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themilanway:
Call a family meeting that involves your parent,married sisters and your brother.

Tell every one present your findings about who the girl in question is and ask them to verify your claim from your parents.

Tell your brother to his face that you won't be part of his marriage to the girl but that doesn't change or stop your love for him.

Also let him know that you are not making decision for him regarding whether he marry the girl or not,you are only setting the record straight for prosperity.

The decisio on whether to forgive and forget should your brother against your expectation goes ahead with the marriage lies only with you.

Then again,be prepared to be held responsible if your brother meets your expectation and decides to dump the girl and some how cant/couldnt get a direct replacement or replica of the afore mentioned girl.

Its a two edge sword.

An igbo parable says"The mind is a bag".

May good reasoning and wisdom guide you

The thing is my dad had told my sisters a diluted summary of the whole event. He told them subtly that it was a court case one person must win. That I am only being over-reactive. And ladies go always believe hook line & sinker.....So the family meeting may not be a good idea cos sisters already thinks it's just a court case we lost

holusormi:
Follow your heart !!! As far as this case is concerned you cannot be wrong .... On the flip side however , if you decide to tell your brother and ignore what your parents said , what happens if he still marries her ? Anybody who goes on a journey of revenge should dig two graves ...

Although if na me , I go tell am ooo.... Yeah am badt like that !!!

But IDK sha

I think am digging three

zizazizu:
Whatever your decision, you will still feel terrible about the outcome.

Just let them be. You are not God.

I am can never be God. I don't want any of those memories......My brother should know the truth. He deserves the truth!.....i can't be part of a family with a man that nearly ruined my family

I know this might not be totally right but at least it will make me feel great. Egbon wants to get married in march and automatically I will become the best Man. But I don't want him to get married to her. It is not because of her but the dad.

It all started back in 1998 my dad was having a court case with our supposed in-law over our house. The house was sold to my dad by the late late brother of our supposed in-law. That was even before my dad got married. We have lived in that house for more than 10yrs. My siblings and I were born there. After the death of the brother in 1998 he dragged my dad to court saying his brother was only a benefactor and does not have the legal right to sell the building and their late father made him the executor of His properties according to the late father's will. My parents were partners in business and their office was located at the ground floor of the building where we lived. Their goods were also stored there (plumbing equipment).

Prior to joining the plumbing business, my dad was into commercial inter-state transport services after suffering heavy losses he auctioned what was left and joined my mum in the plumbing business. A year later he was in court with our supposed in-law. The legal battle started in December. Egbon travelled with an aunt of mine who had won a visa lottery the previous year. My sisters were older than the guys. they were already in boarding school. I was the king of the house. My dad suffered many embarrassment at the hands of our supposed in-law. He dragged the case for some years money meant for business ended up in legal battles. My dad had to borrow to pay suppliers. He couldn't not order for new materials anymore and the business eventually collapsed. Extended families gave their support until 2003 when a lagos high court handed our supposed in-law victory

My dad wanted to appeal the judgement but his lawyer told him to get an apartment with whatever he has left. Although my parents thought they hid everything from us. Perhaps my sisters didn't notice because they were not always home but I saw my mum cry severally. I saw the fears in my dad eyes. I listened to their whispering at night I knew we were doomed. Our supposed In-law sold the house to a bank. The bank gave two weeks to evacuate. But before the notice expired they brought sledge hammer and started destroying the building with our properties in it. My dad tried to protest but he was beaten and arrested. For the first time I saw our "Supposed In-law" that day ordering the boys to destroy everything. My dad was later released days after. I went to live with my cousins. My sisters also went to live with my other cousins.

In 2006 I wrote a mail to Egbon I narrated all that happened to him and he vowed he was going to ensure that they payed for it dearly. Few years later, I got admission into the university my parents embraced christ; But I still feel bitter. How time flies, my sisters are both married and it's just me preparing for the life of a bachelor; Until recently my brother told me his plans of getting married, I noticed it because he has visited us more than usual last year and had extensive discussions with my parents. But whenever He came back He still promised my dad that he will never forget all that happened. My dad told him that was in the past but I know what my brother was capable of doing as regards family.

He brought his supposed girl friend (I believe that is all she will ever be) to the house last christmas everyone welcomed her but immediately I set my eyes on her, she looked like the man that was giving orders to tear down our house. I asked her for her surname, when she said ****US, I knew she was the daughter of our long time enemy. When they left, my mum and dad begged me that I shouldn't say anything. That they have forgiven him. She invited my parents and I during the new year but I declined. I have also told my brother I can't be his best man. He thought am joking cos it was via mail. My brother had assured me severally whenever I told him what became of us after then that incident and he told me "I will give up anything to deal with the Man that messed with my family". I guess I will have to tell him the whole truth. But my parents keep calling me every single day to beg. "Saying I should not bring him misery. That they were happy he decided to bring home a cool headed lady".....But I just can't let it go. Unless my brother and I will decide not to be brothers anymore because I will never go to his house if he marries her. I will never associate myself with him or anything that has to do with him.

I have finished typing the truth I want to send the mail to him...I don't know why I am hesitating (I guess my parents will forgive me sooner or later) but he has to know the truth!!!!....i can't dine with my enemy!.....I don't want to see her dad face again....never...I hope am doing the right thing....i think I am.....perhaps I am...

And again pls can I wear a plain tie on a stripped shirt?.....abeg I know this should be in fashion but response there is always quite slow

Hello guys I am preparing to attend a wedding just couldn't see the bow tie pls can I put on the normal long slim tie?.....abeg those wey sabi fashion

gabrieliheko222:
Please i just got an invite for an aptitude test at uba... Please can anyone help me on what to expect... I will be very grateful

pls when did you submit ur CV and what did you study?

slimfit2:
Check your mail.. Maybe something that can help sits there already!

pls can you help me with the barron Gmat?...God bless you

You guys should be your brothers keeper oooo....Me sef need am ooo abeg guys wey get help forward am abeg

David470 calm down ooo this guy's blood they crack thermometer

olajire00:
pls help me with the HR number

Bros tell ppl wey them send IV to give you the number on their test....i don't know if it's still chidinma lawanson that is sending the msg....

Hello guys I went to Diamondbank HQ...today and chatted with some buddies...here is what I found out......Those of you that have not gotten invite......continue to send ur CVs to the clawanson@diamondbank.com also encourage more people to apply. if they get quite a lot of applications later invite dates will be communicated to you. If you didn't get the invite be prepared to write the test in February. There will be another batch in jan/feb. Also if you are not comfortable with your test date, you can call Hr and they will reschedule you for next year....................xoxo

Hello guys I went to Diamondbank HQ...today and chatted with some buddies...here is what I found out......Those of you that have not gotten invite......continue to send ur CVs to the clawanson@diamondbank.com also encourage more people to apply. if they get quite a lot of applications later invite dates will be communicated to you. If you didn't get the invite be prepared to write the test in February. There will be another batch in jan/feb. Also if you are not comfortable with your test date, you can call HOUR and they will reschedule you for next year....................xoxo

OversightTM:
Amen. I wrote on the 24th and I got an invite.

wow success....did you write in the morning or evening?

Wow those of you gotten invite I wish you guys success. You will all come back to testify...did any one who wrote between 24-28 got an invite for the interview?

MarkGud:
Fair prince with all my begging you didn't help me submit cos if you did I would have gotten invite. Seems it's only ladies you do favour for. Always remember the guys code.

I believe it's your course...what did you study? perhaps you studied a pure science course...those that got invite should pls clarify since am only assuming. Nevertheless you should still submit hardcopy to any of the branches that collects...

kestolove95:
Igbos have made mistake of burning dwn a mosque, d hausas don't joke with dia religion, just pray dix news don't go viral cox dey will burn dwn all d churches in d north nd kill 1000 igbos..u guys hv touched wia it hurt d most

Do you think if a riot kicks off in the north only the Igbo dies? You are funny even yorubas die. As long as you are from the south and non Muslim, your head is going too...no body will start checking which tribe you are from lol....You have not experienced a riot before.....ask those who have

Monalisa185:
#obsession

take heart...

Emodeee:
Dr. Ben Carson (Retired world renowned neurosurgeon, and Republican Presidential Aspirant) wrote this beautiful piece.
Read and be blessed.
Sometimes you are unsatisfied with your life, while many people in this world are dreaming of living your life.
A child on a farm sees a plane fly overhead and dreams of flying. But, a pilot on the plane sees the farmhouse and dreams of returning home. That's life!! Enjoy yours.
If wealth is the secret to happiness, then the rich should be dancing on the streets. But only poor kids do that.
If power ensures security, then officials should walk unguarded. But those who live simply, sleep soundly.
If beauty and fame bring ideal relationships, then celebrities should have the best marriages. But those who live simply, walk humbly and love genuinely!
All good will come back to you!!!
Man asks, “Where was God when Myles Munroe, wife and his associates were killed in a crash? He answers, "The same place I
sat when John the Baptist my servant was beheaded. When Stephen my servant was stoned to death. When Paul my servant was murdered in Rome. The same place I sat when my only Son was brutally crucified, wounded, bruised and killed. I
have not moved from my position."
I am the same. It is not the means of exit from earth that matters but the
destination. Live simply. It's all about God!!

Ensure you have at least $1m in your account before you start thinking this way if not....your papa fit tie you up for deliverance

BornSad:
I don't go to Flirt Zone- 2... I swear!

who ask you?....

BornSad:
I don't go to Flirt Zone- 2... I swear!

who ask you!

fresherdanU:
if u don't understand what I wrote , go back to school.

...like seriously you understood what you wrote?

fresherdanU:
I can give u one reason to make u shout sai baba million times. and the reason is that, he has just spent 6months trying to rectify the destruction of 16yrs. and just becos of fuel scarcity, which is been deprived Nigerians by the marketers not buhari, we want his head off.
I just think even as youths we are confuse. we are not thinking clearly.

I believe in this government, things will change, not overnight becos he isn't a magician, but it won't take him 16years.

can you pls communicate in English

Khd95:
chief wailer indeed

for how long have u been wailing,nd how long do u intend to wail

I will continue to wail until freedom comes until prosperity comes, until the dullard is booted out...even if it takes a century....

jashar:
I have a problem with you saying 'church'. What is the Church?
But, let's not go into that. I don't like typing much.
I don't know about where others fellowship ; but where I fellowship, and in all the places I've been to, I've never heard these 'lies' as you put them.

Know God for yourself through His Word.

These lies stares at you, you hear them everywhere but you pretend like it doesn't exist.......

tenderlaw:
Church has had a long history of scamming people. They just wanna have firm control over all aspects of your life. SMH

True talk dude.....Later in day you deserve orijin...

cheriz4:
Thanks dear,thanks for d piece of advice

Have you heard from them?

Biscojuju:
I got the interview invitation, slated for tomorrow.

....good...when did you write the Test? Please did anyone who wrote his/her test between 24-28 gotten an interview invite?

MissGdope:
i don't get this tho? i understand not wanting to convert to another religion but denomination? i think that's simply ridiculous. The church (all christians) is the body of Christ and I always wonder why people divide the body of Christ. It doesn't matter what you call yourself, as long as you believe in the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ for your sins then you are saved. I think all these denomination nonsense is a trick of the devil to remove unity from christians like seriously. we are all one. People always ask me what "type" of christian i am and i just say i'm a christian, a child of God, a believer of the Lord and saviour Jesus Christ. Forget about division because it is what causes conflict. let us all be united as we are one spirit in Christ Jesus

I don't want a scenario when am praying my rosary setting up an Altar placing the statue of Mary and jesus...My wife will just be looking at me like someone wasting His time. I will love her to take charge but when she does not believe in those practices, It will dwindle my enthusiasm now you know why it's good to stick with ur denomination.

PresVA:
I wonder why people involve pastors in their romantic relationships? You know the person you're dating more than anyone else including pastors. .
Is the pastor going to live with you after marriage?

I believe in God but seriously can't meet any man of God to affirm my marriage. . I have my own spirit of discernment. ..

Anyway, to each his own....

Yeah you need no confirmation from a pastor. The biblical principles are there to guide you.............lalasticlala....do something to this stuff na

SAMBARRY:
Ermm

destiny too big? ......lol....even bill Gates, Carlos slim, Dangote et al no collect marriage confirmation from their pastors or imam...neither were they spiritual about their wives. But you have pst. Chris, Okotie et al getting divorced up nd down...I hope they did they marry anyone?