Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.

Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.

No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.

He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.

The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.

It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan

No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

Does the tradition agree with his stance?

If above answer is yes then he should refund your dad for expenses incurred in maintaining the building.

ThugCheetah:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HnhBRdSJuFs

The planned protest at skating park Abeokuta Ogun state just took off, and the crowd was huge.


Credit; iBrand_TV @ibrand_tv



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zc8isLJ-l7I




https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/09/youths-protest-demand-justice-for-mohbad-in-ogun-others/amp/

Whoever is guilty should be dealt with accordingly but I hate wokeness.


What's the current basis for this protest?

MrSly:


A fowl is really an antelope as long as a court says so. Youa re really reasonable bro.

Go back and read the op before making up shallow proverbs.

MrsTwrite:
Please let her be!

Why?

EkelediliBuhari:
Let’s agree this is my story….

Pardon my long write up but I needed to get a perspective from a fresh eye/mind. I’m married for 3 years now with 2infants.

Am I overthinking or does my wife have other plans?

My dad is an established accountant with over 3 decades of experience at the highest level of his occupation in 2 multinationals. He is now retired and consults. Presently, he lives a day at a times cos he barely has plans for his firm (he is over 70 and doesn’t have anybody he’s training his my mom).

I have a good career earning almost a million monthly with side gigs that keeps me liquid (meeting all my family’s basic needs). Monthly upkeep of 200k mainly for feeding while I pay utilities and still bring out cash (no fixed amount) from time to time. Presently am setting up a firm for contracting and consultancy.

My wife is a caterer (she loves cooking and baking) whom I have supported over the years. She has gotten much better and I have invested in her business. Presently she has all the basic requirements for her work and she works from home. We live in a 4 bed and converted one to her studio (fully furnished - AC tables shelves etc).

Over the years I have encouraged her to focus on entrepreneurship. This will give her total control of her time. This way the kids get her attention while she handles business which I hope to one day retire into. I make sure she doesn’t contribute her personal funds to the home as I advise her to save for rain days. I have encouraged her to work closely with my dad to earn experience as they share same profession hopefully take over the firm in time while I groom mine for which she is the major shareholder (I’m not even a shareholder).

Overall, do not look for a 9-5 like me, let’s grow a business.

However, she applies for jobs here and there. Just this morning she woke up as early as 4:30am applying for a customer service position and had to wake me up to correct her cover note.

At this point I feel like giving up on her. I feel she just wants to have a paying Job for whatever reason. But I know know the downsides; no time for the kids, 40-80% of income goes on expenses, work stress, regrets - now you can’t quit because you have to prove you can do it.

Am I being unreasonable telling her not to work and focus on developing her business skills?

NB: I have never discouraged her in her business rather encouraged/ advised and funded.

Modified: for those insisting I let her be, how do we plan our future if we share separate visions?? When has working ever made anyone rich??

If she gets an IOC opportunity I’ll definitely support tho, but these are not the toes she’s applying for 100k -300k

Why did you decide not to be a major shareholder in your own company you set up and run by yourself 100%. Do you have another company in profits whereby you are the major shareholder?

MrSly:


You sounded so unreasonable if you did not see something wrong with the fact that a school that reportedly issued a result could not authenticate same result.

You are the one being unreasonable here.

The school face a perfectly logical reason why that will not be possible, but you allow low thinking people to interpret simple information to you making you look unintelligent. Don't swallow every falsehood you are fed, study and know for yourself.

Tempulated:


Please we are not Quarreling here.

Personally i am one of the few men who don't and wouldn't ask for sex from ladies. I see it as demeaning.

It doesn't make any sense to me paying for sex. Why would i ask and pay you for sex??

It's not like i don't like sex but it has to be pure, mutual and consensual and no strings attached.

I can decide to gift a lady material things or money whenever i feel like and deem fit not for any ulterior motive.

Why do you think the men like you are few?


Are you caught up in the matrix?

blessingnenye:
This is one of the most frequently asked questions when it comes to relationship and dating. When you look around the society, it seems that those boys we normally tag as players and irresponsible have better lucks in attracting a responsible woman than their counter parts who seems responsible and good behaved.

It seems that the more heart break a woman gets from a player, the more persistent she becomes to remain in his life.

https://loveonet.com/10-reasons-women-easily-fall-for-bad-boys/

Because bad boys who are mostly narcissist exhibit signs that mimick competency which is something (competency) women subconsciously look out for.

Also women love a lie and adventure. It don't matter if they aren't participating in the adventure. They'll be drawn to you all the same

Not to forget the hookup culture approach to dating. How many "good boys" will be trying to meet up with women via hookup?

slivertongue:




i say again. take your question to the publisher.

Response just like a coward that spreads falsehood

slivertongue:



attack the publisher. I didn't create the news.

Which publisher?

You should provide evidence for what you are propagating. Imagine someone said exact same things about you without evidence nor remorse and keeps propagating it

ijustdey:
Lawyer Says He Was Ousted From Nigerian Bar Association WhatsApp Platform For Calling Tinubu’s Loyalist, MC Oluomo ‘Executive Thug’




https://saharareporters.com/2023/09/15/lawyer-says-he-was-ousted-nigerian-bar-association-whatsapp-platform-calling-tinubus

Charge and bail unlearned lawyer

slivertongue:
MC Oluomo mobilised some thugs to be on standby in case the ruling of the Presidential Election Tribunal did not favour President Tinubu.

Hopefully bitterness and hatred don't kill you and your lot but then it looks like what you are chasing after.

MrSly:
If this is true then the man tinubu can be referred to as a shameless grand father. How would an elderly man be this reckless and mean in illegality without recourse to possible effects on his progenies.

How did you come to this conclusion from the OP?

How is an independent university's response still his fault to bear?

chokekachy:


https://guardian.ng/breakingnews/nationwide-blackout-as-nigerias-electricity-grid-collapses-again/?utm_term=Autofeed&echobox=twitter_post&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Twitter#Echobox=1694671011

How come all power stations collapse at the same time? Or are they intentionally shut down?

Felimax:


You are still speaking this thing. As if you know what you are saying?

Dem nor va use otormokpo nack you nai make you still dey talk..

Like seriously, it's ok. Don't mind us (me and you) both of us are sorry to each other!

Are we good now?

Read your own comment above and ask yourself what exactly your own point is?

My comment wasn't more than one line yet you didn't just fail to comprehend it, you still went ahead to insult me and I'm now the one who doesn't know what he's saying?

Are you apologizing or still doing a good work of publicly disgracing yourself?

Felimax:


I beg keep quiet!
I simply corrected your display of ignorance and you are after me speaking that nonsense you think is English.

Please sir, with all due respect, get sense before it's too late.
You don't need to derail the thread.

You call insulting me what?

Brainless dullard with no discipline.

Only cowards behave like you do.

Felimax:


Display of ignorance!
DSC is a federal government initiative. Get sense!

Seems someone smacked you on the head before you saw my comment or you suffer from dementia.

What's asking about the current state of a previously struggling company have to do with your display of stupidity?

If you have nothing tangible to offer, you swerve or did I infère anything derogatory before now?

opicgif:
this is in response to this post that made front page today: https://www.nairaland.com/7834477/japa-fever-among-nigerian-youths


story 1:
i had an uncle who always complained about his job.
he worked in an oil company.
he told me to pursue my dreams (i used to be a music producer in the university) and how life is not all about making money
he complained he didn't have time for his family and how we wishes he could spend time with his children
he complained about how he's underpaid compared to expatriates
he complained so much, we (the family) actually had pity on him
long story short, we had an insider in the company (from our church) who told us,
my uncle was the person blocking my elder brother from getting a job in same company
he (the insider) was shocked we were related to him (my uncle)
he called our uncle in my fathers presence, who told him: do you want that small boy to overtake me in the family
my uncle didn't know the phone was on speaker!!!
this was 2008.


its easy for a beautiful girl with so many rich suitors to tell her 'not so fine' friends with only one suitor life is not about marriage
its easy for a rich person to tell a broke person life is not about money
its easy for someone in canada/US/europe to tell you in Nigeria the grass isn't greener abroad

someone who doesn't buy fuel for gen,
someone who doesn't sleep with multiple lecturers for marks in the university
someone who isn't slapped, abused and insulted in the hospital (like it happens in teaching hospitals in Nigeria)
SHOULD NOT TELL NIGERIANS ANYTHING ABOUT RELOCATING ABROAD

Nice exposition.

It appears the previous op was paid because most of the points given were completely baseless.

Hamachi:
If you have a good paying salary, wife and kids, don't leave all that only to travel to start afresh again. It will take you average 15-20yrs to get the level you are right now. You can go for holiday in any of those countries to see things for yourself.

If you were younger with no wife or job i will encourage you to go but you are settled already.

Truth is Nigeria is irredeemable. Forget what is portrayed by the media.

Under any conditions.... They can leave. Just plan well. I know a few older people that Japa, they didn't need long to re-integrate.

15-20 years means they are owning homes over there already if they are agressive enough.

Hamachi:
My Auntie was NEVER going to leave Nigeria for anything, she later left for Canada after small pressure. The dad died and she fainted 5 times during the father's burial as a result of stress and heat. Immediately the father was buried she didn't spend 72hrs in a Nigeria. All the property the dad left for her she told them to sell as she's not interested in coming back.

Your auntie no get joy oh.... Lol


Zéro interest in returning

Savedday2:
What is even wrong with our leaders? Enerhen junction doesn't need flyover. The flyover that will be beneficial to the people is Udu. Simple!

What happened to DSC? Still functioning?

Pwettylinda:


Yoruba people have started dividing the one Nigeria they are always romancing and cuddling

How?

Thonyb2:


https://.ng/2023/09/12/court-sends-15-internet-fraudsters-to-jail/

This isn't justice

MimiSheWrote:
Hello Everyone, first of all I apologize in advance for the long note and also about my English, not actually my first language.

My name is Mimi, I was born in Nigeria... But cos of the nature of my dad's profession i have spent around 75% of my life in different countries outside Nigeria... Mostly in EU.

Well enough said about myself, cos this topic is not about me but about Nigerians... Our general mentality and perception of abroad.

Guys listen up... All that glitters is not really gold. Out there is not entirely what people think it is. And you might think just because I have spent so much time outside Nigeria i do not understand the struggle in Nigeria and therefore not qualified to tell you all this "nonsense"..... I completely get it.. trust me.

But even a random 3 years old kid knows that the country is messed up and nothing to write home about, we all know about the Suffering, depression and "starvation level of poverty" in Nigeria yeah.... That's why everyone is desperatly looking for a way out, no doubt... but trust me, JAPA is not 'always' your ticket out of poverty... Well 'sometimes' it is... but most times it's just your direct ticket to being subjected to racism,more depression,more struggles,several mental disorder,homelessness, modern day slavery and the list goes on and on.

Trust me... when it comes to hustling field, success is much more louder than failure. cos our mind was designed to constantly search for hope. which means you would quickly hear about the lucky 3% that made it big through JAPA, but hardly hear about the remaining unlucky 97% that found themselves in worse possible condition after the same JAPA. There's no money tree out here... there's no diamond river out here...
Is there more opportunities? Well yes, But there are millions of people that already done and still doing whatever you intend to come do over here and yet they are still in the worse condition than you are in right now.

You would literally cry when you see what most of our African brothers and sisters go through around the world in the name of Japa. And as a Nigerian?? Trust me it gets worse.. and your chances gets even much smaller. Cos no one trust Nigerians anymore any where around the world and I believe we all know why.

Sorry but I'm not trying to burst anyone's bubble, kill anyone's vibe or being a negative biitch! Naaaah I'm only trying to be realistic! I'm only trying to tell you something no travel agent would ever tell you and something people abroad hardly tell you, and even when they eventually do tell you...? You don't believe them.. instead you result to asking them questions like "why are they still there if it's that bad"? .....

Well.... You wanna know why most of them are still there? Let me tell you why... there is a psychological reason for that... First They are still in DENIAL. Imagine dreaming your entire life to travel abroad and finally have a good life, you probably invested almost everything or everything you have got to make it happen (your money, your time, your last hope)
But then you finally got there and then meet a reality that is entirely different from your life long dreams and perception of these faraway green lands?
I don't know if you know... but our brain is defensive in nature, it will automatically switch straight to denial mode... Leaving you with atleast enough 'hope and wait for a magic or should i say a miracle' (afterall this is abroad where magic happens?)
This is just one of the reasons why most of these people continue sticking around instead of returning home.

Another reason is that they are worried about what people back home would say or think... Because the people back home also got this general fvcked up mentality and very high expectation of people coming back from Japa (y'all need to stop it! Y'all need to get rid of that mentality, seriously ) cos like I said earlier... there is no bleeping money tree over there! I don't know where Nigerians got that idea from in the first place...
It needs to stop, yall driving the youth nuts with such mentality, it's doing more harm than good. That high expectation/ pressure back home is mostly the reason our people are more likely to result to crime out here (so just stop it! )

I have met alot of other African nationalities abroad... and amazingly they don't share the same mentality we have about Abroad. They treat abroad as just another hustling ground and not a direct ticket to success... Therefore they are more relaxed and less pressured than Nigerians out here.

Moving Abroad is not such a bad idea though, it worked and still works for few lucky ones (including my Family) it would be wrong and biased of me if I fail to mention that..
There are plenty of and more opportunities over out here not doubt...
But what I'm just saying is that... it's not always that easily reached.. as most people automatically believe.
Look... Somehow all these countries are intelligently designed In such a way that it take back almost entirely everything you make out here from you one way or the other... Through tax, through mind blowing bills or random expenses around every corner.

And at the end of the day you realize you are nothing but a modern day slave building someone's country for free... And without freedom.

Most people screaming Japa in Nigeria are far in better living condition and more stable mentally ,more happy than majority of people in the so called abroad without even knowing it. Sometimes Instead of gambling and betting your hard earned million of naira on Japa, it's more advisable to chill out... relax and invest that Millions in Nigeria. I'm just saying... You would probably end up living a life most people over there can only envy and dream of.

Thanks for reading my long note... I hope this helps someone in making a life decision out there. #ItsYourGurlMimi

Long epistle but no real substances.

Just preplanned words of discouragement.

What exactly is your point? The people that didn't make it abroad, is it that they didn't have a skill or they are discriminated against?

I'm not taking you serious because you words though presented intelligently lack substance.

raskymonojendor:

Like many others, he fell for the Lamba master's deceit. He is in the light now.

Yeah..... Many of my friends/colleagues can't come out their delusions because of shame.

Assuming he had a reasonable history to go by, I would have understood why they wanted to die for him.

Simple judgement by court, they cannot open their head to understand. They are all still spilling gibberish.

DenreleDave:


Exactly.... Same thing happened to me and I regretted voting Peter obi

After he lost, they started insulting all Yorubas and when we talk, they forget they we were chanting obidents together and quickly isolate me all bcox I'm Yoruba..

It is well

So you self enter hot sun to vote for a verified failure..... Isn't it better if you didn't vote?

easzypeaszy:
Good day guys

Please guys can you share experience with the best Power bank at 20k to 40k range.
I work from home and my Gen have suffered me too much, sometimes when working midnight and no light, Gen wont work.
Secondly fuel of 20k no dey do me for month, plus i buy data of almost 15k monthly.
The stress and fear of power can even kill one before the job does because your mind wont be at rest.
Solar power is not part of it, I have worked years with solar companies and they still pay us for fuel every months, meaning Gen is 50% more reliable than Solar.

If you do find this, kindly mention me. Thanks

Dracula123:
The only condition for divorce according to the bible is adultery

Gambling is a very serious addiction and needs a drastic action before it can be stopped, grace of God is also required.

I stopped gambling about 3 months ago and every month, my fiancee request for my bank statement not only for the gambling but also as a check to my spending

I can tell you that the urge to play is still there but I have a lot of people to prove wrong and that's my motivation.

There are ways to help him you know

I recently also helped a close friend from it, though he hasn't stopped but it has reduced by over 70%

This husband actually needs a strong reset.

Prettycute90:
Did you read everything I said before passing your judgement?

Yes dear, I read it clearly. And I'm not passing judgement, especially not on you.

Sorry if I sounded harsh but your situation is very difficult. The major problem was in your second paragraph. Assuming you discovered his habit while dating you most likely would have demanded better from him early enough or walked away.

Your husband is addicted to one of the things one should do their best to observe in a partner before long term commitment and it's very sad that you missed it. Gambling, womanizing/manizing, spouse beater, alcoholism, lack of regard for hierachys and social/administrative structures etc. I'm sure he's defaulting in more than just one but that's the most devastating to you overall

I really wish he was doing better but I'm lost how to advice hence my comment.


The easiest way to get some sense into him temporarily with the hope that he'll come around is to have someone he cannot refuse (Father, pastor, mentor, collègue) to talk to him and make certain demands from him

Leaving him might be your second best option but I promise it's very likely equally challenging and maybe less frustrating since you get to put up with him less.


Don't try to force solutions onto him as he might just end up hating you more. He needs to find himself in a situation where he has no other option (works on most men), and the most reasonable way to bring to that position without doing things that would be detrimental to you, the children or the marriage is what I pointed out above.

Prettycute90:
Since we got married, everything about the upkeep, rents, bills, feeding, general upkeep. I mean everything is on me and he has refused to provide for us as he always claimed he doesn't have. I have always be an understanding person who believe, I should be doing while I can, pending when things gets better for him.
I never knew he was getting little little, but was gambling away with it.

We really do not date for a long time before we got married. Because I knew him back then in school from a far distance. And we liked each other but didn't date. So, meeting again after graduation and in a different environment, made me believe I already knew and the fact that we already liked each other.

He was struggling with a little job when we got married. My foresight then was to grow with him. I supported him in all ways. Infact, during our wedding, most support came from friends and relatives.
Because I'm not the type of a wife that pressurized, It took me a very long time to know the nature of habit he had that has kept him low even before I married him.

He is a chronic gambler.
No money stays with him. He wouldn't even care about himself so long as he can afford little money to gamble.
Now, I don't have a job and too much burden has crippled my business.

To be honest, I'm losing myself. Sometimes I feel I need a therapy myself.
My husband has refused to change or make effort to make this marriage work.
Before I had my second child, he was pretending as if he has changed. But immediately I took in, he continues this lifestyle. I almost died due to emotional breakdown and responsibilities shouldered by myself.

I have done everything, (both family members have adviced him severally, I have prayed, fasted, cried, shouted, talked with a calm voice, all my efforts. but non is working.


Presently, since two weeks ago now, I don't cook for him. I source for food for just myself and my children. We barely have decent conversation in this house. I can't even remember the last time we had intimacy.
I always avoid him, each time he tries to get close. Because of the situation of things in this house.
We had two children and I don't intend having any other.
The cost of taking care of myself and the children all by myself is emotional hurting me so much.
School has resume and I can't even afford all the expenses of taking my first son to start a new school and I know, he would watch our son stay back at home. He wouldn't care.

We're in the house, but he's only concern is how to get little money to gambles.

Are these not enough reasons to divorce him?
During one qurrel we had recently, I told him I want us to separate for now, so we can work on ourselves, and he said he will be with our children not me.
I see that as way to make my children suffers.

What can you advise please?

I just want peace of mind.

I don't want to waste my youthful life in a loveless marriage. Where myself and my husband can not support each other to grow in Love. Rather, stressing me.

This is one of the problems with modern day approach to dating.

So he doesn't have someone in his life that he respects that you can report to who will call him to some order or at least hold him accountable to an extent?

This is why I fear for the younger generation cause divorce may come as often as the need to change clothes.

Ashtem:
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This should include setting goals, creating a marketing strategy, and deciding on a budget. With a plan in place, you can then start taking action.

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Now, let's get into the 8 business ideas.
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- Social media consulting.
- Start a blog.
- Freelancing
- Become a virtual assistant.
- Amazon Kindle direct publishing
- Dropshipping.
- Ghostwriting

Imagine investing $30 as the capital after 30 days, you are able to earn $200 from each of these business ideas,how would you feel?

Happy, right?
Which of these business ideas would you like to get started with?

Number 3 but I have challenges/handicaps

Meerahbel:
From DM

Let him that used to steal, steal no more but rather work hard to become a blessing to others.