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5minsmadness:
Its her way.

Na convoluted way be dat o

cococandy:
We are monogamous.
Like we were told we are by men who have never been women before .
Why is that sarcastic?

Yeah, from the societal point of view, it isn't sarcastic. I misconstrued ur comment. Cocobutter, I hail o.

Personally, I think being polygamous or monogamous is subjective, the words are value laden. We have men living with just one woman & they are faithful, though the male libido is very high compare to that of a female, it still has to do with self control. But most cultures don't permit women to marry more than one man, & we know why.
That is why it seems to be a man thing.

cococandy:
To answer the OP
Yes.

And women are monogamous in nature.
Once attracted to one man, they can't ever be attracted to another or Even be tempted in any way to get close to another man.

#feeling like an angel

@ d emboldened, why did u comment with such heavy sarcasm?

efemenaslectura:
The origin of boo is from the word
OLORIBOORUKU
meaning and unfortunate and inconsequential somebody
its just a short form in using to deceive a man. He will be thinking you're calling him boo but it's actually oloriBOOruku

Lol,
My brother u bad o!

efemenaslectura:
bad advier Kontinuop you better get the kind of job that will sustain your and your wife because even if she's not omo mummy she'll start hating you and everything you do begins to piss her off. Remember the line between love and hate is very thin. Love can metamorphose to hate when the money is barely enough to live a decent life compared to when she was with h her parents
God should now finish you let one baba alaye be flashing money in her eye then come back and tell me whether she'll still do surulere with you
Yorubas say omo tani ishe wun ko so fun mi
whi likes poverty and suffering when someone is flashing a luxurious life to your face in the midst of God will do it
instead of you talking about marriage you better make that money then come back and tell me whether dangote needs to do anything to make his mother inlaw love him. Infact the respect will naturally come. Sit down there and be talking about marriage when you've not yet sorted out yourself forst

Are u suggestin d op should make money like dangote before he marry?

What was ur expectation before now? That's d way it is man, na strong head poor men take dey marry for this country na. U were expecting her to welcome u with open arms? Just go ahead with the marriage plans my brother, as time goes on things will improve, & when the money start raking in, ur MIL will be ur best pal. Don't let her attitude deter u, that's the way women are. But hope her daughter is on ur side?

mredwifeosband:
what's special in her body and what's so special in what she's doing. Mshewwww.


When she was caught she should have told the male inlaws to join her Afterall 4 is a company. Make we see who get werey pass. I dey even vex for the woman sef she for continue what she's doing. Shebi na them wan watch live porn

See as u dey talk am like say e easy. Shame dey na, u see as people full there.
I'm sure the woman will even relocate frm dat area.

mredwifeosband:
you too Sharap. E no good for eye why was her lover now straffing her

Lolz...
Chai! I had to investigate the moniker, & I wasn't surprise when I discovered the person behind it.
But u be woman nau, why e kon dey enter ur eye?

mredwifeosband:
abi o

the woman sef is supposed to turn tables around.she for pose for camera and make him look stupid..ask him whether he wants more snap shots sef.mshewwwwwwwww

My friend sharraap!!!
What do u mean by she should have exposed her body by adopting a relaxed pose? The way she take duck parts of her body no good for ur eye? Maybe because u're a man, that's why u're saying this...

sunnydayasaba:
@OP, U even have time to spend watching movies at 28...na wa for u oh...Ur lucky ur mom didn't even hit u in her presence.

What is wrong with watching movies at 28?

coldHeat:
The man is the problem.

Its that simple.

A man is and must always be a symbol of strength and self-control. I cannot blame a woman for anything when a man is involved. As the head and fore-runner he is automatically responsible and irresponsible if any event occurs within the influence of his power and he falls short of the standard.

Only an animal would beat up his wife.
If he loved the mistress so much why not marry her?

I have always said as well that "women may be the source of all the problems of the world,but it is we men that are the problems of the world".

Do your research,any woman today that is happy or sad, or hurt or mad, it is a man that made her so and not another fellow woman.
We men are the architects of the misfortune that is come upon this world. If we all can act mature for just 5 hours every day I am sure the world will be a much better place.

Imagine if every father was always at home (and not outside chasing another man's daughter in a bid to treat his male organ to a temporary, sensual venture only possible by the laws of oscillatory motion and lubrication found in physics) raising their daughters well to feel and know they are princesses and their sons to always cherish, respect women and treat them like queens, imagine how our society will evolve morally in a few years...

But no, all we have are children who think they are men (because they have large male copulatory organs or academic titles {MD, Phd, Msc, Bsc, MON, HIV,} ) and the world belongs to them living in sheer stupidity, fathering sons and daughters who will obviously out-do their own calculated acts of foolishness.
As men, the future of this world, this eternity, though spotless like a virgin awaiting her first sign of bleeding, is very much in our own hands.

All the emboldened are spurious & baseless! What do u mean by "raising their daughters well to feel and know they are princesses and their sons to always cherish, respect women and treat them like queens, imagine how our society will evolve morally in a few years"
God himself treated eve like a queen, what did he get in return? Eve was the first human to disobey God, was she not a woman? Samson treated delilah like a demigod, what did he get in return?

Trying to consign evil to men is most hypocrital display I have ever seen, when u know a woman is the founder of disobedience on earth.
Christ himself even affirmed this by asserting he only saw one man in the midst of multitude, but he couldn't find any woman, I've forgotten the verse though, that's to tell u how close to evil we are, & u come here to berate men, exonorating women(founder of disobedience)?

May God exorcise every puusssy spirit deposited in u from u. Say amin......

skyfullofstars:
Wow, do not ever let ANYONE insult you! No matter whether it's a stranger or somebody very close to you, no matter whether it's a woman or a man, someone old or someone young! Please, stand up for yourself, do not wait for a man to defend you. You are a human being and you should be the one to confront this situation.

My family believe that men are superior to women, whereas I don't. Everytime they make such comments, I begin a discussion, voice my opinion, and shout when necessary. I don't care if they think I'm crazy, i care about defending what I am, a woman, and if creating a bad moment is necessary, i din't mind, i will still voice my opinion, ALWAYS.

Please watch Chimamanda Adichie's talk on feminism.

That's my advice, rather than waiting for your husband to do anything...we need to empower women to show equality.

Bad advise!
Op pls shun this advise.
Where are u from? May God help u...
Adichie should stop deceiving gullible women for christ sake! They end up living a miserable life, while she covertly plays the role of a submissive wife & lives happily with her husband.
May God forgive that woman....

Richy4:
The husband of your friend is a wise man.

The point is that your friend doesn't know if the guy speak to his parents or brother privately....

He can't just start yelling at his parent in front of you just to impress you. Doing that alone will give you the license to do the same in future. That's the reason why you do not have the guts to do it.

Tell your friend to let him be. He is the definition of a perfect gentle man. His type is not common in Nigeria i presume.

Nice one.
Op take this advise.

Why u kon dey ask this kind question na? It is more than proper sef...

angieberry:
I suspect fowl play
The wife went and played away match somewhere
See the pretty couple and just negodu the type of pikins dem born

U wear dark glass? Wetin do dose children? Check d little girl out well jor. U no see as she fine, na only the boy be wan dey carry face like who smoke, but he's cute. I'm sure u're even crushing on him already... lol...

Engrpj:
A friend of mine is in a big dilemma with his girlfrnd...He use to luv her so much that he once sacrificed his life to travelled on her behalf to the far north during the heat of insurgency....one of the craziest thing he once doz was when he impersonate her n wrote her exams while he was in his final year.. He shower lots of gifts on her like Phone, clothes, jeweleries etc..things began to change when dey once had a quarell and she began to insult the life out of him I was there when she was raining insults on him calling him all sorts of names dat he's nothing but a poor rat, telling him DAT she's wasting her time wit him while dere are guyz beta Dan him out there... so from DAT day he started doubting her characters and resolve not to marry her.... she came back begging him for weeks...he later obliged and they move on ... but he didn't seems to like her like b4.. he gets scared wen Eva he sees her call, he stops calling her unless she flash or Txt call me back. he frowned wheneva he sees her call. now last week he was broke n wen he complain to her how broke he is knowing DAT she has cash with her n also in her acct.. so d following day she went to d bank n made some wihdrawals den went to his area and instead of her to enta Hus house she called him DAT he shld come out n meet her outside.. so he complained to her that he washed all his clothes its only his towel DAT he has on his waist DAT she shld pls come inside but she refused and starts shouting at him DAT if he won't come out to meet her she will just be going. he pleaded wit her but she kept shouting DAT if he's not coning out shes going.... DAT was how she left.... Dus annoyed him, so she came back begging again but the truth us DAT did guy don't see due girl as a human being, he gets angry weneva he sees her calls... OKs advice him ..shld he take her back??

I'm afraid ur friend is a weak man.

Op are u related to the woman?
Why are u dragging men into this?
Wasn't women among those that stripped her naked? Though I haven't watch the video. what kind of article is this, Why are u trying to justify an adulterous act?

A married woman was caught in a hotel with another man, & she was chastised by her fellow women, all u could do is to blame her husband & men for her adulterous act? U are saying when a man cheats nobody bat an eyelid, have u forgotten a man is entitled to more than one wife?

Did ur grandfather marry only one wife? Has there been anytime in history when a woman is allowed to marry more than one man?

Rubbish!!!!!!

midolian:
how old are you? The moment you begin to see women as the weaker sex (in terms of strength, use of brain and every), ya problems are solved. E b like say u dey see fire for dia head

Cc: Holmes07 try to absorb this ^^.
U're afraid of women because u place too much value on them. Just see them as ur subordinate, the fear will dissipate...

Yes, he love's her, but the man is weak, they find it very difficult to let go, probably thinking they won't find another. Real men don't look back, they move on...

icedbeatz:
bro I don't know who said these wise words "NEVER TRUST A BITCCH OR A WOMAN " but that Morafuka must be a messenger from God to men. Don't mind the stupidd bitcch, imagine pointing fingers at you while she's the one who went and got pregnant. Most wives and girlfriends of niggas do cheat, women cheat a million more times than men it's just that they hide it better. even my chick wey I love wella these past few days I don de look am with one eye and if we don't work out bro I might opt for baby mama or contract marriage. bitcches just ain't shitt

Brother na baby mama kon dey sure pass o! Girls of dis generation are just too loose, dey lack a modicum of self control, they can't even hold their body for a week.

Must of d female comments left me dumbfounded. No vestige of dignity, na man wan pay all these ones bride price...
What a great shame, a woman is supposed to be more reserved than a man, I see no need for bride price with d way our ladies are going, I can bet we have more male virgins than female. I strongly recommend baby mama for bachelors, there is nothing honourable about girls of this generation....

Toks2008:
The logical reason why im contemplating marrying a non Nigerian is because 19 out of 20 Nigerian ladies will never love you ifr you don't have money and that one who claims to love you is only doing that with hope that you will make money and after waiting for sometimes,she will leave you if you don't make it on time.

Most times, the ladies who claim they careless about a man's money are only saying that because time is no longer on their side but if giving an option, they would still dump you for a rich dude.

Outside Nigeria, many ladies will love you and evcen remain fathful to you even if you are a road side vulcanizer or a driver but in Nigeria ladies will always want to suggest an ideal job for their men in order to boost their image.

So why should i have a Nigerian lady who really don't care about me but what i have to offer and at teh same time cope with the dumping ground under her?

Tes theer are Nigerian ladies who will love you for you but trust me, igetting such is like going through teh weyes of the niddle.

This is so true...
WELL SAID.

smokescreen4:
Am sorry I forgot its a man's world, anything goes.

Yeah..
A man is entitled to more than one wife...

smokescreen4:
this shidoo girl ehn, I support what yemisi did, secure herself and leave that marriage, she has bin through hell.

What do u mean by she has been through hell? How many governors get married to just one woman? I see nothing extra ordinary abt this...

mredwifeosband:
Meanwhile they will be deceiving themselves with pictures of made up faces in the celebrity section


so KanwuliaJara was right all along about this UK people.


Much ado about being governor's wife and somemofos wwill be envying her and wanting to be like her not knowing the drama she's going through. Tufiaaaaaaaaa

Why u kon dey tufiaaaaaaaa?
Big woman, big trouble na.

UK own too much sef!
Changing of names on documents to that of ur relatives/alleged lover, when the owner is still alive, dat isn't too good...

This twitter sef!

Na only meaningless things they trend?

ladyteska:
so pathetic... this government sef.....

Wetin concern government for inside this matter my sister?

Lol...
My guy abscond.
Why did d he desert his family, that's cowardice, he shouldn't have expected less, since d first two conception were twins.
But na wa for this woman o....

Mgbadike80:
i have redrawn your plan, I'm still working on it but what do you think of these.

Commendable.. But u'll need to close the dining exit door to d back terrace. The one @ d kitchen will do. what software are u using, is it archicad?

FastShipping:
You need to move the kitchen from its current location to the dining area. The veranda in the front needs to go completely and create an open space for living room and dining. No need to divide the dining and living room due to constraint of space. Make both in an open space. The visitors toilet needs to be scrapped so the second bedroom can be extended by about 2ft towards where the living room is. Size of the master bedroom needs to be reduced by about a feet.

In all, it is a basic 3 bedrooms.

I don't think moving d kitchen from its current position will be a good idea, it's gonna affect d flow chart, which means starting d design all over again. Moreover, d proposed area provided for d living rm/ dining can't accommodate d kitchen for minimal space functionality.

ojesymsym:
All the guru in the house should please help to review and criticise the attached drawing. It's the draft plan for a 3 bedroom flat and can still be amended before sending it to an architect for a proper drawing. All inputs will be considered and appreciated. Gurus in the house and others with building experiences should also make recommendations.

U're sending it to a draftsman, not an architect, what is the need for an architect after the floor plan has been produced.

Back to d plan, though it's not quite clear, the writings are illegible, maybe because of my phone. Remove the back porch, provide a terrace behind d dining.

that small space adjacent to d living rm, is it bedroom, what is the width?

Make d ante room ur entrance, u can knock off dat visitors wc, becos of space constraint, they can make use of d one inside for both rooms, ur house isn't a public toilet, whereby anyone coming must deficate.

Pls don't temper with d flow chart, it's ok. As regards lighting & ventilation of d lobby, u may use arch or transparent sliding doors, in d opening btw lobby & living rm.

Madam though ur story sound quite pathetic, I can still sense an undertone of bias baccalaureate. What is it that is not perfect about u that u want ur hubby to tolerate? U acknowledge there is something u're not doing right, what is it?

Don't tell me ur husband wakes up every morning to assault u for a no cogent reason. Pls tell us ur shortcomings, we need to know how questionable they are, do u normally hit him first, whenever there is a heated argument, so as to know if they are intolerable, or if ur hubby is short tempered, let's weigh it to see if it warrants the beatings, or if ur hubby is just being unreasonable.

But always remember separation if it gets too hot. I'm saying this because I experienced something similar this morning, my wife insulted my elder brother, so I was compelled to register 2 slaps on her cheek, (police approved, not too hot) just to restrain her.

So there might be something u're not doing right.