₦airaland Forum

imadiyi:
Stop! You are using what @czarr said to buttress your claim. I can bet that you have never been heartbroken, but just too full of yourself. See, you are still reading the book of Malachi, by the time you get to the book of Revelation, no one will advise you, you will kindly do it for yourself.

You're entitled to your own opinion o

Wo, I just wish marriage isn't a necessity jare. I just tire.

VTJN:
Lol

All my set who graduated last two years are yet to find our bearing even those doing cyber fraud (Yahoo) none is getting married in the next 5 years considering our economy and the situation of things right now

5 girls out of 12 are married to an already made men. Some are rich while some are comfortable doing pretty fine

Some of them met these guys while they're still schooling while some met them while serving

It is not encouraging for a girl to date her age mate (especially in education)

Life is obviously hard for guys especially those from poor background so you expect such a guy to be dating with his condition?

The girl will either grow old or die in poverty if she ever think of following her mate

Even if a girl will ever follow a student then it should be someone ahead of her with at least 2 or 3 years in school. Not just only that but the guy must be up and doing with promising future

I can never advice my sister or female friends to follow their mate in school as their husband to be

Not even in this present Nigeria that we are

But na una go still say person dey look for already made man.

culf:
if I hear, my 2 hands dey up for you ooo. double twale to her royal Highness stargurl20.

Lol ... Your majesty

culf:
na your back i dey na, I loyal ooo, your boy is loyal!

Your girl is even more loyal

seanwilliam:
Send me a dm to find out

Toor

marvy7:
Hello stargaul20, I hope u get to read this, I will say u are smart and wise to already anticipate what can come next when u are finally done with school from ur parents and environment, people usually underestimate these things, hence when the reality comes on them they crumble under pressure. So its a wise out look for urself.
To be honest with u leaving home isn't the best especially for a lady in this Nigeria of today except if u are properly employed. Emphasis on 'properly', I don't mean any job that would just keep body and soul together, it's harder to maintain ur self as a woman when compared to men.
So I would advice this, begin to prepare urself for what u would want to do after NYSC, furthering education, learning a skill or getting a certification that can aid in becoming gainfully employed or self sufficient... The pressure from them would most likely come bt if u have sth u are really occupied with it would be easy to deflect u would also work on building a thick skin for it....
I like ur outlook for a man u seem more keen on the personality of the person than material possession the man might posses,I would say I hope u also understand u have to position ur self too for u to meet such man...I pray God grants u ur heart desires.

Aameen. Thank you so much

seanwilliam:
stargurl20 please don’t fall for the bolded. This person will never agree if his 25 years old son brings home a 35 years old woman for marriage. hypocrisy at peak!..


As you’re developing yourself, ensure you’re considering relationship too. All of dem commenters fit no one tell you the truth just to make you positive but the reality is that the older you get as a woman the lower the chances of finding your taste of man.

As you’re husling , I’ll implore you to give chance to a man who you deem serious so you both can build future together( I pray God gives you a discerning spirit too). And be of good character, that’s what 90% of men neeed. They don’t need your MONEY atleast for me. The money you’re chasing is mostly for yourself trust me.

I’ll also advice you to remain in your parents’ house,
It has a lot of advantages trust me. See the reality is there’s high chances of you turning to a whôre if you stay alone as woman without financial capacity. Paying bills single-handedly is not easy o, ha.

Also our society frown at single women living on their own, they see them as WHÔRE And there’s high chances of you becoming a single mother if you choose that path because men will have easy access to you ( no matter how smart you think you are) and most of them might just be after your body.

Just ensure you learn lucrative skills and contribute to the financial needs of the house, and SAVE to invest.
You will know when it’s the right time to move.

Pele aduke

Thank you. Do you know me personally? Was the name, Aduke you mentioned coincidental?

godfrey02:
let me just be honest with you, you are a lady and have no problem and should not worry about anything at all. if your families are not troubling you in any way, stay with them. save up, yes save up. you need enough money to start life. and more over you are a female, las las one man will put you inside house as his wife. but before that happens, save up enough cash for your self, start a business and think of how you will help the man who is going to marry you.


After service i did not return home, the road has not been easy. from afar family billings are still coming, but man dey chest am and run am.
if you are ok living with your family, my dear stay with them oh.

for person like that grew up with aunty, i japa after service..

Ok o

culf:
Hahahaha, you're funny jor, which advise, these are things you already know, you're welcome though. Nice conversing with you too.

Your face show, your show shine

Abba114:
nobody will pressure you #dumbass

Must you insult me?

Nawttiboi007:
Hmmmm life’s so dicey .. my ex- way back in school days, we’ve lost contact though but her nickname n favorite password was “stargurl”

Oh.... I'm safe.

Owen247:
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What happened?

Elidrisy20:
if I'm not mistaking this is iseyin camp,oyo state

I don't get

pinkygurl:
After NYSC my elder sibling moved straight to her husband’s house .Lols. Printing wedding cards, doing wedding shopping, etc based on say the husband don set already
A lot of female friends posted to Lag and Abuja after NYSC just rented apartments there & started looking for jobs straight . A friend met her husband at her place of work , & got married soon after. Another started an eatery, met her husband in church, got married , and JAPA -ed with her hubby few months after.

@mi sha, after NYSC, l just booked the next available flight to a new life in Australia immediately to begin my masters , having secured admission & processed visa months earlier. I do not regret my decision.

Japa-ing isn't easy, especially for us from not so well to do homes

pinkygurl:
After NYSC my elder sibling moved straight to her husband’s house .Lols. Printing wedding cards, doing wedding shopping, etc based on say the husband don set already
A lot of female friends posted to Lag and Abuja after NYSC just rented apartments there & started looking for jobs straight . A friend met her husband at her place of work , & got married soon after. Another started an eatery, met her husband in church, got married , and JAPA -ed with her hubby few months after.

@mi sha, after NYSC, l just booked the next available flight to a new life in Australia immediately to begin my masters , having secured admission & processed visa months earlier. I do not regret my decision.

Japa-ing isn't easy, especially for us from not so well to do homes

Nawttiboi007:
Let me guess, is ur real name Juliet?

Lol... I'm a Muslim.
Why guess if my name is Juliet?

Blupen:
yes it is
your thought becomes things
what you think is what you will see

Well, If you say so. But I pray Nigerians society never happens to you

culf:
jealousy jealousy... see you. You should be happy. technically so. You may not be what you're today or be as sound as you're today if you were treated maybe more specially. Most children that were overly treated special and were not allowed to do anything can hardly survive on their own, imagine a girl in such situation. Your mom is a good mother, you really need to thank her for not spoiling you. Today you may not be Able to cook, take care of your house or do anything. you may not even have the least of courtesy for others, so you should be grateful and not feel jealous.
Also try to train your children in such way too, the only difference should be that you don't show them that any of them is special. Most parents that do that do it unconsciously so you have to be meticulous about it.

Well, maybe you're right. Thank do much for your advice so far.

Blupen:
When you change your mindset your life will change

You think it's about my mindset?

Maybe 6 or 7 years. I don't know why but I envy children these days. They've gat absolutely nothing to worry about. Honestly, nothing is exciting about adulthood for me. Just full of worries, pains, heartbreaks, depression, anxiety and all sorts of negativities.

Lamanii22:
When it’s not as if they are chasing you away from home, why leave home…

I can foresee it. I don't have the courage to face that

Someone is crying in pains abd you still have the urge to continue with sex. It's well o

Starz825:
You sef know na
Que sera sera

Seriously speaking, You need to talk to your creator actually...
You need to pray for direction Stargurl20

Hmmm words. Thanks

HopeNeverDies:
Can I send u a mail?

Apparently; I don’t like school… I don’t even resume early.

If you wouldn’t mind; I can shoot u a text. Or PM u through your mail. Can I do that?

I don't mind

HopeNeverDies:
Lol… for real …

I’m there too. Lol. When are u gonna resume?

Maybe next week

HopeNeverDies:
Don’t get old all in the name of marriage or pressure apartheid.

Tryna get yourself a relationship. Btw; what school u at??

Fuoye

culf:
you think so, you don't know so, you'll be shocked. Women usually have strong attachment to their first male child though.

I guess that's why. But make I no lie, I feel bad at times, coz I feel I should be the most loved as her first and only daughter, but unfortunately, we do not always get what we want

culf:
don't be jealous jor, lol. I won't believe that though. she was probably being careful not to get you 'spoilt' as her only daughter.

Lol... Yinmu. It's a clear thing. Although she's not mean to me, but I know she loves my immediate younger bro most

smeag0l:
OP, your sister doesnt have a decision not to marry. She probably has a warped mentality about relationships which a lot of Nigerian ladies, especially the ones from poor or middle class backgrounds , have. Their main motive for going into relationships is not love but rather to better their unfortunate situations. They never appreciate little things and always expect the man to do more. The y consider the man as their meal ticket and one-way ticket out of poverty. However, since your sister is lucky to have escaped all these she doesnt see any reason for a relationship

Me that wish to go into relationship because of love, some people just discouraged my wish. Which one should we follow. I'm not in relationship because I have not found who I have even an iota of feelings for, yet, some people just discouraged that in one of my posts. Which one person wan choose o

culf:
no wonder! crack you up how? in life anything is possible. you can meet a guy you really fancy before end of the and may end up been married before end of next year. Never say never.

Only Daughter, too much petting and love! you will be shock she won't bother you. As only daughter, I believe she won't stress you, she might talk about it but she won't bother you much. You no get problem sef...by the time you will tell her 'mummy you want me to rush and do mistake', she will be the one apologising and telling you to take your time.

Too much petting kwa. Well, my own different o.... In fact, I sense my immediate younger bro to be my mum's fave sef. It's clear cut. Even when she scolds him, she scolds him with love

culf:
hmmm, wow! I understand you pretty well, you can't obviously go into a relationship you're hoping to take to next level without any likeness, fondness or love for the person, such relationship won't last.
you're not asking for too much and I believe soon you will see someone that you will be all over him. Its not too much to ask dear.
its good to be a realist, a lot of fake people and relationship these days, setting things straight as is ought to be is bae. Its always good to go into relationship with a friend, someone you like, you respect or you're fond of so that when 'love' reduces or vanishes (if love use to vanish), other things like the friendship, respect, fondness etc can keep the Union going.
you don't need to be worried too much, you're also not doing anything bad. preparing and planning for your future is not bad, it put you a step ahead and may prevent bad incidences in future, only you should be praying more and worrying less while you go about with an open mind. you should consider making more friends, even when you want a relationship with someone, its good if you guys can take it from friendship level....

Thank you