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Danyiel:
I was dating a Nigerian man for 6 months before I found out he had a wife and three kids waiting for him in Nigeria. He lie until he couldn't lie anymore. then he told me that he could have two wifes. He lead to to believe this was OK. I had keys to his house, I basically lived with him. I would be right next to him when his wife called. he would pray for me to get pregnant. We did everything together. When it was time for him to go home to visit after 3 years I helped him prepare. Everything he bought his wife he bought me. He is a very good provider for the both of us. I did everything for this man. He would say that we both were part of him he would beg me not to leave him. While he was in Nigeria he called me 2 times a week. Now he's back in the US we have broke up. He refuse to give me my things from his house. he still give me money. He say that he will always help me if I need something. What caused the break up is his prayers was answered and I got pregnant. I had a miscarriage. And everything changed plus with him being at home for two months. He realize the importance of family. he is married to a strong Nigerian women and he forgot all if those things. It's best for you to go your own way. You will be hurt! Nigerian men do not leave their families. No matter what! save your self some tears. I do believe that you won't be blessed with your own husband if you're sleeping with someone Else's husband. I speaking from nothing but experience. I wish you the best!

omogenaija:
i love garri

but y is the title do u like smoking garri , didnt know garri was smokeable

moondust:
it's a pretty desperate period in a woman's life,
being 30 and not married could drive a woman to extremes,
in that she then tends to want to please anything in trousers that comes her way,
with the hopes of striking a cord. So all fine ladies on this forum, who are still far
from 30 please play your cards right and stop looking for that imaginary armour cladded
prince charming , just so age doesnt encroach on y'all
nuff said

fekuti:
He didn't ask about younger women did he now? that doesn't happen as much as it does with the older ones by the way.
and it's not ignorance, it's the truth. take it with a pinch of salt.

spoilt i was joking about that post, the 3-year age differene isn't that much of a big deal until she grows a nut about her age.

akinstacey:
I'm a New Yorker, I'm a white female, whose fiance is a Yoruba man from Lagos (Ketu, exactly). I just came back from Lagos after spending a month there. I recently read the article written about Lagos, and my first reaction was that it was very much onpoint. My eyes burned from the pollution each time I went out. The smell in many places was unbearable. The crowds of people and the traffic was unlike anything I've seen in my life. However, the article said nothing about the people of Lagos which make this state the most beautiful place I've ever seen. Sure, I experienced a LOT of bad, especially as a white American. I no longer was called by my name, Stacey, but instead Oyinbo was what I heard everywhere I went. Police stopped my car (even the taxi I was in) every chance they got and extorted money from me. By time I left, the total was over 8,000 Naira. I was also approached by area boys who extracted from me as well. Many vendors jacked up their price when I came to buy. However, despite these few bad examples, the people of Lagos are unlike any you'll find anywhere else in the world. Despite the conditions in which they live, these people believe they are blessed. I never hear a negative word from them about anything. One person on this site has compared Lagos to an area of NYC, I think it was the Bronx, or Brooklyn. I have to strongly disagree in two senses. One, as bad as NYC is, it does not compare to Lagos, but on the otherhand, even those who have it GOOD in NY, they always find something to complain about and I never found that in Lagos. People there smile and always have a kind word to say in passing. Even when I was pulled over by the police many people passing by were mad and shouting "ole" to the police. They knew what was up!! This state is full of hard working people. There are so many unemployed people in NY becuase they choose to be unemployed. I've seen residents of Lagos doing things that you would never see an American doing, just to earn money. Like pushing a cart full of yam in excrutiating heat. Or standing in the middle of the street weaving in and out of crazy drivers, risking their life, just to sell them something. If any negative article should be written about Lagos, it should be written about the corrupt government which is the ONLY reason Lagos is not what it could be.

fekuti:
omo, 3 years, it's absolutely not okay man.
2 years into your marriage if you plan on getting married, she'll have you saying yessa-massa.

omindav:
we are really in love and we hope to get married soon but i wonder what both families will say when they find out.i wonder if there are great disadvantages getting married to someone younger