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i once went to a dentist in nigeria and he tried to molest me right there on the dentist chair. i was younger. it was so shocking because my dad brought me on the first visit so he didnt try any stunt. the next time i went back alone to complete the dental work. he locked the door and started groping me. he was Hot as hell and breathing like an elephant on heat. i was young but i can swear i saw a hard on. i was so scared. i protested and started crying. he let me go. didnt tell anyone.
the moral of the story is that whenever any member of your family is in the hospital (especially an underaged girl) there must be someone with her not only does their service suck, they are known to harrass patients sexually! 

rich

i would shield my crotch with my hands and run like hell into the nearest shop for assistance.

what would you do if you found a briefcase stuffed full of dollar notes and no one was around?

the sooner she seeks treatment the better. its too late to trade blame.

the sooner she seeks treatment the better. its too late to trade blame.

kpele dear. i feel your pain. i have been through a long distance relationship. being in a long distance relationship is anguish. its real hard. being so in love with someone who you cant even see. its not something you wish on your worst enemy. you hear all kinds of conflicting advice from friends. some just down right ridiculous. at this point the ball is in your court. you alone know if the relationship is worth salvaging. u say you havent seen him for 2 years. why? how old are you guys? how serious were you before you left? was it a mutually exclusive relationship? too many questions. we dont know the details. u do. the only way this relationship can move forward is for both parties to see each other once in a while. yep you spend a fortune flying back and forth. but some things are better talked about eye ball to eye ball.

i love meat. with the way i eat it if it was dangerous i would be dead. anyway i think the concerns are from eating red meat. or eating beef from cows slaughtered under bad conditions or not processed properly.

there's this kind of handset for kids called the firefly. it only allows you call your mum and dad and receve calls from them.(you'll program those 2 numbers in) wont let you talk to anyone else. i think thats good. you can monitor your kids without pervs talking to them. the regular kind of phone may not be safe.

ive also considered being a vegetarian. but i cant do without meat. how is it even possible for one to get enough nutrients from just vegetables without augumenting with meat.?

In what areas are black americans God's chosen?

@ davidylan
ask me oh!

hannydarl:
Not all doctors are bad but i had the misfortune of visiting one hospital in owerri because i had some complication during my pregnancy.The stupid pride and rude doctor was recieving a call while working on a woman i don't know what he was doing on her but i remember he was doing somthing in her womb cause her legs were spread apart he did not cover his stupid mouth and the woman had to wait while he was jisting and laughing in front of her whatever he recieved 3 diferent calls from friends calling to say hi.The same doctor ignored a woman in labour for like 5 hours because the woman was scared of having a C/S he said she was wasting his time and left her unattended she was shouting and crying saying he should plse come i couldnt sleep from her shouts as imy room was close to the labour room when he was satisfied that she had learnt her lesson and do the operation the baby had died.In my case i was bleeding a little and the bastards couldnt carry out a scan because they usually do scan on thursdays and tuesdays so if bleeding starts on friday you have to wait till Tuesday to get a scan.The scan revaeld that the baby was dead which now i wonder if they were correct.I wish i knew where i was i wouldnt have stayed i was verry sick i was taken there unconcious and dint know about their weaknesses untill it was too late.To crown it all they say the doctor is 1 of the best gynea in the state yea yea

kpele oh on your bad experience.kpele.

ive heard all kinds of horror stories about hospitals in naija. its scary. especially from women having babies. some of those stories are so shocking. you get no attention, no privacy, no compasion, no nothing. they seem to be immune to what you are going through. even if salaries are not paid its no reason to take out frustration on innocent victims patients.

my friends had their babies in naija. they told me how they were beaten and hit and yelled at to push. i could not believe it cos when a woman is in labor she is vulnerable and almost at the point of death and should be treated with great compassion. its advisable for a loved one to always be with you during that time so you can keep an eye on what they are doing.

i had my baby here and i couldn't have asked for anything better. the nurses and doctors were sympathetic, compassionate and kind. no one beat me up during labour.

this isnt to say that we dont have good doctors and nurses. but these complaints arent one- off things , they are becoming too rampant and common. its almost like a norm.

BigSis:
uyia,

I guess that would make all Naijas idiots, because I don't know one that doesn't speak pidgin - bad english. Furthermore, all the Naija I associate with are educated. Dumb ass I have enough sense to know when to change up the way I talk. I am so proud of Black American venacular, we set the trends not only for the US, but the world. We create, and y'all imitate it. You are just mad because we are God's chosen and the world's innovators, and you are so insignificant. You know you don't exist in world - the black American world.

I can see why you are still third world. You don't create anything yourselves. You are just poor imitators.

our pidgin english is spoken by all (educated and uneducated) just so you know. we can revert to real good english whenever we choose.we speak our pidgin among ourselves. feels good. You are proud of your black american vernacular (which white people dont appreciate by the way! . they think its real GHETTO)but ours you think is bad english? doesnt make any sense to me.

n.b if you feel that way about us how come you are on this forum?

why marry for money? you're a man. go out and make your own. when you make yours you wont be worrying about presenting this "ugly woman" in public.
there's no amount of money anyone can give you that you cant make yourself.

of course they flock around him to take your vacant place!

but i think women have become really good in not being caught cos the consequences are dire.

not all the time.

[quote author=cute-ass link=topic=49804.msg1054906#msg1054906 date=1177049791]ma sista, i jus wan make im understand am well well, i feel so bad when it comes to relationships, love and matters of the heart, that i write as if i was talking to the person face to face

you know the keyboard is your mouth here, and you don't need to ask if i'm a talkative ooh?? lol [/quote]i think i know the answer to that!

and thats why they make no profits. she should be focusing on trying to become a big player not a kpankara salon battling with groundnut, biscuit and pure water with ice block. what the hell!

how you potray your salon will determine the kind of people you attract!

its not by force to get married. its also not good to assume that because your dad was polygamous that you're husband will be.you have to know the person you marry and if along the way he changes you have the option of leaving

you also have another option. you can have a live in companion and both of you dont have to get married. such long term relationships can last and are usually stable. but it can only work with someone who holds the same views like you do and doesnt want to get married.

being a single mother is the hardest thing on earth.we have lots of women doing it but its not easy and physically draining since you dont get help from anywhere. its your call.

good thing is that you are outside the country where women have a choice in how they want their lives to go. you wont have your mother on your neck everyday with marriage talks.

why cant men be made to wear white too? so we can know which one of them is pure!
hate how emphasis is always placed on women.

who me?

debosky:
taking care of my 80+ yr old wife while i'm 29 (stinkingly rich) till she dies at 81 and leaves her $3billion fortune to me to spend the way I please

ask anna nicole smith for tips! contact her through a seance!

maree7:
garri- a food that would always be there for u

just like a trusted friend!

babyosisi:
my dream job is to make half a million dollars a year working 3 days a week.

as if!

heaven go fall! women usually dont get forgiven like men are. if a woman cheats she'll probably get thrown out and her kids taken from her. the hypocrisy of men stinks to the high heavens!

mr osegwu don vexxxxxxxxxx. i read your post thoroughly and i must tell you that you were blowing hot and cold at the same time. you started by extolling the virtues of female circumcision.

I have seen female circumcision right from when I was small.

Both male and female are circumcised because of the aesthetic

value. If you look at the Vulva of the circumcised and uncircumcised

female you will notice that that of the uncircumcised is very ugly

isnt that what you said? i thought my eyes were deceiving me.
aesthetic value my foot. my cousin is circumcised and she actually parted her thighs and showed me. i screamed in horror. my dear it was ugly. no woman deserves to have a big old scar down there. i have 2 friends who i know are circumcised and they showed me too. i can't begin to describe how awful it was. theres no how those half wound/half scar wont reopen during childbirth!

you also asked

The Nairaland

females who are not circumcised know this is true.

you had the guts to ask nairaland ladies to confirm your claims of ugliness? no its not true that uncircumcised ladies are ugly down there. and even if they were,chopping off a woman's clitoris in the name of beauty without regards to medical implications is madness.

you also said

They just cut off the ugly part of the clitoris

although it is the most sensitive part of female sex organs,  and treat it to heal.

leaving a large scare after healing.

no part of the clitoris is ugly for your information.
and yes it is the most sensitive part that God put there for a reason so why hack it off?  and you said yourself that it leaves a big scar. i know scars are never a good thing. a woman having a huge scar between her legs is alarming.

and didnt you say

Now I am happy that this mutilation has stopped and our ladies can enjoy sex

like no man's business and even if they like let them form oliver Twist. But we

have to forgive our Ancestors for what they did out of ignorance, thinking that it

was for the child'sgood and not because of promiscuity.

Please don not crucify me

i was wondering why after extolling circumcision you are now happy it has stopped. if you are really happy it has stopped then stop going around giving crazy reasons why it was good in the first place.

in fine print you now wrote "don't crucify me" as if  you knew you were going to get angry reactions so why are you vexing now? abeg cool down! 

i alway knew it was!

dakmanzero:
@ibbfan

the math is simple

1 AS + 1 AS = 2 dirty stinking bastard child-murderers


Seriously:

the chance of getting a sickler is :

AA + AA: zero
AS + AA: zero
AS + AS: 25%(must NEVER HAPPEN)
AA + SS: zero
AS + SS: 75% (must NEVER EVER EVER HAPPEN)
SS + SS: 100% (no brainer)


@SPOILT:

I seriously hope you are joking.

A headache.

That statement alone, I will have to stop talking now because if I could see you face to face I'd be fighting for my LIFE against doing you some SERIOUS violence.

That kind of talk can only be justified if you are a sickler yourself. If not, may God have mercy on your soul.

you want to do me violence? yawn. another woman beater in the house im so terrified of you right now. im shaking in my boots.
this coming from someone who's calling others dirty stinking bastards or what have you. he's also a verbal abuser ke? my friend, be careful.

osegwu:
I have seen female circumcision right from when I was small.

Both male and female are circumcised because of the aesthetic

value. If you look at the Vulva of the circumcised and uncircumcised

female you will notice that that of the uncircumcised is very ugly. It

has nothing to with promiscuity. So also is that of the male. The Nairaland

females who are not circumcised know this is true. And what is more?

they don't sew anything at all. They just cut off the ugly part of the clitoris

although it is the most sensitive part of female sex organs, and treat it to heal.

leaving a large scare after healing. MY Grand mum circumsized people and

she thought all her children and grand childrenhow to do it too. Again, they

believe that a woman that is circumcised will find it less painful

during child birth than the other. That is why in a place like Urhobo land,

Ladies who are married are circumcised during their first pregnancy and not

before.

Now I am happy that this mutilation has stopped and our ladies can enjoy sex

like no man's business and even if they like let them form oliver Twist. But we

have to forgive our Ancestors for what they did out of ignorance, thinking that it

was for the child'sgood and not because of promiscuity.

_{Please don not crucify me}

Still me

aesthetic beauty my crusty feet. you are so ignorant its ridiculous. do you know that at childbirth those circumcision scars reopen and it can be very tragic? do you know that circumcised women can't feel jack in bed? and who says uncircumcised women are ugly down there? you are so ignorant. so ignorant that i have to stop now because im already irritated that in 2007 people still think like that. you say you are happy it has stopped? doesnt sound like you are convinced.