₦airaland Forum

boolet:
Relax boy... This ain't about tribalism. She's a gold digger who didn't realize that not all that glitters is gold. Tell 'your girls' to stop being gold diggers, it will save them unnecessary pain.

please What do you mean by she's a gold digger? Oh! You expected her to marry church rats or never do well guys or something? I don't get your rant of calling her gold digger. You mean once a lady married a rich guy then she automatically becomes a gold digger? Please i need to understand you biko. Like she shouldn't have answered FFK or any other wealthy guy and settle for a low life poor niggar, a nobody or what?

elijahy1:
I had actually applied, but till now, they said "my request is being reviewed"

Have you contacted your school to process it and forward to NYSC for final approval?

LordVoldmort:
Hello everyone.

I'm sorry if this is the wrong section. Mods please help move to the correct section.

Please I'm at a cross road. Here's a background to my story. I apologize for the length. I just need to have an unbiased advice.

I have been working in the financial industry as a contract staff and last year, I got converted to a full time staff. salary is a few thousands shy of 300k.

I'm a family oriented individual and plan on getting married before I hit 30. This has always been my plan. I also am a career focused and driven individual and I want to go back to school for my masters. I'm hungry for knowledge.

My company has a scheme where they sponsor you to do your masters in any school in the world and pay up to 80% provided it's online and you maintain certain appraisal levels.

Also, my company promotes every 2 years subject to satisfactory performance. They also pay huge bonus and profit sharing every year. They also review salaries upwards every year to reflect current economic realities. My next promotion will be next year with an approximate salary of a few thousands shy of 400k.

Now here's my problem.

I Intend giving my best to this company because believe me it's a great place to work with amazing people. I'm one of a few Nigerians who love their jobs and wake up everyday eager to go to work. The company rewards hardwork and there's prospect of moving to my most preferred department.

My problem is that my brother wants me to work for like 2-3 years, save up and japa to Canada via study route. I used to have the mindset of japa but now that things are looking a bit fair and life is picking up, the japa thoughts is doing me one Kain.

My bro says online degrees from foreign recognized institutions do not carry as much weight as when I'm over there studying.

My bro is doing well for himself. Married with kids and is about relocating this year to Canada with his family. His wife is a professional too.

I'm currently 27. I intend getting married before 30, settle down quickly and plan my future with my family early. I have a serious gf. We've known each other since our secondary school days and she's about to go for NYSC. She said she won't marry now until she's financially sound. She's 25. She's a really good fashion designer and a really smart and homely lady. We've had our fights too like every relationship but she ticks all my boxes in what I want In a woman. My brothers love her although I haven't introduced her to my parents yet. I planned doing so this year.

My responsibilities aren't much cos I stay in my family house. I do not spend up to 10k for tfare to work. I'm even saving 200k from my salary.

Saving up to japa for study will mean:

Suspending my marriage plans.
Leaving my good job and starting over in a strange land.
Putting my life on hold for about 7/8 years while there. Because give or take, I'll use 2/3 years to save up enough to take me there for study, 2 years masters then 2/3 years finding my feet, standing on my own, hustling for PR and finally getting married to my gf (that's if she'll even still be waiting for me).

My fear is what if things don't go according to plan? What if I get the degree and don't get PR status and they ask me to return to my country? And I end up coming back to Nigeria with only my degree. I'd have lost everything.

My gf is a good woman. Understanding. Spends on me and is so loving. She's been with me when I had nothing so I know she's not here for the money. I spoke to her about it and she asked me to pray for God's leading. I've prayed and still praying.

I had a dream where I was catching enough fishes. Big fishes. Then one fish jumped out and I left all the fishes to get back that one and all the fishes I'd previously caught all escaped.

Life is smiling at me now. Things are picking up. I just don't want to make the wrong move and end up loosing all.

Please I need advice.

I would advise you to stay in Nigeria and work things out yourself. Invest in viable businesses, get to a reasonable position at your place of work before considering marriage and have less kids

kayuseful:
Will you keep kwayet!
Can you match his pace first of all

Why can't he? Is salah so special for that?

vincentjk:
All these feminists hiding in men clothing

No disguise abeg

See your small brain. You think every sensible man reason like you ba

vincentjk:
What Simpss cannot do does not exist.

Go sleep Boy

stealmatic:
So u admit it,that she is ugly hmmmmm,oga righteousness2 I will like to see your WAEC certificate I want to see something

She is not ugly man. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!

The pity part of my life be say, it's been ages i last buy single piece of meat to my food

Chai! God this must be history o cos the suffer no be here

SmartPolician:
So, do you behold her beauty?

Absolutely

I do behold her beauty, if that's what you want to hear!

bluefilm:
Who cares?

Who wants to be in a marriage relationship with such an ugly bitch?

no woman is ugly

descartes400:
By saying she married the wrong person, amount to blaming the man as being responsible for the cause of the marriage breaking up. Does it occurred to you she may be the one responsible and lacking the requisite qualities in a woman to sustain a marriage?

Which right man in his rightful mind will accommodate such a woman lacking in good qualities for 3 weeks in marriage ?

Online jury

See as you analyse am like a well garnished plate of food.

SmartPolician:
Chai! This babe ugly oh.

I thought modeling was a career for beautiful people, not those whose faces look like ikwiikwii

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder

Pastorjohn2:
I have been questioned various times if I regret voting buhari for his first and second term, I will never regret voting for him because he has reached and surpassed my expectations. In fact I'd vote him for a 3rd term if it were possible.

The economy is booming ,We now have functional railways.

A lot of nations now fear us, look at how we reacted to Dubai and other nations. Yes , things are expensive now but that's the fault of the past administration.

You can't expect buhari to fix 16 years of mismanagement in 8 years. Only a wailing dullard would think so.

how old are you?

DenreleDave:
Okay má.. But can I ask sumtin?

Do u accept that most ladies wished death for their mother in law (to be)

No reasonable woman would wish her soon to be mother inlaw death. Yes, I've heard some ladies do say that though but I'm yet to see any

Nonetheless, i believed those who wished their soon to be mother inlaw death does that probably due to the experience some of them had with their friends, family members, neighbours et al, mother inlaws. They probably saw how some mother inlaws had treated their son's wives

However, that isn't enough reason to assume all mother inlaws are bad. Someone you've not even get close to

Mother inlaws should prove them wrong by showing them LOVE. See them as your daughters and watch how it goes

finishmatter:
Agreed. But your dad also risks his life daily to provide for you, and you could have died without him providing for you.

Yes, i understand the roles of fathers in the house. But mothers plays bulk of it all. Children tend to love their mothers naturally than fathers. It's nature!

She risk her life to have us.

Everything girls girls girls haba! Who wouldn't give his mother money first before? A mother you know before knowing the girl. Naija girls don suffer for una hand o!

Now. Parents aid their wards going into crime. Men rapes their own flesh and blood. Naija youths using their friends for money rituals and some fellow still justify their act. Employee wanting to ripoff their employers at all cost. Honesty is hard to come by, especially in Nigeria

Prettydevil:
I actually think girls are the cause of the alarming rate of rituals in society today, because they have made men become extremely desperate to impress them. I noticed something recently, ladies will treat you like a king the second you have or even look like you have money. I always look good facially but I noticed the admiration I get when I look rich is on a total different level, girls throw themselves at me without any care in the world, but the second I don’t look or dress rich and still look good facially girls don’t give a shit about my face they just treat me regularly.

Men only make money to impress the ladies or at least that’s one of the major reasons, so every guy out there killing girls for money is also trying to impress other girls with the money from the rituals. If ladies stopped digging gold every single day all these rituals may reduce, and society may go back to normal.

Why will girls treat boys without money like shit? They treat you like they wished you were dead just for talking to them and looking poor? Why? Why is life now this shallow? Back in the days there was true love and girls didn’t care so much about your pockets and life was sweet and normal. Now no single girl will ever be nice to you when you are poor no matter how handsome you look, and you wonder why boys do rituals to impress girls?

Wonder why these ritualist have no pity when killing these girls? Because they know they will literally never find a wife if they don’t do rituals and make money, no single girl will talk to them. There is no jobs or opportunities yet every single girl wants a boy whose worth a million dollars , even teenage girls now only want a boy using an iPhone of 900,000 naira ? Wtf? I’m so angry!!!!! Stop these rubbish ladies and stop Making our young men go into rituals to impress you!! Jesus I’m so angry

You'd also blame mothers, fathers, siblings et al for being used as rituals by their sons for their insatiable appetite of making money at all cost?

A jobless or underpaid man had no business discussing about marriage. That's my shortcoming

HacheNoire:
Your wife finally killed your mother


Divorce is bound! Waking up beside the woman that killed your mother

Just be patient and wait for her own mother, father, sisters or brothers to visit too. Look for a rare expensive poison and keep before then.

You just calm down sprew trash in the name of talking

elijahy1:
Hello Good afternoon,
Please what was used in my JAMB is UDOERI, ELIJAH CHRISTOPHER. But due to some reasons, what is in my HND statement
of result and school senate list is UDOERI, ELIJAH CHRIS. Please will I
still be registered?

That will be done while registering. Name correction per se

Ebukawaylaid:
Good morning, please when is the date for Passing out Parade (POP) of 2021 Batch A Stream 1 corp members.
I know it is in the month of February, but I will appreciate if one with the exact date can let me know.
Thank you.

February 21st

[quote author=dapolaw post=109161670]What she does with her husband is none of your own business.


My concern is, why would your uncle sent money to you through your mom? Is it that he doesn't trust you enough to be responsible to handle it or what?


You really need to work more on yourself.[/quote]If my mother beat my dad daily you expected me to look away because it's none of my business right?

You tend to goof badly in the name of advice

alizma:
I already knew you were going to trap yourself in the process and you just did. Going by your post, how would you take a man who stands before a group of youths and tell them not to worry much about being successful because success is not for everyone? Over to you Mr Sabinus

Absolutely success isn't for everyone. I asked you earlier why do we have much more poorer people than the rich ones? You are leading them astray making success a do or die for them. That's why we have criminal minded lazy youths littered in Nigeria indulging in cyber theft, ritualist, armed robbery amongst many others. Reason because you've made it known to them that success is a MUST and coming from Nigeria factors where unemployment is on the increase. They had no choice than to utilized other option left in their disposal just to follow your teaching of success is a MUST

They are truly successful as you wished, but in a wrong way that'd later backfire. Your teaching probably lead them astray. Even though we all know that they are covetous by nature

Nothing absolutely is a do or die in life

alizma:
Mumu, where did you wake up from today, did you read the post I quote or you just want to be noticed?
You don't go about giving people advise that you aren't praying for. Why would someone tell a woman who is looking for advise on marital issues that marriage is not for everybody, If the woman think and believe so, would she be looking for advise on marriage?

And What makes you think marriage is truly for everybody Mr. Married man?

If you have this mentality of marriage is for everybody, then everybody ought to be rich na? Why must we have much more poorer people than the rich ones? Since you've made one particular institution in the society mandatory for everyone

I know you have been brainwashed. Na God go deliver you

alizma:
As stupid and funny you think his contribution is does not take it from the reality of life. I guess you are not married, obviously you have little knowledge on the emotional aspect of the case at hand. Since you think marriage is not for everybody, will you gladly say amen if I pray that you will remain single for life?

This your last statement shows how myopic you are. No doubt, you must have really been brainwashed to think you are way better than any single person out there. Take this from me man. Hell No! No one is better than anyone

Please wake up and stop being dellusion

Blakjewelry:
In this part the world? Devoice can be messy if the woman is not financially stable. Infact it's money that is making alot of women stuck in a sad marriage that they can't move out of. I have seen men and women going back and forth to welfare office because the man refused to take care of the children, and remember most people In Nigeria don't do court marriage.

You are absolutely right bro. Alot of women are willing to dump the ass of their husband long time ago. Sadly, they are stuck in there due to their poor finances. Women are really going through a lot in the name of marriage and they can't move out. Not because they love their husband that much or what people would say. Rather, the monetary part of it makes them remain in that messy marriage

I have them in my neighbourhood and i really feel for them. Some men cheat and rubb it to their wives face claiming she can't do nothing.

Women needs to be educated and empowered before marriage. It's very very neccesary seriously. Especially in this our naija where nothing absolutely works

Heavance:
You are really funny.i
That means you have seen too many movies and believe that is reality..
Reality will shock you bitterly

Then i assume you know nothing. If the man tries to evade his responsibility assigned to him by law. He'd definitely see the consequences

Blakjewelry:
The most important question I will ask is, are you financially ok? If yes then you need not worry, it is phase and it pass. I think it will be even be easier in your case since you are both been separated for sometime. As what people will say! Forget about it, it's your life and no one will be there when the door is closed beside everyone got their own share of problem to deal with.

She needs not to be financially ok since it's the man who served her divorce notice. The man would definitely be responsible for the kids upkeep, education and whataview

She only needs to be financially ok for her wellbeing and support her kids. Especially if she doesn't plan to re-marry

Saintinoo:
The day you women will understand that there is only one captain in a ship, that is the day divorce will stop. kindly leave with it.

Lol and you think only men divorce their wife ba?

Statistically, women are the highest initiators of divorce if you don't know