TimFisher2:

But it very hurtful that those who don't have will not experience true love, that's the situation we found ourselves.

I would disagree with you here. It depends on how you go about it and the kind of girl. While I was going through the roller coaster with those girls and experiencing heartbreaks, I know a guy who dated his babe.

In all their dating years, I can tell you the babe didn't get up to 100k in total from him, while me on the other hand was losing money (not a lot of money though) to all the girls making a fool of me lol. He wasn't financially buoyant like that either. And this his babe is pretty o, so much that a guy with car can easily snatch her from the dude. But despite the guy not having much, they stayed together and they are married now.

It depends on how you handle the girls too. This very guy does not call the babe often, he does not pet her, they could go weeks without seeing each other, despite living in the same LGA.

He is someone close to me and so I know.

TimFisher2:




Bro, don't think you are more tougher than her


Do you know why she always codedly obey your instructions even though it is always hard and painful for her to endure?


It is because of the dough, and you are calling the shot.


Imagine if you don't have backup, she would have reduce and fling you out to where you belong(not us) but them


Well, in everything, Dough is a prerequisite for every man. It get why.


But it is very hurtful that those who don't have will not experience true love, that's the situation we found ourselves.

I am aware of this... and it is not further from the truth. But here is another thing, even if I spend millions on her, I have the mind to walk away IF shit happens, sometimes she wakes up to alert (I do that intentionally) but I am not attached to anything I do for her...

. Though I know her to be a dedicated and focused hard-working person who is career driven too. But with women, anything can happen. Always expect that. It is also why I have made up my mind that I don't care if a woman loves me or not.

Conventionally, women don't love a man without conditions which is a summation of what you said here.

One woman on my contact, a married woman actually, said "Women don't love, they submit. It is men that love" Think about that for a minute and never forget it.

Only your mother or siblings can love you unconditionally, not your girlfriend or wife.

okoroemeka:
why not make a move and marry to guy,he will obviously take care of you,you are getting older and it will not be a bad idea

She has no feeling for him boss. Let her go for who she wants...

happney65:
Just watched on CNN about two minutes ago. And was like what is the meaning of this nonesense suit.

Wife was even surprised and asking why should Apple be sued for just doing business like all other Capitalists do

Rubbish!

What does that tell you? It means the U.S. government frowns on monopolizing a market. In Nigeria, they walk around unchecked and freely declaring profits at the expense of dying competitors.

TimFisher2:


We have same similarities

Everything you mention was just me, but they only thing I didn't share with you was been a sisi. I learnt on time not lower my self on women maybe because of the area I was brought up. I learnt the art of O.T when I was young

Lol... Man, if I told you I came from a family of chronic womanizers, you wouldn't believe it. I mean I saw my uncles changing women like clothes.

My immediate elder brother and his friends once caused a serious fight with some guys in our street years back in Benin. The reason? They had almost successfully furrrked all the pretty girls in our street and these girls who had brothers became angry. In fact my brother's friend banged the sister of one of those guys.

Despite seeing all these, I would tell myself that that is rubbish way of life and not a good way to live life with women.... I always wanted to do things the right way and i was a bookworm too, who stumbled on some kind of books that deceived me lol...

, not until I entered school, I said No. That child of man has a lot of love. I started looking out for love.i was very sincere and open. It cost me a lot. I couldn't even get one. Before I now realise myself and changed tactics . No be today our girls learnt that there is nothing like love.

It never works... I don't know which person it has ever worked for lol.

Guys should not be deceive by the rubbish love movies they watch,nothing come out, they are just passing away their time and trying to confuse the gullible ones that their love. No woman on earth believe in love,except your pocket is preaching love.

Gbam... You see the love movies along with some books? They contributed to my mumuni years... LMAO.

But I am in a serious dilemma because it has hardened and toughened my heart, I see women on a different perspective other than the beautiful lovely souls I thought they were.

Yes, it is normal to feel that way. I once hated women for 3 years plus because of what one did to me more than 8 years ago... funnily enough, the same girl came back trying to minder her way back into my life. I just told her to FURCK OFF and buried whatever past image of me she has because that person no longer exists. He is dead and buried. She has been trying to get back to me for more than 8 years now but me no want her at all...

You don't need to hate or dislike them. You just have to learn how to discipline them like a stern father would. You deal with them with love but with some level of strictness as well. You can actually deeply love a woman like you used to and at the same time not have your emotions spilled all over the place. It is possible.

Some people can love you, like really, but hardly show it to you. The only way you will know that they love you is through their actions. If you are waiting for words of affirmation, it may never come. You can be like that. It is possible.

Previously I used to talk too much like I said but now, I express it all by actions. That is how I deal with my current babe. I don't say it but I act it.

Like the silly things she did twice, I never had a word of confrontation with her. The second one sef, she was seriously worried. I just dealt with it with no words from me to her but my actions. She has never repeated it till today.

Remember I said my babe is a tough person. She belongs to the category of women who act like men. For me to do something that shook her twice means I am operating at a higher level and at that level, you are a no-bullshit man.

In one of those cases, I made her see that I would do what a man should, I would say and act like a responsible man should and I don't care whether 100 guys are tickling her fancy. If she blows things up, it's all on her, which means I would walk away if it comes to that. And women fear you when they know you can easily replace them if they mess up.

I recently showed her a message from the lady I talked about above who is trying to get back to me. I did it intentionally. Just know how to deal with them and you will be at peace.

TimFisher2:


You must have seen Shege

Anyway i like how you remodelled yourself


Money plays a major role in men's life. Look attractive, don't talk too much..all those ones that were doing you shege will bounce back. But the only disadvantage you will have is * Lovehatred* I mean you won't love again. Any lady that comes with love will just be repulsing you

My brother,

I saw Shege Banza and Shege Pro Max.

It was so bad that it affected my selfesteem. May God bless one of my friends who stood and tele-guiding me all through it all until my cousin came to fix it properly. The irony is that this friend of mine would give me counsel, I would listen and discard it after but only to come back to him with my broken heart lol. Why? I didn't realize how dangerous it was to assume that women are harmless creatures and I was constantly letting my guards down.

Because I was more about chasing money, I learned everything I could about business and making money and had zero for learning how to handle women.

I paid DEARLY for that error. It is good to make money but at the same time, learn how to handle girls and ladies.

Some years back, one of those girls told me something profound. She said: "you don't understand women and if you don't learn you will continue to have problems with ladies."

I actually brushed those words aside and thought that she was talking nonsense. I thought that just being a nice guy was enough. I thought being a good guy was enough, I thought that being the romantic dude was enough and boy, I was wrong.

Don't get me wrong, I am an upright, focus and responsible dude, the kind that would make an awesome husband to my wife and great dad to my kids but to succeed relationship with women, you need to be much more than that.

The mystery about women is that they expect you to be a man, not a boy but they never accept that responsibility as theirs to teach how to be a man, hence when you act like a crybaby, a sissy, a boy instead of being a man, nature designed women to break hearts of such men until they grow into being a man. When you begin to act like a man around women, your heartbreaks are reduced drastically.

There may be a few heartbreaks here and there, but it would be nowhere near or compared to guys that behave like a boy or sissy. This is where the acclaimed "Bad Boys" or "Alpha Male" takes the lead and one common denominator about them is that they are less emotional about women and when you are less emotional, you have TOTAL control over your relationship with any woman.

When you are less emotional, you can see a guy banging your baby right in your presence. You will feel hurt about it but you will move on without a word and women fear you when you are in control of your emotions. They respect you more that way.

One of the things that ruined me and my chances back then was that I had emotions spilled all over the ground for these women to walk on.

You said something about not loving... Well, I still love but not the way I did in the past. It is possible to love a woman and not have your emotions spilled all over the place. Currently, I don't care if a woman loves me or not. I have a babe now and we are moving towards tying the knot but guess what? I don't care if she loves me or not. I don't worry my head with that anymore. It makes the job easy and I can move on if she messes up.

Do I care about her? I do

Do I want the best for her? I do

Do I value her? I do.

But in all of these, if she messes up right now, I will walk away without looking back. This is why I said in the post you quoted that I fixed her up without saying a word when she did something silly and she has never repeated it till today but if it was my older self, I would be writing epistle, calling, and all that nonsense.

That is the power of not being emotional about women. My babe is a tough person to deal with and I know that the older version of me couldn't or wouldn't be able to handle someone like her. You need to be at a higher level to deal with someone like that.

Since I found myself, I have walked out of 5 or more ladies. Unlike before when I would be "trying to make it work, begging, sending long messages, calling and talking for hours and days". Now if you mess up, I will just observe for a while and walk away without saying anything to you.

NEUDUDE:


idiot dey there and be doing i love my baby, whereas she hates you codedly. she just they use your money fund the baby father and herself life.

God wan use the mother in law help but you are still very foolish. No go do DNA, dey there dey mumu

you dey work dey hustle for them, she and the real pikin papa they enjoy themselves.

foolish men everywhere

Love isnt one-sided fool as you take love am, make sure shey she love you x2

I love how men handle people like the OP sha... I used to be mad by such words but not anymore. It is necessary.

thesicilian:

Even if Tinubu gives your entire family juicy employment and contracts from now till 2031, you'll still have cause to hate him. Road that your governors could not repair for over 50yrs, he has helped you to do so under 1 year of office and yet you're still not satisfied.

You expect state government to fix federal roads? you are fuuulll

Franklyspeakin:
Just noise. Name them already

They go look for stories from Buhari's time and rebag it like rice to offer Nigerians.

SporaD8:
Africa be slitting on mineral/natural resources yet be complaining of poverty - not poverty of money but mental poverty!!!

Have you read "The Confession of an Economic Hitman"? You will understand why Africa is the way it is.

Artscollection:
Emeka offor,the motherfucker after frustrating prof he now wants to fomo [b]but i doubt he is the owner.
[/b]Emeka offor n Arthur eze na ozuo that we have in igbo land, they keep working against igbo while sharing peanuts to their ass lickers.

Your doubt is valid. Someone posted a few post before yours that he is not the owner.

immortalcrown:
Your response is not senseless. But it is totally useless as a reaction to my comment because I never said anything to warrant you directing your writeup to me. You should have simply dropped your comment without quoting me. I simply pointed out that people often leave their amdirers and try to force themselves on who don't admire them. The man is forcing himself on her while the men she admires probably do not admire her. No part of your comment counters this assertion. So, why did you quote me?

Again, people are free to choose whatever they want and go for what they want. If you don’t like it, hit your head on the wall and leave planet earth.

You read everything she wrote and all you could come up with is that she should accept a man she has no feelings for? Do you know what danger looks like in human form?

Let me tell you. danger is trying to force yourself on a woman that does not want you. One thing is certain if she succumbs to your pressure, you will regret it.

Many men are raising children that are not theirs and one of the reasons is because they force a lady to date and marry them.

It is easy for you type but did you care about what makes her happy?

Never ever tell someone to accept who they don’t want cos it never ends well.

You saw where she stated that she is not attracted to the dude, hence the reason why I explained that part using myself as an example but I get it, you felt uncomfortable.


You are free to date and marry a woman that does not want you, 25 years later you would have raised children who are not yours like many men found out much too late.

Oponu

immortalcrown:
Life is somehow.

You reject who wants you and go for who chooses other people over you.

Throw away emotions and look at things logically. Attraction is very important in a relationship. Can you date or marry someone that looks like a monkey? be sincere and answer that question.

IF your answer is NO, it is not because you hate the person it is just that you don't find them attractive.

Also, attraction is relative and it can be that the man here does not have a good fashion sense which makes him look unattractive to women. I used to be in this category, not that I am ugly or have unattractive features, I had those features (height, broad shoulders, nice hairline, well-shaped red lips, but I didn't give it much attention.

I paid dearly for that error for years. It was rejection upon rejection to the point that I thought less of myself when it came to women because it affected my self-esteem.

I was more interested in making money so much that I didn't give much thought to how I presented myself to the opposite gender. And like this OP here, I would give money to girls that I am trying to woo... BROTHER, IT NEVER WORKED and you can see the OP is already saying that despite the man giving her money, she didn't find him attractive. MONEY CAN NOT BUY A WOMAN.

Though, I wasn't giving money cos I wanted to use it to buy love (though the ladies back then thought I was doing it cos I wanted to buy them). It is just who I am cos I love to give. I had to stop doing it (giving money) to ladies I am interested in when I sensed how they perceived the gesture.

I will tell you what worked for me as you read along.

If you are struggling with ladies or constantly being rejected, you should read this to the end.

Then my cousin came from Benin and stayed with me for one year. He gave me a complete 360 orientation that changed EVERYTHING.

Before he came, I used to expend so much energy trying to win a lady, I talked too much, explained too much, and professed emotions that were counterproductive.

There was even a Nairaland lady too that I tried to woo then but it didn't pan out well, na fight end the matter sha. I am just stating this so that you know it is not some made-up shit.

Whenever I talk about my experience with Nigerian ladies, you will hardly hear anything good. It was that bad. lol.

Now, to change this, most of what people share here is secondary... First, get your attraction game UP and the rest will come.

Anyway, my cousin didn't share any of those red pills stuff. He just told me to upgrade my physical look and watch. His method was more effective than anything I have ever read and he also demonstrated it for me to see.

I rarely went out and he forced me to change that...Not going out more often is why I even used to focus on just one lady for months while repeatedly getting rejected like a plague. .

When my cousin forced me to go out more, he forced me to go to church more (Lukily, we have the biggest church in my local government close to my house), and one thing that did to me was seeing that there are unlimited supply of pretty ladies, more gorgeous than what you could be chasing previously.

If you find yourself spending months on one lady, or a year trying to win and still get rejected, my brother, it is because you narrowed your vision. Change that and attend any big church or even be at a busy place like Shoprite mall, events, weddings. I give you just 5 minutes and the number of pretty women you will see or meet will rewire your brain so much that you will curse yourself for spending unproductive time on just one when there is an unlimited supply of prettier ladies out there.

The only downside is that if you don't have discipline and control, it could destroy you by making you sleep with numerous women. This is the major reason some men sleep with many women out there. It is like stumbling on so much money and then losing control by spending it recklessly.

To tell you how potent attraction is, by the time my cousin had helped me rebrand and I started uploading my pictures on WhatsApp status,(previously I didn't), one lady who had never seen me more upload my picture more than 4 times in 5 years confessed... she said and I quite "Smartmen, is this you? Is this really you?"

Another lady whom I met on Twitter but that one also reacted to my picture for the FIRST time in about 3 years we have known... and she has been doing that since then till now, even on Sunday here, she reacted to the one I posted.

People tell you that women are moved by what they hear... That is false. WOMEN ARE MOVED BY WHAT THEY SEE. If they don't see it, they don't move.

Now, I have had to start rejecting them back as they lurk around me. Na me dey reject them now... I know one who rarely checked my status previously but now does so everyday, commenting on everything I post.

If you are getting rejected by women or struggling, just UPGRADE: Spend that money on new clothes, buy iPhone and hold... tusssh up your apartment, get a good barber for a nice haircut, take nice pictures, and upload... ATTRACT, don't chase. na you go tire.

You only speak too much English and long paragraphs when you don't know how to attract. I used to write long epistles to some of these girls like one expired substandard Wole Soyinka as if I am writing a novel... They will even subtly tell me I talk too much by saying "wow you can write o" and I will be smiling and raising shoulder like I have made it in life, not knowing I was fooling myself.

Now, I don't even know the last time I wrote a long epistle... even when my current babe did something silly, I fixed her up immediately WITHOUT SAYING A SINGLE word. Unlike before when I would be writing long letter like apostle paul to the church in Damascus.... foolish me.

Learner47:
This guy on X dey post my sales without giving due reference. The audacity! Why a lot of guyz no dey report sales again. Why some of our Boyz dey like cast update.

Bro just stop it, I know you dey this thread & he get why we no dey drop all Geo sales on X.

The guy is here and watching this thread. People like that spend more time being a nuisance and don't have sale to report because they waste time precious time away.

Solution: WATERMARK your pictures.

LegendHero:
I disagree.

Nnamdi Kanu should be tied to the back of a lorry and dragged all around Abuja before finally executing him on live TV.

Terrorists only deserve one thing and that is cruel death!

Igboho Oosa should not meddle into the affairs of terrorists.

come to Nigeria and say this offline and I will be the first to deal with you man to man. furrking idiot.

tobtap:
Lagos is simply the undisputed economic capital in naija... The size is massive... Other states need to upgrade.. Dem dey lag behind.. .. all economic statistics back Lagos as naija engine room

Just pray make other governors continue to sleep. That is the only reason Lagos feels that way--others are sleeping.

Ebi2233:


Sowore is Ijaw not claiming to be.

When did Itsekiri become Ijaw? Mind educating me?

Ewedegubbler:
It was always the plan. They always hijack every protect and then suspend it abruptly

This NLC is an appendage of this government

Of course...

Someone needs to set that NLC chairman on fire and let him go and meet his ancestors.. The Useless animal is playing politics with people's lives.

That protest that they currently using NLC to prevent from happening by constantly repeating this nonsense when people start clamouring for protest will eventually happen. They should continue.

jmoore:
Cement: 10,000 naira

50kg rice: 70,000 naira


The mumu reform brought high inflation which keeps increasing.
The purchasing power of many Nigerians have reduced.
The reforms has created more poor people than previous government.

You should know these are paid hands. They think everybody is foolish and does not understand how true reform impact people's lives.

God1000:
Must he go in person? He should send his Vice or foreign affairs minister, this isn't the right time to be flying up and down from one country to another.

They rejected him... be like una never hear. They declined.

Natural2Heal:
Afternic has closed their marketplace. No more sales from Afternic. Interesting

SOURCE?

kenralph:
Can naira cards now make international payments? Anyone tried it recently?

try it and let us know.

James39:
I Don see shege for this domain business,

I outbound one of my domain priced at 4 figures. One enduser reply with serious laugh and emoji laughing hard.

I just confuse.

Few minutes later, I see SH sales email: the name sold at wholesale price of $15 (I forget say I list the name on SH wholesale market place)

I suspect the buyer to be that same person wey reply my email with laff.

Although the domain get just 3days before expiration, I just submit auth code and domain is off my account.

Now, another enduser agree to buy the name at my initial price. Lo and behold name is no more in my possession.


I just weak.



I tried reaching out to the $15buyer e no de respond again.

Sorry about your experience.


That tells you that you are dealing with super smart people. They are not some woods... These guys always search everywhere.

I sold domain names in the past, directing end users to Dan but the domain names were sold via Godaddy. Why? They search for the names elsewhere to see if they can get it cheaper.

Always have this at the back of your mind and make sure that when you are changing prices, follow through to all the venues where that domain name is listed.

What I mean is that if you change the price on Dan, make sure that the Afternic price is the same.

manutdrichie:
God punish that goat of NLC president

He will call it off the following day after receiving dollars from govt

Thunder fire him there

They are using that to reduce pressure. Notice that whenever tension is rising that is when they say they want to protest then they call it off after some days... It is a strategy used by APC. I wonder how long they will continue to use that strategy cos at some point, people will not wait for them before hitting the street.

Love800:
I can barbecue fish and meat. Is it a useful skill?

Yes it is but please try and learn a much valuable one that can give you good money over there.

We look down on some jobs here in Nigeria but in a place like US, cleaning companies and plumbing companies make so much money. Owners of this kind of skills as service can rake in as much as $100k-200k per year if you are smart and active but it also depend on your body, not all of us have strength for some kind of jobs. Just know where your strength lies
.

You can also learn coding and become a software engineer. It is not going to be easy but it is doable...

Zonefree:
Seems you're dating an oracle

Please add "Graphics" for headline.

Gemma52:
Hello everyone, with the current exchange rate, which country will be able to move to legally with 8 million naira?
Your suggestions will be highly appreciated.

Before you Japa, do you have a skill, useful skill that can help your survival over there?

Supremos:
Really?. Can you explain better please

Yes, he talks from both sides of the mouth.

symbuul:
Squadhelp-Wise-Grey don become another thing Still waiting for payout since 9am. I know they said it's 1-3 business days but this sucks omoh.
Used to be 10-35mins at most.

Chill na... Hian...

God1000:
Apart from Napoli, Brentford and other clubs supported Nigeria right from the beginning to the end, we appreciate their support.

Nigeria should start preparing for the next AFCON and world cup tournaments, we need new players, local players should be given the chance to showcase their talents.

On a lighter note, Have we created enemies for ourselves in Africa? because I don't understand why Ghanians and south Africans are seriously mocking us online, they've taken the banter to another level.

On emboldened, the rivalry didn't start recently. It has been on for years. You are not just aware of it... For Ghana, it does not go beyond football. For South Africa, it is a combination of many things. South Africa hate other black Africans, not just Nigerians.

Acidosis:


In Nigeria, tough times require tough measures ONLY against the common man.

Politicians will always have their way. If I may ask though, why are you against globalisation? The world is a global village now. You can't box people.

It is not hard to know APC handles. just ignore them. Give them like 3-4 months and they will start singing a new song.