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GerraMeh74:
I have been on Nairaland for sometime now and it has been called a faceless forum by some people, but I will want to connect with special people around Surulere,but not limited to only Surulere,with time if we are much we will have days of meetings,with light refreshments and we can talk about general trending topic from Sports,to Fashion, to Business opportunities,to relationships.... Please anybody intrested should indicate..

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Bigyusluv:
Hello good morning.

Late April during lockdown, my friend sent me a post, which was advertised by her mom customer in need of an accountant urgently, the job was for graduate and I'm an undergraduate, final year thou I should have graduated since 2018 but left school in my first semester 400l due to mental health issues I was facing which no one know( I can't read and comprehend as I used to anymore) got bored of reading and preparing for exams, set eyes on making money. Just too broke at that time.

I applied for the job with fate, and I was called, went for interview thrice before I was given the job. due to my experience of working as an assistant accountant in one big hotel and working as branch manager in another hotel, and not staying far I was given the job. The pay range was 35k based on my qualifications thou.

I started work first week of May, not too stressful but I'm to resume by 6am and close 6pm, daily allowance 2k and my salary ... I do make 50-60k weekly aside my daily allowance and salary.

Reason I'm thinking about quitting is, early June, on my way to work on bike, I had an accident with Keke, which the Keke man was clearly at fault for swerving without checking his side mirror, but then again, it was just the two of us (bike man and Keke man) on the road, same lane, nothing coming back or front of us, yet the accident.

I had a bruise on my hand and a kinda deep wound an inch from my ankle bone. (which haven't gone yet, used original honey to bring out the surface, thou I no longer feel pains, recently it has dried up).

During that accident period nor of my colleagues/bosses came to visit me as I was home for a week. But my colleagues kept sending my own share from the runs money.

Last Thursday on my way to work, very close to my work place, walking on the street that lead to my office and one man I don't know, was inside his shop/house, saying to me, oboy this your leg never go, na wa oh, them wan just spoil ur leg for you, that your place wey u dey work many don run commot there cause of the juju things wey them dey use follow their workers, better dey pray every day and when u enter office guy. I said thank you sire, while getting to the office tears dropped from my eyes as I prayed.

Next day being Friday on my way home, the bike I took we both fell down, falling to where my wound is, I had to be smart and quickly dodge the bike from landing on that leg... I paid the bike man and trekked to the bustop to get Keke.

This job has really changed me from that sad dude to happy dude, due to financial capability right now... I'm now free of debt and brokenness.

Please advise me, cause I'm not really a spiritual person but all these are making me prayerful (never believed in juju and attack before).

As much as I don’t believe too much the way people describe dark powers but you may first need to dig in the history of your company.
Try to have some details of that company before now, it could help clarify things better.

I can help you transfer it.

I think you should speak with a bank rep. Don’t bring money matter of this size to online where every Tom dick and Harry are salivating for free money.

NACE13:
He started out good I have to admit, and it helped me a lot on how to deal with the opposite sex when it comes to relationships but I guess the constant lauding from guys here has made him see himself like a demigod. I hope he goes back to how he started off and what he initially had in mind - to liberate weak men from the stronghold of manipulative women

I agree with you. Similar organization started out like this too, but overtime it gets into the head and it becomes sometime else. E.g most cult we know today. In a way the redpill of a thing is now more like an online cult.

NACE13:
This is why Ub.unja usually gets criticized; These guys always misunderstand what it means to be redpilled or not be a simp. Even UB.unja said a redpilled guy can fall in love with a girl but still use his crash helmet while falling. These guys think being redpilled is about just having sex with no feelings attached. In as much as I like what Ub.unja is doing, he should also call back these guys and explain to them what it really means to be a simp.

All of a sudden, every Ochuko and Odafe dey form Redpilled. Now becoming annoying and boring

Ubun.ja is a bad teacher... see this stupid set of boys he has successfully raised!
When he keeps using derogatory terms on women and keep saying all “women are whores(his mother and sisters included)” what do you expect?

dairykidd:
Everything is not about simps and redpills u fvcking ass wipe

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They are the most annoying set of men around this days. Everything na hatred ontop women.

Mo3891:



Ozo should stick to Dorathy

Ozo and Laycon are smart intellectual people and bad game from the type of Nengi may mess them up badly, let players like Kidd handle Nengi

Dear "Lazy youth" when you created Nollywood movies they criticized you called it lame and stupid yet you are wining international awards, you created Naija Afropop they called it trash and noise yet you win BET , Grammy norms back to back, now you are creating a reality show for the whole African continent they are still insulting you.... Kindly leave them and do you, just check the hashtags and see Africans from SA to Liberia and Kenya appreciating your people buying products you market on Bbnaija hashtags


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you na sabi guy
Kiddy wire na badass nigga

@ikoroduarea
Maybe you are blaming them for your own fault. Isn’t it clear you made poor decisions and handed them money when it is completely unnecessary, isn’t it clear they seem to start having problems all a sudden they are around you?
Don’t you think your over been-caring gave them the wrong impression?
Don’t you think sometimes it is good to tell them you don’t have at times?
Don’t you also think you can teach them how not to depend on you?

You made many grave error and their only sin here is they exploited your free hand.

From now on you need to start living realistic and do things not because of their many problems or crocodile tears, they are your siblings, you don’t need to run away from them.

Do things only when you are personally convinced about it.
if you don’t feel comfortable simple tell them how you have gone broke and how things has become so bad for you(A lie isn’t all harmful).

In conclusion, You should learn how to act properly with your money when it comes to social and family circle else you will face same problem in the future.

honourable1769:
potential customer you mean

mtchew

honourable1769:
because i bought them with good money.

Have a good day, you buying it doesnt change anything.

The rich keeps getting richer, while the poor remain poor becuase they think every oppourtunity is a scam.

ok just move front. You could find a potential victim.

Missyajoke:
One man's food is another mans poison, some women can never be contended even if you buy them the most expensive car in the world they'll still cheat and that why one needs to study one's partner during courtship. Most men no longer hurry to get married anymore. Why? Because they don't want to experience heartache.

This doesn't pertain to women gender it is a habit any gender can possess.

As for me I have promised that I will get married when I think I find "the one". I as a person take faithfulness deep to heart and I also live try as much as I can to live faithful too. I may find it extremely difficult to stay with a woman who can't do same. If there is none then I rather remain a father(priesthood).

Localchampion:
God forbids, I cant even kill an ant

On a serious note.

All you need to do is to discuss it with him and bring it to his awareness. Not everyone know how to show care the right time even if they care.

As much as you are not asking for too much if he truly cares he should put in effort. You need patients for people who are trying and making effort to change.

If after letting him know and things barely improve over time, it means he doesn't have that quality you are looking for. You will cry a river as long as you remain with him and you can't do anything about it until he decide to change.

Localchampion:
When you have a boyfriend that doesn't help during the time you are down, what should you do?
When he's down, I try to help, but when I'm down. He would see reasons to blame me, or abuse me in some ways and claim it's not abuse but the truth
For instance, he would say ''you don't think'', ''

It makes me cry that I have no one, I literary have no one
Can someone who treats you like that actually love you?
I believe that he's only with me because he's already with me and don't wanna break up.

Telling me he loves me and doing things in contradiction makes me feel he doesn't

kill him

honourable1769:
i already explained this in my initial thread that got deleted. I am only trying to sell off these information i bought bout 2 years ago. It has generated me the capital i need and i have moved to higher paying investments. I am only doing this to help people , because if you get the pack you will understand that your megre 2k is not even worth half the price of the pack. i dont just want the info to get wasted by me deleting it from my laptop, so i opted to rather sell it at a very cheap price.

So in a nutshell, this is more like a favour am doing for you.

check the screenshot of my paypal balance during lockdown, so you understand i dont actually need your 2k.

Cheers!

Why not dash it out if you don't need my 2k?
I rather dogde this bullet.
Find another victim.

Photoshop PayPal balance

lefulefu:
nice goat
women are smart sha
na only broke guys dem dey give hell
when Ned Nwoko wanted to marry Regina Daniels did u see any of his wife opposing him?
even one of the wife posed with regina daniels when she gave birth
na d power of money
ok let some broke dude say he wants to marry just a second wife ooo and im wife go carry knife threaten im life
all those guys u see who get beaten up in public for cheaten how many of them are rich?

Anyway your point is solid sha. Since most men are the sole provider, many women can't fathom the idea of a divorce.

Zzor:
im not the person but my friend and if I am the one I won't hide it

Anyway fine but for me she is not.
Neither me nor you can help your friend.

It depends on how she feels in her own skin. This doesnt mean she has to confess this to partner especially the insecure ones. Atleast she has the hymen. Peace

Zzor:
My childhood and best friend came to my house crying and so down and after much consolation from me,she finally let out what the problem was. She was under a vow to remain chaste till marriage but she secretly accepted to date a guy lately which I was unaware of.The guy flew down to her base uninvited and suddenly told her he's around and was lodged in a hotel nearby,after so much pestering from the guy, she finally accepted to go see him and according to what she told me,the guy began touching her at a point and she asked him to stop but he didn't,he did some things to her and he also use his mouth to do dirty things to her down there(give her head,i learnt this here on Nairaland) and she passed out something in the process of the act and after everything she picked her bag and left and asked her guy to go back.Now my friend has been crying and asking me if she's still a virgin, but I really don't know what to tell her because I'm confused myself.So I decided to come ask from this faceless forum if my friend is still a virgin after all these? NOTE: please nobody should come and say it's me because I know some of you are very naughty here and I swear I'm not the one. Thanks.

Virginity has a wide definition and the true definition lies on the inner value of such individual.
If as an individual you feel virginity means lack of sexual act in any form then your friend is not a virgin.
If you think virginity means presence of hymen then by all means she is.
Some individuals goes as far as calling celibate who only masturbate as non-virgins.
So what is the personal value of your friends.

For me I define virginity as chastity and purity meaning someone who has not engaged in any form of sexual activity with someone else. So I still think celibate who masturbate are pure but those who do non-penetrative sex are not.

Why do I think that your friend is you?

frozen70:
You are not even matured enough to make contributions in situations like this because you lack experience

Homes belongs to women and you must respect every home you enter just because of the presence of the woman in the house

E bi like say women never show you pepper

Pray not to witness it

Abeg go front jare

lefulefu:
hmm woman that cheats on you and that u accept back will never respect u.she will look on such a man as a wimp and still cheaton him a second time

But when it is now our turn, should we expect a second chance? Irrespective of our partner decision.

XXXXTENTACION:
Even the devil was given a second chance

But there are many guys who won't think twice to dump their wife when they hear she cheats. So I am curious if same men think they themselves wish to be given second chance or deserve same treatment.

tega2luv:
Advising from experience, most mistakes we niggas do is that we are sometime too committed knowing about the past of our lovers and if shes honest enough to tell you the truth it starts hurting us and we start judging them whenever they make little mistake in the relationship, I once told my ex gf that her past life is of no interest to me but the present and future and she was open to me and told me severally her stories with guys in the past at a point i asked myself weda this babe still get womb sef, i went ahead out of curiosity to ask her like how many guys have dated her before me she should not lie and she told me excluding me it's around 12 guys, my fellow niaralanders that's the day everything changed bcux I keep wondering those are the numbers of guys when don knack this kpekus when she date oo , how about the ones when she no date when still chop clean mouth, my brother from that moment onwards I begin get double mind and whenever shes not with me I hardly believe anything she tells me bcux I now see her as loosed...to cut long stories short, if you cannot deals with the past of your lover never bother yourself digging what will eventually destroy you, focus on her and forget her past but since you cannot deal with it already kindly let her go in peace, this life no balance at all.

such a mature response.

Missyajoke:
That's why most marriages end in divorce so a man has all the rights to cheat why the woman can't? what applies to a man certainly applies to a woman. That's why most women are emotionally stabbed by their husbands and men emotionally stabbed by their women. she may allow you but do you think she will be happy. Most women are just staying in a dead marriage because of their children. Some marriages ended before it started. Men will say "because i pay her bride price i have full control over her" thrash. That's why it's better to be unmarried than to marry the wrong person cause i don't think i can stand a man cheating on me, you either pick me or your hoes. It's only in Nigeria a man will feel he did a lady favour by marrying her, wake up the world is changing. If a man cheats on me i won't leave that house i'll stay and i'll make the house unbearable for the man and see if he is going to change if not am out. A family meeting will be held on both sides i don't have time for rubbish.

I am fully in support of the quote.
"Those who live in glass house do not throw stones".

So If a man wants a faithful woman he too should be ready to do same.
So I support your ideology, only that if the partner wants an open relationship then fine.
I have seen certain cases where some women complains that their husband don't cheat and don't even make their marriage adventurous.
That he just been to nice and boring.

MartinsD12:
The question is can you take ur wife back if she cheat not me cheat

I am asking this time in response to your answer to the original question.

Men in the house please lets discuss.

For me No, reason is if she does cheat on me,
As much as all things being equal, I wouldn't want to give her a second chance.

MartinsD12:
I already answered it, why repeating question

would you leave your wife if you cheat?

Read it properly.

sleemomymy:
I can forgive her provided she promise never to do it again.

would you really believe such promise?

Aksnoopy:
Yes! I make sure I date my spec and I always resist the temptation to cheat. When am on the verge of cheating, I often ask myself what do I intend to gain thereafter. Asking myself this question kills every form of cheating urge in me.

ok very good. Life will be so easy if we follow this quote.
"Those who live in glass house don't throw stones"

MartinsD12:
I can't take back a cheating girlfriend talk of wife, hell no. Once I found out she is cheating na packing be that

Sorry quick question, would you leave your wife if you cheat?

Aksnoopy:
[[s]quote author=Missyajoke if you cheat what would your wife do. Stop making feel as if women are the reason why men cheat.
OP abeg balance it.
Marriage is meant for matured adults not babies if you know you're not emotionally mature don't get married.
Couples should be able to bear each others yoke and forgive each other easily if you can't forgive your wife or husband then don't get married.

Thanks[/s] I hope you are fucking your prophet behind your husband's back. Divorce any cheating wife, so says the Bible. #Never wife a HOE in the first place.

Very nice point you have made.

But please one question, do you think you can stay married without cheating as a man? Just a harmless question.

77Craze:
Lolz for me never!

Good answer.

will you cheat on your wife if opportunity presents itself?