that is what I am personally waiting for sha...

Asgard73:
In politics... you can’t trust a Yoruba man.. and that’s their political undoing.

Buhari has made his statement.. Tinubu can’t be in Lagos and be controlling Oshiomole...

Today Oshiomole sack .. by Buhari.
Buni.. present de facto head .. inaugurated by Buhari..

This gibberish write up are all Yoruba humans trying to shook words but Buhari mouth..

... e no Dey work like that... Northerners are not slave to yoruba .

Leave them lol. 2022 no far again sha.

RichDad1:
You people have come with your victim mentality. Army brutalities and injustices happens all over the country. Regardless of Ethnicity.
Let’s face these bad eggs and monster in uniforms among the security agents and make sure they’re brought to justice.
There’s no justification whatsoever to kill a harmless and defenseless woman.

This is not victim mentality. Tell me the last time the army every tried this sort of mass killing and destruction in any part of the South in retaliation.

ImoleNaija:
Many people don't know this fact. Even with expo, it takes brilliancy to achieve such feat.

I swear. They think those people marking scripts are fools lol. If they use expo, that means ALL students who sat for that exam in the same school should get same. Most schools where they use expo sef, the teachers don't know anything. They will depend on textbooks to answer those questions as well and with time being against them, it will almost be an uncoordinated answers, with a lot of errors.