₦airaland Forum

Banilla:
You would get bored quick... Don't wish to have it all.

Sweetplum:
Yes. You can ask your mom

LastProphet:
Even in lekki a prostitute will walk you out if you not properly to her taste. Go and read facts instead of getting emotional

SirJerrie:
Wait until fvcks up your life cos of the satisfaction or financial benefits he'll get....


Use your head and don't be stvpid!!!

Guderian:
Omo no body is commenting....

Give up this shit and get some real stuff

Enny2013:
Lol...dey ar always wt Nigeria mentalities.

Ednut03:
You still won't get them if you're not good-looking bro

Enny2013:
I never liked fair guys for once.

Mikespecialone:
One of the reasons why she never allow the SIMPle guy had Sex, Something is wrong with her somewhere

Localemperor:
Omo I still prefer our Naija babe abeg. Which one be say a small society will be so uncultured, little or no discipline, drug ridden, gun violence.

The Blacks are the most look down on in the US and it's all their fault. Slavery is not an excuse.

Omo its either the Latino or my Nigeria Cinderella.

odysey:
Nawa make I go read am again
In my defence I no well like that I just dey reason the guy Mata that time nahim I say make I post am as e dey hot

odysey:
On nairaland nobody ever believes that it's a friend really, the assumption that it's the op is wild
Was there an issue with the write-up?

Sweetplum:
Just replied one if your kind who threatened to come n rape me.
Men are the ones spoiling this world.
When you give birth to girls, tell them not to be stingy with sex.
Maybe you don't know in life that most times what's gotten cheaply isn't valued.
You want my puss y, you ll earn it via hard work. For now, lemme be stingy and responsible!

Naira20:
Stupid boy..why won't hoarding sex make a lady valuable?
Anyways, na hin opinion and only foolish boys like you will be swayed by that.

guru90:
If u like collect 9ja award.... CR7 still my man forever.....

siofra:
Diogo23, sammy10111, hunter0007, moyosire32.


Why are y'all pained by my comment?

Is having caring boyfriends a crime?

Please don't let jealousy envelope you, it's unhealthy. Or do you want what I have

As for you hunter0007, this should be the last time you insult me on this forum, next time, you won't be able comment on nairaland again

HydraFeeds:
Give but give with sense because a tree doesn’t make forest and we all need help once in a while . Don’t listen to anyone that says giving doesn’t make you poor. People don’t really care about you but their own skin . The hype you’re getting is because they’re getting from you but the moment there’s nothing more from you ,they will kick you . Cut off all friends that are parasites they should go and hustle for money if it’s easy,most of the people that asking too much from you won’t give you if the role is reversed.

Jennyclay:
You're indeed a stingy man... so you don't want a girlfriend because you don't want to spend on her .


Incase you don't know, no lady would want to stay with a stingy man.... so if you are avoiding ladies because of common billing, you will still spend when you eventually want a girlfriend. You can't escape it. Keep running!

Biko, this is a new year, you men should learn to spend on your girlfriend/wife. Don't tight your hands.

Akagum!

Afodot0022:
Happy new year nairalanders. This year is favor for us all. I need advice o my people especially from people that have been in the same scenario before.

I am having an issue in my marriage which is taking my peace this moment. My wife got a job at the correctional services of Nigeria which is formally know as prison service as a warder like 2 years now.

At first i never wanted her to do the job cos i knew the job will be demanding and will cause friction at home but i decided to let her go for it just to keep her busy and also to get small support from her cos it's not easy for me shouldering all expenses.

After she got the job, I noticed my wife changed in character and attitude and also in integrity, example like lieing and also having an I don't care attitude which she doesn't do when she was not working. Well I thought maybe the little exposure she start having and people she is minggling with are those influencing her. I never take consideration of it. The job is so demanding that she works on shift, at tmes afternoon and night shift and this has caused alot of issues but I decided to be an understanding husband and ignore, I supported her in chores of the house and also take care of our two kids when she is gone for work.

My mom also stays with us making it easier for me to navigate and take care of the home while she is away at work. It happened that we had serious issue of infidelity from her last year that i saw her chatting with one of her old friend and notice they were having an emotional affair. I was angry when I found out and sent her parking from the room we share together.

Honestly my intention was to send her away from the house cos I was furious and disappointed that despite all I have been doing for the family and also for her, she could pay me back in such manner, but because of pleading from my mom, I decided to let her move her stuff to the sitting room and we stop staying in the same room cos i needed space and also to heal from the heartbreak and disappointment.

During those time for like 4 months we had serious issue and living apart and doing things separately, but still in the same flat, I only give her money for my kids feeding and also pay their school fee cos have already made up my mind to move on.

During those period she went ahead to rent an apartment in the barracks where she works and never informed me. It was after she had paid for the apartment she told me and informed she will be leaving to her work station and reason is for her to reduce stress and also expenses.

When she got the job then, it was so stressful for her cos the distance to kirikiri to where we stay is very far and also she spend all her salary on transport, attimes she uses the house upkeep money I gave for tfare when she is stranded. She doesn't have time for me nor the kids cos she will be so exhausted when she returns back from work.

So when we had misunderstanding, I think she saw it as an opportunity to move to barracks and also to reduce her stress and also expenses. But what annoyed me is she never carried me along when she was processing the apartment.

Now the misunderstanding has been settled by both family and have decided to forgive her and give her a second chance cos this was her first time misbehaving. She has always been a good wife from the start but don't know why she turned this way of late. Now the issue is that, i don't know what to do, initially i told her to resign the government job which she accepted to resign, irrespective of her not having any new job or business to fall back on if she resign. She will be at home idle and dependant on me. Not that this govt job she is doing is helping financially at home cos she entered the institution with SSCE cert and poorly paid that bfore the month end she is broke and spend all on tfare, but because its a govt job and also she can grow in it and also become big in it in future, I decided to let her continue the job but she still wants to go to the apartment that she rented cos it has start reading.

What she suggested is she coming home every weekend to attend to the kids and return back afterwards. While she is gone back, it will be my mom and myself that take care of the kids of 5 and 6 years and my mom is old and don't have strength for such stress. I don't think that will be easy for me as man cos I also work as well and don't have that much time.

My decision now is for her to take the kids with her to the barracks to stay with her and will also change their school, i will be going there when i have the time to check on them. I can't change our present location now cos the place is closer to my own work and the apartment is almost rent free reason why i decided to stay put cos its not easy with rent in Lagos.

The problem now is that if i allow them to go, at anytime, they might sent my wife to enugu for 6 month to do her mandatory course and there will be no choice, the kids will be back to me and will also start changing school again which is not good for the kids. The job has been like a curse to the family rather than a blessing.

Should my wife resign the job and get another job closer to home so she can have time for her family or i should let her go to the barracks alone or with my kids and will be visiting them once in a while even though i as a man i have needs aswell and dont know how that needs will be meant when she leaves. I am just in a dilemma now and need an advice expecially from married couples and those that have experience such or couples that live apart due to work or something else. Pls pardon my typo errors.

I will appreciate frontage from the mod for more inputs.

iTearHerToto:
You must be so daft to think I am not doing better than your entire family.
That's why I don't have to go about reminding people to have plans for their lives cos I really don't care who eats or dies. I just live and do whatever I like cos honestly, unlike you, there is nothing at stake here.

Happy new year

jasent:
There was a guy who was on my case. I like him. But I know Nigerian men. They'll use you once they see you're in love with them. I hoard my love and I told him no sex. No amount of convincing worked. And he was always on his toes making sure he doesn't deviate from showing me love and care.

But still, most of our men are liars and could be getting the sex somewhere else.
That's why a woman should close her leg until you know that he will marry you. Don't fall for their lies you didn't complete this story. You didn't tell us how he left after having sex with you. Ok where is the personal experience in your write-up?

Jeweltz:
Listen ehn, you don't know me. I add values to men that come my way. I'm supportive, submissive, very beautiful and elegant , and I don't stress a man unless he cheats, which y'all eventually do anyway

Jeweltz:
Cry cry cry