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davidadenrele:
Hello,
First of all i salute your courage for been able to come out and ask for advice, been a divorcee can be challenging for a woman in typical Nigerian society however i see you forging ahead since you are not afraid, you will have to work very hard let be honest having a kid is not that easy not to talk of 3kids, may I asked you did you request for child support in court while you filing for divorce through your lawyer because you will need child support from your kids father, it's either it's paid in weekly or monthly and its has to be something substaining for you and your kids.

Secondly you have to either work twice or get a business that will help you finance your kids financial burden without you being a burden to your friends and family at this moment Nigeria economy is not smiling at all, it's not easy out there trust me people will give assurance not worry that they will support you it's all a lie no one cares everybody is struggling to survive now in Nigeria. aside yahoo plus boys and ritualist, and politicians.

You will have to sit down a make a plan on how you intend to provide for your kids every month, your house rent, feeding, school fees, extra school needs, what kids of now are days can't do without like bobo, biscuits, sweets and stuffs. Let me be honest with you it's not going to be easy I know of a divorcee with kids it's not an easy task, but with God on your side you will be fine at the end. You will need support you will need assistance and you will your immediate family around you if it's only you it would have been better having to take care of kids in Nigeria of today is like climbing Mount Everest because of their excessive demands, they keep calling Mummy we want this we want that!! You have to be firm with your kids, at the same don't be too rigid and don't be too gentle when applying discipline where necessary at the same time montior them they could embrassed you if your not careful cos when they go hungry they could expose you unintentionally to your next neighbour cos at that moment what they cared about is there belly as its possible if you don't arrived from work in time for them to go and into your next neighbour house will not be a thing of shame to them afterall they have friends as next neighbour. Restrict them from collecting things from strangers, monitor them very well to avoid sexual pedophiles who could take advantage of no father figure in their lives. Provide quality to ensure they do their home work and take their studies seriously.

On a final note be you a Christian or Muslim ensure they observed prayers and good home moral training it's well with you.

The man would take full responsibility of the kids upkeep provided he owns them. The woman only needs to work and be supportive. Moreso, she needs to stand firm for the kids

ume1000:
if she no greedy wetin she come bi

you sure say you dey normal for justifying ritualist?

horpeyemmi66:
How about the regular, how long would that take? Because I know people who have paid for regular and have not seen anything up until now, their plugs telling them to wait and all.

You're right though. I got people who was referred to me. They've done their relocation since last month but nothing to show for it yet. Their plug was probably not sincerely with them. Any relocation done now outside the express one would take months to get approval and successfully move to the new state. I don't accept regular relocation for now. Because what's the point of acceptance but takes ages to get done

The best bet is either to wait for batch A to get called up then the regular relocation will be done successfully or you opt for express relocation. The last express relocation i submitted was on Tuesday which got approval the following day

Btw, those who had pending relocation issues should exercise patience with their plugs. Hopefully, it would be done alongside with batch A

horpeyemmi66:
How much is fast relocation? From Anambra to Kaduna.

Do you do the work before payment?

Getting an express relocation is 120k. It'd get approved and reflects on your dashboard within 24hrs, then you leave for the new state

You make payment to get your work done. But be rest assured, you'd get what you want

ashewoboy:
what if it doesn't work out, is there a refund? I want yes or no answer.

All my work had been successful so far. However, nothing is 100% certain in life except death

There'd definitely be refund if probably it goes south. Yes, you'd be refunded absolutely

ashewoboy:
how much is direct posting to lagos? tell me here.

Lagos and Abuja is 70k

ashewoboy:
can a pcm evade taking the vaccine before going to camp?

I doubt if vaccination would be made mandatory for PCMs. There are centres for vaccination at every camp but won't be compelled to have it

Btw, they might chose to impose it on PCMs due to the surge in variants

ashewoboy:
wetin you wan talk before? scammer lo poju ninu yin.

If I've ever or attempted to scammed anyone here before, they'd definitely come to inform others not to fall victim/prey

I've done lots of service right on this platform pertaining to NYSC without any problem

poweredcom:
Foolish people ....if u near them now you go know say na empty people Dem be

Why are you pained over two lovers please?

Randy111:
Bro pin down. Given the situation, will you do this? If you will, that will be ultimately foolish. The girl sef is another foolish being on her own too.

What is there in giving someone you love a gift please?

Donpenny:
All hands must be on desk to nib this manice in the mud. Security agent should be up to their task, the society should stop glorifying people with unverified source of wealth or income and the government should create an enabling environment for its timing youthful population

Seriously the high unemployment rate is also a factor to look into. No job after school

uthlaw:
and the ladies that don't want to work but want free large money because of smelling pussy...oga dem go use them tire...if ur daughter too follow the way,they go use her!

See the nonesense you dey talk guy? Why would you kill your fellow human because you dey find money? That's the most laziest and evil. Stop encouraging evil. She didn't force you to give her money at all cost

If you don't have money then don't date. Why must you kill someone child to make money?

kerry57:
I can't really explain how best to please the woman folks. U sexually perform na problem, u under perform na problem and u come over perform na still problem for them with the accompanied insults. Abeg the women and girls in this forum, what do u people really want from us? Answers please.

When you finally make money. You will know what a woman wants from you

The husband is probably not responsible for the family upkeep and still dey get erection. No be juju be that

israelmao:
Many families are losing grips of their homes more than before due to the worsening economy,some parents work so late in other to meet up with family obligations and responsibilities to the extent that time to instil good moral lesson and training in their children shrinks too fast while some who have lost their jobs and lack the capacity to fulfil parental obligations reluctantly or willingly granted free rein to their children to misbehave and sort out themselves in meeting up with their daily needs,it's in the course of looking for survival that some children fall into wrong hands.

So apt. The economy is the major factor behind all these

Alot of parents couldn't provide for their family. Especially, this covid period. Underaged girls sleeping around Just to have something to eat

Excallibur:
Hello, do I need original O level certificate for registration

No, just the year you commence and graduated from elementary school, high school and college

If his kids and wife still live like puppet under his watch, I'm not even talking about his siblings and parents. Then your brother source of wealth is perhaps questionable

emdis:
Sorry boss! But I need a direct posting to Lagos.. any help?

I can help you get your posting to any state of your choice. Sure plug!

ikfrancis:
Between direct posting and redeployment to a state like Lagos, which one has a higher success rate? Also which is more expensive?

Both had high success rate depending on the plug. All our direct posting and relocation so far had more than 95% success rate


Direct posting and relocation is same price, but Lagos and Abuja is slightly higher than others

Cokahot:
I have no pity for them nd I pray all my ex are all killed. Stupid bastar d oloshos them. Idiot s. Good thing shez dead now,no more worries. When u toast them,dey start forming,become rude,I can't follow who doesn't have this and that. U don't have class. If u don't work,u will get killed by ritualists. Don't go and learn trade. One olosho dead, hahahahahaha. Yahoo ritualist has finally cashed out. Hahahahahaha

So you encourage jobless men to go about looking for women or what? You encourage Men who can't even feed himself comfortably to go about looking for girlfriend?

Dassybaby:
Hello. Please i need clarification on this . While registering for my nysc I mistakenly input 2021 for my year of graduation instead of 2020 because I finished school in 2021 due to pandemic and now my nysc certificate is going to carry 2021 as my year of graduation instead of 2020 and it won’t tally with my year of graduation on my degree certificate which carries 2020 so I would like to know if there won’t be any issues when seeking for jobs .

No issue intended

Your name and date of birth on the discharge certificate is of interest to employers not the year of graduation

Youngaboy:
Thanks alot for the update.
So if someone want to apply, which is
the first step to take,
Jamb Regularization or
Registration first.

Fresh applicant would apply not regularise. Except those who had issues with their course, institutions and whataview would have to opt for jamb regularization and ensure his/her name is on jamb matriculation list before proceeding for application


Those who studied different course entirely from what they applied for in jamb. Those who schooled elsewhere apart from the one they chose in jamb and many more

Sirkenny44:
Quick question pls if someone did not thumb print for the month of January he/she will not be paid right it urgent pls?

Ofcourse no payment without biometric thumbprint. Except those who completely ghosted their service need not to worry about thumbprint

mikolonam21:
One hour till the portal closes

The requirements is hilarious man. How many 24 years old average Nigerians owned a laptop?

Olly234:
Am currently serving in Lagos in a PPA. How long will it take NYSC to approve my relocation to another state if I involve the use of connection....? Is it possible in 2 weeks or 1 month with connection?

I have a sure plug who would get it done within a week but cost a mountain

The ones we submitted last week got approval yesterday

Olayetan:
Does it mean someone that graduated at the age of 28 and defer it till he passes the eligible age of 30, can still be mobilized?

The date your school result got approved by your school Senate is the age that will be used

If you hadn't clocked 30 before your result got approved then you are free to partake in service whenever you are ready. Even if it's 20 years time. You'd be mobilized because you aren't 30 when your result was approved

Olayetan:
Pls, when is the next batch starting registration?


I've deferred it enough and can I get someone to help me do direct posting to abk., Oguns state.

Next batch will commence late February

Contact me on Whatsapp for your sure direct posting to any state and PPA, 08097040690

[quote author=Brokeloser post=108892523]Such is life. You presence only matters when you are of value to otherwise you are perceived as a nuisance.
Example I gave a suggestion months ago about something but my ideas was shat on simply because I'm a bonafide member of the sapa club.

Fastword to this week someone(a millionaire by the way) else gave the same suggestion and his idea was awarded a standing ovation.Infact the idiot who shat on my idea was the same person extolling the wisdom in this person to my face for bringing such a great idea.Immediately his suggestion was implemented.

If you don't have money as a man then alone you shall walk.

Always felt bad and disappointed at bolded

NwaAmaikpe:




I don't know which is easier to spot; a cum soaked panty, a person with a body odour or a child who has been brought up by an evil mom not to see any good in their father.

The fact that the first paragraph of your woe tale defends your mom and aims to minimize her influence on you betrays her.

I have seen plenty of your kind, fortunately for me, some of these scums are in my family, so that affords me the privilege of sniffing out the influence of long-time, manipulations momipulations once they start to complain.

The truth is,
No father is totally good, neither is there any who is totally bad. Some dads are write-offs no doubt, but it only takes a write-off of a child to write to the world of their own dad as a write-off even when pointers tell otherwise.

Some of our moms are horrible cooks, but how many times do we tell our friends that our mom's cooking was the reason most of us spent our growing years in hospitals?

It's one thing to have a brain and another to have a discerning brain.

From what I deduce,
Your dad is apparently an upright man, who would not side evil irrespective of who commits it so it's strange to your mom that he'd take sides with strangers rather than support the wrongs of his kids.

I also see you expect your dad to pick fights with people because your quarrelsome mom isn't cool with them. That's whack, infantile and shows how much you think like your mom.

The fact that he appreciates very little gifts from strangers shows he is appreciative too.

In my early twenties, I wasn't living in the family house playing referee while my parents fought, I already had a good job, a decent car and getting my preek wet most of the time in preparation for marriage.
So I relate to your dad's disappointment.

It is only unfortunate that his kids are not living up to his expectations and he is reminded of this each time he sees other kids who are and ends up voicing out his unfulfillment.

That's one of his flaws but the fact that you are alive is a testament that he was good enough to ejaculate into your mom's hollow chamber rather than allow her die childless.

I have now come to learn that the worst thing that can happen to a man is not to have a wife who spreads her legs for any Thumb, Preek and Harry but the worst thing that can happen to a man is to have a wife who spreads his flaws to not just any Tom, Dick and Harry but also to his kids.

But if you've concluded that your father is as useless as your mom has made you believe he is. Help her become a widow so you can marry her and make her taste what true love is or you can continue to hate him with every blood in your vein; but that won't stop him from being your father. Would it?

Till then, wait till you become a father with bunch of useless kids who have been completely turned against you by their troublesome mom and let's see if you won't make your dad look like a learner at cursing.

Mkpi Awada.

Who are those mentioning You? Praising you for this shit you put up here? I know some are your alternative moniker. Keep deceiving yourself

Oh! You've gotten to your Eldorado in your 20s and since Op is still struggling in his 20s he's not responsible and that automatically justify his father to curse him and his siblings for their present condition right?

Let me tell you something MR WISE MAN in today's Nigeria, inorder to make it legitimately. I mean making it through a well paid job, promising businesses amongst many others. You need a supporting hand. Else, it will only take God's grace.or linger. Moreso, the poorer a family is with no single connection the more tougher and difficult it is for the children

Most of those people doing very fine today got there through someone. It could be a friend, family or a total stranger. Though some make it solely on their own no doubt. But they are few especially in Nigeria today

There are millions of graduates unemployed, some underemployed while very few are gainfully employed mostly through connection

Will you tell me those unemployed graduates are irresponsible or unfortunate? Should their parents kill them or curse them because they are still struggling to make it?

You seriously need to learn how to talk. Especially to someone that's down. There are lots of irresponsible father and mother out there and stop pretending as if you don't know

It's better You keep mute than condemning the guy and futher rubb your achievement to his face

Change your ways

Righteousness2:
Do not abort! I Repeat Do not abort!
You will endanger that little girl's life.
Your Family will also carry the Blood of an innocent baby in their hands.
Two wrongs will never make a right.

The Man should be reported to the relevant institution or if possible put him out on n line. But in whatever, do not slay that child..

Sorry, for her to keep the pregnancy will you support the family financially? I'm sure you read the Op post right? The family is most likely poor which the bastard took advantage of

If you would volunteer to see the family through this period and after child birth then this your advice would hold water

God have mercy on Nigerians

ModelLook:
The things I used to plan in the past don't work out the way I plan them to. Used to make me so unhappy.

I used have plans for my life but I have realised that nomatter how you plan for your life, life has its own way of planning you.

Right now, what I say everyday is...

"WHAT WILL BE WILL BE.... REGARDLESS...WHEN IT IS TIME"

It is well brother

The economy is not even helping matter again. You graduate with good result and skilled. Yet, no job or at most underpaid job that can't even sustain a single person talkmore of supporting his/her family

You are right bro. Just to live life and never too bothered about how one would make it. It's sickening